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By *efreshing_GT OP   Couple
4 days ago

Kil

Do you read a full profile to see exactly what the person is looking for or about?

Have you messaged anyways even when the page specifically suggests you are not what they’re looking for?

If so why?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
4 days ago

East / North, Cork

I guess it's because writing a message takes only a few seconds and so there is very little to lose

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
4 days ago

There and Here

Yes

No

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By *s LollyWoman
4 days ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Always read the bio and no id never send a message to anyone that i didn't think id be what they might be looking for what's the point.....

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By *ergalMan
4 days ago

east cork

Yep, would read a full profile

Some people never do, or take in what's actually written there

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By *he KakapoMan
4 days ago

A nice rock

Sometimes I message people I've no intention of meeting.

So yes sometimes I do ignore stated preferences in that way.

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By *igglefunWoman
4 days ago

Cork

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By *igglefunWoman
4 days ago

Cork

It's the msgs like

I know I'm outside ur age range but,,,,

Like no I have it set like that for a reason

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By *efreshing_GT OP   Couple
4 days ago

Kil

Like I’d never message a profile that didn’t want me to..it’s a waste of time but also just complete ignorance

Thankfully we just delete and move on but I’ve known friends who have hidden profiles and even come off FAB because of it

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By *efreshing_GT OP   Couple
4 days ago

Kil


"It's the msgs like

I know I'm outside ur age range but,,,,

Like no I have it set like that for a reason "

So you read my profile and ignored it anyways? DELETE 😂

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By *igglefunWoman
4 days ago

Cork


"It's the msgs like

I know I'm outside ur age range but,,,,

Like no I have it set like that for a reason

So you read my profile and ignored it anyways? DELETE 😂"

Exactly

Block 🚫

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By *og-ManMan
4 days ago

somewhere

Only message people as part of something on the forums and If I can't because of filters that's fine

Normally only read profiles once and forget them to be honest

I wouldn't have a clue what most people are looking for

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By *allDarkHandsome101Man
4 days ago

City

There’s a few on this site that I wouldn’t match the preference of and they messaged me. On the other hand. If I don’t match the preferences that’s fair. I have missed the age limit sometimes 😅

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By *ealitybitesMan
4 days ago

Belfast

I don't send messages and haven't done for years but when I did I only messaged people I thought would be compatible because their preferences and mine seemed to match.

I've had quite a few messages though in this profile from women and couples and on the couples profile from men and other couples who don't tick any box at all and they are just chancing their arm.

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By *ocketman81Man
4 days ago

Ennis


"Do you read a full profile to see exactly what the person is looking for or about?

Have you messaged anyways even when the page specifically suggests you are not what they’re looking for?

If so why?

"

Yip I'll always read the profile, and won't send a message if not what the person is looking for. If you can't respect the wishes of the profile, what confidence would that give the person or couple that you'd respect their wishes in person

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By *efreshing_GT OP   Couple
4 days ago

Kil


"There’s a few on this site that I wouldn’t match the preference of and they messaged me. On the other hand. If I don’t match the preferences that’s fair. I have missed the age limit sometimes 😅"

Yeah that I understand because something about your profile has stood out to them I’d say.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
4 days ago

Lucan

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
4 days ago

Lucan

Life is too short for reading stuff. I just send the cock pic and to hell with it.

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By *efreshing_GT OP   Couple
4 days ago

Kil


"Do you read a full profile to see exactly what the person is looking for or about?

Have you messaged anyways even when the page specifically suggests you are not what they’re looking for?

If so why?

Yip I'll always read the profile, and won't send a message if not what the person is looking for. If you can't respect the wishes of the profile, what confidence would that give the person or couple that you'd respect their wishes in person"

100% this!!

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By *efreshing_GT OP   Couple
4 days ago

Kil


"Life is too short for reading stuff. I just send the cock pic and to hell with it. "

And does it work?

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By *igglefunWoman
4 days ago

Cork


"Life is too short for reading stuff. I just send the cock pic and to hell with it. "

R u balls deep in offers then

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By *ergalMan
4 days ago

east cork


"Life is too short for reading stuff. I just send the cock pic and to hell with it.

R u balls deep in offers then "

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By *odkaandredbullCouple
4 days ago

Antrim

Absolutely we read it all and respect what people are looking for

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By *s LollyWoman
4 days ago

The pub then supermacs ...

The ones that annoys me the most is they message me asking to message a profile on their behalf to put in a good word especially if i know the profile or if im meeting them socially they'll ask me to put in a good word😡

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
4 days ago

Lucan


"Life is too short for reading stuff. I just send the cock pic and to hell with it.

And does it work?"

To quote Fr Fintan Stack while in the parochial house on Craggy Island...

"I had my fun and that's all that matters!"

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By *efreshing_GT OP   Couple
4 days ago

Kil


"The ones that annoys me the most is they message me asking to message a profile on their behalf to put in a good word especially if i know the profile or if im meeting them socially they'll ask me to put in a good word😡"

What? That’s just shocking!! I’ve not had that before. Did see a thread on something similar alright though.

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By *he KakapoMan
4 days ago

A nice rock

Preferences are like stop signs...

If I close my eyes they don't count

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By *igglefunWoman
4 days ago

Cork


"The ones that annoys me the most is they message me asking to message a profile on their behalf to put in a good word especially if i know the profile or if im meeting them socially they'll ask me to put in a good word😡"

Some people have a cheek 🙄

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By *aybeLadyWoman
4 days ago

West Dublin

I always read the bio in a profile, every time.

If they arent looking for the same, are attached, height, smoker etc, I dont message/wink or reply.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
4 days ago

Lucan


"Life is too short for reading stuff. I just send the cock pic and to hell with it.

R u balls deep in offers then "

Knee deep in clunge, innit!

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By *efreshing_GT OP   Couple
4 days ago

Kil


"Preferences are like stop signs...

If I close my eyes they don't count"

If you close your eyes you might not land in the right location…

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By *iscuits8Man
4 days ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

Not a week goes by where Giggles is messaging me asking for more pics of my willy

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By *iscuits8Man
4 days ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

*Isn't

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By *SydneyMan
4 days ago

Dublin

Seems like there may be a lot of folks on here that fancy themselves the ultimate sales man/woman.

‘I know you’re clearly telling me you’re not interested…..but hear me out….’

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By *s LollyWoman
4 days ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"Seems like there may be a lot of folks on here that fancy themselves the ultimate sales man/woman.

‘I know you’re clearly telling me you’re not interested…..but hear me out….’"

This exactly 💯

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By *ornywife20Couple
4 days ago

North Cork

We always read the profile no point in chatting to arrange a meet if you are not what they are looking for.

Having said that we do get a good few messages from people that and we are outside their age preference. Think that's due to my gorgeous hotass sexy wife .

I guess that way people get to filter for themselves

We don't mind chatting to new comers outside of our age preference . I think it's polite to make them feel welcome and answer any questions they might have.

We were all newbies at one stage, I know we really appreciated all the help and advice we got when we started out.

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By *aybeLadyWoman
4 days ago

West Dublin


"Seems like there may be a lot of folks on here that fancy themselves the ultimate sales man/woman.

‘I know you’re clearly telling me you’re not interested…..but hear me out….’"

Haha this kind of scenario happens a lot. They think if they keep me talking, I might change my mind. Nope. Not gonna happen.

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By *igglefunWoman
4 days ago

Cork


"Not a week goes by where Giggles is messaging me asking for more pics of my willy "

And u always obliged

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By *iscuits8Man
4 days ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham


"Not a week goes by where Giggles is messaging me asking for more pics of my willy

And u always obliged "

I do not! I always politely decline you mean. I've too much respect for myself to be treated like a piece of meat here, don't be dragging my name through the mud

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By *SydneyMan
4 days ago

Dublin


"Seems like there may be a lot of folks on here that fancy themselves the ultimate sales man/woman.

‘I know you’re clearly telling me you’re not interested…..but hear me out….’

Haha this kind of scenario happens a lot. They think if they keep me talking, I might change my mind. Nope. Not gonna happen. "

Bless them, god loves a trier.

I can only imagine how frustrating that must be if it is relentless.

As a fairly new single male this is not a challenge I am facing……yet. But I’ll give it a week or two and then I imagine I’ll be drowning in solicitations 🤔

‘I appreciate you want me to ravish you for hours until you’re a dripping mess, but I state clearly in my profile dark brown hair, and yours is ever so slightly light brown. Move along now, don’t make a scene’

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By *exyScientistsCouple
4 days ago

Castlebar

Yes

Always snooping through profiles 😊

No I don't so. And only message if they've winked or messaged first generally. Not sure I've ever made the first move 🤔

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By *igglefunWoman
4 days ago

Cork


"Not a week goes by where Giggles is messaging me asking for more pics of my willy

And u always obliged

I do not! I always politely decline you mean. I've too much respect for myself to be treated like a piece of meat here, don't be dragging my name through the mud "

Stop making me out to be a perv

Hurry on and send it I'm waiting my daily work wank :-

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By *s LollyWoman
4 days ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Ye have some here who lie about their age just to fit into people's preference when you meet them there 24/25 not infact 29/30 but since there here now what's the difference 🙄

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By * BlackMan
4 days ago

Laois/ Dublin

Profile Pic

Bio read to get a sense of the profile, limits ,personality, etc. Not respecting ones information on their Bio is lazy and egotistical.

No Bio No interest,

NEXT!!!!!!!!

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
4 days ago

Northern Ireland

Yes, always read bios in full.

I rarely message to someone new, if I do it's to reach out a hand of friendship (often because of a forum post) not a bid for play.

Vics (f)

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
4 days ago

Portstewart

Sometimes if we reply to fabs with a message thanking someone for them and saying that it's appreciated but you don't meet smokers for them to reply saying they do meet smokers and didn't know they had that particular preference marked we Sometimes send the odd wink in the hope of a reply but don't expect anything

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By (user no longer on site)
4 days ago


"Sometimes if we reply to fabs with a message thanking someone for them and saying that it's appreciated but you don't meet smokers for them to reply saying they do meet smokers and didn't know they had that particular preference marked we Sometimes send the odd wink in the hope of a reply but don't expect anything "

TBH, this is the only "ticked box" sometimes I don't respect. Just because there were cases in the past when they said "that rulle is there to not be bothered by too many" or they didn't know that box is ticked or they simply were willing to make exceptions.

Anything else, I read carefully and I don't contact unless I believe we're on the same page.

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By *attooed.dadbodMan
4 days ago

centre

I read them but sometimes I will textbthe odd person to compliment them but not trying to meet them ...amazing the amount of people that take it badly

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By *evin86Man
4 days ago

South Dublin

I always read profiles before messaging, sometimes I may glaze over some minor detail without realizing🙈 or sometimes I would message if I really like them but and I'm maybe 1 year outside their age range.

But if the profile says no single males, I'm not messaging, I like to respect people's wishes

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By *s LollyWoman
4 days ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"I always read profiles before messaging, sometimes I may glaze over some minor detail without realizing🙈 or sometimes I would message if I really like them but and I'm maybe 1 year outside their age range.

But if the profile says no single males, I'm not messaging, I like to respect people's wishes "

Id look at your profile and think ye it's good but get to your age and and won't message because im 2yrs outside of it of your preference....

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
4 days ago

Wolvo

I read a profile before messaging, also any visible veris and mooch through the pics. If their profile expressed a preference excluding me, i wouldn't message. Seems like common sense tbh.

Any message that starts ‘nice pics..’ i know they will not have read my profile bio. Some read and message anyway expecting me to change my mind. A waste of their time and mine.

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By *electableicecreamMan
4 days ago

The West

I usually scan for age, height, hair (beard or balls) and if that's all good and they match all my preferences like having a heart beat and boobs I probably wouldn't message anyway because their obviously fake.

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By *ealitybitesMan
4 days ago

Belfast

Even though I don't send messages I will look at profiles now and again but I rarely read a full bio or look at their interests because I'm not meeting or messaging.

The very first thing I look at is their age and if they fall outside my preferences I don't go any further, not even to look at the pics.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
4 days ago

There and Here


"Even though I don't send messages I will look at profiles now and again but I rarely read a full bio or look at their interests because I'm not meeting or messaging.

The very first thing I look at is their age and if they fall outside my preferences I don't go any further, not even to look at the pics.

"

Actually you have a point...I don't always read them in full because if I get to something that means we aren't compatible, I probably wouldn't read any further

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By *allfunguy400Man
4 days ago

Kildare


"Do you read a full profile to see exactly what the person is looking for or about?

Have you messaged anyways even when the page specifically suggests you are not what they’re looking for?

Yes - no point in contacting them if there not interested

If so why?

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
4 days ago

Cork

I love reading a good bio even if by the end they say no men under 7ft or something. I normally never read interests because it's usually bollox.

Bios can be really interesting because you'll see a lot of "I will only meet these requirements" then you look at the verifications and you seriously wonder.

Saying that, I wish more people would make efforts with bios. And would I message if I'm out of their bio? Not really, it's not worth it.

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By *leasurer77Man
4 days ago

Athlone


"I always read profiles before messaging, sometimes I may glaze over some minor detail without realizing🙈 or sometimes I would message if I really like them but and I'm maybe 1 year outside their age range.

But if the profile says no single males, I'm not messaging, I like to respect people's wishes

Id look at your profile and think ye it's good but get to your age and and won't message because im 2yrs outside of it of your preference...."

I've a feeling he'll be changing his age limit...

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By (user no longer on site)
4 days ago

Always read the profiles otherwise how would you know. I never send a msg unless it's for a forum game or something like that

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By *ataWoman
4 days ago

Neverland

I love when I get a message and I politely decline to chat. They come back and ask why. I usually say - the answer to your question is on my profile

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By *reetogoodhomeMan
4 days ago

Hereandthere


"Do you read a full profile to see exactly what the person is looking for or about?

Have you messaged anyways even when the page specifically suggests you are not what they’re looking for?

If so why?

I always read a persons profile & that's why l have the word R E S P E C T on my profile , for them & you , RESPECT is everything , read their profile & if you are NOT what they are looking for ,don't message..it's called RESPECT..for them & you .. simple really

"

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By *efreshing_GT OP   Couple
4 days ago

Kil


"I love when I get a message and I politely decline to chat. They come back and ask why. I usually say - the answer to your question is on my profile "

If I’m arsed replying I normally reply saying if you read my profile you’d see you’re not what we are looking for!

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By *efreshing_GT OP   Couple
4 days ago

Kil


"Always read the profiles otherwise how would you know. I never send a msg unless it's for a forum game or something like that"

Yeah this is actually how we have gotten speaking to single men, as they messaged through a forum game

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By *og-ManMan
4 days ago

somewhere


"I love when I get a message and I politely decline to chat. They come back and ask why. I usually say - the answer to your question is on my profile "

Sure then I'd have to read the bio

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By (user no longer on site)
4 days ago


"Always read the profiles otherwise how would you know. I never send a msg unless it's for a forum game or something like that

Yeah this is actually how we have gotten speaking to single men, as they messaged through a forum game "

Some fellas just love using the back door

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By *arkroy2Man
4 days ago

south Monaghan

Always read the profile wast of time if you don't

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