FabSwingers.com forum: Etiquette

Cork

What would you consider fabbers etiquette? Plenty people ask for assistance on their profile but how should they behave in their first social etc

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By *rRiosMan
29 weeks ago

dublin

Don’t be an entitled douche whether you have a penis or a vagina, I think this is good life advice in general mind

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By *ealitybitesMan
29 weeks ago

Belfast

They should behave as themselves.

Just like profile advice why should anyone provide a guide on how to conduct yourself in public and tips on amending your behaviour so that you can get through a social?

If a social is scripted that should be a huge red flag.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
29 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

"They should behave as themselves.

Just like profile advice why should anyone provide a guide on how to conduct yourself in public and tips on amending your behaviour so that you can get through a social?

If a social is scripted that should be a huge red flag. "

What if being themselves IS being an entitled asshole?

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By *ealitybitesMan
29 weeks ago

Belfast

"They should behave as themselves.

Just like profile advice why should anyone provide a guide on how to conduct yourself in public and tips on amending your behaviour so that you can get through a social?

If a social is scripted that should be a huge red flag.

What if being themselves IS being an entitled asshole?

That's exactly the point😁

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

"What would you consider fabbers etiquette? Plenty people ask for assistance on their profile but how should they behave in their first social etc"

Just behave....manners and respect go such a long way

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By *rown PrismWoman
29 weeks ago

Dublin

just be yourself...even if you are an asshole, don't pretend to be someone you are not....but with respect to others

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By *adger BrocMan
29 weeks ago

Co. Cork

The thing about anal apertures is everyone has one and everyone has the capacity to be one.

Some behaviours are instinctive and some are learned. If good behaviour is there by instinct the learned ones come easy.

It's not about being an ahole its about being a whole person.

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By *rown PrismWoman
29 weeks ago

Dublin

Many people are polite but not friendly or warm... Be polite, be yourself, be an asshole but not judgmental.

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By *amon.dMan
29 weeks ago

antrim

Be decent, polite , friendly and don't judge. Basically dont be a dick. Enjoy and be enjoyed.

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By *rown PrismWoman
29 weeks ago

Dublin

An asshole doesn't have to be "friendly" to everyone if that's his nature, but he should be "polite"

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
29 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

My experience of assholes is they are generally not polite

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By *rown PrismWoman
29 weeks ago

Dublin

"My experience of assholes is they are generally not polite "

apparently they weren't smart assholes... even an asshole should know the rules of etiquette

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By *eestar10Man
29 weeks ago

cavan

Manners is easy carried in any walk of life

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By *amiero29Man
29 weeks ago

Drogheda

For me, it's always been about being polite and not pushy. If you're not someone's cuppa tea, it's nothing personal.

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By *uppy2017Woman
29 weeks ago

galway

Go and talk to everyone that’s what you are there for

Treat it like a night out with friends and make plans for the future weather it be an hours time or a weeks lol

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Take a 'no' well.

Take a non-response as a polite no thank you and move on.

Don't assume what others are looking for. Lots of couples don't look for singles. And swinging doesn't necessarily mean instant hookups. A lot of people treat their swinging more like dating.

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By *ionycusMan
29 weeks ago

Babylon

Read the room.

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By *ionycusMan
29 weeks ago

Babylon

"My experience of assholes is they are generally not polite

apparently they weren't smart assholes... even an asshole should know the rules of etiquette "

I think the personal definition of asshole differs so much from person to person that this discussion would go on for ever.

I would assume that .

I would also imagine that most assholes are good at hiding it for a time, but not forever.

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By *og-ManMan
29 weeks ago

somewhere

If they buy a ticket to an organised social then they should turn up

If not able to go then let the organisers know on the day to be polite

If it's an organised coffee social only then also let the organiser know if you're not going

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By *he Whole PortionCouple
29 weeks ago

in & around

If your really struggling with this dilemma, our advice is to watch a short video called "tea and consent"

It's not rocket science on how to behave

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By *r_Insatiable666 OP Man
29 weeks ago

Cork

"Take a 'no' well.

Take a non-response as a polite no thank you and move on.

Don't assume what others are looking for. Lots of couples don't look for singles. And swinging doesn't necessarily mean instant hookups. A lot of people treat their swinging more like dating. "

I know for a lot of forum users, this would be common sense but I bet for a good 20% minimum of fab, this is groundbreaking

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By *electableicecreamMan
29 weeks ago

The West

As a single guy at a social I'd say some etiquette, being customary social rules for a particular group, I would follow are:

Don't assume people are there to have sex. Swinging is a social scene and lots of people are there to catch up with friends.

Don't get d*unk. Other people will.

Give attention and be polite to both partners in a couple. Even if the guy is really rude.

Know when to move on. Avoid dominating anyone's time. It's a mixer so assume everyone wants to mix.

Know that some people will assume you are talking to them because you want to have sex with them and will want you to move on because they don't want to give you or other people the wrong impression.

Know that if you hit on every woman you talk to that they likely are talking to each other too and it gets noted. Conversely if you keep it classy that gets noted too.

It's accepted that if you ask the host to introduce you to some people they will be happy to do that.

Don't stand on your own watching people if your not having a good time. If you can't push through it's better to leave if your not making contact whatever the reason.

Do follow up with anyone you were interested in afterwards.

Do follow up and ask the host and people you had the craic with to verify you.

Be honest with yourself about why you are there. If you want to hook up be honest about that. If you want to join the social scene and network then focus on that. Those things don't have to be mutually exclusive but I find ruling out sex on the night clears the air fit having a great night out.

Thank the host when you leave and leave them a verification to help promote their efforts.

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By *r_Insatiable666 OP Man
29 weeks ago

Cork

"As a single guy at a social I'd say some etiquette, being customary social rules for a particular group, I would follow are:

Don't assume people are there to have sex. Swinging is a social scene and lots of people are there to catch up with friends.

Don't get d*unk. Other people will.

Give attention and be polite to both partners in a couple. Even if the guy is really rude.

Know when to move on. Avoid dominating anyone's time. It's a mixer so assume everyone wants to mix.

Know that some people will assume you are talking to them because you want to have sex with them and will want you to move on because they don't want to give you or other people the wrong impression.

Know that if you hit on every woman you talk to that they likely are talking to each other too and it gets noted. Conversely if you keep it classy that gets noted too.

It's accepted that if you ask the host to introduce you to some people they will be happy to do that.

Don't stand on your own watching people if your not having a good time. If you can't push through it's better to leave if your not making contact whatever the reason.

Do follow up with anyone you were interested in afterwards.

Do follow up and ask the host and people you had the craic with to verify you.

Thank the host when you leave and leave them a verification to help promote their efforts.

I'm actually going to add one to this, I do see plenty of people doing it anyway but THANK the host for providing a venue or inviting you. It's not an easy job, it's the least people can do.

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By *electableicecreamMan
29 weeks ago

The West

"As a single guy at a social I'd say some etiquette, being customary social rules for a particular group, I would follow are:

Don't assume people are there to have sex. Swinging is a social scene and lots of people are there to catch up with friends.

Don't get d*unk. Other people will.

Give attention and be polite to both partners in a couple. Even if the guy is really rude.

Know when to move on. Avoid dominating anyone's time. It's a mixer so assume everyone wants to mix.

Know that some people will assume you are talking to them because you want to have sex with them and will want you to move on because they don't want to give you or other people the wrong impression.

Know that if you hit on every woman you talk to that they likely are talking to each other too and it gets noted. Conversely if you keep it classy that gets noted too.

It's accepted that if you ask the host to introduce you to some people they will be happy to do that.

Don't stand on your own watching people if your not having a good time. If you can't push through it's better to leave if your not making contact whatever the reason.

Do follow up with anyone you were interested in afterwards.

Do follow up and ask the host and people you had the craic with to verify you.

Thank the host when you leave and leave them a verification to help promote their efforts.

I'm actually going to add one to this, I do see plenty of people doing it anyway but THANK the host for providing a venue or inviting you. It's not an easy job, it's the least people can do."

Thanking the host is on my list...

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By *r_Insatiable666 OP Man
29 weeks ago

Cork

Damn it, at the very end

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Lay off the garlic

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By *dfabMan
29 weeks ago

Dunboyne

"Lay off the garlic "

Or wear it to lay off the vamps that can be there, if not your thing

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By *rown PrismWoman
29 weeks ago

Dublin

"Lay off the garlic

Or wear it to lay off the vamps that can be there, if not your thing

hahahha I'll steal that idea 🤣🤣🤣

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By *aseylee324Couple
29 weeks ago

Valley of Squinting Windows

Just be yourself, people will either like you or they won't. We are all adults here and should know how to behave by now

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