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" I've also had a woman contact one of my veries and ask her to persuade me to message her as she was outside my age filters. When that was refused she started a thread here asking me to get in touch. It's not just men doing this. " Are you doing fab coaching classes by any chance? | |||
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" I've also had a woman contact one of my veries and ask her to persuade me to message her as she was outside my age filters. When that was refused she started a thread here asking me to get in touch. It's not just men doing this. Are you doing fab coaching classes by any chance? " Only if you can provide references | |||
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"Why is it so common on here for people to ask about people you've verified? I'm not sure if it's a mostly single guy thing but I've gotten the odd message from one trying to have a conversation about people I've met. I like showing my verifications because people were kind enough to leave them but I think I might want to change that now. Also I just told the person someone was talking about her and I wouldn't bother entertaining him. What's your opinions on this?" that's why I hid them all because someone he wrote to all those from whom I had verifications , asked about me and told them what he were doing with me... I have no idea who this person is, he wrote from two different profiles... I have no idea why someone would do this | |||
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"Why is it so common on here for people to ask about people you've verified? I'm not sure if it's a mostly single guy thing but I've gotten the odd message from one trying to have a conversation about people I've met. I like showing my verifications because people were kind enough to leave them but I think I might want to change that now. Also I just told the person someone was talking about her and I wouldn't bother entertaining him. What's your opinions on this? that's why I hid them all because someone he wrote to all those from whom I had verifications , asked about me and told them what he were doing with me... I have no idea who this person is, he wrote from two different profiles... I have no idea why someone would do this" I'm pretty certain this guy has done the same. Plenty of people on here do the most bizarre things so maybe I should be used to it but it's just the lack of respect. They ask like they are asking about your car. | |||
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"I fucking hate it. I’ve had people ask others about me because I haven’t replied and they want to meet me. Sure fire way to ensure they will never meet me. " This 💯 hence why mine are all hidden 😡 | |||
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"The women who asked for my details used to post here about starting safety groups but the funny thing is that women who were invited to join under false pretences were happy to send me screenshots of the conversations about me despite the fact I'd never spoken to any of them prior to that. Just to show how petty this shit is one of the conversations asked who the fuck I thought I was for passing on them in a kiss, fuck ot pass thread and they wanted my name. The "lady" who passed on my details has a history of sending personal details of people she didn't like in the forums to those she thought might be interested. " Christ that would do my head in. I'd never want to leave the house if I had to put up with that. I'm just glad you rose above it. | |||
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"On a previous couples profile we had 11 verifications and when I was single, I had 3. I'm in this lifestyle since 1991. On and off fab for years. People we know were asked about us/me demanding pics for "security" reasons. Never did they contact us or show interest. The people we met did not give anything away, fair play to them and warned us, except for one when I was single, which made life here a bit shit to be honest as I'm not from Cork originally. The woman who shared my pics to another apologised, but the person she gave them to travelled from East fucking Cork to West Cork and turned up at my job with my clients right there and introduced herself. THAT, is why I have this barebones profile as I like the general banter on here. Veri's on here, in Ireland, and not worth anything. You can't trust them. People can be just entitled pricks fannying about with notions rocking up thinking they are the main character. And in Ireland, they do that. I don't want to hear the story of "Oh, I'm not that way at all." It goes both genders, all ages. Never thought for one moment it would be a 47 year old woman at the time. (Pre Covid) Hence, I will never give a Veri or accept a veri. One of my mates on here who is well known but no longer on fab had it happen to him only last year. At. His. Job. Destroyed him. If anyone wants me, I have a phone number. No problem giving it. You can facetime both of us. But I'll be fucked if anyone gets a pic on here of me/us again or open a couples profile! Also, I have heard most of these stories are Cork based? Does this happen anywhere else lads?? The sad fact is these nutjobs are a tiny, tiny percentage, that make life shit for people, and harder for anyone to meet. Hence a social is the only way to go. Peace. "WTF. This is like a horror story! I’m shook by the amount of lads who A. So freely send a picture of themselves and B. expect me to reciprocate Tbf, I’ve never had any guy push it when I said no, but it’s so unthinkable to me I can’t believe anyone does | |||
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"I've never had another man ask about anyone I've verified but I've had a couple of well known forum women contact some of my verifications asking for personal details. They didn't have any interest in chatting to or meeting me and said they just wanted my name and a face pic "just in case"!? Luckily most people I've met and verified would never entertain shit like that but it only takes one which is why my details have appeared in a number of womens chatgroups. I've also had a woman contact one of my veries and ask her to persuade me to message her as she was outside my age filters. When that was refused she started a thread here asking me to get in touch. It's not just men doing this. " There was a lady here on the forum a few weeks ago who said they regularly share pics and details of men on here in message app groups. Terrible behaviour really and I think if it was men doing it, there would be total outrage, which would be correct for both sexes. | |||
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"I've never had another man ask about anyone I've verified but I've had a couple of well known forum women contact some of my verifications asking for personal details. They didn't have any interest in chatting to or meeting me and said they just wanted my name and a face pic "just in case"!? Luckily most people I've met and verified would never entertain shit like that but it only takes one which is why my details have appeared in a number of womens chatgroups. I've also had a woman contact one of my veries and ask her to persuade me to message her as she was outside my age filters. When that was refused she started a thread here asking me to get in touch. It's not just men doing this. There was a lady here on the forum a few weeks ago who said they regularly share pics and details of men on here in message app groups. Terrible behaviour really and I think if it was men doing it, there would be total outrage, which would be correct for both sexes." There are some here who have argued in the past that there is nothing wrong with contacting people's verifications for recommendations or references. There have also been a few men who posted here that they have been contacted by women who called them by their first name and said they had been referred by a "friend". I coined a phrase at the time that this was networking without consent as the men had trusted women they had met with their name etc and based on a perceived status on fab some of these women thought it was acceptable to pimp them out. I've run chatgroups and closed them when people wanted to use them to sort out their own personal drama that they backed up with heavily redacted screenshots of what they called abusive messages that only showed one side of the conversation. | |||
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"I've never had another man ask about anyone I've verified but I've had a couple of well known forum women contact some of my verifications asking for personal details. They didn't have any interest in chatting to or meeting me and said they just wanted my name and a face pic "just in case"!? Luckily most people I've met and verified would never entertain shit like that but it only takes one which is why my details have appeared in a number of womens chatgroups. I've also had a woman contact one of my veries and ask her to persuade me to message her as she was outside my age filters. When that was refused she started a thread here asking me to get in touch. It's not just men doing this. There was a lady here on the forum a few weeks ago who said they regularly share pics and details of men on here in message app groups. Terrible behaviour really and I think if it was men doing it, there would be total outrage, which would be correct for both sexes." The men's group did get terrible abuse because they were sharing photos and details of women on fab I was never in it so couldn't tell you if it's still going The women's group is to share safety advise as far as I know It warns women about some men on here who are dangerous Don't have a problem with that to be honest | |||
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"I've never had another man ask about anyone I've verified but I've had a couple of well known forum women contact some of my verifications asking for personal details. They didn't have any interest in chatting to or meeting me and said they just wanted my name and a face pic "just in case"!? Luckily most people I've met and verified would never entertain shit like that but it only takes one which is why my details have appeared in a number of womens chatgroups. I've also had a woman contact one of my veries and ask her to persuade me to message her as she was outside my age filters. When that was refused she started a thread here asking me to get in touch. It's not just men doing this. There was a lady here on the forum a few weeks ago who said they regularly share pics and details of men on here in message app groups. Terrible behaviour really and I think if it was men doing it, there would be total outrage, which would be correct for both sexes. The men's group did get terrible abuse because they were sharing photos and details of women on fab I was never in it so couldn't tell you if it's still going The women's group is to share safety advise as far as I know It warns women about some men on here who are dangerous Don't have a problem with that to be honest " I disagree, no one should be sharing any third party information, i don't join any group chat unless it's for a social the min it's over im gone, ive seen men but mostly women on them warn others about certain men/women here only because said men/women had zero interest in meeting them and how dare they, because they have that do they not know who i am attude... | |||
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" The men's group did get terrible abuse because they were sharing photos and details of women on fab I was never in it so couldn't tell you if it's still going The women's group is to share safety advise as far as I know It warns women about some men on here who are dangerous Don't have a problem with that to be honest " I'm sorry but what a load of rubbish. I was in some of those so called groups started for the safety of women and it was far from that. The ones I was in were about the time it all blew up about men sharing pics etc and it was regular posters on the forums who started these groups under the guise of keeping women safe and warning about so called dangerous men. They were far from that and were full of women who shared men's info and pics I only saw two posts about guys who had actually being a danger when the women met them. The rest just gossip bitching and sharing info. Oh and group messaging men who may have pissed off a member in the group usually by turning them down or worse when two of the women realised they were talking to the same guy and both tried to meet him on the same day same time just to see who he would pick then they both told him he was scum.and quite a few of the women in the group also messaged this poor guy who in my eyes had done nothing wrong and told him to leave fab as he was now blacklisted. This was the mentality of those so called safety groups and I was very glad to leave them and leave the pathetic individuals in them. Even though some of them did try and get info on me to pass about as I dared to not engage in such pathetic childish antics.The one good thing I saw was that I was not the only person to leave these groups because they didn't agree with what was going on. And enabling people and using excuses as to why sharing info on others is as bad as engaging in it. I have seen so many people being completely alienated on fab due to malicious rumours and gossip and lies. Now unless I know someone really well I would take any warnings with a pinch of salt. And I don't join any groups anymore because of the experiences I had back then. It opened eyes to the nasty side of fab and those who think they have a right to share info of others. Yes everyone's safety is paramount but there are too many people who have hidden agendas on here. | |||
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" The men's group did get terrible abuse because they were sharing photos and details of women on fab I was never in it so couldn't tell you if it's still going The women's group is to share safety advise as far as I know It warns women about some men on here who are dangerous Don't have a problem with that to be honest I'm sorry but what a load of rubbish. I was in some of those so called groups started for the safety of women and it was far from that. The ones I was in were about the time it all blew up about men sharing pics etc and it was regular posters on the forums who started these groups under the guise of keeping women safe and warning about so called dangerous men. They were far from that and were full of women who shared men's info and pics I only saw two posts about guys who had actually being a danger when the women met them. The rest just gossip bitching and sharing info. Oh and group messaging men who may have pissed off a member in the group usually by turning them down or worse when two of the women realised they were talking to the same guy and both tried to meet him on the same day same time just to see who he would pick then they both told him he was scum.and quite a few of the women in the group also messaged this poor guy who in my eyes had done nothing wrong and told him to leave fab as he was now blacklisted. This was the mentality of those so called safety groups and I was very glad to leave them and leave the pathetic individuals in them. Even though some of them did try and get info on me to pass about as I dared to not engage in such pathetic childish antics.The one good thing I saw was that I was not the only person to leave these groups because they didn't agree with what was going on. And enabling people and using excuses as to why sharing info on others is as bad as engaging in it. I have seen so many people being completely alienated on fab due to malicious rumours and gossip and lies. Now unless I know someone really well I would take any warnings with a pinch of salt. And I don't join any groups anymore because of the experiences I had back then. It opened eyes to the nasty side of fab and those who think they have a right to share info of others. Yes everyone's safety is paramount but there are too many people who have hidden agendas on here. " Wow. That’s something else. | |||
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"Nearly as bad as starting a thread naming someone and asking them to message you or asking others to message them on your behalf as you're outside their age range " Had the organisers of a social get onto to us to message a single guy we had met at her social. If the guy had left a good enough impression we would have contacted him . Thought it was a bit much. We have single guys blocked for for a reason. | |||
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"As I said above I'm not in any of those sharing groups and can only go on what I'm told about them by others I know personally " So more info sharing by people in groups that you're not in but they are still willing to share info from those groups 🤷♂️ I prefer to have it first hand rather than the whole he said she said etc. But hey that's why I'm not in groups or interested in gossip on here I guess  | |||
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"I've never had another man ask about anyone I've verified but I've had a couple of well known forum women contact some of my verifications asking for personal details. They didn't have any interest in chatting to or meeting me and said they just wanted my name and a face pic "just in case"!? Luckily most people I've met and verified would never entertain shit like that but it only takes one which is why my details have appeared in a number of womens chatgroups. I've also had a woman contact one of my veries and ask her to persuade me to message her as she was outside my age filters. When that was refused she started a thread here asking me to get in touch. It's not just men doing this. " | |||
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"Had a guy from a cpl one time steal my husbands pics and use them as his own, face pics included , he was going around to party organisers on fab saying he was him , we found out through a host , revenge for saying no to them for a meet ....the face pic thing was back when we were new and green behind the gills , needless to say we learned our lesson and are much more careful" | |||
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"As I said above I'm not in any of those sharing groups and can only go on what I'm told about them by others I know personally So more info sharing by people in groups that you're not in but they are still willing to share info from those groups 🤷♂️ I prefer to have it first hand rather than the whole he said she said etc. But hey that's why I'm not in groups or interested in gossip on here I guess "Have you any Aloe Vera for that burn | |||
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"I went through an episode here quite a few years ago when a particular lady that I turned down took umbrage at my lack of interest in her. She messaged a guys few people that I had interactions with and told all sorts of lies about me, causing a few people who should have known better to either blank me or block me after. The only thing I'd say is that people have been talking about others since time began. It's not a problem in itself. The problems start when details that should be private are revealed and people really should know better. Something that leads to this is people being too casual with their info. Discretion is the better part of valour, mar a deirtear. It is possible to share details with people without having to worry about them passing them on but it takes time to judge someone well enough to do that. There's a good few peeps here who knows my real name, my phone number and where I live but it's never caused me an issue as I only give those details to people that I have established are trustworthy. There are a few that I chat with regularly and I know I could tell them anything without having to worry... ladies, you know who you are so take a bow! Things like "jaysus, did you see what your man McCarthy said the other day?" or "what do you think of him?" aren't the problem obv so keep talking but don't share either images or details that you've been given in confidence. Jaysus, I lost my train of thought in the middle of that so I don't know if I said what I meant at all. " What? You turned down a woman? GTFOOH | |||
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"As I said above I'm not in any of those sharing groups and can only go on what I'm told about them by others I know personally So more info sharing by people in groups that you're not in but they are still willing to share info from those groups 🤷♂️ I prefer to have it first hand rather than the whole he said she said etc. But hey that's why I'm not in groups or interested in gossip on here I guess
Have you any Aloe Vera for that burn "I have a few plants alright you will have to squeeze them yourself tho. 😄 Just send me your address I'll post one down and I won't tell anyone 😋 | |||
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"As I said above I'm not in any of those sharing groups and can only go on what I'm told about them by others I know personally So more info sharing by people in groups that you're not in but they are still willing to share info from those groups 🤷♂️ I prefer to have it first hand rather than the whole he said she said etc. But hey that's why I'm not in groups or interested in gossip on here I guess
Have you any Aloe Vera for that burn
I have a few plants alright you will have to squeeze them yourself tho. 😄 Just send me your address I'll post one down and I won't tell anyone 😋"I'll send you back some real Tayto | |||
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"As I said above I'm not in any of those sharing groups and can only go on what I'm told about them by others I know personally So more info sharing by people in groups that you're not in but they are still willing to share info from those groups 🤷♂️ I prefer to have it first hand rather than the whole he said she said etc. But hey that's why I'm not in groups or interested in gossip on here I guess
Have you any Aloe Vera for that burn
I have a few plants alright you will have to squeeze them yourself tho. 😄 Just send me your address I'll post one down and I won't tell anyone 😋
I'll send you back some real Tayto "Ack now I prefer the yellow pack ones from up here. Now if you were to mention chipsticks well that's a different matter. | |||
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"I went through an episode here quite a few years ago when a particular lady that I turned down took umbrage at my lack of interest in her. She messaged a guys few people that I had interactions with and told all sorts of lies about me, causing a few people who should have known better to either blank me or block me after. The only thing I'd say is that people have been talking about others since time began. It's not a problem in itself. The problems start when details that should be private are revealed and people really should know better. Something that leads to this is people being too casual with their info. Discretion is the better part of valour, mar a deirtear. It is possible to share details with people without having to worry about them passing them on but it takes time to judge someone well enough to do that. There's a good few peeps here who knows my real name, my phone number and where I live but it's never caused me an issue as I only give those details to people that I have established are trustworthy. There are a few that I chat with regularly and I know I could tell them anything without having to worry... ladies, you know who you are so take a bow! Things like "jaysus, did you see what your man McCarthy said the other day?" or "what do you think of him?" aren't the problem obv so keep talking but don't share either images or details that you've been given in confidence. Jaysus, I lost my train of thought in the middle of that so I don't know if I said what I meant at all. What? You turned down a woman? GTFOOH" Ah wait 'til I tell you about her... | |||
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