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"Lads, is it just me or is the whole age restriction thing on here crazy? I’ve stalked many accounts where a guy is 40, but looks like a 60 year old! It’s really a question of genetics as opposed to age surely? I run regularly, dress well, take care of myself as well, but settings prevent me from contacting a lot of accounts because of a number! Seems crazy that people use age rather than condition (for want of a better word) determine who can and can’t message them. Slightly frustrating too I have to say. Rant over 😔" 100% agree age is only a number and ok to a certain age gap it's unrealistic but so are some of the age restrictions on some profiles. Like say I'm 49 today and 50 tomorrow so I can take to you then but now 🙈🤣 | |||
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I use stupid things in my head as filters so to me age is the best filter to be honest
It gives me people that I can have a conversation with not just to stare at their bodies | |||
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"It's very annoying when your only out either way by a couple of months 🙄 " That's what I meant. Obviously everyone has preferences and everyone is entitled to have a preference or not. | |||
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"Why do girls not like shorter men? (Written by a shorter man) Why do girls not like men with beards? (Written by a man with a beard) Why do girls not like young guys? (Written by a young guy) Why do girls not like ginger men? (Written by a ginger man) ..it's because of preferences. And preferences are ok." Yes they are but the actual subject was about age preference which is also ok but just frustrating when it's only maybe a year either side but that's up to the individual they decide for a reason. | |||
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"Lads, is it just me or is the whole age restriction thing on here crazy? I’ve stalked many accounts where a guy is 40, but looks like a 60 year old! It’s really a question of genetics as opposed to age surely? I run regularly, dress well, take care of myself as well, but settings prevent me from contacting a lot of accounts because of a number! Seems crazy that people use age rather than condition (for want of a better word) determine who can and can’t message them. Slightly frustrating too I have to say. Rant over 😔" Welcome to my world 
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"Don’t forget that if someone who you can’t message because of an age filter is interested in you, they can message you 🤷🏻♀️ " That is also true | |||
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"It's very annoying when your only out either way by a couple of months 🙄 That's what I meant. Obviously everyone has preferences and everyone is entitled to have a preference or not. " totally agree 👍 | |||
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"Lads, is it just me or is the whole age restriction thing on here crazy? I’ve stalked many accounts where a guy is 40, but looks like a 60 year old! It’s really a question of genetics as opposed to age surely? I run regularly, dress well, take care of myself as well, but settings prevent me from contacting a lot of accounts because of a number! Seems crazy that people use age rather than condition (for want of a better word) determine who can and can’t message them. Slightly frustrating too I have to say. Rant over 😔" It might occasionally be frustrating due to the way ages works, one day you're fine, the next your too old. However, it's just not possible to filter by "condition" so age is the closest option. Also, people can filter whatever way they like and that's their decision. Finally... Ah sure look. | |||
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"I do get that Jaffa. The issue for me is that ladies on here are inundated with messages, the female journey on Fab is completely different from that of the men." It is and that’s why we apply certain filters, because without them, it would be very overwhelming and we’d likely miss out on people we’re actually interested in. | |||
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"So, I get the point you’re making. My point is, there are guys on Fab who could well be in their late 40s, but genetics hasn’t allowed them a graceful aging process, and despite their age, they could well look as though they’re the same age as your father. I just feel age is a crude filter is all. " So you’d prefer to filter people by their looks? That too is a preference. It’s not looking like my father that’s an issue for me, it’s potentially being a school mate of his that is | |||
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"So, I get the point you’re making. My point is, there are guys on Fab who could well be in their late 40s, but genetics hasn’t allowed them a graceful aging process, and despite their age, they could well look as though they’re the same age as your father. I just feel age is a crude filter is all. " That's a bit of a back handed diss. Imagine me complaining about age filters and saying some women in their 40s look older than my mother 🤣 People use filters, most have a firm grasp on what they like and seek. And some do reach out to those who are over and under their age filters if there's something there attracts them. | |||
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"...some do reach out to those who are over and under their age filters if there's something there attracts them. " And now we wait...  | |||
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"So, I get the point you’re making. My point is, there are guys on Fab who could well be in their late 40s, but genetics hasn’t allowed them a graceful aging process, and despite their age, they could well look as though they’re the same age as your father. I just feel age is a crude filter is all. That's a bit of a back handed diss. Imagine me complaining about age filters and saying some women in their 40s look older than my mother 🤣 People use filters, most have a firm grasp on what they like and seek. And some do reach out to those who are over and under their age filters if there's something there attracts them. " Ok, here’s a dare for ya, let’s chat, meet for coffee and see if the age is a deciding factor for you or I. Looking at your profile, that seems to be the only excluder for me. I dare ya! | |||
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Does that mean some people I might otherwise actually really like are unable to message? Absolutely. But I won't lose sleep over it.
To those that say they miss out because they're a year over or under, what do you suggest? Because if we change it up or down a year then someone else is the wrong side of the cut-off. Or is that ok because it's not you?
As always, concentrate on those who want to meet your demographic. | |||
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"All I know is next month I won't be able to message anyone
I use stupid things in my head as filters so to me age is the best filter to be honest
It gives me people that I can have a conversation with not just to stare at their bodies "Happy 100th birthday in advance BM 🎂 | |||
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"So, I get the point you’re making. My point is, there are guys on Fab who could well be in their late 40s, but genetics hasn’t allowed them a graceful aging process, and despite their age, they could well look as though they’re the same age as your father. I just feel age is a crude filter is all. That's a bit of a back handed diss. Imagine me complaining about age filters and saying some women in their 40s look older than my mother 🤣 People use filters, most have a firm grasp on what they like and seek. And some do reach out to those who are over and under their age filters if there's something there attracts them. " Or imagine only going for women over 5.0 foot tall Sure you'd definitely miss out | |||
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"Lads, is it just me or is the whole age restriction thing on here crazy? I’ve stalked many accounts where a guy is 40, but looks like a 60 year old! It’s really a question of genetics as opposed to age surely? I run regularly, dress well, take care of myself as well, but settings prevent me from contacting a lot of accounts because of a number! Seems crazy that people use age rather than condition (for want of a better word) determine who can and can’t message them. Slightly frustrating too I have to say. Rant over 😔 Welcome to my world
Age does have its advantages "Oh I absolutely agree 100% but on Fab, it’s negatives as well  | |||
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"So, I get the point you’re making. My point is, there are guys on Fab who could well be in their late 40s, but genetics hasn’t allowed them a graceful aging process, and despite their age, they could well look as though they’re the same age as your father. I just feel age is a crude filter is all. That's a bit of a back handed diss. Imagine me complaining about age filters and saying some women in their 40s look older than my mother 🤣 People use filters, most have a firm grasp on what they like and seek. And some do reach out to those who are over and under their age filters if there's something there attracts them. Or imagine only going for women over 5.0 foot tall Sure you'd definitely miss out "EXACTLY Bog!!! For a Jackeen, you’re bang on the money Sir! 😉 | |||
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"So, I get the point you’re making. My point is, there are guys on Fab who could well be in their late 40s, but genetics hasn’t allowed them a graceful aging process, and despite their age, they could well look as though they’re the same age as your father. I just feel age is a crude filter is all. That's a bit of a back handed diss. Imagine me complaining about age filters and saying some women in their 40s look older than my mother 🤣 People use filters, most have a firm grasp on what they like and seek. And some do reach out to those who are over and under their age filters if there's something there attracts them. Or imagine only going for women over 5.0 foot tall Sure you'd definitely miss out "I have Bog. Although I like to say they have. 😎 I have been told, in person, that I'm too short in the most insulting, unfiltered and unapologetic way by people who were verified lovely etc. Personal insults are a reflection of them, I get it. Thankfully there's lot's that adore and love short arses like myself. I stay firm, filters are great. We need them. | |||
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"I'm afraid that's Irish fab ,Ageist, " I hear ye guys!!!😔 | |||
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"So, I get the point you’re making. My point is, there are guys on Fab who could well be in their late 40s, but genetics hasn’t allowed them a graceful aging process, and despite their age, they could well look as though they’re the same age as your father. I just feel age is a crude filter is all. That's a bit of a back handed diss. Imagine me complaining about age filters and saying some women in their 40s look older than my mother 🤣 People use filters, most have a firm grasp on what they like and seek. And some do reach out to those who are over and under their age filters if there's something there attracts them. Or imagine only going for women over 5.0 foot tall Sure you'd definitely miss out
I have Bog. Although I like to say they have. 😎
I have been told, in person, that I'm too short in the most insulting, unfiltered and unapologetic way by people who were verified lovely etc. Personal insults are a reflection of them, I get it. Thankfully there's lot's that adore and love short arses like myself.
I stay firm, filters are great. We need them. "I stay firm too then! People who set crude filters like age are definitely missing out. I’m much more than a number! 🤔 | |||
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"Why do girls not like shorter men? (Written by a shorter man) Why do girls not like men with beards? (Written by a man with a beard) Why do girls not like young guys? (Written by a young guy) Why do girls not like ginger men? (Written by a ginger man) ..it's because of preferences. And preferences are ok. Yes they are but the actual subject was about age preference which is also ok but just frustrating when it's only maybe a year either side but that's up to the individual they decide for a reason." It's frustrating for the guys who is only an inch short, or who only has a little stubble, or a year too young, or who only has a little ginger in his beard.... But if that's the stated preference then that's the stated preference and that's the end of it. | |||
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"So, I get the point you’re making. My point is, there are guys on Fab who could well be in their late 40s, but genetics hasn’t allowed them a graceful aging process, and despite their age, they could well look as though they’re the same age as your father. I just feel age is a crude filter is all. That's a bit of a back handed diss. Imagine me complaining about age filters and saying some women in their 40s look older than my mother 🤣 People use filters, most have a firm grasp on what they like and seek. And some do reach out to those who are over and under their age filters if there's something there attracts them. Ok, here’s a dare for ya, let’s chat, meet for coffee and see if the age is a deciding factor for you or I. Looking at your profile, that seems to be the only excluder for me. I dare ya!" Arrah now, ya don't need little me to meet ya to tell you how well you're looking for your age 😂 Who knows, we might see each other at a social and fall madly in love at first sight. It's all gravy. 😊 | |||
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"...some do reach out to those who are over and under their age filters if there's something there attracts them. And now we wait... "🤣🤣🤣 One of these day Michael. One of these days... 🫶 | |||
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"So, I get the point you’re making. My point is, there are guys on Fab who could well be in their late 40s, but genetics hasn’t allowed them a graceful aging process, and despite their age, they could well look as though they’re the same age as your father. I just feel age is a crude filter is all. That's a bit of a back handed diss. Imagine me complaining about age filters and saying some women in their 40s look older than my mother 🤣 People use filters, most have a firm grasp on what they like and seek. And some do reach out to those who are over and under their age filters if there's something there attracts them. Ok, here’s a dare for ya, let’s chat, meet for coffee and see if the age is a deciding factor for you or I. Looking at your profile, that seems to be the only excluder for me. I dare ya! Arrah now, ya don't need little me to meet ya to tell you how well you're looking for your age 😂 Who knows, we might see each other at a social and fall madly in love at first sight. It's all gravy. 😊" Ah there ya go, so I’m gonna have to get a private investigator in to track you down and track your movements! I’m sure it’d be worth it tho 😍 | |||
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"So, I get the point you’re making. My point is, there are guys on Fab who could well be in their late 40s, but genetics hasn’t allowed them a graceful aging process, and despite their age, they could well look as though they’re the same age as your father. I just feel age is a crude filter is all. That's a bit of a back handed diss. Imagine me complaining about age filters and saying some women in their 40s look older than my mother 🤣 People use filters, most have a firm grasp on what they like and seek. And some do reach out to those who are over and under their age filters if there's something there attracts them. Or imagine only going for women over 5.0 foot tall Sure you'd definitely miss out
I have Bog. Although I like to say they have. 😎
I have been told, in person, that I'm too short in the most insulting, unfiltered and unapologetic way by people who were verified lovely etc. Personal insults are a reflection of them, I get it. Thankfully there's lot's that adore and love short arses like myself.
I stay firm, filters are great. We need them.
I stay firm too then!
People who set crude filters like age are definitely missing out. I’m much more than a number!
🤔"Of course you are. We ALL are more than the sum of our parts. I'm fat and in my 50s. I'm also youthful and smart and funny and cool AF. But I completely understand that people have total agency over who they have sex with and, for the vast majority, that won't be me. And that's ok. That's their prerogative and it doesn't bother me one iota. They're not missing out because I'm not what they're looking for. | |||
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"So, I get the point you’re making. My point is, there are guys on Fab who could well be in their late 40s, but genetics hasn’t allowed them a graceful aging process, and despite their age, they could well look as though they’re the same age as your father. I just feel age is a crude filter is all. That's a bit of a back handed diss. Imagine me complaining about age filters and saying some women in their 40s look older than my mother 🤣 People use filters, most have a firm grasp on what they like and seek. And some do reach out to those who are over and under their age filters if there's something there attracts them. Or imagine only going for women over 5.0 foot tall Sure you'd definitely miss out
I have Bog. Although I like to say they have. 😎
I have been told, in person, that I'm too short in the most insulting, unfiltered and unapologetic way by people who were verified lovely etc. Personal insults are a reflection of them, I get it. Thankfully there's lot's that adore and love short arses like myself.
I stay firm, filters are great. We need them.
I stay firm too then!
People who set crude filters like age are definitely missing out. I’m much more than a number!
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Of course you are. We ALL are more than the sum of our parts. I'm fat and in my 50s. I'm also youthful and smart and funny and cool AF. But I completely understand that people have total agency over who they have sex with and, for the vast majority, that won't be me. And that's ok. That's their prerogative and it doesn't bother me one iota. They're not missing out because I'm not what they're looking for. "Love this Kaz couldn't have said it better myself 😁 | |||
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"Exactly the same reason why you wouldn’t want to be messaged by someone under 35." 👆 🙌 | |||
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"It always seems to be men who fall outside of upper age brackets that whinge the most about said age brackets 🤔 It’s far from attractive tbh. " There's quite a lot of unattractive traffic on the forums , but everyone is entitled to get their opinions off their chest, even your opinions get out there, whether appreciated or not. I think OP should open up his photos and ask everyone do they think he looks 56 ? 😂😂😂 . Or just let it go ♥️🤠♥️ | |||
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"...some do reach out to those who are over and under their age filters if there's something there attracts them. And now we wait...
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One of these day Michael. One of these days... 🫶"Yay! That's the nicest thing anyone's ever said to me here!  | |||
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"Firstly, preferences are preferences. My upper age limit mostly relates to how close to my parents age I want to go when meeting someone…you, for instance, are only 6 years younger than my mum and that is too close for comfort for me. Similarly, some people will have a lower age range which reflects the age of their kids. Best to focus on people who are looking for people your age rather than lamenting over those who don’t. Also, someone peoples age ranges are not fixed in stone and if you were to meet them at a social etc, things might be different. So put yourself out on the social scene and enjoy fab. " Excatly this | |||
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"Exactly the same reason why you wouldn’t want to be messaged by someone under 35." Thanks LaTina, I’ve no filter in place to block messages from anyone though, so I haven’t prevented anyone from contacting me. As I’ve said, I feel that the Fab experience is VERY different for guys than it is for girls. | |||
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"Exactly the same reason why you wouldn’t want to be messaged by someone under 35. 👆 🙌" I see ya Kaz, but as I said, anyone can contact me, there’s a difference in what I’m looking and blocking using a filter on messages. I do agree with you though, you seem cool AF! | |||
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"It always seems to be men who fall outside of upper age brackets that whinge the most about said age brackets 🤔 It’s far from attractive tbh. There's quite a lot of unattractive traffic on the forums , but everyone is entitled to get their opinions off their chest, even your opinions get out there, whether appreciated or not. I think OP should open up his photos and ask everyone do they think he looks 56 ? 😂😂😂 . Or just let it go ♥️🤠♥️" 😂😂😂😂😂 | |||
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"! Seems crazy that people use age rather than condition (for want of a better word) determine who can and can’t message them. " Tbf a fat filter would be much harder to enforce  | |||
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"Exactly the same reason why you wouldn’t want to be messaged by someone under 35. Thanks LaTina, I’ve no filter in place to block messages from anyone though, so I haven’t prevented anyone from contacting me. As I’ve said, I feel that the Fab experience is VERY different for guys than it is for girls. " You're right in that most men dont need to filter messages as they don't get the same hassle of dealing with the mail (if left unfiltered) that many women get. | |||
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"Exactly the same reason why you wouldn’t want to be messaged by someone under 35. Thanks LaTina, I’ve no filter in place to block messages from anyone though, so I haven’t prevented anyone from contacting me. As I’ve said, I feel that the Fab experience is VERY different for guys than it is for girls. You're right in that most men dont need to filter messages as they don't get the same hassle of dealing with the mail (if left unfiltered) that many women get." Hunger is the best sauce | |||
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"All I know is next month I won't be able to message anyone
I use stupid things in my head as filters so to me age is the best filter to be honest
It gives me people that I can have a conversation with not just to stare at their bodies
Happy 100th birthday in advance BM 🎂"I'd slap your ass for saying that Kaz....except you'd enjoy it | |||
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"! Seems crazy that people use age rather than condition (for want of a better word) determine who can and can’t message them. Tbf a fat filter would be much harder to enforce "Blow in the bag , then put it back over your head ... | |||
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"Nothing wrong with being hungry, but when all you want is a quarter pounder and someone comes along whining that all he has is a fillet-o-fish and you really should change your preferences, that it can become problematic." Does anyone ever actually order a fillet-o-fish??! | |||
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"Nothing wrong with being hungry, but when all you want is a quarter pounder and someone comes along whining that all he has is a fillet-o-fish and you really should change your preferences, that it can become problematic. Does anyone ever actually order a fillet-o-fish??!" When quarter pounders won't answer my mail.... | |||
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"I don't think it matters how you look even if you look younger than your age. You're still your age and if people don't want you messaging them then they have every right to keep their filters to their preferred ages. Age is not a number despite what people say. If someone wants to message people who are outside their set filters they can .I know I have at times. But I prefer to keep my filters tight so that I'm not inundated with messages from people who I know I've no interest in chatting to or meeting. It saves us both time. Plus when I am meeting I prefer to message first anyhow. People on here seem to send more time moaning about other people's preferences because they don't fall within them. Maybe if people spent more time looking at the people who's prefences they fall within they may have a more enjoyable experience on here. " This  | |||
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"I think getting annoyed over not being able to message someone because your outside there age filters might be a slight waste of your time on here " Most of the time spent on here is a waste of my time 🤪 | |||
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" Seems crazy that people use age rather than condition (for want of a better word) to determine who can and can’t message them." How can people assess your 'condition' when you have no public photos? 🤔 | |||
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