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Findom - Can someone explain please?

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By *asseurindublin OP   Man
5 days ago

Dublin/Naas

Hey fabbers,

I came across some Miss/Goddess/xxxx on Twitter. People handover cash to them like mad. Even dudes send them money over revolut.

What's all about it?

What type of pleasure is it?

Can't really understand!

Can someone expert explain please.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
5 days ago

East / North, Cork

It's just another fork or Dominance/submission. The sub is giving something that they may find painful/difficult in order to please the Dom and demonstrate to them that they are submissive to the Dominant. Many submissives enjoy being used in different ways that others may not understand.

There are definitely situations where findom is just pure financial abuse. As with all D/s there needs to be boundaries and ethics, and true care and consent between anyone involved. It would be easy to step into unethical territory here.

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By *asseurindublin OP   Man
5 days ago

Dublin/Naas

Oh I see.

I agree with you on financial abuse. I felt it the same after seeing those hard working guys giving out cash to those girls like mad.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
5 days ago

East / North, Cork


"Oh I see.

I agree with you on financial abuse. I felt it the same after seeing those hard working guys giving out cash to those girls like mad."

I guess these sub men you saw would say that they get something for the cash they hand over. There are many MANY sub men out there with little to no outlet for their desires

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By *ofusplusCouple
5 days ago

Limerick


"Oh I see.

I agree with you on financial abuse. I felt it the same after seeing those hard working guys giving out cash to those girls like mad.

I guess these sub men you saw would say that they get something for the cash they hand over. There are many MANY sub men out there with little to no outlet for their desires "

We're seeing it a lot on *that fet site*. The only messages we get are from sub guys wanting to serve us. I'd love to understand their motivation.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
5 days ago

East / North, Cork

(goes off to try and find _ofusplus there )

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By *asseurindublin OP   Man
5 days ago

Dublin/Naas

I understand about serving someone else gives pleasure. Like I do while giving massages.

But I don't get it about giving out money :D


"Oh I see.

I agree with you on financial abuse. I felt it the same after seeing those hard working guys giving out cash to those girls like mad.

I guess these sub men you saw would say that they get something for the cash they hand over. There are many MANY sub men out there with little to no outlet for their desires

We're seeing it a lot on *that fet site*. The only messages we get are from sub guys wanting to serve us. I'd love to understand their motivation."

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By *affa31Woman
5 days ago

Galway

That’s the thing about kinks, we’re not always going to understand them but they bring some people pleasure.

As long as there’s no abuse involved, all good.

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By *og-ManMan
5 days ago

somewhere

Id imagine most people feel good if they do something nice for someone .....buy someone a coffee and a sandwich that's down on their luck outside a shop

Then multiply it by 100 for some people that gives others money or presents

I've never heard of a woman doing it for a man

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By *asseurindublin OP   Man
5 days ago

Dublin/Naas

100%


"Id imagine most people feel good if they do something nice for someone .....buy someone a coffee and a sandwich that's down on their luck outside a shop

Then multiply it by 100 for some people that gives others money or presents

I've never heard of a woman doing it for a man "

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
5 days ago

East / North, Cork

I don't think findom is about doing something nice. It's about feeding their own need to be submissive to someone

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By *electableicecreamMan
5 days ago

The West


"Id imagine most people feel good if they do something nice for someone .....buy someone a coffee and a sandwich that's down on their luck outside a shop

Then multiply it by 100 for some people that gives others money or presents

I've never heard of a woman doing it for a man "

I've been looking for a woman to give me money for her pleasure for years.

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By *ofusplusCouple
5 days ago

Limerick


"Id imagine most people feel good if they do something nice for someone .....buy someone a coffee and a sandwich that's down on their luck outside a shop

Then multiply it by 100 for some people that gives others money or presents

I've never heard of a woman doing it for a man

I've been looking for a woman to give me money for her pleasure for years. "

Dream on, son

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By *ofusplusCouple
5 days ago

Limerick


"I don't think findom is about doing something nice. It's about feeding their own need to be submissive to someone "

Yes and Bog made a good point. It's ALWAYS men that feel this need and I always wonder why.

But yet women are often the submissive type in bed.

I think this is different though.

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
5 days ago

kinkytown

Findom can be done ethically as part of d/s though is extremely open to abuse. For the subs who undertake it there's so many scenarios and aspects of their kinks that it can be linked to. Done ethically it can be highly enjoyable for the sub

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By *ofusplusCouple
5 days ago

Limerick

Disclaimer: not judging at all, it's just an interesting observation.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
5 days ago

East / North, Cork


"I don't think findom is about doing something nice. It's about feeding their own need to be submissive to someone

Yes and Bog made a good point. It's ALWAYS men that feel this need and I always wonder why.

But yet women are often the submissive type in bed.

I think this is different though."

The cliche (which is partly true) is that wealthy men in positions of power, who make decisions all day long, enjoy submissive sexual roles as it allows them to switch off in a way they don't get in their everyday lives. They are emasculated by passing chunks of their wealth over to a Dominant woman who ensures that they are made small and encouraged to do acts of service or degradation which they crave.

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By *reamerBMan
5 days ago

Fantasy

I know it's a kink for people. But I just find lately that every second girl you see on sites are just looking for free money. That it's not about the kink. There are legit doms and subs out there into it, but so many now just looking for easy money I think. Never did anything for me personally. I hate when you get talking with someone, and think it's going well, then they're like send me money. I just ignore them.

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By *uest56789Man
5 days ago

dublin

Financial domination- findom, when done properly the cashpig, cashsub relinquishes control of everyday adult life things. The dom then takes care of the sub. // should be like giving someone you trust your money and they use it to look after you and take care of your bills etc or other finance matters. My two pence

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