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"It's the men that think a blank female profile is sexy that I don't understand I can find pics on here that show a person is sexy without wanting to meet them and that's about it It's when you meet them in person and then when they post pictures they turn the sexiness up a notch because I now see their face when I see their pictures " Exactly this. When I came back as a single profile I had no photos at all up for a while. Yet still got messages from gobsghites telling me how gorgeous I am. Fuuuuxks sake ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Meeting someone is the only way to tell for sure if there's an attraction. That's one of the reasons I prefer not to see a face pic before I meet. I can't tell from that if I might be attracted to someone. I wish I could, it would be much easier. I find messages a better gauge but even then before I meet I think there will be an attraction but then on meeting, it isn't there. It's something I can never predict. " Same here, now I am sexy and gorgeous, but someone telling me this that has never met me is just full of she..e really. It's an immediate block, not at all the way into my bed. I say this like everyone wants to be in my bed, lololol | |||
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"Tinder would fail at the get go if this was the case 🙃" But Tinder hasn't got boobs I presume | |||
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"Tinder would fail at the get go if this was the case 🙃 But Tinder hasn't got boobs I presume " ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Meeting someone is the only way to tell for sure if there's an attraction. That's one of the reasons I prefer not to see a face pic before I meet. I can't tell from that if I might be attracted to someone. I wish I could, it would be much easier. I find messages a better gauge but even then before I meet I think there will be an attraction but then on meeting, it isn't there. It's something I can never predict. " There's no alternative to meeting someone in person. Even vid chat isn't a good substitute but it's still better than messages. Messages can be done as a starting point as long as they show interest and respect and treat me like a human being. The bar is low here. | |||
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"Oh definitely, the spark has to be there even if they're the most physically beautiful person on earth! " I actually find looks aren't that important. I think a sense of humour is one of the sexiest things anyone can have. | |||
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"Oh definitely, the spark has to be there even if they're the most physically beautiful person on earth! I actually find looks aren't that important. I think a sense of humour is one of the sexiest things anyone can have. " It really is 😈 | |||
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"Oh definitely, the spark has to be there even if they're the most physically beautiful person on earth! " So true, | |||
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"Oh definitely, the spark has to be there even if they're the most physically beautiful person on earth! I actually find looks aren't that important. I think a sense of humour is one of the sexiest things anyone can have. It really is 😈" Unfortunately, just like beauty being in the eye of the beholder, humour is also very subjective and not everyone has the same sense of humour and will not always get the joke........as I have learned oncce or twice to my cost on fab. | |||
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"Oh definitely, the spark has to be there even if they're the most physically beautiful person on earth! I actually find looks aren't that important. I think a sense of humour is one of the sexiest things anyone can have. It really is 😈 Unfortunately, just like beauty being in the eye of the beholder, humour is also very subjective and not everyone has the same sense of humour and will not always get the joke........as I have learned oncce or twice to my cost on fab. " I get that. That's why I think it's important to meet up and see how the personalities align. | |||
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"Oh definitely, the spark has to be there even if they're the most physically beautiful person on earth! I actually find looks aren't that important. I think a sense of humour is one of the sexiest things anyone can have. It really is 😈 Unfortunately, just like beauty being in the eye of the beholder, humour is also very subjective and not everyone has the same sense of humour and will not always get the joke........as I have learned oncce or twice to my cost on fab. I get that. That's why I think it's important to meet up and see how the personalities align. " .... Absolutely. A sense of humour is very difficult to put across in a message or a forum post and can often be totally misinterpreted. If you meet in person you will hear the humour in a person's voice and see it in the twinkle in their eyes and in their smile....😍👀😀 | |||
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"I can be attracted to a person based on their pics and chat but I won’t know if I really want to fuck them until we’ve met in person. So initial attraction online, yes definitely. " I can see if someone is objectively hot. Nice eyes, body or aligns with my own preferences of chunky bearded guy or curvy girl. It's a good start, but I need that backed up with a personality that vibes with ours. | |||
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"I can be attracted to a person based on their pics and chat but I won’t know if I really want to fuck them until we’ve met in person. So initial attraction online, yes definitely. " So, my pics weren’t attractive enough for you? I think they are pretty good, but didn’t get a reply even though you did read my message. Must be my turn of phrase? ![]() | |||
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"I can be attracted to a person based on their pics and chat but I won’t know if I really want to fuck them until we’ve met in person. So initial attraction online, yes definitely. So, my pics weren’t attractive enough for you? I think they are pretty good, but didn’t get a reply even though you did read my message. Must be my turn of phrase? ![]() Single women get many hundreds of messages. | |||
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"I can be attracted to a person based on their pics and chat but I won’t know if I really want to fuck them until we’ve met in person. So initial attraction online, yes definitely. So, my pics weren’t attractive enough for you? I think they are pretty good, but didn’t get a reply even though you did read my message. Must be my turn of phrase? ![]() You’ve never messaged me, from your current profile anyway. You couldn’t because over 50s can’t ![]() | |||
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"For length of time it took to read the initial post I was sure it was written by Gen Z........" Gen Z don't have a monopoly on verbal diarrhea. All generations do it see my post above ![]() | |||
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"Chemistry is impossible to find on the other side of a screen. I just realised I am speaking from an alcoholic night out so please excuse my rambling. Yes some pictures and some profiles have been intriguing but I quickly found that attraction is only really found meeting face to face. Sorry for rambling. Can I say that I may have joined Fab for hook ups, but my perspective changed very quickly after my first social. Instead I have found a very diverse bunch of people with so many interesting stories to tell. I propose that attraction online is mainly projection onto the recipient of an initial message. As a guideline I only message someone I have met in person first. Unless there is a status, pic or comment I find intriguing. In which case, I message my appreciation but I do not expect a reply. When a coffee meet occurs, my expectation is to have a nice chat, nothing more. Attraction is of course physical but a compatible sense of humour, similar kinks and an appreciation of their personality is just as important if not more so." This is a great response | |||
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"I have zero sexual attraction to any of the people that message us when they are just an abstract concept of a random person in the inbox. Attraction for me starts after meeting in person, or at the very least a connection built with personalities if we are finding common values and a fun conversation. This doesn't seem to be the other way around. Many single male profiles seem to project on to me that I am sexy even though they have no idea if I am or not (to them). This is something I find insulting. They aren't interested in me, but an idea of me. So why not get to know me, and then if you find me sexy I'll believe it. One of them today started off great guns, until he wanted the phone call. I rebuffed. He pushed. I said I don't sext or call. He said he didn't want sexting or chat wank anyway. Oh yeah that must be why he'd already told me was so horny? Such a turn off and an easy one to block. Who can find genuine sexual attraction from an online chat, especially from the get go. Or do you get to know someone first, then meet them and THEN find attraction for them in person. Because that's me. Vics (f) ![]() ![]() Heya Vics. I think a lot of people think that Fab is either a hump and dump site, or that is the be all and end all of swinging. Fab is a tool to use to become part of the scene, in my opinion. We use it to find and host socials as it's very true what you say. You only get an idea of someone online and meeting them in person can be a very different experience and I mean that both ways, you sometimes meet someone and their personality is so attractive that going by the profile you wouldn't be that interested. I suppose it depends on the mentality you approach the lifestyle with. Andy | |||
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"I have zero sexual attraction to any of the people that message us when they are just an abstract concept of a random person in the inbox. Attraction for me starts after meeting in person, or at the very least a connection built with personalities if we are finding common values and a fun conversation. This doesn't seem to be the other way around. Many single male profiles seem to project on to me that I am sexy even though they have no idea if I am or not (to them). This is something I find insulting. They aren't interested in me, but an idea of me. So why not get to know me, and then if you find me sexy I'll believe it. One of them today started off great guns, until he wanted the phone call. I rebuffed. He pushed. I said I don't sext or call. He said he didn't want sexting or chat wank anyway. Oh yeah that must be why he'd already told me was so horny? Such a turn off and an easy one to block. Who can find genuine sexual attraction from an online chat, especially from the get go. Or do you get to know someone first, then meet them and THEN find attraction for them in person. Because that's me. Vics (f) ![]() ![]() 👏👏well written | |||
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"we all hear the stereotypes that "men will fuck anything" It's not even seen as a compliment." I really agree with this. If a guy has no standards it's not a compliment that they want to fuck me. I need a guy to be interested in me, fancy me, find me sexy. If there's no keenness there, I don't find them attractive. And I dont care how good looking they are. | |||
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"we all hear the stereotypes that "men will fuck anything" It's not even seen as a compliment. I really agree with this. If a guy has no standards it's not a compliment that they want to fuck me. I need a guy to be interested in me, fancy me, find me sexy. If there's no keenness there, I don't find them attractive. And I dont care how good looking they are. " That's called respect & connection | |||
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"we all hear the stereotypes that "men will fuck anything" It's not even seen as a compliment. I really agree with this. If a guy has no standards it's not a compliment that they want to fuck me. I need a guy to be interested in me, fancy me, find me sexy. If there's no keenness there, I don't find them attractive. And I dont care how good looking they are. That's called respect & connection " Yes true. The male contributors to this thread arent the ones that are a problem. | |||
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