FabSwingers.com forum: Do you discuss with friends?

By *om098 OP Couple
5 days ago

coalisland

So, I told my best friend that we joined this site, she wasn't surprised and said she'd have a look (shes in Australia though)

Have any of you guys told your non swinging friends? How did they react?

I know she told another friend (also in Australia) and she was taken back.

Interested to hear people experience

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
5 days ago

Portstewart

No we don't have any friends we would consider close enough that we would ever think about divulging the info that were part of this lifestyle

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By *ealcoupleCouple
5 days ago

Nope none of our friends know about this side of our life and we hope to keep it that way

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By *ealitybitesMan
5 days ago

Belfast

I've never had a conversation about sex with anyone I'm not having sex with or discussed fab with anyone who isn't already on here.

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By *electableicecreamMan
5 days ago

The West

I would tell anyone tbh.

Being single I would just describe fab as another way to meet people that's more open to upfront sex positive conversations about what everyone wants.

Feeld is not dissimilar.

Tinder is well known as a hook up app but everyone in kinda maintains the pretense that it isn't too. It's a bit silly.

I get that it's different for couples.

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By *exicansCouple
5 days ago

wexford

No we never say anything about being on fab.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
5 days ago

East / North, Cork

Yes . Our friends know

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By *og-ManMan
5 days ago

somewhere

Few real life friends on here and I remember one asking me once

" are you Bogman "

Just said yes ...didn't want to lie to them and they were obviously on here too

Another friend I told her as I was going to my first meet in a house with a couple and I was driving across country late at night in the dark and lashing rain

Gave her a pin from Google maps when I got there as I was following a car and I had a little niggle in the back of my head in case I was never seen again.

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By *rmrs1234Couple
5 days ago

Waterford

Nope. Noones business only our own

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By *he Pilot69Man
5 days ago

kerry

I’m single but none of my friends know I’m on here and I won’t be telling them either..

Even though they often fish for information about my sexlife, I keep it private and to myself..I don’t be asking my married friends about their sexlife and couldn’t really care about it being honest🤷🏻‍♂️

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By *ofusplusCouple
5 days ago

Limerick

The one time I brought it up with a supposedly open-minded friend, she was disgusted.

I won't be making that mistake again. Mrs.

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By *ergalMan
5 days ago

east cork

Not told anyone and not going to either!

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By *evin86Man
5 days ago

South Dublin

What happens if you tell that one friend that you really trust, then they will tell another friend who they really trust etc. etc.

Not Before long that one trusted friend who knows your secret has become 10 or 15 people or more.

It's best to keep it private and not tell anyone, it's more exciting that way too😉

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By *exyScientistsCouple
5 days ago

Castlebar

I told 2 if my oldest school friends, and another friend that I know has very open views about sex. None of them are Irish and although my school friends were surprised there didn't seem to be any judgement!

My other friend is very familiar with enm and poly and often messages me about reddit sites or books to read. We talk a lot and she gives me great advice. She is very honest with me about situations. When we talk it's like she is talking as my head when I might be listening to my heart. She's essentially my therapist. But she loves hearing about it all.

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By *re u askingMan
5 days ago

loughrea galway

I discuss sport politics and the terrible state of chassis in the world with my friends, not my sexual preferences. I don’t think they would be interested or me in theirs.

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By *hereisnotomorrowMan
5 days ago

Dublin

A very select few. I've recently mentioned this site to a friend who's going through a separation and in the need of some regular nookie. I'm not her type & it'd be weird for the friendship.

Was a good move, I think. She responded positively and I hope that she'll sign up soon.

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By *electableicecreamMan
5 days ago

The West

"What happens if you tell that one friend that you really trust, then they will tell another friend who they really trust etc. etc.

Not Before long that one trusted friend who knows your secret has become 10 or 15 people or more.

It's best to keep it private and not tell anyone, it's more exciting that way too😉

It wouldn't make the slightest bit of difference to me if one or all the people that know me know I use fab. I have sex. That's not exactly earth shattering news.

I'm single. What is there to hide?

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By *crumdiddlyumptious48Man
5 days ago

sexyville

Some of my friends know and some don't, I suppose u know ur friends well enough if they can accept it or not .

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By *omanic400Man
5 days ago

West Cork

Never told anyone, most of them would just gossip anyway!!

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By *om TangoMan
5 days ago

aughnacloy monaghan area

My ex wife found out I’m in the lifestyle and said it to my oldest son. So to avoid her having power and whatever else over me I’ve told my oldest children and some friends. I’ve losted a few customers over it but I’ve gained a few fab customers.

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By *otownkid1967Man
5 days ago

Portlaoise

Definitely not, I live in a small community where everyone wants to know everybody's business. I do have friends who I met on here and socialise with though. If anyone asks how we know each other we just say through work .

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By *oradMan
5 days ago

Dublin / Galway

Naw. Same reason most wont use facial pixs in profiles, too much chance someone you know will spot you and gossip to co-workers, other parents, family, local sports clubs.

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By *iscuits8Man
5 days ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

Good god no

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By *uriousVoyeurMan
5 days ago

Northside

"So, I told my best friend that we joined this site, she wasn't surprised and said she'd have a look (shes in Australia though)

Have any of you guys told your non swinging friends? How did they react?

I know she told another friend (also in Australia) and she was taken back.

Interested to hear people experience "

The fact that your best friend felt it was ok to discuss your personal life with someone else is the very reason most people, especially couples,won't divulge that side of their relationship with others! Some people are very quick to gossip and the fallout could be devastating for the couples! My wife knows I'm on here but is worried someone might recognise me and tongue's would wag...that's why there's only one other person that knows and I'd trust them with my life. I reckon most of my friends would frown upon it tbh.

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By *arkandEm14Couple
5 days ago

dublin

Is the fun and exciting part of it being a secret amongst you and your partner???. I can probably understand single people but no we love the lies ohhhh god the terrible terrible lies

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By *ancy38Woman
5 days ago

galway

Only friends of mine who are already in here I would discuss with. When other people talk about swinging jokingly in front of me and my partner, we both look at each other with a wee smile thinking, if only they knew

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By *aybeLadyWoman
4 days ago

West Dublin

Yep like 5 of my friends know I'm on here.

3 of the ladies I met through my divorce group.

All of my friends who know understand my need for putting myself first & having some fun in my shitty personal situation; sexual & non-sexual fun.

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By *reetogoodhomeMan
4 days ago

Hereandthere

Nope,I think it's none of anyone else's business tbh .

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By (user no longer on site)
4 days ago

"I would tell anyone tbh.

Being single I would just describe fab as another way to meet people that's more open to upfront sex positive conversations about what everyone wants.

Feeld is not dissimilar.

Tinder is well known as a hook up app but everyone in kinda maintains the pretense that it isn't too. It's a bit silly.

I get that it's different for couples. "

So it seems you are on every app looking for sex? Absolutely nothing wrong with that and the best of luck to you but how come in this progressive era we can't have a place just for swingers?

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By *phrodite72Woman
3 days ago

dublin/galway

"I would tell anyone tbh.

Being single I would just describe fab as another way to meet people that's more open to upfront sex positive conversations about what everyone wants.

Feeld is not dissimilar.

Tinder is well known as a hook up app but everyone in kinda maintains the pretense that it isn't too. It's a bit silly.

I get that it's different for couples.

So it seems you are on every app looking for sex? Absolutely nothing wrong with that and the best of luck to you but how come in this progressive era we can't have a place just for swingers? "

Maybe set one up so if that's your ideal

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By *adyKarmennTVTV/TS
3 days ago

Dublin

4 of my male friends are in here that I recommended to join! Another was on here and accidentally we discovered each other

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By *electableicecreamMan
3 days ago

The West

"I would tell anyone tbh.

Being single I would just describe fab as another way to meet people that's more open to upfront sex positive conversations about what everyone wants.

Feeld is not dissimilar.

Tinder is well known as a hook up app but everyone in kinda maintains the pretense that it isn't too. It's a bit silly.

I get that it's different for couples.

So it seems you are on every app looking for sex? Absolutely nothing wrong with that and the best of luck to you but how come in this progressive era we can't have a place just for swingers? "

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By *addyforMan
3 days ago

Newtownabbey

I told a female work colleague, didn't mention FAB just that I attended swinging parties. To be fair I sort of knew she would love the idea haha. She was so turned on at the thought. Even though a gave no real details at all. Bless her she is a married lady and swore she couldn't do anything like that with her hubby. I bet he got the ride of his life that night though haha.

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By *ataWoman
3 days ago

Neverland

Told my brother and sister. They love the stories and the laugh. We all perv together. My brother is married with kids and at it to (Tinder though). We gotta talk about these things with someone.

I occasionally discuss with the hubby more from a sociological viewpoint about my observations while interacting with men on here - I’d say anyone doing psychology would have fab in general as a great subject 😁

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By *ngelPaintedRedTV/TS
2 days ago

Portrush

I do have one friend that used to have a couples profile on here with her husband, so obviously we've talked about it. Not that we've played together.

We did meet at a BDSM house party, though, so not much chat is taboo...

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By *ubadubdubWoman
2 days ago

Hereabouts

Yeah one or two, the first was so id have a check-in when I was going to meet someone. Kinda like what BogM said, for security, she's cool and curious about it. but I'm sorry I told the second person, that was an oversharing moment.

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By *asual777Man
2 days ago

i travel all over

I have taken out a half page ad in the Galway advertiser for the ‘big reveal’

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