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By *otmoma OP   Woman
3 days ago

dublin

have an "ex" coming on here to harass, giving out my photos, adding me to groups pretending I'm his Gf etc.

every time he gets booted he just creates another profile and it starts again.

Constantly happening on kik.

Obviously I could delete my profile and shit but why should I have to.

Why can't some men take no for an answer?

Any suggestions?

When i say "ex" we talked for a good few months, went on 1 date hahaha, slept together once..all about 2 years ago amd this crap has been happening since early mid 2023.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
3 days ago

East / North, Cork

Gather evidence. Go go guards.

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By *heCatWhoGotTheCream2024Man
3 days ago

Funville

New legislation passed in the form of the Harassment, Harmful Communications and Related Offences Act, 2020 has strengthened the law in this area and created new offences which carry penalties of up to 7 years imprisonment and unlimited fines for persons engaging in this behaviour.

It is now an offence to distribute, publish or threaten to publish or distribute an intimate image of another person without their consent with intent to cause harm to, or being reckless as to whether or not harm is caused to the other person.

https://www.hotline.ie/what-to-report/iia/faq

It's illegal for this person to do this to you and this activity can be very traceable..

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By *earuisceMan
3 days ago

south sligo


"New legislation passed in the form of the Harassment, Harmful Communications and Related Offences Act, 2020 has strengthened the law in this area and created new offences which carry penalties of up to 7 years imprisonment and unlimited fines for persons engaging in this behaviour.

It is now an offence to distribute, publish or threaten to publish or distribute an intimate image of another person without their consent with intent to cause harm to, or being reckless as to whether or not harm is caused to the other person.

https://www.hotline.ie/what-to-report/iia/faq

It's illegal for this person to do this to you and this activity can be very traceable.."

Sound Advice

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By *elfbiMan
3 days ago

belfast/Down, but can travel.

I agree with the other posters. Go to the Guards. You shouldn't have to put up with that crap from a sad little nan who can't take no for an answer. Gives the rest of us a bad name.

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By *xstevenxxMan
3 days ago

Ashbourne

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By *xstevenxxMan
3 days ago

Ashbourne

I de a friend that something like this happened to.

The guards went to his job and called him out for a chat - simple words said. It was the last time she heard from him as next time he would be handcuffs he was told.

No woman should have to tolerate this crap - there’s kind guards that are there to help

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By *effchileMan
3 days ago

drogheda


"have an "ex" coming on here to harass, giving out my photos, adding me to groups pretending I'm his Gf etc.

every time he gets booted he just creates another profile and it starts again.

Constantly happening on kik.

Obviously I could delete my profile and shit but why should I have to.

Why can't some men take no for an answer?

Any suggestions?

When i say "ex" we talked for a good few months, went on 1 date hahaha, slept together once..all about 2 years ago amd this crap has been happening since early mid 2023. "

If you have his personal information you should call the police. That can’t happen to a woman’s it’s not normal

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By *hite lines 100Couple
3 days ago

Bangor

That's full blown stalking, anyone that posts any kind of image of you on a public platform, that you have not given consent for can be prosecuted and absolutely should be. Don't let this dickhead intimidate you, take him to the cleaners, theres way 2 many psychological bullies out there that get away with this shit. Hope you get it sorted and put that fuckwit in a cell....that he shares with wee mental Davy the D wing sexual predator lol

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By *hite lines 100Couple
3 days ago

Bangor

Screen shot everything as well

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By *ildAtlanticSecretCouple
3 days ago

around Clare, Galway, Limerick

100% screenshot and get your ducks in order and go to the Garda's even call the helpline

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
3 days ago

The West


"Gather evidence. Go go guards."

This, nip it in the bud straight away.

Have the Gardai pay him a visit.

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By *ionycusMan
3 days ago

Babylon

It's unfortunate that this person turned out to be so spiteful. I can't think of anything legal that hasn't been suggested already.

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By *UIETELLE2052Couple
3 days ago

Dundrum/Rathfarnham

Agree with the advice given and if a prosecution did arise he would be named in Court and the victim would retain her anonymity.

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By *unnerbenMan
3 days ago

Dublin / Cork

Good advice given by all posted above . Go to the guards

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By *otass and scorpioCouple
3 days ago

limerick cork tipperary clare waterford

Sharing pics without consent in a crime, guards will help

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By *og-ManMan
3 days ago

somewhere

Just so you're aware that if you go to your local station to make an official complaint they might ask to look at your phone and see all the information involved

I was told they needed to keep the phone until after any court case as a chain of evidence thing

So put everything on an old phone to show them

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By *otmoma OP   Woman
3 days ago

dublin

Thanks everyone, I've thought about the whole reporting to the garda but i get anxious because I feel like this would be a "well you left yourself open to it" kind of situation because I'm on this site.

I hate feeling like this, I've already changed my mobile number, I had to move home to my folks house because the way he was going on and the things he was saying gave the sense that he'd be sitting outside or around the corner.

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By *affa31Woman
3 days ago

Galway


"Thanks everyone, I've thought about the whole reporting to the garda but i get anxious because I feel like this would be a "well you left yourself open to it" kind of situation because I'm on this site.

I hate feeling like this, I've already changed my mobile number, I had to move home to my folks house because the way he was going on and the things he was saying gave the sense that he'd be sitting outside or around the corner.

"

I understand your feelings around going to the guards but it won’t be like that. They will take this seriously and will help you. Do you have any friends on fab that could go with you to the station to provide support? Or vanilla life friends if they know what’s going on.

You deserve to live free of harassment. Don’t let him have this power over you c

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By *og-ManMan
3 days ago

somewhere

Op when I went to the guards they were fantastic with me to be honest

Fabswingers ....whats that....no problem and she was a female Guard dealing with me.

Don't give him the power over you

Report

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By *eMacMan
3 days ago

kildare

TBH reading this comment you need to get legal advice ASAP. The fact that you have had to change where you live because of his actions is very alarming. My advice would be don't delay as this is series, it sounds like this prick is enjoying stalking you, have him dealt with.

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By *piritualBlackBWW1979Woman
3 days ago

Medway


"Thanks everyone, I've thought about the whole reporting to the garda but i get anxious because I feel like this would be a "well you left yourself open to it" kind of situation because I'm on this site.

I hate feeling like this, I've already changed my mobile number, I had to move home to my folks house because the way he was going on and the things he was saying gave the sense that he'd be sitting outside or around the corner.

"
The police are getting quite good at dealing with this type of stuff. Take your power back and good luck xx

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By *eeking_sensuality77Woman
3 days ago

Athlone


"Thanks everyone, I've thought about the whole reporting to the garda but i get anxious because I feel like this would be a "well you left yourself open to it" kind of situation because I'm on this site.

I hate feeling like this, I've already changed my mobile number, I had to move home to my folks house because the way he was going on and the things he was saying gave the sense that he'd be sitting outside or around the corner.

"

You've already been given great advise here.

Reading your update on the fact you've had to change your mobile number and even where you live because of safety concerns is absolutely shocking.

Please please take yourself to the garda station and ask to speak with a female guard if you feel that might leave you a little less uncomfortable.

Whilst I don't know you, I would be more than willing to offer you any moral support you may need.

Don't hesitate to reach out.

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By *itygamesMan
3 days ago

UK


"have an "ex" coming on here to harass, giving out my photos, adding me to groups pretending I'm his Gf etc.

every time he gets booted he just creates another profile and it starts again.

Constantly happening on kik.

Obviously I could delete my profile and shit but why should I have to.

Why can't some men take no for an answer?

Any suggestions?

When i say "ex" we talked for a good few months, went on 1 date hahaha, slept together once..all about 2 years ago amd this crap has been happening since early mid 2023. "

Harrassment, stalking , and the other stuff is actually illegal and a criminal offence in real life and on line

Screen shot stuff , then report him..

Tell him to stop so he knows.

Even unwanted text messages are classed as a crime of they continue after youve requested they stop

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By *ubadubdubWoman
3 days ago

Hereabouts

Womens Aid might be a useful support for you OP. Nobody should be causing you to live in fear.

Here's a link to their Stalking Support page

https://www.womensaid.ie/get-help/your-rights-options/stalking-support/

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By *earuisceMan
3 days ago

south sligo


"Thanks everyone, I've thought about the whole reporting to the garda but i get anxious because I feel like this would be a "well you left yourself open to it" kind of situation because I'm on this site.

I hate feeling like this, I've already changed my mobile number, I had to move home to my folks house because the way he was going on and the things he was saying gave the sense that he'd be sitting outside or around the corner.

This guy needs locking up. If it’s not you it will be some other unfortunate lady. Take the bull by the horns and report this creep before somebody gets attacked by him please !!

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By *otmoma OP   Woman
3 days ago

dublin

Honestly thanks everyone..

I'm going to sit down tonight and try get everything together and go garda station first thing on Monday morning when my little lad is back in school, I don't need him hearing any of this.

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By *immy4UMan
3 days ago

Huge admeration for you OP, it's the right thing to do. Theses animals, no other way to describe them, should get away with treating another human being like this! Have seen and experienced, personally and through friends, the damage and he'll this causes and leaves behind.

The guards will treat you with great compassion and dignity, times have changed for the better and please gawwwd others will see this and follow suit. Too many of these vile animals causing horrendous hardship and pain onto others.

It will all work out and hope you find peace soon 😊

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By *elle111Woman
3 days ago

NI

Hi op I’m from north so slightly different laws. I had someone threatening to share my pics from an old profile on business facebook and family’s facebook. I was mortified going to police and there is a ruling up north that the threat needs to occur 3 times to register as harassment. However actually going to the police was enough of a threat at the time although the fear of it possibly reoccurring at any time is always there and it has changed my personality and how I behave on here. The police (female officer) in the first instance said I left myself vulnerable being on a public site with any type of pictures.

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By *otmoma OP   Woman
3 days ago

dublin


"Hi op I’m from north so slightly different laws. I had someone threatening to share my pics from an old profile on business facebook and family’s facebook. I was mortified going to police and there is a ruling up north that the threat needs to occur 3 times to register as harassment. However actually going to the police was enough of a threat at the time although the fear of it possibly reoccurring at any time is always there and it has changed my personality and how I behave on here. The police (female officer) in the first instance said I left myself vulnerable being on a public site with any type of pictures. "

Yeah, I hid my profile and changed a lot of stuff on here when it started happening,,, haven't had the guts to meet anyone since then either to be honest.

And see that's the response I don't want from the garda down here, I've been through the domestic violence side of things with my local guards over the last few years and it's horrendous to go through. This would just top it all off if I got that response.

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