FabSwingers.com forum: Is it a date?

By *errardNo8 OP Man
23 weeks ago

Galway/Mayo

Would you class a 1 on 1 social meet as a date?

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By *ueen_MeadhbhWoman
23 weeks ago

sligo

"Would you class a 1 on 1 social meet as a date?"

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By *ot so needyMan
23 weeks ago

Galway

"Would you class a 1 on 1 social meet as a date?"

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By *errardNo8 OP Man
23 weeks ago

Galway/Mayo

Is it not kind of the same though.....

I suppose sme people do it just fir veri's

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By *electableicecreamMan
23 weeks ago

The West

I would say a social meet isnt a date on fab.

But if I meet someone for a coffee through tinder there's a good chance they will call that a date.

The only difference that I can see is that on fab not having sex has to be specified 'this is not a date, we are not going to fuck, this is a meeting to see if sex is an agreeable outcome at a later time'm

On tinder that's a date. Otherwise it's a hook up.

Then there's 'dating' and going out on a date. Which is different again.

Some people consider dating someone a prelude to a relationship.

I like dating for dating sake. The way some people like sex.

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By *electableicecreamMan
23 weeks ago

The West

I also like having sex the way some people like having sex

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By *ePreferPineappleCouple
23 weeks ago

near by

It is a date. I meet people to see if we are compatible and if we can be intimate. Isn’t that what dates are about? At least those dates before relationship is established…

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By *errardNo8 OP Man
23 weeks ago

Galway/Mayo

"It is a date. I meet people to see if we are compatible and if we can be intimate. Isn’t that what dates are about? At least those dates before relationship is established…

Yeah, it's a date then

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
23 weeks ago

Portstewart

No not unless you have said to the person your meeting or they have told you it's a date

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By *ythenMan
23 weeks ago

Definitely not ..

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By *om TangoMan
23 weeks ago

aughnacloy monaghan area

Sorry folks , yous will hate me for this. I still would say it’s a coffee date if it’s been arranged. If I met someone on the street I knew and we went for a coffee I’d just say we had a coffee. If it was out for a bit to eat and some play was arranged I can it a date night. I’m likely on wrong on that but sure everyone has their own way of saying or doing things.

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By *om TangoMan
23 weeks ago

aughnacloy monaghan area

"Sorry folks , yous will hate me for this. I still would say it’s a coffee date if it’s been arranged. If I met someone on the street I knew and we went for a coffee I’d just say we had a coffee. If it was out for a bit to eat and some play was arranged I can it a date night. I’m likely on wrong on that but sure everyone has their own way of saying or doing things. "

“ arranged I call it a date”

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By *lternative lifestyleCouple
23 weeks ago

Louth

"Would you class a 1 on 1 social meet as a date?"

Absolutely 💯 NO

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
23 weeks ago

Newry

I consider dates to be something that may lead to a romantic relationship, insomuch as that's the intention of both from the outset.

I generally consider a social to be a way see if we are compatible, get on well, and that there is physical attraction, with the intention of both from the outset that the end goal is sex.

It's highly unlikely on a first date that I'd discuss the nuts and bolts of having sex with that person. I'd be more likely to discuss that on a Fab social.

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By *affa31Woman
23 weeks ago

Galway

Its another example of the power of a word.

There’s fuck all difference between what happens on a fab coffee social and a first date but, to most, a date implies the potential of a relationship

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By *electableicecreamMan
23 weeks ago

The West

I dunno if a date implies a relationship. I think it used to but nearly all the people I meet outside of fab aren't looking for a relationship and still enjoy dating.

You can have romance in your life and not have to go all in.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

"Would you class a 1 on 1 social meet as a date?"

God no. That's just to see if you can stand being in the company of the other person and whether you like the cut of their jib.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
23 weeks ago

Castlebar

I'm clearly old fashioned because in my head it implies relationship but when a Fab person says it to me I assume they don't mean that, because it a Fab "date" ie. in the calender date.

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By *errardNo8 OP Man
23 weeks ago

Galway/Mayo

It's actually pretty cool to see how other people look at it. On my first meet I kinda seen it as a date. And still do I suppose.

Not that I've had many like. But I'm going out with kind of the same mentality as I would a date, I'm there to impress.

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By *errardNo8 OP Man
23 weeks ago

Galway/Mayo

"Would you class a 1 on 1 social meet as a date?

God no. That's just to see if you can stand being in the company of the other person and whether you like the cut of their jib. "

Lol maybe that's probably why no1s asked ne back for a second round

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
23 weeks ago

Belfast and Tyrone

Why not call it a date. If you as a parent set up with another parent to have your kids play it's a play date. If I meet someone in order to see if we have mutual attraction then it's still a date.

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By *antra MassageMan
23 weeks ago

Galway

No, it can't be assumed it's a date.

On a recent meet with a fabber, I asked her straight out was this a "date" or a "coffee"?.

She replied, "coffee".

So we had lunch, coffee, cake, and a great chat for a few hours. The pressure was off, it became very relaxed, and we parted as friends.

That's the side of Fab I love. It's not all about getting the shag, but forming friendships with like minded, sexy people.

I can't shag the whole site.

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By *ueen_MeadhbhWoman
23 weeks ago

sligo

I meet my friends and call it a coffee date, meet guy on fab for a coffee its a coffee social.

I consider a date where I've been chatting to someone for a while and we going on a date to see how we get on in person and as a view to see do i want to see someone more.

So maybe it's a date, maybe not

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By *ozzlesMan
23 weeks ago

galway

It's a date for me, I appreciate its got some differences to a non fab date but it has so many similarities. New person, nerves, trying to make a good impression, meeting hopefully, may lead to intimacy etc. It's missing the potential of a ltr but everything else seems similar to me.

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By *ashionistaWoman
23 weeks ago

Dublin

That’s an introduction to see if you like the person and vice versa. Not a date. This bar is si low that we have to be careful to not trip over it!

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By *aybeLadyWoman
23 weeks ago

West Dublin

I dont class it as a date, no.

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By *a1970Man
23 weeks ago

East cork

"Would you class a 1 on 1 social meet as a date?"
no

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By *he KakapoMan
23 weeks ago

A nice rock

Kinda depends on the dynamic.

Just because its a coffee arrange on fan doesn't automatically rule it being a date out.

However I would think fab coffee meets being dates are in the very small minority

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By *eordie.Woman
23 weeks ago

The Sticks

"Kinda depends on the dynamic.

Just because its a coffee arrange on fan doesn't automatically rule it being a date out.

However I would think fab coffee meets being dates are in the very small minority "

Some of them are more like purgatory

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By *rRiosMan
23 weeks ago

dublin

"Kinda depends on the dynamic.

Just because its a coffee arrange on fan doesn't automatically rule it being a date out.

However I would think fab coffee meets being dates are in the very small minority "

For it to be a date, it kinda has to be accepted as such by both parties either before or during but definitely after. It can’t really be a “well, I thought of it as a date” situation. With tinder etc. that’s kinda implicated whereas with Fab (and even within this thread) it’s more ambiguous

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By *he KakapoMan
23 weeks ago

A nice rock

"Kinda depends on the dynamic.

Just because its a coffee arrange on fan doesn't automatically rule it being a date out.

However I would think fab coffee meets being dates are in the very small minority

I'd have thought any date would kinda need ti be consensual by definition 🤣

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By *parkie2Man
23 weeks ago

Ratoath

I would make the same effort as a date but I see it as more of a job interview

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By *rRiosMan
23 weeks ago

dublin

"Kinda depends on the dynamic.

Just because its a coffee arrange on fan doesn't automatically rule it being a date out.

However I would think fab coffee meets being dates are in the very small minority

I'd have thought any date would kinda need ti be consensual by definition 🤣"

Haha I get what you’re saying but if the someone accepts a coffee meet as a date, and the person he/she meets does not view it that way then it can’t ever be a date really objectify speaking.

I’m d*unk, ignore me!

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By *ettaManMan
23 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

If I was looking to pad the numbers, sure, why not.

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By *dfabMan
23 weeks ago

Dunboyne

A coffee meet is just a compatability check.

The next meet, if it happens, would be considered a date.

Whatever form that takes is up to the individuals.

Yet again, why bother labelling these things?

I'm meeting so and so.

The context/definition of two people meeting is irrelevant.

We're adults.

Whether it starts as coffee or dinner and ends in whatever manner is irrelevant.

It's just 2 people meeting up to start with.

Sometimes over analysis is analysis retentive

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By *mmmm300Woman
23 weeks ago

cork

If I feel I'd like it to be a date, I'll call it a date, I will ask the person to humor me as I just want to go on a date, lol if they find that weird or stressful they may not be for me.

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By *adger BrocMan
23 weeks ago

Co. Cork

If it involves a prearranged meeting between two people on a specific date and time in a particular location to share a coffee/drink/food/walk/other shared activity ..... it's a date.

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By *s SingletWoman
23 weeks ago

Kilkenny

I'm definitely fab dating by that definition

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By *udding RoseWoman
23 weeks ago

Somewhere out there

"A coffee meet is just a compatability check.

The next meet, if it happens, would be considered a date.

Whatever form that takes is up to the individuals.

Yet again, why bother labelling these things?

I'm meeting so and so.

The context/definition of two people meeting is irrelevant.

We're adults.

Whether it starts as coffee or dinner and ends in whatever manner is irrelevant.

It's just 2 people meeting up to start with.

Sometimes over analysis is analysis retentive

I agree here!! 👌👍

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By *oe Cool xxxMan
23 weeks ago

South Dublin

It’s 100% not a date !!

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By *iscuits8Man
23 weeks ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

I've never considered myself as ever being on a date when I've met someone from here anyways...

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By * DareCouple
23 weeks ago

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Never thought about it much but yes kind of think of it as a “date”

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

Once yes, we met for dinner, spent the night together, I would have considered that a date. It walked like a duck, quaked like a duck, it’s a duck

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By *errardNo8 OP Man
22 weeks ago

Galway/Mayo

I change my mind. It isn't a date

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By *exyScientistsCouple
22 weeks ago

Castlebar

"I change my mind. It isn't a date

Ah come on! Really?

Sorry I ruined it 🤣

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By *errardNo8 OP Man
22 weeks ago

Galway/Mayo

"I change my mind. It isn't a date

Ah come on! Really?

Sorry I ruined it 🤣"

Nah you just made me see sense

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