FabSwingers.com forum: Rejecting women

Cork

Brought up recently to my eye. How often do men reject women on here? Do any of you women feel hurt by rejection or are you fast to move on? How often are the first to propose a meet or message first?

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By *s LollyWoman
5 days ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I just moved now but in saying that i don't message profile's of people who i know im not what their looking for, ive no problem sending a first meet or suggested grabbing a coffee, if the social goes well id hope to meet up soon for fun rather than leaving it for a long period as i loose interest very fast....

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By *iscuits8Man
5 days ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

I don't get a lot of rejection here but that's just because I don't chat with or approach very many people. Whenever I am though I just have my big boy pants on and move on.

I have rejected some alright who just weren't for me, if the conversation is going nowhere or craic is shite with them

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By *exyScientistsCouple
5 days ago

Castlebar

Everyone has their reasons...

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By *ealitybitesMan
5 days ago

Belfast

Depends on what you term as rejection?

I've had quite a few chats that have fizzled out because I wasn't feeling it or it was one sided but without any overt rejection.

I've had women suggest meeting that I've no interest in for various reasons so yes I've told them no.

I've also had women and couples make specific demands in their very first message to me that I have to comply with if I want them to add me to their to-do list.

They haven't taken it well when I refused and some issued threats while others told me I was an idiot, a time waster or it was my loss.

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By *huCullainMan
5 days ago

Rathowen

"Depends on what you term as rejection?

I've had quite a few chats that have fizzled out because I wasn't feeling it or it was one sided but without any overt rejection.

I've had women suggest meeting that I've no interest in for various reasons so yes I've told them no.

I've also had women and couples make specific demands in their very first message to me that I have to comply with if I want them to add me to their to-do list.

They haven't taken it well when I refused and some issued threats while others told me I was an idiot, a time waster or it was my loss. "

This is spot on

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By *og-ManMan
5 days ago

somewhere

I've only ever sent one message to get a meet and I got a lovely rejection message back from the couple

Telling me not for them but to keep going with others

Thought it was a lovely message that made me change my way of doing things

And the couple still look at my profile every now and then for some reason

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By *ueen_MeadhbhWoman
5 days ago

sligo

Ive been rejected a few times, can't be for everyone, it has knocked me back but I'm used to it.

I don't ask now and don't meet now so it doesn't matter anymore.

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By *aybeLadyWoman
5 days ago

West Dublin

I got rejected cause he said I wasnt his type. Thats totally fine. Said thanks anyway & move on.

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
5 days ago

City Centre

I think the word rejection has such negative connotations. I mean, we'd never actually say "I reject you" to anyone.

If we changed that narrative, the fab experience would be a more positive one.

It's ok to not be everyone's type, I know I'm not for everyone. It's how we choose to react to someone saying we're not their type, that seems to be the challenge for some.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
5 days ago

There and Here

I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea so I take it on the chin. Of course it can be disappointing if it's someone you're really into but I'd much rather someone turn me down than fuck me just because they can

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By *astelloWoman
5 days ago

Far far away

I've invested a brown paper bag with the eyes cut out...

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
4 days ago

City Centre

"I've invested a brown paper bag with the eyes cut out... "

I just glue googly eyes on mine and pretend it's some kinda sensory deprivation kink I'm partaking in 😆

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By *rown PrismWoman
4 days ago

Dublin

I dealt with it... I never write first 🤣🤣

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
4 days ago

East / North, Cork

I've turned down a lot more girls than I have agreed to meet. I'm very picky.

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By *rown PrismWoman
4 days ago

Dublin

"I've turned down a lot more girls than I have agreed to meet. I'm very picky."

oh you, you....

how could you...you creature 😉

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By *om TangoMan
4 days ago

aughnacloy monaghan area

"I think the word rejection has such negative connotations. I mean, we'd never actually say "I reject you" to anyone.

If we changed that narrative, the fab experience would be a more positive one.

It's ok to not be everyone's type, I know I'm not for everyone. It's how we choose to react to someone saying we're not their type, that seems to be the challenge for some.

I fully agree with your wording.

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By *oxic1998Woman
4 days ago

Belfast

"I think the word rejection has such negative connotations. I mean, we'd never actually say "I reject you" to anyone.

If we changed that narrative, the fab experience would be a more positive one.

It's ok to not be everyone's type, I know I'm not for everyone. It's how we choose to react to someone saying we're not their type, that seems to be the challenge for some.

I fully agree with your wording. "

Agree totally....to react over someone that you've either talked on here for a few messages or have just met for a coffee once, I don't get. As Tiny said you can't be everyone's cup of tea.

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By *adger BrocMan
4 days ago

Co. Cork

Rejection is a part of everyday life and even more so part of life on fab.

Being rejected should make us stronger and even more determined to succeed.

Not being picked for the underage team, not being invited to the cool kids party, being refused a dance, being dumped, not getting the dream job. All these obstacles in life teach us how to get over or around disappointment and finding something even better to bring us happiness and fulfillment.

On here not getting a reply, being told you are too old or being blocked without explanation is not really a big deal.

If they cannot see a value in you then they are not worth wasting your time with them.

Find your tribe and embrace their goodness.

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By *ogladyWoman
4 days ago

The bog

I would rather someone told me I wasn't for them than ghost me..at least I would would know and move on and save a lot of time..

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By *allDarkHandsome101Man
4 days ago

City

"I would rather someone told me I wasn't for them than ghost me..at least I would would know and move on and save a lot of time.. "

Ghost you? Hardly!

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By * BlackMan
4 days ago

Laois/ Dublin

Don't see the big deal here.

Someone not being a match for someone is not rejection it's not a match!!!!, move on,

turning it into a rejection situation is ones own stuff nothing to do with the person identifying its not a match

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