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Question for the ladies - do you send the first message?

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By *eekyNerd OP   Man
16 weeks ago

Port

Ladies, I'm curious, as you're scrolling through the profiles on fab, do you ever see one that makes you stop and want to send the first message?

Or do you get enough messages into your inbox on a daily/weekly basis that you don't feel the need to?

I know the ladies get swamped with first messages by us over eager males especially new people. And I know one or two ladies do send the first message but in general, by the majority, is it done?

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

I tip my hat to those women who send first msgs.

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By *astelloWoman
16 weeks ago

Far far away

No likie, no lightee...

You have a message

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By *ueen_MeadhbhWoman
16 weeks ago

sligo

Nope

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By *aybeLadyWoman
16 weeks ago

West Dublin

I do yes. I dont think its up to a guy to send a first message

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By *ealitybitesMan
16 weeks ago

Belfast

Every conversation I've had since January 2020 has been started by women sending the first message because I haven't sent one in those 5 years.

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By *lutterFlyWoman
16 weeks ago

Not Belfast but NI

If I see a profile that piqued my interest, yes I would send a first message. It doesn't happen very often though, in fact I and I can't remember the last time I did.😆

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By *ustBoWoman
16 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Yes I have done.I have no issue with sending a first message to someone. It can be an easier way to find someone I would be interested in,than expecting them to message me. Plus I have filters tighter than a ducks ass in order to stop most messages anyhow.

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By *eekyNerd OP   Man
16 weeks ago

Port

Thanks all for the replies. Good to see the other side and maybe it might get guys to do up their profiles to catch the attention!

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By *ubadubdubWoman
16 weeks ago

Hereabouts

Yeah I do sometimes. It could be in response to a forum post or after meeting at a social. I'm not one for browsing random profiles.

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By *affa31Woman
16 weeks ago

Galway

On the very odd occasion I’ll send the first message but mostly I’ll send a wink to see if the interest is reciprocated

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By *exyScientistsCouple
16 weeks ago

Castlebar

I'd be more likely to wink. I think I may have sent one or two first messages but only if there was something particular in their photos or bio that intrigued me.

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By *efreshing_GTCouple
16 weeks ago

Kil

I have sent the first message a good bit from this page. Only a few times off my solo page. Can never hurt to try

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By *eroLondonMan
16 weeks ago

Mayfair

For me every engagement in the last few years - from libations to dalliances - has been on the back of the lady sending the introductory message.

I rarely message other than friends and forum dwellers or because of some forum thread, game, challenge or competition.

So yes, women do indeed send the first message. Perhaps more women should.

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
16 weeks ago

Galway, Clare

Yes, I do. Why not??

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

I’m kind of shy so I rarely send a first message..something for me to work on 😅

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
16 weeks ago

Naughty Lane

I have done...yip...🤭 usually nothing comes out of it though 🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

Yes I do.

I'll probably wink first to see if they'll pick it up and roll it back. If that's a go, I'll message asking if I can dry hump their leg over coffee.

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By *iresmillyWoman
16 weeks ago

Stillorgan

Of course. I like to read the bios and if our likes and kinks align then I would message

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
16 weeks ago

Galway, Clare


"Yes I do.

I'll probably wink first to see if they'll pick it up and roll it back. If that's a go, I'll message asking if I can dry hump their leg over coffee. "

Oh I might start using that 'dry hump' line, if that's ok?? It's a good one

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By *rown PrismWoman
16 weeks ago

Dublin

I never do that.. I don't know how and what to write...

In moments like these I am happy that I am not a man and I don't have to do this.

Thank you all men... 🤣🤣🤣 you are all wonderful, I really appreciate your efforts.... but I still won't respond to "hello" and many others 🤗🤗🤗

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By *ataWoman
16 weeks ago

Meh

It's not common, but I have sent a few messages here and there.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

I send a wink 😉

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By *aloma PicassoWoman
16 weeks ago

Waterford city

In general lm quite shy so no l wouldn't. But ld love to be more confident to do so.

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
16 weeks ago

Cork

I won't believe this without proof.... your turn ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago


"Yes I do.

I'll probably wink first to see if they'll pick it up and roll it back. If that's a go, I'll message asking if I can dry hump their leg over coffee.

Oh I might start using that 'dry hump' line, if that's ok?? It's a good one "

Absolutely! However it doesn't work. I now use the line "I like your little pee pee".

😉

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago


"I’m kind of shy so I rarely send a first message..something for me to work on 😅"

I'm the exact same in 7 years I've never sent a first message 🙈

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By *ozzlesMan
16 weeks ago

galway


"Yes I do.

I'll probably wink first to see if they'll pick it up and roll it back. If that's a go, I'll message asking if I can dry hump their leg over coffee. "

Now that's my kind of Coffee Meet 🤣🤣

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By *eekyNerd OP   Man
16 weeks ago

Port

I think it's interesting that some ladies do and some don't and the reasons why.

It does go to show that everyone here is different

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By *uppy2017Woman
16 weeks ago

galway

I’d send a wink that’s as far as I go

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By *s. DevineWoman
16 weeks ago

Dublin

I usually send a wink if there is a profile that catches my eye and see if anything comes of it

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By *razyNippleLoverMan
16 weeks ago

Back End of Beyond


"I usually send a wink if there is a profile that catches my eye and see if anything comes of it"

Gonna be checking my winks in ten minutes, just saying !!

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By *odkaandredbullCouple
16 weeks ago

Antrim

Never sent first message but have winked first

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By *elfastDMan
16 weeks ago

belfast


"Yes I do.

I'll probably wink first to see if they'll pick it up and roll it back. If that's a go, I'll message asking if I can dry hump their leg over coffee.

Oh I might start using that 'dry hump' line, if that's ok?? It's a good one

Absolutely! However it doesn't work. I now use the line "I like your little pee pee".

😉"

I can’t believe the dry hump doesn’t work! It’s genius

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By *avie tCouple
16 weeks ago

otherside of nowhere

Yes we often do as it's easier to find someone that we may be compatible with...if someone is organising a party then definitely we would message..

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