FabSwingers.com forum: Younger men and the 'Orgasm Gap'

By *electableicecream OP Man
3 weeks ago

The West

I came across an interesting article on the RTÉ website discussing the trend of women dating younger men, and it raised some interesting points.

The article suggested several contributing factors, including an appreciation for youthful energy and fresh perspectives that younger partners can bring.

It also highlighted the potential for more equal relationships, as younger men may be less inclined to adhere to traditional gender roles and expectations.

The piece touched on the concept of the "orgasm gap" and suggested that relationships with younger men might offer a different dynamic in prioritizing mutual sexual satisfaction.

The article was called 'More women are dating younger men, I asked some daters why'

I thought the 'orgasm gap' was especially interesting as it's almost counterintuitive. I'm sure most older men would cite their experience as evidence of their ability to make women orgasm but then I wonder is there something in the idea that older generations might not have the flexibility, willingness to learn 'new tricks' and even just access to more modern knowledge and points of view?

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By *lternative lifestyleCouple
3 weeks ago

Louth

RTE enough said! Somebody just made up a story for views and clicks. Wouldn't worry about it.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
3 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

That's interesting. Certainly here the younger men don't seem to have an advantage. The opposite seems to be true. The ability to eek out orgasms seems to increase with age/experience.

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By *ubadubdubWoman
3 weeks ago

Hereabouts

I read that! (And I've very fond, and hot, memories of my own age-gap dating)

Interesting article exploring a few points.

There was a paragraph on the fact that it can be a bit of a weight off the younger man in terms of being in the role of initiating and leading the relationship, and taking on this role can be a pleasant change in dynamic for the older woman 😁

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By *he KakapoMan
3 weeks ago

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I'm not sure it's "ability" more so eagerness.

Not in all cases but from what I have seen alot of times the older women part is almost more important than the women.

So making the "older women" orgasm is maybe seen as an achievement and perhaps made a bigger priority than a relationship build on more even grounds and based on mutual enjoyment l.

I've worded that terrible

Basically younger man fetishises older women...makes her pleasure a higher priority

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By *electableicecream OP Man
3 weeks ago

The West

"I'm not sure it's "ability" more so eagerness.

Not in all cases but from what I have seen alot of times the older women part is almost more important than the women.

So making the "older women" orgasm is maybe seen as an achievement and perhaps made a bigger priority than a relationship build on more even grounds and based on mutual enjoyment l.

I've worded that terrible

Basically younger man fetishises older women...makes her pleasure a higher priority "

This could theoretically be framed differently in as much as if the traditional gender roles and dynamics aren't so pressing in an age gap scenario, a woman may feel more comfortable voicing her needs and wants to a younger guy.

I'm basing this on having zero experience being a woman and having never had sex with a younger man mind you.

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By *adger BrocMan
3 weeks ago

Co. Cork

My personal experience has been that the ability to participate in mutually satisfying orgasms increases with age irrespective of the age of my play partner.

As sex is a practical rather than a theoretical based activity it is best perfected through experience and lots of practice.

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By *uffler_21Man
3 weeks ago

Dublin

As a young guy myself, all my past and especially recent encounters have been on the mature side. I absolutely refuse not to pay on the first date and sounds like I’m bigging myself up here but 60-70% of the time in the bedroom focused on the other half finishing. We all deserve the big O. Doesn’t happen all the time but always fun trying

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By *itlbeeCouple
3 weeks ago

Obe often found language around women's orgasms to seem to reduce our role in making them.

"He made her come".

When I orgasms with a man, I think I'm as much responsible for creating that orgasm as him.

I'm also moving, angling myself, encouraging him to do or say the things I like. It's a team sport.

The older I get, the more orgasms I've had, by myself or with partners. The more I know about how to get there.

Maybe younger men are more open to learning?

I've definitely met some men who are very sure of their abilities - to the point of almost arguing with women. Maybe those men take correction better?

I've definitely encountered men bragging about their skills - only to find their technique was not at all working for me.

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By *electableicecream OP Man
3 weeks ago

The West

"My personal experience has been that the ability to participate in mutually satisfying orgasms increases with age irrespective of the age of my play partner.

As sex is a practical rather than a theoretical based activity it is best perfected through experience and lots of practice.

Hard to rule out confirmation bias in our own personal experiences though.

That's why I found it so interesting to read from the women's point of view.

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By *aseylee324Couple
3 weeks ago

Valley of Squinting Windows

Pfft, every new generation thinks they invented sex

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By *he KakapoMan
3 weeks ago

A nice rock

That's why I found it so interesting to read from the women's point of view. "

Ah I see the mistake you made now

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By *affa31Woman
3 weeks ago

Galway

I’ve started to find myself drawn towards younger men despite always having a preference for older (within reason).

I’m not sure if it’s because they have less notions and are more open to learning what I like rather than telling me they know how to get a woman off but it could very well be.

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
3 weeks ago

Galway, Clare

I think older men believe their experience makes them win over, but every woman is different and needs something different. Younger men enjoy being given direction and aren't shy to ask for it, and so increasing pleasure for all

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By *adger BrocMan
3 weeks ago

Co. Cork

"My personal experience has been that the ability to participate in mutually satisfying orgasms increases with age irrespective of the age of my play partner.

As sex is a practical rather than a theoretical based activity it is best perfected through experience and lots of practice.

Hard to rule out confirmation bias in our own personal experiences though.

That's why I found it so interesting to read from the women's point of view. "

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Personal experience can only ever bring a tendency to interpret new evidence as confirmation of one's existing beliefs or theories. We cannot afterall experience something on behalf of anyone else.

To deny the evidence gained through personal experience is an essentially irrational action that withholds the validation of a historical experience when a person refuses to accept the empirically verifiable reality.

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By *panishRebelMan
3 weeks ago

Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland

I feel like the whole point of sex is to give everything you have to the act or acts. There is nothing as off putting as someone whose heart isn't in it.

We give what we have. Whether this be exuberance, experience, wonder, skill, luck etc..

Ideally pleasure is peaked in orgasm or multiple orgasm.

My personal experience is that I don't orgasm easy, but the whole mutuality and exchange of energy, emotion, curiosity and desire is exillerating.

With this in mind why would I worry about age? One reason, I don't want to feel like I'm fucking a niece so, I have 28 years and older as my lower limit. As someone else above mentioned, neither do you want to be reminded of a parent. Fortunately that's a forty year gab for me but that may be 20 years or less for some.

Outside of those age extremes, surely it's a case by case situation.

Everyone is unique. Every combo is unique. Let's enjoy and celebrate!

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
3 weeks ago

Cork

This is just personal experience but I attract a lot more women in their 30s than in their 20s at the moment. Some women in their 30s want to settle down now and if it means dating a 24 year old guy who isn't about going out every weekend, it works. The orgasm stuff I don't know about, I guess you could say SOME younger men are more willing to take orders/advice.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
3 weeks ago

Castlebar

Ok so...

I'll have to some proper experiments 🤔

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By *eestar10Man
3 weeks ago

cavan

"Ok so...

I'll have to some proper experiments 🤔"

I’ll be guinea pig

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By *electableicecream OP Man
3 weeks ago

The West

"Ok so...

I'll have to some proper experiments 🤔"

N=(+1) ?

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By *exyScientistsCouple
3 weeks ago

Castlebar

"Ok so...

I'll have to some proper experiments 🤔

I’ll be guinea pig "

You're too old 🤣

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By *eestar10Man
3 weeks ago

cavan

"Ok so...

I'll have to some proper experiments 🤔

I’ll be guinea pig

You're too old 🤣"

Cheek of u

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
3 weeks ago

Cork

"Ok so...

I'll have to some proper experiments 🤔

I’ll be guinea pig

You're too old 🤣"

I'm full of youth

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By *exyScientistsCouple
3 weeks ago

Castlebar

"Ok so...

I'll have to some proper experiments 🤔

N=(+1) ?"

More like

5X = A-20

Where X = orgasms and A = age

And yes my algebra is shocking 🤪

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By *exyScientistsCouple
3 weeks ago

Castlebar

"Ok so...

I'll have to some proper experiments 🤔

I’ll be guinea pig

You're too old 🤣

I'm full of youth

Is that what you youngsters call it now 🤔 😋

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
3 weeks ago

Cork

"Ok so...

I'll have to some proper experiments 🤔

I’ll be guinea pig

You're too old 🤣

I'm full of youth

Is that what you youngsters call it now 🤔 😋"

If you want a lesson in what the youngsters ate doing these days... I'm available to give lessons

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By *exyScientistsCouple
3 weeks ago

Castlebar

This thread might mean I have to lower my age limits 🤭

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
3 weeks ago

Cork

"This thread might mean I have to lower my age limits 🤭"

Please do, I'd love to send a message

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
3 weeks ago

The West

"Pfft, every new generation thinks they invented sex"

Was there sex back in the olden days? 😛

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