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By *adrq OP   Man
2 weeks ago

monaghan

Just putting it out there has anybody have problems with attachment style problems in there personal life , i am suffering a lot from it, Would be very greatfull for imformation . as far as i know there is 4 types of attachment styles secure ambivalant avoident an disorganise

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By *re u askingMan
2 weeks ago

loughrea galway

Yes there are four which are formed in childhood. What are you trying to find out

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By *adrq OP   Man
2 weeks ago

monaghan

what help is out there, has anyone ever had them an how they over come them it has effected my life negatively

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By *exyScientistsCouple
2 weeks ago

Castlebar

Recently looked into this..

If you Google The Attachment Project there is a great quiz and some very interesting info there.

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By *re u askingMan
2 weeks ago

loughrea galway

The theory is everyone has an attachment style, one is viewed as a healthy style and the other three are not. The only suggestion I can give you is that counselling is the only solution, to identify the childhoods trauma, discuss it and hopefully heal. Some therapies can provide coping mechanisms to help with particular behaviours which result from the childhood experiences. Good luck, I hope this is of some help

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By *rown PrismWoman
2 weeks ago

Dublin

I think that you will get the best help from a specialist psychologist who will help you professionally determine your attachment style and help you choose the right, the best therapy for you.

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By *ubadubdubWoman
2 weeks ago

Hereabouts


"Recently looked into this..

If you Google The Attachment Project there is a great quiz and some very interesting info there."

I'll take it. For science!

I'm sure mine is pretty fucked up 😂

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By *ubadubdubWoman
2 weeks ago

Hereabouts


"Recently looked into this..

If you Google The Attachment Project there is a great quiz and some very interesting info there.

I'll take it. For science!

I'm sure mine is pretty fucked up 😂"

Seems accurate

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By *exyScientistsCouple
2 weeks ago

Castlebar


"Recently looked into this..

If you Google The Attachment Project there is a great quiz and some very interesting info there.

I'll take it. For science!

I'm sure mine is pretty fucked up 😂

Seems accurate "

Yeah I found it very useful info. 😳

It's all about self learning and self care. The more you know the more you can be kinder to yourself. I wish I'd made more effort to learn about me before now 🤣

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By *exyScientistsCouple
2 weeks ago

Castlebar

Obviously a professional can give you the most help...

I'm not saying Dr Google is the best Dr..but getting professional help is pretty difficult 😡

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By *electableicecreamMan
2 weeks ago

The West

I took the test.

My attachment style is 'Secure'

This is great news apparently and I am very well adjusted despite all the usual trauma.

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By *ittyandBear83Couple
2 weeks ago

Dublin

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By *ittyandBear83Couple
2 weeks ago

Dublin

The library with have books to borrow on attachment.

Google scholar has articles to

The origins of attachment theory: John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth

Attachment theory is the joint work of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth (see Ainsworth and Bowlby, 1991). Drawing on concepts from ethology, cybernetics, information processing, developmental psychology, and psychoanalysis

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
2 weeks ago

M20


"Recently looked into this..

If you Google The Attachment Project there is a great quiz and some very interesting info there."

Good suggestion, I just did it and apparently I’m secure.

Thanks

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By *oshSardineMan
2 weeks ago

Castleknock

Apparently I’m secure. However OP, make an appointment with your GP, discuss it with them and see what they suggest.

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By *issyfaceWoman
2 weeks ago

Belfast

Had a relationship with an avoidant

Horrendous experience

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By *adger BrocMan
2 weeks ago

Co. Cork

Secure......whatever that means.

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By *mmmm300Woman
2 weeks ago

cork

Also appear to be secure, but I agree with advice given above. Chat to someone and give yourself a chance to understand and recover if needed.

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By *a1970Man
2 weeks ago

East cork

OK.... Please enlighten me. Bad child hood experience leave scars.... Is this correct?

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
2 weeks ago

Northern Ireland

The book Polysecure has a lot of info about attachment styles and non monogamy. Swingers could find it useful as there's not many books that deal with non mono in particular.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
2 weeks ago

Castlebar


"The book Polysecure has a lot of info about attachment styles and non monogamy. Swingers could find it useful as there's not many books that deal with non mono in particular. "

Thank you for that 👍💜

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
2 weeks ago

Northern Ireland


"The book Polysecure has a lot of info about attachment styles and non monogamy. Swingers could find it useful as there's not many books that deal with non mono in particular.

Thank you for that 👍💜"

If you have Spotify and have premium the book is in audio format there

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By *mmmm300Woman
2 weeks ago

cork


"The book Polysecure has a lot of info about attachment styles and non monogamy. Swingers could find it useful as there's not many books that deal with non mono in particular.

Thank you for that 👍💜

Found it and start listening tomorrow

If you have Spotify and have premium the book is in audio format there "

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By *exyScientistsCouple
2 weeks ago

Castlebar


"The book Polysecure has a lot of info about attachment styles and non monogamy. Swingers could find it useful as there's not many books that deal with non mono in particular.

Thank you for that 👍💜

Found it and start listening tomorrow

If you have Spotify and have premium the book is in audio format there "

Also available on audible

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By *astelloWoman
2 weeks ago

Far far away

Thanks for the information everyone. Very interesting to know and to self assess. Like others say,if it's negativity impacting your life seek professional help.

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
2 weeks ago

City Centre

My attachment style is secure. And there was me thinking I put the hot in psychotic when it comes to relationships. 😆

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