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"So we all here for different reasons But I'd love to find a regular friend with benefits, Who else? " A fuck buddy would be my choice.  | |||
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"So we all here for different reasons But I'd love to find a regular friend with benefits, Who else? " I'm here 1 year younger than your preference   | |||
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"Same for us, singles and couples. Some irregular ones are welcome too 😇" | |||
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"So we all here for different reasons But I'd love to find a regular friend with benefits, Who else? " I can't believe you struggle to find one, you must get offers all the time. | |||
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"So we all here for different reasons But I'd love to find a regular friend with benefits, Who else? " That's what most of us are after .great sex some fun and no strings | |||
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"I'd love a reg buddy but next to impossible here Dee" Astonished if your struggling to find a regular, profile is hot guys. | |||
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"I'd love a reg buddy but next to impossible here Dee Astonished if your struggling to find a regular, profile is hot guys." I'm particular in my taste and I have zero patience for game playing which knocks a lot out | |||
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"Friends with benefits are more common than you think. Most people prefer to keep seeing someone regularly to having constant one night stands. I find this is especially true of women, with all the worry about safety concerns and the work trying to whittle down hundreds of messages to someone truly compatible. On you find someone you like and trust, your not going to want to toss them aside and start the process all over. I think most of the happiest swingers have a small handful of regular play pals, and only occasionally open up to newcomers. " hope your right | |||
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"So we all here for different reasons But I'd love to find a regular friend with benefits, Who else? " Likewise would be perfect 👌 | |||
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"Friends with benefits are more common than you think. Most people prefer to keep seeing someone regularly to having constant one night stands. I find this is especially true of women, with all the worry about safety concerns and the work trying to whittle down hundreds of messages to someone truly compatible. On you find someone you like and trust, your not going to want to toss them aside and start the process all over. I think most of the happiest swingers have a small handful of regular play pals, and only occasionally open up to newcomers. " Sounds perfect 👌 | |||
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"A regular guy or couple would be fabulous xx " | |||
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"Would love a FWB just me and another girl for some fun" Wish you lived closer...🥵☺️ | |||
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"A regular guy or couple would be fabulous xx "You fluttering your eyes at me | |||
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"So we all here for different reasons But I'd love to find a regular friend with benefits, Who else? " Mee, would be nice | |||
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"A regular guy or couple would be fabulous xx
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"Friends with benefits are more common than you think. Most people prefer to keep seeing someone regularly to having constant one night stands. I find this is especially true of women, with all the worry about safety concerns and the work trying to whittle down hundreds of messages to someone truly compatible. On you find someone you like and trust, your not going to want to toss them aside and start the process all over. I think most of the happiest swingers have a small handful of regular play pals, and only occasionally open up to newcomers. " Have to agree with you there... I've been lucky enough over the year's to have some amazing fwbs xx | |||
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"I think the problem is often in the looking for one. If we take the "with benefits" bit out, it's rare we go out looking to find a friend. Most often, friends are people that we encounter, we hit it off with, and friendship grows over time. I think the same is true of a friend with benefits... it's something that becomes that rather than a starting point " This is exactly what I found. The trust and friendship built over time as we found we were on the same page. | |||
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"So we all here for different reasons But I'd love to find a regular friend with benefits, Who else? " I think we'd all like that | |||
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"I think the problem is often in the looking for one. If we take the "with benefits" bit out, it's rare we go out looking to find a friend. Most often, friends are people that we encounter, we hit it off with, and friendship grows over time. I think the same is true of a friend with benefits... it's something that becomes that rather than a starting point " Yeah that's true only here it does be handy to know in advance what someone is open to, for clarity of boundaries and such. | |||
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"A non married/attached FWB is even rarer here. I don’t like being hidden in the shadows or being second to anyone. " Well… in that case- are you really after FWB or a relationship? | |||
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"A non married/attached FWB is even rarer here. I don’t like being hidden in the shadows or being second to anyone. " A non married attached man seeking regular FWB | |||
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"So we all here for different reasons But I'd love to find a regular friend with benefits, Who else? " The dream | |||
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"I think some believe fb and fwb to be the same thing. " I think for all posters on this thread.. (including myself please 🤔) it might be a good idea to clarify the difference in s FB as opposed to FWB | |||
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"For me: FWB: a person that I have connection with on many levels. We can talk, we can meet for a coffee, we can play. I can be involved in their life like a friend and listen when they need me to… sex is just another layer we both enjoy about each other but its not a base of our friendship. FB: human Fleshlight or vibrator. Not really involved. Sex is what is great about him/her. Anything else doesn’t matter. That’s my understanding/interpretation. I, personally am all in to FWB as I need deeper connection to be sexually involved. It’s just my preference. Dan" Perfectly put ,I'd agree 💯 | |||
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"For me: FWB: a person that I have connection with on many levels. We can talk, we can meet for a coffee, we can play. I can be involved in their life like a friend and listen when they need me to… sex is just another layer we both enjoy about each other but its not a base of our friendship. FB: human Fleshlight or vibrator. Not really involved. Sex is what is great about him/her. Anything else doesn’t matter. That’s my understanding/interpretation. I, personally am all in to FWB as I need deeper connection to be sexually involved. It’s just my preference. Dan" This  | |||
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"For me: FWB: a person that I have connection with on many levels. We can talk, we can meet for a coffee, we can play. I can be involved in their life like a friend and listen when they need me to… sex is just another layer we both enjoy about each other but its not a base of our friendship. FB: human Fleshlight or vibrator. Not really involved. Sex is what is great about him/her. Anything else doesn’t matter. That’s my understanding/interpretation. I, personally am all in to FWB as I need deeper connection to be sexually involved. It’s just my preference. Dan" 👍 | |||
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"Same for us, singles and couples. Some irregular ones are welcome too 😇" Samme | |||
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"So we all here for different reasons But I'd love to find a regular friend with benefits, Who else? " i too would love a regular fwb. message me meadbh | |||
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"These threads always confuse the shit out of me. SO MANY people who are seemingly looking for the same thing as so many others but who aren't able to hook up with each other. " Just because people are looking for what they define as a friend with benefits doesn't mean they actually have anything else in common with all the others looking and the friendship part can't be forced. Making friends could be easy enough for some and finding benefits just as easy for others but finding both and being on the same page takes time that many don't want to invest. | |||
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"Maybe you guys need a "find a FWB" specific social. With there being so many looking for the same thing there MUST be matches." Now there's a very interesting idea!! | |||
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"Maybe you guys need a "find a FWB" specific social. With there being so many looking for the same thing there MUST be matches." Banger idea, it's getting the numbers and location right though | |||
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"Maybe you guys need a "find a FWB" specific social. With there being so many looking for the same thing there MUST be matches. Banger idea, it's getting the numbers and location right though " It would be handy though! The organiser could have a Matchmaker book like your man in Lisdoonvarna 😂 | |||
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" Just because people are looking for what they define as a friend with benefits doesn't mean they actually have anything else in common with all the others looking and the friendship part can't be forced. Making friends could be easy enough for some and finding benefits just as easy for others but finding both and being on the same page takes time that many don't want to invest. " this is true and also there is a very fine line as some people want exclusivity in this scenario and don’t want to share which changes the dynamics. Also sometimes feelings emerge that aren’t reciprocated on both parts, there are a lot of scenarios that can interrupt the smooth sailing of a FWB it can be a rocky road and hard to find that golden goose. But enjoyable while searching maybe. | |||
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"A great idea for a FWB social OP u would be great at organising that and strictly vetted to be sure everyones looking the same thing. Maybe a day event first like old school speed dating so everyone gets to speak to everyone else and answer the same 5 questions on interests, fun facts etc then a fun night social after to explore more. Could be fun. " Oh leave it with me | |||
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 , failing that then a reg fwb for nights away would be ideal. Had it before and it was great | |||
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"A great idea for a FWB social OP u would be great at organising that and strictly vetted to be sure everyones looking the same thing. Maybe a day event first like old school speed dating so everyone gets to speak to everyone else and answer the same 5 questions on interests, fun facts etc then a fun night social after to explore more. Could be fun. " That is actually a great format, especially for those nervous about attending socials and it gets everyone at least introduced to everyone | |||
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" Just because people are looking for what they define as a friend with benefits doesn't mean they actually have anything else in common with all the others looking and the friendship part can't be forced. Making friends could be easy enough for some and finding benefits just as easy for others but finding both and being on the same page takes time that many don't want to invest. this is true and also there is a very fine line as some people want exclusivity in this scenario and don’t want to share which changes the dynamics. Also sometimes feelings emerge that aren’t reciprocated on both parts, there are a lot of scenarios that can interrupt the smooth sailing of a FWB it can be a rocky road and hard to find that golden goose. But enjoyable while searching maybe. " If one is looking for exclusivity then it’s a full blown relationship they are looking for… even more- vanilla relationship… Fab is not a right place to look for that. Of course - it’s possible but it’s not what majority would consider as swinging… | |||
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" Just because people are looking for what they define as a friend with benefits doesn't mean they actually have anything else in common with all the others looking and the friendship part can't be forced. Making friends could be easy enough for some and finding benefits just as easy for others but finding both and being on the same page takes time that many don't want to invest. this is true and also there is a very fine line as some people want exclusivity in this scenario and don’t want to share which changes the dynamics. Also sometimes feelings emerge that aren’t reciprocated on both parts, there are a lot of scenarios that can interrupt the smooth sailing of a FWB it can be a rocky road and hard to find that golden goose. But enjoyable while searching maybe. If one is looking for exclusivity then it’s a full blown relationship they are looking for… even more- vanilla relationship… Fab is not a right place to look for that. Of course - it’s possible but it’s not what majority would consider as swinging…" Years ago I met a woman through fab and she wanted a FWB arrangement. I had no interest in that at the time especially as we were at opposite sides of the country and she expected me to always travel to her. She also insisted that I be exclusive to her but she had a few ongoing FB and FWB arrangements with others and said it was only right that I should allow her to continue to meet with those. I thought she was having a laugh and walked away completely. | |||
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" If one is looking for exclusivity then it’s a full blown relationship they are looking for… even more- vanilla relationship… Fab is not a right place to look for that. Of course - it’s possible but it’s not what majority would consider as swinging…" I’m not sure I know lots of people here who are exclusive on one side but the other partner isn’t or who don’t share either partner but like to be watched or watch or into BDSM etc. Or they just like to be around open minded free thinking people in the social settings. Lol some of my vanilla friends would be horrified at any of that lol. Takes all sorts to spice up this melting pot, just means it is harder to find that match for a FWB. So many scenarios but such is life makes it more interesting. | |||
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"For me: FWB: a person that I have connection with on many levels. We can talk, we can meet for a coffee, we can play. I can be involved in their life like a friend and listen when they need me to… sex is just another layer we both enjoy about each other but its not a base of our friendship. FB: human Fleshlight or vibrator. Not really involved. Sex is what is great about him/her. Anything else doesn’t matter. That’s my understanding/interpretation. I, personally am all in to FWB as I need deeper connection to be sexually involved. It’s just my preference. Dan" 100% I’ve had a few but none at present. I find most are interested in the benefits not so much the real friendship bit. People want what they want and not opened to compromises or even understanding that FWB doesn’t specially mean meeting every week !!! And it definitely doesn’t mean exclusivity! This is swinging after all! Nor does it mean a one sided exclusivity (which in my opinion is unfair and unrealistic) So yeah! Really hard to find! Best of luck to all! | |||
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" She also insisted that I be exclusive to her but she had a few ongoing FB and FWB arrangements with others and said it was only right that I should allow her to continue to meet with those. I thought she was having a laugh and walked away completely. " yes I have heard of this scenario a few times it is more common than you think. My FWB is from my vanilla world and my fab friends are just fun like minded feckers with no complications and no restrictions but I am prone to getting an ick so I prefer not to know what they get up to lol. Defo worth an event plan though for seekers. Great idea. | |||
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"Where are you my FWB? I'm waiting here for you... but my patience is running out, so you better hurry up 🙃🤣" Here I am, I was just parking the car !! ☺️☺️ | |||
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"So we all here for different reasons But I'd love to find a regular friend with benefits, Who else? " Same for me!! Anybody interested?? 🙈 | |||
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"Really interesting thread…have had a few and it’s a great place to be, but as has been said, managing feelings on both sides can be a challenge, it’s the benefit of that closeness without more can be tricky to navigate… it has definitely made me slower to enter such arrangements, as while being totally honest and upfront, sometimes people think…give it time… FWB for me is just that, friends, no more, regardless of how open I am about my life, that’s as a friend...with benefits…not inviting you in and certainly not entitlements… for me the ideal is multiple fwb (greedy I know😜) but if stated at the outset it tends to let everyone know where they stand, as opposed to the one on on fwb scenario which tends to leave one waiting for the other.,.🥴🤷🏻♀️" Are ya currently considering new applicants? Asking for a friend…..  | |||
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"Really interesting thread…have had a few and it’s a great place to be, but as has been said, managing feelings on both sides can be a challenge, it’s the benefit of that closeness without more can be tricky to navigate… it has definitely made me slower to enter such arrangements, as while being totally honest and upfront, sometimes people think…give it time… FWB for me is just that, friends, no more, regardless of how open I am about my life, that’s as a friend...with benefits…not inviting you in and certainly not entitlements… for me the ideal is multiple fwb (greedy I know😜) but if stated at the outset it tends to let everyone know where they stand, as opposed to the one on on fwb scenario which tends to leave one waiting for the other.,.🥴🤷🏻♀️" I’m equally interested in the friendship and benefits part, no messy tangling of feelings, just lots of laughter banter and sexy times without any drama | |||
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"Really interesting thread…have had a few and it’s a great place to be, but as has been said, managing feelings on both sides can be a challenge, it’s the benefit of that closeness without more can be tricky to navigate… it has definitely made me slower to enter such arrangements, as while being totally honest and upfront, sometimes people think…give it time… FWB for me is just that, friends, no more, regardless of how open I am about my life, that’s as a friend...with benefits…not inviting you in and certainly not entitlements… for me the ideal is multiple fwb (greedy I know😜) but if stated at the outset it tends to let everyone know where they stand, as opposed to the one on on fwb scenario which tends to leave one waiting for the other.,.🥴🤷🏻♀️" After recent experiences on both our sides, managing the feels is really difficult but so important. Definitely needs honest communication with everyone involved and knowing where everyone stands. We are both interested in FWB with both singles and couples, people that we can have fun with without feelings causing issues down the line. Might be alot to ask for though | |||
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"It is great to find one but tend to find it doesn't stay casual , feelings do develop on one side " I love feelings ! Friendship, and sex without feelings feels empty and cold. You don't have to follow your feelings, but feel the whole range of emotions that go with a FWB relationship. My goal for 2025. Are you out there? You're guaranteed a Tantra massage every time we meet. | |||
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