FabSwingers.com forum: Value of the Veri

Cork

There's a lot of value put on single men to get a veri on here to stand out. In some cases, some people might be only interested in you if they think you've met someone. I messaged someone recently and lost interest as soon I found out they were looking for reparations. They've gotten lots of veris since. Do you think this is a common occurrence? How far do you think people would go for a verification and how can you trust them?

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
3 weeks ago

newtownabbey

We are some of those people who put some value into verifications. Do we trust all verifications 100%? No. Nobody sensible ever should.

Reason why we do only engage with meet verified people:

1. There was a 4 year period when we used to offer lots of people to meet us socially for a pint or a coffee to have a chat to help them get verified. In those 4 years we can count on one hand how many of those unverified people have actually turned up after taking up the offer and confirming that they'll arrive 🤷‍♀️

2. If said meeting is arranged outside the time that you're already out, most people will take time to make the effort to get ready, shower, shave, put on nice make up, lingerie (who knows if the chemistry is right the social might turn into something more), spend hours getting ready, to just be ghosted as there is no proof that that person ever showed up for anyone.

3. Brand new people on the scene, who haven't met anyone yet sometimes don't know the etiquette yet, have high expectations and tend to be pushy. I have found myself in a good few very uncomfortable situations as a single woman before me and Dirk met and became a couple. After a few bad experiences with total newbies I have found myself avoiding any kind of sex talk or even flirting with anyone I have never met, which is a sad fucking way to be when you feel you can't relax in case someone misreads your queues and tries to take advantage of you.

Hope this sheds a little light to woman's perspective of why do we insist on people being verified.

Missus

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By *ealitybitesMan
3 weeks ago

Belfast

Some think that verifications are the key to unlocking the next level and will do and say whatever it takes to get there.

Over the years I've met and chatted to women who use their verifications as a status symbol.

I've seen them contact other people's verifications and name drop in order to become relevant in certain circles.

I've spoken to people over a long period of time who showed nothing but scorn and bitterness towards certain fabbers and put all their energy into warning others including me off them, only to then post shiny new verifications from those same dangerous, damaged, hideous, fat, ugly and deranged people who they now described as lovely.

I don't put any value on verifications.

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By *iscuits8Man
3 weeks ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

It's a good point by RB above, on much more than one occasion I've heard negative comments by some Fabbers towards others only for them to leave glowing verifications of each other. It's more amusing than anything else really 🙂 I take them with a huge pinch of salt and wait to make my own judgement on people

I haven't exchanged veris with most of the last few people I've met (more that I just forgot or we weren't arsed) but nothing against veris either and happy to leave/receive one

Can also honestly say that even though I've only met maybe a dozen or so people off here, I could only verify them positively if I had to... sound heads 🫡

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By *oodgirlgioWoman
3 weeks ago

Mullingar

I think there's so many more ways now to be verified, and socials are more accessible that it makes sense to hold value in a verification! I agree with the 3 reasons above for definite! Also it is a way to stand out and show you are genuine or to get a sense of you. Likewise, I can also say the amount of times I've offered coffee or that to verify someone and it be just coffee..wasn't taken up at all! Ya don't know who is who on this, and verifications give you some sense of assurance that people can put a real face to the person.

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By *huCullainMan
3 weeks ago

Rathowen

I don't put any value in verifications either. I judge people for myself by the way they interact with me and others.

Consider this the real world version of verifications.... Imagine you see someone at a bar or restaurant that you fancy. Would you're first interaction with them to ask for their sex CV? Previous partners and what they thought of you.

And anyone that has bad verifications just hide them anyway so I think they're irrelevant when it comes to meeting up.

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By *llie_xWoman
3 weeks ago

Town

I think you have to read between the lines and follow the verification trails..

Some people definitely lean heavier on the embellishments than others 😆

As a single woman with not a lot of time for coffee I find them useful

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By *s LollyWoman
3 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I put zero value on verifications, ive left many for people to get none back but they've verfied everyone else they've met, like above ive seen and heard talk about others only to see them balls deep in that person a while later with a nice new verification to match, i don't leave them anymore but will verfie if they leave me one but perfer not to get them....

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By *adger BrocMan
3 weeks ago

Co. Cork

Verifications are like dic pics.....

They reveal a certain amount about the subject but never tell the full story.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
3 weeks ago

Newry

They have some value to me sometimes but they're only one tool in the arsenal, and a tool I may or may not use depending on other factors. I'd rarely decide to meet someone based on verifications alone. I wouldn't necessarily refuse to meet someone because of their lack of verifications, but I may be more cautious of doing so.

I'll admit to having got people wrong. I've ended up getting on great with people I thought I wouldn't give the time of day to. Conversely there are those I've initially got on well with who turned out to be arsewipes. If it's the latter, I've blocked the person so that the text of my verification is removed. We're all human, and we all have the capacity to get things wrong.

For me there are no absolutes where verifications are concerned, and my decision to meet someone is usually based on factors far more nuanced and subtle.

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By *ueen_MeadhbhWoman
3 weeks ago

sligo

Take them with a pinch of salt, I've met people who had glowing veris and I've walked away wondering wtf.

I love coffee and have no issue meeting for coffee if a profile peaks my interest

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By *iscuits8Man
3 weeks ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

"Take them with a pinch of salt, I've met people who had glowing veris and I've walked away wondering wtf."

Jaysis... very sorry about that 🥲

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By *p4fun678Couple
3 weeks ago

Town

I think for new people they are great just to know the person behind the profile is as described, a man a woman or couple etc etc... As a new couple we have had some dodgy chats from apparent other couples but no veris or photo verified so we don't engage in the conversation.

Regarding the quality of the veris, well I think people can make their own minds up if they agree with it or not. But they definitely have a place and help to out the fake profiles from the genuine ones for us newbies

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By *oradMan
3 weeks ago

Dublin / Galway

When you say reparations... do you mean €€€ ? Or simply a return veri?

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By *adger BrocMan
3 weeks ago

Co. Cork

"When you say reparations... do you mean €€€ ? Or simply a return veri?

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Reparation.

Making amends for a wrong one has done by providing payment or other assistance to the person wronged.

Not sure how this would apply in relation to verifications. If you had done something wrong to a person they are hardly likely to give you a veri.

I suppose if you were a "no show " or a mediocre ride you could give someone a glowing veri to make up for disappointing them.

Im sure if some people are rewarded for a veri in kind it's ok but financial reward for verifications would probably frowned upon by the site and requesting such could get you banned.

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By *ilMsStickyWoman
3 weeks ago

Galway

Verifications can be a hit and miss way to view someone. I take them with a big pinch of salt.

Yes if I want to meet someone I might look at the veris but I prefer to judge by personality upon meeting. Also veris don't count for much when you plan a meet and they don't show up. Dreamers a plenty in these parts. And the cliques giving each other veris can be very misleading too. Can't beat a good face to face... if they show up 😉

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By *exyScientistsCouple
3 weeks ago

Castlebar

Easier to read into what wasn't said and the way things are said to get more info. I love to have a nosey. It makes for very interesting reading sometimes. But I wouldn't rely on them at all.

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By *r_Insatiable666 OP Man
3 weeks ago

Cork

"When you say reparations... do you mean €€€ ? Or simply a return veri?

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Reparation.

Making amends for a wrong one has done by providing payment or other assistance to the person wronged.

Not sure how this would apply in relation to verifications. If you had done something wrong to a person they are hardly likely to give you a veri.

I suppose if you were a "no show " or a mediocre ride you could give someone a glowing veri to make up for disappointing them.

Im sure if some people are rewarded for a veri in kind it's ok but financial reward for verifications would probably frowned upon by the site and requesting such could get you banned."

Yes probably not the apt word, financial rewards is accurate.

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By *ofusplusCouple
3 weeks ago

Limerick

I put more value on the verifier than the verified. What they say and more importantly how they say it. Mrs

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