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"What is it with married men or attached men on here looking or more , why , if you have a wife surely it there on a plate for when ever needed " As Bog Man suggests there are plenty of attached/married women on here looking also. While some men get a bad rap, quite rightly, for their actions as with everything in life not all are the same. | |||
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"What is it with married men or attached men on here looking or more , why , if you have a wife surely it there on a plate for when ever needed " Anyone who makes a comment like this is either being purposefully provocative or has zero understanding of people and relationships. | |||
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"What is it with married men or attached men on here looking or more , why , if you have a wife surely it there on a plate for when ever needed " *Rolls on the floor laughing, in complete stitches, tears flowing down his cheeks, a bit of pee escaping from an onset of loss of body control due to hysterical, spasmic laugh* Also, when one has zero sex from the spouse, even a gentle draft catching the wet balls while drying oneself off after a shower is... MORE. But thanks for the laugh, made my day. | |||
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"That's an incredibly naive and reductive view of relationships. The idea that sex/intimacy is there "on a plate" just because one has a significant other is almost insulting, shows a complete lack of understanding of the complexities of relationships and a total lack of empathy for those who, for whatever reason, are unable/unwilling to engage in intimacy with their partner" 👏👏 | |||
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"I have never understood some peoples obsession with peoples marital/relationship status on this site. Everyone is on here for their own reasons. I have three lives, personal life, work life and Fab life. I go to great lengths to keep all three separate and uncomplicated. I'm here to have fun and make Fab friends."  | |||
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"I have never understood some peoples obsession with peoples marital/relationship status on this site. " I think this is partially because not everyone is honest about their marital status and some people would prefer not to get involved with people who are attached and playing away. It's not something I've read men complaining about but for women it does seem to be a problem that there is such a high volume of married men who are not up front about it on their profile. | |||
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"I have never understood some peoples obsession with peoples marital/relationship status on this site. I think this is partially because not everyone is honest about their marital status and some people would prefer not to get involved with people who are attached and playing away. It's not something I've read men complaining about but for women it does seem to be a problem that there is such a high volume of married men who are not up front about it on their profile." That's just cause we don't complain as much as women.... (Logging out for the day now  ) | |||
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"What is it with married men or attached men on here looking or more , why , if you have a wife surely it there on a plate for when ever needed " Perhaps there just greedy definitely wanting more than there share lol | |||
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"Sure as the old saying goes a well fed dog never strays , is this not the case now " When a canine gets the whiff of an opportunity to satisfy his natural desires he will forget all about food and travel miles to satisfy his other needs. I'm not sure if it's in any way comparable with the interaction of humans and their food and sexual appetites. | |||
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"What is it with married men or attached men on here looking or more , why , if you have a wife surely it there on a plate for when ever needed " No it's not "on a plate" for all married people. Just because you're married doesn't mean that your partner HAS to offer sex at all times. You don't stop being able to say no just because you got married. | |||
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"" on a plate " isnt exactly what 95% of marriages would be. Mens sex drive is multiples of most womens, hence thats what keeps sites like this interesting. The grass is always greener as they say." Our sex drive is equally matched 
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"I'm single prefer not to meet married or attached guys but I get every relationship is different, how about a guy telling you he was a widower. To eventually see him on here with his wife! I'd sooner know and make my decision whether to meet or not. " What do you do in that situation and how did he think his lie wouldn't be found out | |||
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"I'm single prefer not to meet married or attached guys but I get every relationship is different, how about a guy telling you he was a widower. To eventually see him on here with his wife! I'd sooner know and make my decision whether to meet or not. What do you do in that situation and how did he think his lie wouldn't be found out " I was very hurt and very disappointed, he's done it to a few women. | |||
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"I’m married. I’m here because my husband is asexual and completely stopped forcing himself to be intimate with me. Yes, all these years he has forced himself (unbeknownst to me) to have sex with me 4/5xs a year. I still love him and neither wants a divorce. Should I live a sexless life at the age of 47? I think not. Believe me, if I had sex at home I wouldn’t be here. Intimacy with someone you love is always so much better. Alas, not meant to be. " This is a very honest post. And poignant. | |||
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"I'm single prefer not to meet married or attached guys but I get every relationship is different, how about a guy telling you he was a widower. To eventually see him on here with his wife! I'd sooner know and make my decision whether to meet or not. What do you do in that situation and how did he think his lie wouldn't be found out I was very hurt and very disappointed, he's done it to a few women. " I'm so sorry it happened to you | |||
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"Maybe if married men or women were getting some love/sex at home they wouldn’t need to be on here. We all need to feel needed and wanted. I started of on here as a married man. Myself and ex wife hadn’t as much as hugged in nearly 5 years. It was driving me crazy not been held or kissed. I longed so badly to just feel needed, I needed a hug so badly, so today I don’t judge why married men and women are on here looking to fill the gap. All judgement should be left at the door until you walk 5 years of miles in my boots." thank you | |||
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"There are those that address their problems by arranging therapy, communicating openly and honestly, setting up a relationship agreement and play with permission (and be clear on their profile) or exit an unhappy relationship. And then there's those that continue to use a dead headroom as an excuse to cheat. No justification ever. Also cheaters don't tend to test. They fuck around but won't order SH:24 because they can't explain away the package. " Obvious typo 'dead bedroom' | |||
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"What is it with married men or attached men on here looking or more , why , if you have a wife surely it there on a plate for when ever needed " Sadly for many men the sex is not in a plate and in some cases their wives have lost all interest in sex. Our best friend we have know all our married life gets no sex from his wife and she’s told him not to ask for any again. He’s 53, attractive and a lovely guy. Another friend has had no sex in his marriage for 12 years. Most of our threesomes have been with married guys most were getting nothing at home. | |||
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"Maybe if married men or women were getting some love/sex at home they wouldn’t need to be on here. We all need to feel needed and wanted. I started of on here as a married man. Myself and ex wife hadn’t as much as hugged in nearly 5 years. It was driving me crazy not been held or kissed. I longed so badly to just feel needed, I needed a hug so badly, so today I don’t judge why married men and women are on here looking to fill the gap. All judgement should be left at the door until you walk 5 years of miles in my boots." Spot on. | |||
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"There are those that address their problems by arranging therapy, communicating openly and honestly, setting up a relationship agreement and play with permission (and be clear on their profile) or exit an unhappy relationship. And then there's those that continue to use a dead headroom as an excuse to cheat. No justification ever. Also cheaters don't tend to test. They fuck around but won't order SH:24 because they can't explain away the package. " Don't test really? Where is that research? It’s a simple 75 quid in a private clinic, but you feel free to judge and waffle. | |||
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"There are those that address their problems by arranging therapy, communicating openly and honestly, setting up a relationship agreement and play with permission (and be clear on their profile) or exit an unhappy relationship. And then there's those that continue to use a dead headroom as an excuse to cheat. No justification ever. Also cheaters don't tend to test. They fuck around but won't order SH:24 because they can't explain away the package. Don't test really? Where is that research? It’s a simple 75 quid in a private clinic, but you feel free to judge and waffle. " * A 2012 study published in the journal Sexually Transmitted Infections found that people who had cheated on their partners were more likely to have been diagnosed with an STI than those who had not. * A 2015 study published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior found that people who had cheated on their partners were more likely to report having had unprotected sex than those who had not. * A 2017 study published in the journal AIDS and Behavior found that people who had cheated on their partners were more likely to have multiple sexual partners than those who had not. | |||
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"There are those that address their problems by arranging therapy, communicating openly and honestly, setting up a relationship agreement and play with permission (and be clear on their profile) or exit an unhappy relationship. And then there's those that continue to use a dead headroom as an excuse to cheat. No justification ever. Also cheaters don't tend to test. They fuck around but won't order SH:24 because they can't explain away the package. Don't test really? Where is that research? It’s a simple 75 quid in a private clinic, but you feel free to judge and waffle. * A 2012 study published in the journal Sexually Transmitted Infections found that people who had cheated on their partners were more likely to have been diagnosed with an STI than those who had not. * A 2015 study published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior found that people who had cheated on their partners were more likely to report having had unprotected sex than those who had not. * A 2017 study published in the journal AIDS and Behavior found that people who had cheated on their partners were more likely to have multiple sexual partners than those who had not." Wow interesting stats!! | |||
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"I’m married. I’m here because my husband is asexual and completely stopped forcing himself to be intimate with me. Yes, all these years he has forced himself (unbeknownst to me) to have sex with me 4/5xs a year. I still love him and neither wants a divorce. Should I live a sexless life at the age of 47? I think not. Believe me, if I had sex at home I wouldn’t be here. Intimacy with someone you love is always so much better. Alas, not meant to be. " Very well said. | |||
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"I'm single prefer not to meet married or attached guys but I get every relationship is different, how about a guy telling you he was a widower. To eventually see him on here with his wife! I'd sooner know and make my decision whether to meet or not. What do you do in that situation and how did he think his lie wouldn't be found out I was very hurt and very disappointed, he's done it to a few women. " As a widowed person I find his actions extremely low. It can be tough enough as a single male on here,but being widowed brings extra issues to have to deal with internally. | |||
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She doesn't like sex without them, due to the "mess"
She never instigates sex, hugs or kisses,unless I do. Can't remember the last time I saw her naked.
Even when we do have sex, her top never comes off, and it's one position only.
I don't know if she's ever actually handled my cock, never mind giving a blowjob,but she has let me down on her the odd time.
She's a great mom, wife etc not going to split up over it. Finances,house,kids etc easier to just get on with life and forget about trying to have a sex life.
Yes, tried talking about sex etc, but the topic gets changed, quickly
Lots of people on here for their own reasons.
Here at least I can talk about sex, and interact with others. If the opportunity arises to have sex with others I'll take it.
I've been called a cheater, non ethical non monogamous etc but at this hour of my life I don't really care about names/tags. Others have said we shouldn't be on a swingers group as we are not swingers.
Probably the most in depth response I've posted here in a while.
Have a good weekend folks
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"On a plate! I'm married, (on my profile) and I think I've had sex with her once in at about 10 weeks. Think I've thrown out condoms once due to being out of date!
She doesn't like sex without them, due to the "mess"
She never instigates sex, hugs or kisses,unless I do. Can't remember the last time I saw her naked.
Even when we do have sex, her top never comes off, and it's one position only.
I don't know if she's ever actually handled my cock, never mind giving a blowjob,but she has let me down on her the odd time.
She's a great mom, wife etc not going to split up over it. Finances,house,kids etc easier to just get on with life and forget about trying to have a sex life.
Yes, tried talking about sex etc, but the topic gets changed, quickly
Lots of people on here for their own reasons.
Here at least I can talk about sex, and interact with others. If the opportunity arises to have sex with others I'll take it.
I've been called a cheater, non ethical non monogamous etc but at this hour of my life I don't really care about names/tags. Others have said we shouldn't be on a swingers group as we are not swingers.
Probably the most in depth response I've posted here in a while.
Have a good weekend folks
"Well said, you just spared me the bother of writing just what I was going to write myself, If everything was right at home I wouldn’t be here either, Thank you | |||
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"Sure as the old saying goes a well fed dog never strays , is this not the case now " I am highly offended by that remark...that is just outrageous shame on you | |||
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"What is it with married men or attached men on here looking or more , why , if you have a wife surely it there on a plate for when ever needed " There are as many women as men in the same boat . | |||
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"What is it with married men or attached men on here looking or more , why , if you have a wife surely it there on a plate for when ever needed There are as many women as men in the same boat . " I am one of those women. But I do mention on my profile that I am married. And my husband is aware of what I’m doing. Although, to be honest, I don’t actually care if a man is take or not - their wives are their problem not mine. I think the issue here is that many don’t disclose it, but their actions etc are easy enough to spot their relationship status. In either case, I don’t really care  | |||
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"Sure as the old saying goes a well fed dog never strays , is this not the case now " Are you stuck in the 1950s or something?  | |||
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"Most hilarious respond I got, was from a married woman who wanted to play "discreet", who told me that she doesn't want to meet with attached men. As much as I found funny, I had to accept and respect her decision "Perhaps it is logistically easier to meet genuinely single people | |||
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"I think the issue here is that many don’t disclose it, but their actions etc are easy enough to spot their relationship status. In either case, I don’t really care "I think you have hit on the most pertinent point, if you are married and you disclose to any potential play partners you are married. Then they can make an informed choice. As an aside I had a two year affair with a married woman not ion fab, I didn’t wreck her marriage or her home, I gave her friendship fun and intimacy which she lacked in her relationship I wouldn’t judge anyone because I don’t know sweet FA about their lives. | |||
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"Most hilarious respond I got, was from a married woman who wanted to play "discreet", who told me that she doesn't want to meet with attached men. As much as I found funny, I had to accept and respect her decision
Perhaps it is logistically easier to meet genuinely single people "Yeah, everybody has its own reason. I didn't asked her why, just found it hilarious | |||
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"Most hilarious respond I got, was from a married woman who wanted to play "discreet", who told me that she doesn't want to meet with attached men. As much as I found funny, I had to accept and respect her decision
Perhaps it is logistically easier to meet genuinely single people
Yeah, everybody has its own reason. I didn't asked her why, just found it hilarious "Perhaps because "your" pics are also on porn sites she feared you may not be all that discreet? | |||
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"Sure as the old saying goes a well fed dog never strays , is this not the case now Are you stuck in the 1950s or something? "No am single , not married never been, nor don’t want to be , but if was married I would make sure that he wouldn’t have to ramble to to satisfy his needs , I have a regular that o meet on here , and he quite happy with what it gets | |||
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"Don't think anything can ever be described as being on a plate unless it's your dinner What about married women or even couples " Yep good observation | |||
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"Maybe if married men or women were getting some love/sex at home they wouldn’t need to be on here. We all need to feel needed and wanted. I started of on here as a married man. Myself and ex wife hadn’t as much as hugged in nearly 5 years. It was driving me crazy not been held or kissed. I longed so badly to just feel needed, I needed a hug so badly, so today I don’t judge why married men and women are on here looking to fill the gap. All judgement should be left at the door until you walk 5 years of miles in my boots." So true | |||
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"Maybe if married men or women were getting some love/sex at home they wouldn’t need to be on here. We all need to feel needed and wanted. I started of on here as a married man. Myself and ex wife hadn’t as much as hugged in nearly 5 years. It was driving me crazy not been held or kissed. I longed so badly to just feel needed, I needed a hug so badly, so today I don’t judge why married men and women are on here looking to fill the gap. All judgement should be left at the door until you walk 5 years of miles in my boots." I actually met a guy last him and his partner hadn’t slept in a bed in a few years! All he wanted was a hug and he touched! Felt awful that someone could be left feeling it | |||
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"Maybe if married men or women were getting some love/sex at home they wouldn’t need to be on here. We all need to feel needed and wanted. I started of on here as a married man. Myself and ex wife hadn’t as much as hugged in nearly 5 years. It was driving me crazy not been held or kissed. I longed so badly to just feel needed, I needed a hug so badly, so today I don’t judge why married men and women are on here looking to fill the gap. All judgement should be left at the door until you walk 5 years of miles in my boots." I totally agree all marriage situations are different I got out because I felt it was the right thing by me | |||
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"As long as those who ARE attached are open about the fact they’re not single and aren’t lying just to get a leg over, then everyone knows where they stand. If it’s not for you, then fine, that’s your preference. There are plenty of profile on here that state “no married/attached” and that’s fine if you’re not comfortable with it." Yep, agree. I've stated it on my profile. Per my previous post above that I'm married. At least post the status. Kinda funny too, where those who say no to married/attached on profiles, have been with others who were, knowing about their status. | |||
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