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By *adger Broc OP   Man
3 weeks ago

Co. Cork

Does being on Fab display a tendency towards narcissistic behaviour.

Is engaging in the swing lifestyle ultimately an effort at fulfilling a desire for self gratification.

We are all here for our own reasons but are those reasons all based essentially on a common element of selfishness.

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
3 weeks ago

Northern Ireland

We are here for each other as much as for ourselves. If I was a solo female I would possibly be on here anyway for play when I felt like it on my terms. A bit like going for a manicure or a swim, something nice for me and self care. But I'm mostly on here because my partner and I experience these things together.

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
3 weeks ago

The West

It's not remotely narcissistic.

The particular gratification and selfishness you mention above have been fabricated by various religions and drilled into people as " wrong" for centuries.

It's a false narrative, it doesn't exist!

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By *electableicecreamMan
3 weeks ago

The West

No it's not.

Being on fab probably isn't indicative of suffering from any number of other diagnosable, debilitating mental health conditions either.

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By *adger Broc OP   Man
3 weeks ago

Co. Cork


"It's not remotely narcissistic.

The particular gratification and selfishness you mention above have been fabricated by various religions and drilled into people as " wrong" for centuries.

It's a false narrative, it doesn't exist!

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I don't believe I suggested in any way that self gratification was wrong. I also meant "gratification" in the broader sense and not mearly pleasuring oneself. Thankfully I don't have any religious belief and therefore don't have any corresponding hang ups.

When you think about it, wanking is probably the ultimate in self gratification where one is both the giver and the receiver.

I believe we all have narcissistic tendencies as part of our survival/coping instincts.

All wankers may be narcissists but all narcissists are not necessarily wankers.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

A narcissist is defined as a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves.

Do I think there is narcissists here undoubtedly but sure there was some in Tesco this morning.

Hang on a minute, the common denominator between Tesco this morning and fab is me, maybe I’m the problem 🙈

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By *adger Broc OP   Man
3 weeks ago

Co. Cork


"No it's not.

Being on fab probably isn't indicative of suffering from any number of other diagnosable, debilitating mental health conditions either.

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I believe it may do....imho

While we may not be at a debilitating level we are all somewhere on the spectrum of mental wellbeing and this is often very evident on this site.

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
3 weeks ago

The West


"No it's not.

Being on fab probably isn't indicative of suffering from any number of other diagnosable, debilitating mental health conditions either.

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I believe it may do....imho

While we may not be at a debilitating level we are all somewhere on the spectrum of mental wellbeing and this is often very evident on this site."

It sounds like your saying is all based on a social construct of the society in which a person has grown.

Who created that?

Peoples mentality might appear different to those within that construct. Where are they on the mental health well being spectrum? It often very evident with them also.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
3 weeks ago

Newry

Narcissism, true narcissism, goes well beyond selfishness and self gratification. Are there narcissists on Fab? Sure. But as a poster above observed, there are narcissists everywhere.

Am I here to satisfy my desires? Absolutely. But not at the expense of others, nor am I interested unless others I'm involved with are having their desires sated too.

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By *ealitybitesMan
3 weeks ago

Belfast

I post quite a lot of pics which some might say is a form of narcissism but I don't post them for fabs or validation.

If that was my reason for doing so I would have given up a long time ago as I rarely get more than 3 or 4 fabs on a new pic.

I enjoy taking the pics and posting them and as my profile says I would prefer that people didn't judge me based on pics alone. I'd much prefer they got to know the person behind the pics.

I don't believe that has anything to do with narcissism but it's pretty obvious that some people need that validation and a certain degree of relevance.

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
3 weeks ago

The West


"I post quite a lot of pics which some might say is a form of narcissism but I don't post them for fabs or validation.

If that was my reason for doing so I would have given up a long time ago as I rarely get more than 3 or 4 fabs on a new pic.

I enjoy taking the pics and posting them and as my profile says I would prefer that people didn't judge me based on pics alone. I'd much prefer they got to know the person behind the pics.

I don't believe that has anything to do with narcissism but it's pretty obvious that some people need that validation and a certain degree of relevance. "

Definitely people on here that seek validation and are primarily looking for that.

I suppose it's no different to the millions addicted to the likes of Instagram for the same reason.

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By *electableicecreamMan
3 weeks ago

The West

Sexual arousal through exhibitionism may well trump validation and vanity for many people.

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
3 weeks ago

Northern Ireland


"I post quite a lot of pics which some might say is a form of narcissism but I don't post them for fabs or validation.

If that was my reason for doing so I would have given up a long time ago as I rarely get more than 3 or 4 fabs on a new pic.

I enjoy taking the pics and posting them and as my profile says I would prefer that people didn't judge me based on pics alone. I'd much prefer they got to know the person behind the pics.

I don't believe that has anything to do with narcissism but it's pretty obvious that some people need that validation and a certain degree of relevance. "

We'd be more active on that other kinky site and love posting photos. More so on here because at least on there you have comments and likes whereas here you only have Fabs (likes).

It's partly a platform for self expression, it's partly exhibitionism, it's partly validation from others, not going to lie about that. Nice comments are amazing. But one thing it's not is expression at the expense of others or a comparison game or a needy thirst trap. I find it builds confidence where I struggle with that, and it's fun!

I recently did live nude modelling for an art class. That was a confidence building exercise too. I was so nervous to start but I settled in and afterwards I was euphoric. I wouldn't think it's narcissistic just good for me to challenge myself.

Vics (f)

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By *astelloWoman
2 weeks ago

Far far away

They're may well be a higher proportion of self absorbed people on here but l wouldn't classify them as narcissistic. Fab is an eco system of it's own so perhaps, traits are more observable than real life.

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By *uckypuppy007Woman
2 weeks ago

dublin


"Sexual arousal through exhibitionism may well trump validation and vanity for many people."

And none of these traits come even close to a true narcissist as they cause their destruction hiding in plain sight

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By *rystalsswingCouple
2 weeks ago

Galway / Midlands / West


"Sexual arousal through exhibitionism may well trump validation and vanity for many people.

And none of these traits come even close to a true narcissist as they cause their destruction hiding in plain sight"

Agreed

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By *adger Broc OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Co. Cork


"Sexual arousal through exhibitionism may well trump validation and vanity for many people."

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Narcissists have been described as exhibitionists because of their tendency to show off to gain admiration. It has been suggested that exhibitionism is narcissists' mechanism for flaunting their superiority to others.

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