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By *osyRedLips OP   Woman
7 days ago

Kildare

I ready a recent study published about students in America. It was long been theorized that the week prior to an exam is an extremely dangerous time for the relatives of college students. After a survey it was calculated that

A student’s grandmother is far more likely to die suddenly just before the student takes an exam,

than at any other time of year.

Got me thinking about all the Granny's of Fab men here someone needs to conduct a study on why so many Granny's are passing so suddenly on a Saturday night. One poor fella has his Granny die three times in six months. Thoughts and prayers for all the Grannys that passed over this year

Also on a totally separate topic what's the best or funniest excuse you're ever heard for someone cancelling a meet on you this year

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By *eddybear500Man
7 days ago

Dublin/UK

That's the funniest one iv ever heard to get out of a meet

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By *dm34Man
7 days ago

Belfast

Brilliant!!!

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
7 days ago

kinkytown

Had someone due to meet me the next day hounding for wank fodder all day, message at 9pm the night before cause he just got word of a job interview for the next morning. Resurfaced a few weeks ago admitted he'd bottled it, yet still expected us to meet

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By *adger BrocMan
7 days ago

Co. Cork

I once had a last minute cancellation because she had someone coming to tidy her garden. Not sure if it was a euphemism and included a bush trim but it meant my services were not required.

🌳🌾🧹✂️

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By *ublinstud_MisstattooCouple
7 days ago

City Centre

For all their cock pics , 80% of men on here are pussies when it comes to actually meeting

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By *he KakapoMan
7 days ago

A nice rock


"For all their cock pics , 80% of men on here are pussies when it comes to actually meeting "

They aren't "pussies" they are just getting what they want out of the interaction to that point.

They have used the site for the purpose they intended.

Those lads who do want to meet but might pull out due to nerves or social anxiety shouldn't be namecalled for it

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By *ublinstud_MisstattooCouple
7 days ago

City Centre


"For all their cock pics , 80% of men on here are pussies when it comes to actually meeting

They aren't "pussies" they are just getting what they want out of the interaction to that point.

They have used the site for the purpose they intended.

Those lads who do want to meet but might pull out due to nerves or social anxiety shouldn't be namecalled for it "

That's a long way to say they've wasted people's time without wanting to meet

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By *he KakapoMan
7 days ago

A nice rock


"For all their cock pics , 80% of men on here are pussies when it comes to actually meeting

They aren't "pussies" they are just getting what they want out of the interaction to that point.

They have used the site for the purpose they intended.

Those lads who do want to meet but might pull out due to nerves or social anxiety shouldn't be namecalled for it

That's a long way to say they've wasted people's time without wanting to meet "

It wasnt a defense of the act but pointing out there is a distinction between people intentionally wasting others time which has nothing to do with having the nerve to meet and those that do have last minute cold feet, which they are entitled to

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By *ublinstud_MisstattooCouple
7 days ago

City Centre


"For all their cock pics , 80% of men on here are pussies when it comes to actually meeting

They aren't "pussies" they are just getting what they want out of the interaction to that point.

They have used the site for the purpose they intended.

Those lads who do want to meet but might pull out due to nerves or social anxiety shouldn't be namecalled for it

That's a long way to say they've wasted people's time without wanting to meet

It wasnt a defense of the act but pointing out there is a distinction between people intentionally wasting others time which has nothing to do with having the nerve to meet and those that do have last minute cold feet, which they are entitled to "

So you've just agreed with my original statement

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By *he KakapoMan
7 days ago

A nice rock


"For all their cock pics , 80% of men on here are pussies when it comes to actually meeting

They aren't "pussies" they are just getting what they want out of the interaction to that point.

They have used the site for the purpose they intended.

Those lads who do want to meet but might pull out due to nerves or social anxiety shouldn't be namecalled for it

That's a long way to say they've wasted people's time without wanting to meet

It wasnt a defense of the act but pointing out there is a distinction between people intentionally wasting others time which has nothing to do with having the nerve to meet and those that do have last minute cold feet, which they are entitled to

So you've just agreed with my original statement "

Nope 🤦‍♂️

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By *og-ManMan
7 days ago

somewhere

I organise coffee socials in Kildare every now and then

Some men stop messaging an hour beforehand and never hear from them again

Some get as far as the car park and stay in their cars....can't cross the line

Some message from the carpark to say they're too nervous and drive off again

One messaged to say he was in the car and very nervous

We took 30 mins to persuade him to come in and he stayed for a few coffees and chats with some lovely fabbers

I know what it's like

I turned up at a hotel to have a pint with a few fabbers before the social they were attending

I couldn't get out of the car and drove home ...first and only time I've done it

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By *ofusplusCouple
7 days ago

Limerick

I (Mrs) don't buy the 'bottling it' excuse. Many, many times in my lifetime I've been faced with pretty terrifying situations, whether that be a job interview, exam or simply turning up for a Fab social when we'd committed to it.

We would never let someone down because we were 'too nervous'. Its a cop-out, plain and simple. If you are too nervous to turn up for coffee then I suggest you deal with your social anxiety first and then consider starting your Fab journey, because its simply selfish to commit when you know you could well pull out due to nerves.

'Feel the fear and do it anyway' is a term that has served me well. Maybe others should adopt it too

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By *onderingpurposeMan
7 days ago

Belfast


"I ready a recent study published about students in America. It was long been theorized that the week prior to an exam is an extremely dangerous time for the relatives of college students. After a survey it was calculated that

A student’s grandmother is far more likely to die suddenly just before the student takes an exam,

than at any other time of year.

Got me thinking about all the Granny's of Fab men here someone needs to conduct a study on why so many Granny's are passing so suddenly on a Saturday night. One poor fella has his Granny die three times in six months. Thoughts and prayers for all the Grannys that passed over this year

Also on a totally separate topic what's the best or funniest excuse you're ever heard for someone cancelling a meet on you this year "

I think it's called the Stephen Ireland technique

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By *tanley KMan
7 days ago

Enniscorthy

I had a lady who's water pipes burst in her attic twice in the one month. Bad luck or bad memory....

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
7 days ago

There and Here


"I (Mrs) don't buy the 'bottling it' excuse. Many, many times in my lifetime I've been faced with pretty terrifying situations, whether that be a job interview, exam or simply turning up for a Fab social when we'd committed to it.

We would never let someone down because we were 'too nervous'. Its a cop-out, plain and simple. If you are too nervous to turn up for coffee then I suggest you deal with your social anxiety first and then consider starting your Fab journey, because its simply selfish to commit when you know you could well pull out due to nerves.

'Feel the fear and do it anyway' is a term that has served me well. Maybe others should adopt it too "

The thing about social anxiety is it can rear it's ugly head without warning. For the most part, mine is ok now. But there was one social event last year where I was grand right up until I was halfway there in the taxi. I could feel the dread and panic building. None of my coping strategies worked. So I "felt the fear and did it anyway". Or rather I tried. I had to leave after an intensely unpleasant hour where I'd pushed myself almost to the point of being physically sick. If dealing with social anxiety was that easy, no-one would have a problem with it.

That said, if that's truly someone's reason for backing out then I'd much rather they tell me than invent a dead granny

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
7 days ago

There and Here

I should also point out to anyone that's heard my "my car is off the road" reason more than once in the last three months, it is in fact the absolute truth...this is the fifth time and trust me, I'm way more scundered about it than anyone else could ever be

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By *osyRedLips OP   Woman
7 days ago

Kildare


"I should also point out to anyone that's heard my "my car is off the road" reason more than once in the last three months, it is in fact the absolute truth...this is the fifth time and trust me, I'm way more scundered about it than anyone else could ever be "

I had to postpone a meet in December because of my car I even sent him a pic of the car part that was broken that I was waiting for replacement in case he thought I was fobbing him off!

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By *og-ManMan
7 days ago

somewhere


"I should also point out to anyone that's heard my "my car is off the road" reason more than once in the last three months, it is in fact the absolute truth...this is the fifth time and trust me, I'm way more scundered about it than anyone else could ever be

I had to postpone a meet in December because of my car I even sent him a pic of the car part that was broken that I was waiting for replacement in case he thought I was fobbing him off! "

Tell the truth

You sent a picture of your stockings and told him you needed a new fan belt

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By *og-ManMan
7 days ago

somewhere


"I should also point out to anyone that's heard my "my car is off the road" reason more than once in the last three months, it is in fact the absolute truth...this is the fifth time and trust me, I'm way more scundered about it than anyone else could ever be "

You and your car

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By *electableicecreamMan
7 days ago

The West


"I (Mrs) don't buy the 'bottling it' excuse. Many, many times in my lifetime I've been faced with pretty terrifying situations, whether that be a job interview, exam or simply turning up for a Fab social when we'd committed to it.

We would never let someone down because we were 'too nervous'. Its a cop-out, plain and simple. If you are too nervous to turn up for coffee then I suggest you deal with your social anxiety first and then consider starting your Fab journey, because its simply selfish to commit when you know you could well pull out due to nerves.

'Feel the fear and do it anyway' is a term that has served me well. Maybe others should adopt it too "

I think feel the fear and do it anyway is a valid strategy until it isn't.

That is to say it's good to try and see if it works and if it doesn't then accept that some social environments might not be suitable.

In any case backing out of a social event or leaving early because of nerves isn't really letting anyone down. It's self care.

Standing someone up and making a lame excuse is an altogether different category of crying off.

I want to hear more silly excuses!

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By *ublinstud_MisstattooCouple
7 days ago

City Centre


"I (Mrs) don't buy the 'bottling it' excuse. Many, many times in my lifetime I've been faced with pretty terrifying situations, whether that be a job interview, exam or simply turning up for a Fab social when we'd committed to it.

We would never let someone down because we were 'too nervous'. Its a cop-out, plain and simple. If you are too nervous to turn up for coffee then I suggest you deal with your social anxiety first and then consider starting your Fab journey, because its simply selfish to commit when you know you could well pull out due to nerves.

'Feel the fear and do it anyway' is a term that has served me well. Maybe others should adopt it too "

Exactly.

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By *ealitybitesMan
7 days ago

Belfast

I was once "invited" by a well verified couple to RVC on a Sunday evening.

We had been chatting for a few weeks and about 3 o'clock on the Sunday afternoon they told me to jump in the car and hit the road.

My "excuses" for not going were the 5+ hour drive each way, the 5.30 Monday morning work start and the fact I didn't have a ticket.

They told me I was a time waster and most guys wouldn't be bothered about the long drive or work issues and they didn't have a ticket either but with all my fab connections they were sure I'd be able to get them in anyway.

Their last dig at me was that they were just lame excuses and I might as well have said my granny died.

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By *ohannonMan
7 days ago

Louth / Meath


"I ready a recent study published about students in America. It was long been theorized that the week prior to an exam is an extremely dangerous time for the relatives of college students. After a survey it was calculated that

A student’s grandmother is far more likely to die suddenly just before the student takes an exam,

than at any other time of year.

Got me thinking about all the Granny's of Fab men here someone needs to conduct a study on why so many Granny's are passing so suddenly on a Saturday night. One poor fella has his Granny die three times in six months. Thoughts and prayers for all the Grannys that passed over this year

Also on a totally separate topic what's the best or funniest excuse you're ever heard for someone cancelling a meet on you this year "

Her mail: “Sorry i cancelled saturday night, i had a few drinks & j’s friday & wasnt back to myself until sunday evening. Hope you’ve a good monday!”

My response: “Today is saturday.” (Which it was)

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By *panishRebelMan
7 days ago

Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland

I remember once in school, many moons ago, my homework had been genuinely eaten and ripped apart by the dog. Dogs actually. We had two.

I don't know if any of ye had the same kind of teachers as me, but we had been warned many a time to bring in finished homework and not given excuses like..."the dog ate my homework!"....

So I decided to just say I forgot to do it.

I never tried the granny trick!

The point is, sometimes the worst excuses are actually true. But trust is hard won.

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By *oo32Man
7 days ago

tipperary

A foreman I had when I was an apprentice told me I was the only lad he knew whos granny had died 5 times..

I said I'd only told him she was dead..id mentioned she was dead a few times alright....the fact she died in 1989 was irrelevant

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By *oe Cool xxxMan
7 days ago

South Dublin

My favorite excuse for not meeting is “I’m not meeting anyone new right now “

Then see their verifications show up for new meets,

We’re big boys and girls , just say you’re not interested rather than breadcrumbing , plenty more fun fish in the fab sea.

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By *osyRedLips OP   Woman
7 days ago

Kildare


"My favorite excuse for not meeting is “I’m not meeting anyone new right now “

Then see their verifications show up for new meets,

We’re big boys and girls , just say you’re not interested rather than breadcrumbing , plenty more fun fish in the fab sea. "

Tried this before saying no thanks or wasn't interested. Some men are grand but lots also want an explanation why or tell me I'm a See you Next Tuesday or other charming things or try to convince me to change my mind or just want to chat so they can rub one out on Snapchat. I know if guy replied no thanks to me I'd be fine I wouldn't need my ego rubbed better. Thank god for message filters so I don't have to deal with the toys falling out of the pram

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By *heCatWhoGotTheCream2024Man
7 days ago

Funville


"

Got me thinking about all the Granny's of Fab men here someone needs to conduct a study on why so many Granny's are passing so suddenly on a Saturday night. One poor fella has his Granny die three times in six months. Thoughts and prayers for all the Grannys that passed over this year

"

Is there a market for a granny verification feature? Where you get gran to stand beside you with a sign saying *ChunkyCock4U's verified granny* and you get a blue granny verification tick? 🤔

If you upgrade to platinum, it links into latest RIP database and

greys out the blue tick automatically ☑️ 😬

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By *aid backMan
7 days ago

by a lake with my rod out

When I used to host parties etc the amount of men who's grannies, aunt's, uncles brothers sisters etc who died or got taken to the hospital the day of the party is ridiculous and yes it was 99% men that did it.

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By *a1970Man
7 days ago

East cork

Just for the record... I've no grannies left

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By *ohnny10nMan
7 days ago

carlow

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By *ohnny10nMan
7 days ago

carlow

Wow that mad out . Why start off saying you're going in the first place. Funny .

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By *adger BrocMan
7 days ago

Co. Cork


"Just for the record... I've no grannies left"

.....

To lose one granny is unfortunate, two lose two smacks of carelessness.....

👵👵

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By *iscuits8Man
7 days ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

I remember between Christmas/new year a few years back. After a fair bit of chatting, I agreed to meet someone from here and grab a cuppa one night. It was late enough and absolutely baltic, but I was sitting about and at a loose end too.

By the time I'd taken the 15 minute stroll in, I had a message to say she'd gotten cold feet and had driven back off, and an apology.

Was so disappointed. I went to grab a taxi and a d*unken reveller, along with his mate, attacked me as I got in to it. Night went from bad to much worse 🙃

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By *tillWaters182Man
7 days ago

Dublin


"I should also point out to anyone that's heard my "my car is off the road" reason more than once in the last three months, it is in fact the absolute truth...this is the fifth time and trust me, I'm way more scundered about it than anyone else could ever be

I had to postpone a meet in December because of my car I even sent him a pic of the car part that was broken that I was waiting for replacement in case he thought I was fobbing him off!

Tell the truth

You sent a picture of your stockings and told him you needed a new fan belt "

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By *tillWaters182Man
7 days ago

Dublin

I suspect that arranging to meet is a higher stakes action for ladies in the first place, due to personal safety and societal expectation considerations. So any woman who agrees to meet in the first place has already made a leap of faith and is less likely to bail than a man.

That said, I wouldn't ever dismiss anyone else's social anxiety. I don't generally suffer from it myself (or at least it manifests itself differently) but I found it really hard to go back into crowded noisy pubs after Covid, and I did bail from one or two vanilla social events in the year after restrictions eased...

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By *earuisceMan
7 days ago

south sligo


"I had a lady who's water pipes burst in her attic twice in the one month. Bad luck or bad memory.... "

Bad plumber

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By *rRiosMan
7 days ago

dublin


"I think it's called the Stephen Ireland technique"

I came here to say this! for context Stephen Ireland was a famous international and premier league footballer who said his granny died to get out of a football game. When the newspapers discover his granny was still very much alive and well, he doubled down and said it was in fact, his other granny. And guess what…

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By *otjackandjillCouple
5 days ago

Dublin

They say one of the best perks of starting a new job is you get all four of your grandparents back

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By *leasurer77Man
5 days ago

Athlone


"I ready a recent study published about students in America. It was long been theorized that the week prior to an exam is an extremely dangerous time for the relatives of college students. After a survey it was calculated that

A student’s grandmother is far more likely to die suddenly just before the student takes an exam,

than at any other time of year.

Got me thinking about all the Granny's of Fab men here someone needs to conduct a study on why so many Granny's are passing so suddenly on a Saturday night. One poor fella has his Granny die three times in six months. Thoughts and prayers for all the Grannys that passed over this year

Also on a totally separate topic what's the best or funniest excuse you're ever heard for someone cancelling a meet on you this year "

Just remember to take a note of the date of death so you don't try to reschedule and clash with the months mind!

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By *itty4061Couple
5 days ago

stillorgan


"Had someone due to meet me the next day hounding for wank fodder all day, message at 9pm the night before cause he just got word of a job interview for the next morning. Resurfaced a few weeks ago admitted he'd bottled it, yet still expected us to meet "

I think you are definitely correct, we call them 'wank guys" they get a few wanks out of the back & forth then bottle it. Would be great if there was a "bottler" list we could all update 😀

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By *lternative lifestyleCouple
5 days ago

Dublin


"I (Mrs) don't buy the 'bottling it' excuse. Many, many times in my lifetime I've been faced with pretty terrifying situations, whether that be a job interview, exam or simply turning up for a Fab social when we'd committed to it.

We would never let someone down because we were 'too nervous'. Its a cop-out, plain and simple. If you are too nervous to turn up for coffee then I suggest you deal with your social anxiety first and then consider starting your Fab journey, because its simply selfish to commit when you know you could well pull out due to nerves.

'Feel the fear and do it anyway' is a term that has served me well. Maybe others should adopt it too "

Same, hence socials and play parties are best, s out all the time wasters. Vast majority of single guys are all talk & no trousers. Nobody should get a 2nd chance, too many here to waste ones time on them.

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
5 days ago

Naughty Lane

Was a great read...🤭

So imaginative!!🤭

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By *itty4061Couple
5 days ago

stillorgan


"For all their cock pics , 80% of men on here are pussies when it comes to actually meeting

They aren't "pussies" they are just getting what they want out of the interaction to that point.

They have used the site for the purpose they intended.

Those lads who do want to meet but might pull out due to nerves or social anxiety shouldn't be namecalled for it "

I'm sure these same guys are already well verified or they probably wouldn't be getting the opportunity so if they are and don't have the bottle they are definitely in the wrong community and should stick to whacking one off in the video chat room and not wasting genuine people's time.

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By *ublinstud_MisstattooCouple
5 days ago

City Centre


"Had someone due to meet me the next day hounding for wank fodder all day, message at 9pm the night before cause he just got word of a job interview for the next morning. Resurfaced a few weeks ago admitted he'd bottled it, yet still expected us to meet

I think you are definitely correct, we call them 'wank guys" they get a few wanks out of the back & forth then bottle it. Would be great if there was a "bottler" list we could all update 😀 "

We just leave notes on profile or block so we don't forget

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By *ofusplusCouple
5 days ago

Limerick


"I (Mrs) don't buy the 'bottling it' excuse. Many, many times in my lifetime I've been faced with pretty terrifying situations, whether that be a job interview, exam or simply turning up for a Fab social when we'd committed to it.

We would never let someone down because we were 'too nervous'. Its a cop-out, plain and simple. If you are too nervous to turn up for coffee then I suggest you deal with your social anxiety first and then consider starting your Fab journey, because its simply selfish to commit when you know you could well pull out due to nerves.

'Feel the fear and do it anyway' is a term that has served me well. Maybe others should adopt it too

The thing about social anxiety is it can rear it's ugly head without warning. For the most part, mine is ok now. But there was one social event last year where I was grand right up until I was halfway there in the taxi. I could feel the dread and panic building. None of my coping strategies worked. So I "felt the fear and did it anyway". Or rather I tried. I had to leave after an intensely unpleasant hour where I'd pushed myself almost to the point of being physically sick. If dealing with social anxiety was that easy, no-one would have a problem with it.

That said, if that's truly someone's reason for backing out then I'd much rather they tell me than invent a dead granny "

Fair play for attending and I don't think anyone would criticise if you hadn't.

I suppose what I'm referring to is where people back out simply because it's easier than facing the fear and turning up. There seems to be less consideration of people's time nowadays and sometines nerves is a bit of a cop-out in my opinion.

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