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By *andsomJack OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Monaghan

Its tough to meet let alone get a reply.

The double standards are shocking

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By *eordie.Woman
2 weeks ago

The Sticks

Boo boo

It's not easy for anyone

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By *iscuits8Man
2 weeks ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

Ah it's not the most difficult thing to be fair

I've got meets and I'm a complete bollocks

Happy Christmas

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By *eordie.Woman
2 weeks ago

The Sticks


"Ah it's not the most difficult thing to be fair

I've got meets and I'm a complete bollocks

Happy Christmas"

You are a little fucking charmer tho - that helps hugely

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
2 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

Is it profile feedback you're looking for?

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By *eordie.Woman
2 weeks ago

The Sticks


"Is it profile feedback you're looking for? "

Go for it

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By *ueen_MeadhbhWoman
2 weeks ago

sligo

Its as tough or as easy as you make it. Plenty of this threads get started and plenty of advice given. Why not have a search through the forums

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By *om TangoMan
2 weeks ago

aughnacloy monaghan area

Start going to socials lad. It’s not a sex site. Get yourself involved in the wonderful community

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By *og-ManMan
2 weeks ago

somewhere


"Its tough to meet let alone get a reply.

The double standards are shocking "

What have you done to get meets

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By *he KakapoMan
2 weeks ago

A nice rock

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By *he KakapoMan
2 weeks ago

A nice rock

It's actually really really easy to get a reply

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By *osyRedLipsWoman
2 weeks ago

Kildare

It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

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By *rmrs1234Couple
2 weeks ago

Waterford

Double standards in what way exactly?

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By *oghunter33Woman
2 weeks ago

on the hill NordWest of


"It's actually really really easy to get a reply"

Fecking hell, what a fab name you went for with your newest profile, Are going through the anal stage again?

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By *he KakapoMan
2 weeks ago

A nice rock


"It's actually really really easy to get a reply

Fecking hell, what a fab name you went for with your newest profile, Are going through the anal stage again? "

New profile... who dis?

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
2 weeks ago

There and Here


"Double standards in what way exactly?"

This is what I wanted to ask too

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By *he KakapoMan
2 weeks ago

A nice rock


"Double standards in what way exactly?

This is what I wanted to ask too"

Well you can just spread your legs and get that good D....

But some when we spread ours nothing!!!!!

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
2 weeks ago

East / North, Cork


"It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day "

The men get frustrated as they don't even get replies to messages, and they get confused because the girls get lots of mail. They forget however that just because people get lots of mail doesn't mean that they have any interest in meeting any of those people, and if they put a few minutes thought in with their big head rather than their little head then they may realise that they have no interest in fucking just anyone who happens to message either

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
2 weeks ago

There and Here


"Double standards in what way exactly?

This is what I wanted to ask too

Well you can just spread your legs and get that good D....

But some when we spread ours nothing!!!!!"

Easy peasy lemon squeezed

Fun fact: when I typed peasy my phone changed it to pussy

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
2 weeks ago

There and Here

FFS *squeezey

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By *andsomJack OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Monaghan

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By *he KakapoMan
2 weeks ago

A nice rock


"Double standards in what way exactly?

This is what I wanted to ask too

Well you can just spread your legs and get that good D....

But some when we spread ours nothing!!!!!

Easy peasy lemon squeezed

Fun fact: when I typed peasy my phone changed it to pussy "

Stop squeezing lemons with your vajayjay

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By *oghunter33Woman
2 weeks ago

on the hill NordWest of


"It's actually really really easy to get a reply

Fecking hell, what a fab name you went for with your newest profile, Are going through the anal stage again?

New profile... who dis?"

Ahh don't give me pretend-confused, it doesn't suit you.

Anyhow happy Christmas!

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By *he KakapoMan
2 weeks ago

A nice rock


"It's actually really really easy to get a reply

Fecking hell, what a fab name you went for with your newest profile, Are going through the anal stage again?

New profile... who dis?

Ahh don't give me pretend-confused, it doesn't suit you.

Anyhow happy Christmas! "

Happy Christmas DH... hope santa left a jedi under the tree

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By *ueen_MeadhbhWoman
2 weeks ago

sligo


"It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

The men get frustrated as they don't even get replies to messages, and they get confused because the girls get lots of mail. They forget however that just because people get lots of mail doesn't mean that they have any interest in meeting any of those people, and if they put a few minutes thought in with their big head rather than their little head then they may realise that they have no interest in fucking just anyone who happens to message either "

This

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By *itty4061Couple
2 weeks ago

stillorgan

You haven't even attended a social

So you are not really putting any effort in.

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By *he KakapoMan
2 weeks ago

A nice rock

Men start threads about not getting messages.

Women start threads about the messages they do get.

Also...send christmas boobs please people

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By *ickedtiesCouple
2 weeks ago

limerick


"It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

The men get frustrated as they don't even get replies to messages, and they get confused because the girls get lots of mail. They forget however that just because people get lots of mail doesn't mean that they have any interest in meeting any of those people, and if they put a few minutes thought in with their big head rather than their little head then they may realise that they have no interest in fucking just anyone who happens to message either "

👏 this is 💯 true...I don't have the time or patience to go through 200 msgs a day that iv no interest in

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By *otterThanHimMan
2 weeks ago

Traveling around,


"It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

The men get frustrated as they don't even get replies to messages, and they get confused because the girls get lots of mail. They forget however that just because people get lots of mail doesn't mean that they have any interest in meeting any of those people, and if they put a few minutes thought in with their big head rather than their little head then they may realise that they have no interest in fucking just anyone who happens to message either

👏 this is 💯 true...I don't have the time or patience to go through 200 msgs a day that iv no interest in "

And for this man he may never have gotten a direct message,even from someone he doesn't have interest in..

Man will have to message a woman, woman will pick from here 99+ messages (not a complaint, just an observation)

OP I think being patient and respectful, letting things happen naturally is best. Like the lady said, a social would help you and maybe a upgraded profile?

I have found this difficult also and it can be disheartening but there's some amazing woman on here. Worth the wait, worth the effort and deserving of the respect in making their own decisions.

Someone out there for you, stay positive.

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By *olourpurpleMan
2 weeks ago

Waterford


"Its tough to meet let alone get a reply.

The double standards are shocking "

It can be tough for single guys. Unfortunately it is very much be a numbers game. I’d suggest to maybe put more on your profile. And if you’re struggling with the site then a break for a little while can be worth doing.

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By *ister90Man
2 weeks ago

Galway city


"It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day "

Oh its definitely not equal here

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By *eordie.Woman
2 weeks ago

The Sticks


"It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

Oh its definitely not equal here "

The odds are good, but the goods are mostly odd

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By *ink_Kink94Woman
2 weeks ago

westmeath, kildare


"It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

The men get frustrated as they don't even get replies to messages, and they get confused because the girls get lots of mail. They forget however that just because people get lots of mail doesn't mean that they have any interest in meeting any of those people, and if they put a few minutes thought in with their big head rather than their little head then they may realise that they have no interest in fucking just anyone who happens to message either "

👏 👏 👏

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By *ueen_MeadhbhWoman
2 weeks ago

sligo


"It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

Oh its definitely not equal here

The odds are good, but the goods are mostly odd"

I seem to find the faulty ones

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By *ister90Man
2 weeks ago

Galway city


"It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

Oh its definitely not equal here

The odds are good, but the goods are mostly odd"

I'm sure with abit of experience and help from veris you can tell the good from the odd and have your pick of anyone here.. where as lads on here are competing with the a crazy ratio to even get your attention.

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By *iresmillyWoman
2 weeks ago

Dublin

Janey Mack- another thread on this subject again!!! Can we put new posters through forum training before they are allowed to post.

Step 1; how to use the search function

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By *eordie.Woman
2 weeks ago

The Sticks


"It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

Oh its definitely not equal here

The odds are good, but the goods are mostly odd

I'm sure with abit of experience and help from veris you can tell the good from the odd and have your pick of anyone here.. where as lads on here are competing with the a crazy ratio to even get your attention. "

The amount of attached men on here is huge, meaning that - even if you are OK with their circumstances (and many women are not) - their window of opportunity to meet is miniscule and so meeting becomes nigh impossible or an unsatisfactory quickie

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By *phrodite72Woman
2 weeks ago

dublin/galway


"It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

Oh its definitely not equal here

The odds are good, but the goods are mostly odd

I'm sure with abit of experience and help from veris you can tell the good from the odd and have your pick of anyone here.. where as lads on here are competing with the a crazy ratio to even get your attention.

The amount of attached men on here is huge, meaning that - even if you are OK with their circumstances (and many women are not) - their window of opportunity to meet is miniscule and so meeting becomes nigh impossible or an unsatisfactory quickie"

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By *adhatter and coCouple
2 weeks ago

Middle of mayo n peaceful tranquility

Yet another whinging post from a man who joined the site thinking pussy galore

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By *ister90Man
2 weeks ago

Galway city


"It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

Oh its definitely not equal here

The odds are good, but the goods are mostly odd

I'm sure with abit of experience and help from veris you can tell the good from the odd and have your pick of anyone here.. where as lads on here are competing with the a crazy ratio to even get your attention.

The amount of attached men on here is huge, meaning that - even if you are OK with their circumstances (and many women are not) - their window of opportunity to meet is miniscule and so meeting becomes nigh impossible or an unsatisfactory quickie"


"It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

Oh its definitely not equal here

The odds are good, but the goods are mostly odd

I'm sure with abit of experience and help from veris you can tell the good from the odd and have your pick of anyone here.. where as lads on here are competing with the a crazy ratio to even get your attention.

The amount of attached men on here is huge, meaning that - even if you are OK with their circumstances (and many women are not) - their window of opportunity to meet is miniscule and so meeting becomes nigh impossible or an unsatisfactory quickie"

Yes but doesnt that exact same thing goes for guys aswel? It is manly a swinging site, so its tough to make time once you have family to look after Men or women? .. My point is once you have a huge abundance of something the value of thing does down, in this case it's lads on here. An example would be I had a from mate from a different county travel up here in the last week, that was supposed to meet a girl from here that he was texting for a couple of weeks, she blew em off for someone else last minute because she just had more options to meet someone she preferred. It's just harder for guys here simple as

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By *adger BrocMan
2 weeks ago

Co. Cork


"It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

Oh its definitely not equal here

The odds are good, but the goods are mostly odd

I'm sure with abit of experience and help from veris you can tell the good from the odd and have your pick of anyone here.. where as lads on here are competing with the a crazy ratio to even get your attention.

The amount of attached men on here is huge, meaning that - even if you are OK with their circumstances (and many women are not) - their window of opportunity to meet is miniscule and so meeting becomes nigh impossible or an unsatisfactory quickie

It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

Oh its definitely not equal here

The odds are good, but the goods are mostly odd

I'm sure with abit of experience and help from veris you can tell the good from the odd and have your pick of anyone here.. where as lads on here are competing with the a crazy ratio to even get your attention.

The amount of attached men on here is huge, meaning that - even if you are OK with their circumstances (and many women are not) - their window of opportunity to meet is miniscule and so meeting becomes nigh impossible or an unsatisfactory quickie

Yes but doesnt that exact same thing goes for guys aswel? It is manly a swinging site, so its tough to make time once you have family to look after Men or women? .. My point is once you have a huge abundance of something the value of thing does down, in this case it's lads on here. An example would be I had a from mate from a different county travel up here in the last week, that was supposed to meet a girl from here that he was texting for a couple of weeks, she blew em off for someone else last minute because she just had more options to meet someone she preferred. It's just harder for guys here simple as"

.....

I hope she messaged him and cancelled in time and didn't let him travel and then not show.

Could she be the time Easter from another thread?....🤔

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By *ister90Man
2 weeks ago

Galway city


"It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

Oh its definitely not equal here

The odds are good, but the goods are mostly odd

I'm sure with abit of experience and help from veris you can tell the good from the odd and have your pick of anyone here.. where as lads on here are competing with the a crazy ratio to even get your attention.

The amount of attached men on here is huge, meaning that - even if you are OK with their circumstances (and many women are not) - their window of opportunity to meet is miniscule and so meeting becomes nigh impossible or an unsatisfactory quickie

It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

Oh its definitely not equal here

The odds are good, but the goods are mostly odd

I'm sure with abit of experience and help from veris you can tell the good from the odd and have your pick of anyone here.. where as lads on here are competing with the a crazy ratio to even get your attention.

The amount of attached men on here is huge, meaning that - even if you are OK with their circumstances (and many women are not) - their window of opportunity to meet is miniscule and so meeting becomes nigh impossible or an unsatisfactory quickie

Yes but doesnt that exact same thing goes for guys aswel? It is manly a swinging site, so its tough to make time once you have family to look after Men or women? .. My point is once you have a huge abundance of something the value of thing does down, in this case it's lads on here. An example would be I had a from mate from a different county travel up here in the last week, that was supposed to meet a girl from here that he was texting for a couple of weeks, she blew em off for someone else last minute because she just had more options to meet someone she preferred. It's just harder for guys here simple as

.....

I hope she messaged him and cancelled in time and didn't let him travel and then not show.

Could she be the time Easter from another thread?....🤔"

Unfortunately It was last minute , had a hotel booked and all.

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By *adger BrocMan
2 weeks ago

Co. Cork


"It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

Oh its definitely not equal here

The odds are good, but the goods are mostly odd

I'm sure with abit of experience and help from veris you can tell the good from the odd and have your pick of anyone here.. where as lads on here are competing with the a crazy ratio to even get your attention.

The amount of attached men on here is huge, meaning that - even if you are OK with their circumstances (and many women are not) - their window of opportunity to meet is miniscule and so meeting becomes nigh impossible or an unsatisfactory quickie

It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

Oh its definitely not equal here

The odds are good, but the goods are mostly odd

I'm sure with abit of experience and help from veris you can tell the good from the odd and have your pick of anyone here.. where as lads on here are competing with the a crazy ratio to even get your attention.

The amount of attached men on here is huge, meaning that - even if you are OK with their circumstances (and many women are not) - their window of opportunity to meet is miniscule and so meeting becomes nigh impossible or an unsatisfactory quickie

Yes but doesnt that exact same thing goes for guys aswel? It is manly a swinging site, so its tough to make time once you have family to look after Men or women? .. My point is once you have a huge abundance of something the value of thing does down, in this case it's lads on here. An example would be I had a from mate from a different county travel up here in the last week, that was supposed to meet a girl from here that he was texting for a couple of weeks, she blew em off for someone else last minute because she just had more options to meet someone she preferred. It's just harder for guys here simple as

.....

I hope she messaged him and cancelled in time and didn't let him travel and then not show.

Could she be the time Easter from another thread?....🤔

Unfortunately It was last minute , had a hotel booked and all."

.....

*time waster*...

Dont know where Easter came from. We are still trying to get through Christmas. Predictive text is washing our wives away...

*wishing our lives*...

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By *ister90Man
2 weeks ago

Galway city


"It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

Oh its definitely not equal here

The odds are good, but the goods are mostly odd

I'm sure with abit of experience and help from veris you can tell the good from the odd and have your pick of anyone here.. where as lads on here are competing with the a crazy ratio to even get your attention.

The amount of attached men on here is huge, meaning that - even if you are OK with their circumstances (and many women are not) - their window of opportunity to meet is miniscule and so meeting becomes nigh impossible or an unsatisfactory quickie

It's equally as hard for women we just don't feel the need to start threads about it every other day

Oh its definitely not equal here

The odds are good, but the goods are mostly odd

I'm sure with abit of experience and help from veris you can tell the good from the odd and have your pick of anyone here.. where as lads on here are competing with the a crazy ratio to even get your attention.

The amount of attached men on here is huge, meaning that - even if you are OK with their circumstances (and many women are not) - their window of opportunity to meet is miniscule and so meeting becomes nigh impossible or an unsatisfactory quickie

Yes but doesnt that exact same thing goes for guys aswel? It is manly a swinging site, so its tough to make time once you have family to look after Men or women? .. My point is once you have a huge abundance of something the value of thing does down, in this case it's lads on here. An example would be I had a from mate from a different county travel up here in the last week, that was supposed to meet a girl from here that he was texting for a couple of weeks, she blew em off for someone else last minute because she just had more options to meet someone she preferred. It's just harder for guys here simple as

.....

I hope she messaged him and cancelled in time and didn't let him travel and then not show.

Could she be the time Easter from another thread?....🤔

Unfortunately It was last minute , had a hotel booked and all.

.....

*time waster*...

Dont know where Easter came from. We are still trying to get through Christmas. Predictive text is washing our wives away...

*wishing our lives*..."

It's okay , I understood you.. I'm fluent in predictive text

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By *exyScientistsCouple
2 weeks ago

Castlebar

Cancelling people at the last minute is just rude whoever it is. Men and women do it. Have had it happen to me too. I'd never book a hotel and travel unless I had met the person at least once. Its very hard to trust anyone in those situations.

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By *ister90Man
2 weeks ago

Galway city


"Cancelling people at the last minute is just rude whoever it is. Men and women do it. Have had it happen to me too. I'd never book a hotel and travel unless I had met the person at least once. Its very hard to trust anyone in those situations. "

Hey Stranger

Ya I had done to me a couple of years and a profile ago in Leitrim... got the text as I walked through the hotel door ... was not a happy bunny

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By *exyScientistsCouple
2 weeks ago

Castlebar


"Cancelling people at the last minute is just rude whoever it is. Men and women do it. Have had it happen to me too. I'd never book a hotel and travel unless I had met the person at least once. Its very hard to trust anyone in those situations.

Hey Stranger

Ya I had done to me a couple of years and a profile ago in Leitrim... got the text as I walked through the hotel door ... was not a happy bunny "

Exactly

It's always a risk. Thanks for turning up BTW

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By *ogladyWoman
2 weeks ago

The bog


"Ah it's not the most difficult thing to be fair

I've got meets and I'm a complete bollocks

Happy Christmas"

U tricked me with chocolate tho.. 🍫🍫🍫

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By *ister90Man
2 weeks ago

Galway city


"Cancelling people at the last minute is just rude whoever it is. Men and women do it. Have had it happen to me too. I'd never book a hotel and travel unless I had met the person at least once. Its very hard to trust anyone in those situations.

Hey Stranger

Ya I had done to me a couple of years and a profile ago in Leitrim... got the text as I walked through the hotel door ... was not a happy bunny

Exactly

It's always a risk. Thanks for turning up BTW "

Yeah unfortunately.. Time wasters , other people, nerves, cold feet , there's always a risk.. It was pleasure meeting you .. and thank you for that kiss

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
2 weeks ago

Home

People it's hard being a single fella on here. I've got the verifications attended a social hope to get to more unfortunately work gets in the way.you can do everything right on here but unfortunately being a single fella is a major disadvantage on fab.

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

Its tough to meet let alone get a reply.

The double standards are shocking

..........

Hi OP. You really haven't provided any clarity on your opening remark, but yes, it's true that most men do not get replies. It's purely a numbers game where men outnumber the women on here and the women have the insurmountable task of trying to manage their ever-increasing inboxes.

It's also common knowledge that women will often look at the sender's profile before opening the message, let alone reading it and replying, if at all.

A message from a luckless man is like "tears in rain", lost and forgotten like a waif in an orphanage.

As for "double standards"...in what regards?

Just persevere OP, patience is key. I wish you all the luck.

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By *he KakapoMan
2 weeks ago

A nice rock


"People it's hard being a single fella on here. I've got the verifications attended a social hope to get to more unfortunately work gets in the way.you can do everything right on here but unfortunately being a single fella is a major disadvantage on fab."

What does doing everything right even mean? Because if it's not working it's clearly not doing everything right. There are plenty of single men on here that have no issues getting chats going and organising meets.

Sure they ratios make it more difficult than it would be if it was 1 man:100 woman but it's not the impossible task some make it out to be

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By *andrewsMan
2 weeks ago

Here and There

My best advice is what i was told when i attend my first fab event in Vanilla a few years ago.. "Go into this lifestyle with no expectations and you won't be disappointed , if something happens it happens".. its a mantra i have adopted to everyday life now. If anyone has joined this site thinking it's just a quick fuck and go then they have got the wrong end of the stick in my opinion..yes there are a few people like that on here but for the most part it's a community of wonderful people who are passionate about sex and making new friends and memories..

Again that's just my opinion and how i view the site

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By *ancy38Woman
2 weeks ago

galway


"Its tough to meet let alone get a reply.

The double standards are shocking "

You'd think that. I've been let down so many times in here now I only meet at parties and socials. Alot of men on here just want to chat, receive pics but when it comes to meeting up, they ghost you, deleted there accounts or make excuses.

If you want meets. I recommend you attend socials and parties and take it from there.

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By *ealitybitesMan
2 weeks ago

Belfast

I don't send messages but I know from experience that getting replies to messages I have sent has never been a problem and if I was meeting I wouldn't have too many problems arranging a meet.

That's not because I know lots of people here but much more to do with being consistent in everything I do and say on here and people are comfortable chatting to me.

It also takes a lot of patience and a determination to be myself and not try to tick everyone else's boxes. I often go against the grain in forum posts but others respect that much more than if I was to echo what others have to say.

The moment you start to see fab as a competition you've already lost.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
2 weeks ago

Home


"People it's hard being a single fella on here. I've got the verifications attended a social hope to get to more unfortunately work gets in the way.you can do everything right on here but unfortunately being a single fella is a major disadvantage on fab.

What does doing everything right even mean? Because if it's not working it's clearly not doing everything right. There are plenty of single men on here that have no issues getting chats going and organising meets.

Sure they ratios make it more difficult than it would be if it was 1 man:100 woman but it's not the impossible task some make it out to be"

it's nice to be nice and just for once think about how others feel on here we all feel a bit down every so often on here and like to vent because it is hard and then you have people like you having a go . There's word's I want to describe you but I can't use them on here.

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By *electableicecreamMan
2 weeks ago

The West


"People it's hard being a single fella on here. I've got the verifications attended a social hope to get to more unfortunately work gets in the way.you can do everything right on here but unfortunately being a single fella is a major disadvantage on fab.

What does doing everything right even mean? Because if it's not working it's clearly not doing everything right. There are plenty of single men on here that have no issues getting chats going and organising meets.

Sure they ratios make it more difficult than it would be if it was 1 man:100 woman but it's not the impossible task some make it out to beit's nice to be nice and just for once think about how others feel on here we all feel a bit down every so often on here and like to vent because it is hard and then you have people like you having a go . There's word's I want to describe you but I can't use them on here."

I would have the same question to be fair.

What does doing everything right mean?

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By *ealitybitesMan
2 weeks ago

Belfast


"People it's hard being a single fella on here. I've got the verifications attended a social hope to get to more unfortunately work gets in the way.you can do everything right on here but unfortunately being a single fella is a major disadvantage on fab.

What does doing everything right even mean? Because if it's not working it's clearly not doing everything right. There are plenty of single men on here that have no issues getting chats going and organising meets.

Sure they ratios make it more difficult than it would be if it was 1 man:100 woman but it's not the impossible task some make it out to beit's nice to be nice and just for once think about how others feel on here we all feel a bit down every so often on here and like to vent because it is hard and then you have people like you having a go . There's word's I want to describe you but I can't use them on here."

I'm curious how you could read any of the above as having a go?

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
2 weeks ago

Home

It's very easy for the fellas that have great confidence in themselves and who basically look like thor to say just try harder when they have no idea what it's like to come on here carrying weight,a bit on the shy side, have zero confidence and are useless at flirting and they came on here to try and get out of their comfort zone. But then fellas come on and say what you said and make them feel like shite.

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By *ealitybitesMan
2 weeks ago

Belfast


"It's very easy for the fellas that have great confidence in themselves and who basically look like thor to say just try harder when they have no idea what it's like to come on here carrying weight,a bit on the shy side, have zero confidence and are useless at flirting and they came on here to try and get out of their comfort zone. But then fellas come on and say what you said and make them feel like shite. "

I'm almost 60 years of age and I was 52 when I joined here with very little sexual experience and not a whole lot of self confidence and I've lots of knockbacks and negative experiences on fab but I've never complained about it because that just puts people off completely.

I've never said anything on here to put people down or have a go and I won't apologise if my experience makes someone else feel bad.

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By *ustBoWoman
2 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"It's very easy for the fellas that have great confidence in themselves and who basically look like thor to say just try harder when they have no idea what it's like to come on here carrying weight,a bit on the shy side, have zero confidence and are useless at flirting and they came on here to try and get out of their comfort zone. But then fellas come on and say what you said and make them feel like shite. "

I don't see anyone having a go or a dig at what you have said.

I see people giving their opinions and asking what do you mean by doing everything right ?

There is no right way to do fab. And trying to find this miracle one size fits all will not work.

And using excuses that it's just the guys with Thor's bodies have luck on here is a cop out and so far from the truth it shows a complete lack of understanding of what actually makes men stand out on here. And honestly shows a lack of understanding of most women like and what they may be looking for on here.

Don't blame others for your lack of luck on here. If things aren't working out change things up,doing the same thing over and over and it not working seems a pointless exercise. And this is for anyone who finds it hard going on here it's not gender specific.

And having a go at someone who simply posted what they thought well, that would be a red flag to many as well. If they had said something that was offensive I would understand biting back at them. But no one has said anything that should make you feel bad about yourself.

Yes numbers do go against men in here but plenty of ordinary everyday men on here have success

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By *xplorerandwandererMan
2 weeks ago

near you

It's a mindset thing, sometimes luck, sometimes timing.

I wouldn't get too hung up on it. As the saying goes all good things come to those who wait.

I've been on off the site, sometimes you can have a meet quite quickly, other times it takes ages.

Just be yourself if it happens great, if not just one of those things

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By *he KakapoMan
2 weeks ago

A nice rock


"People it's hard being a single fella on here. I've got the verifications attended a social hope to get to more unfortunately work gets in the way.you can do everything right on here but unfortunately being a single fella is a major disadvantage on fab.

What does doing everything right even mean? Because if it's not working it's clearly not doing everything right. There are plenty of single men on here that have no issues getting chats going and organising meets.

Sure they ratios make it more difficult than it would be if it was 1 man:100 woman but it's not the impossible task some make it out to beit's nice to be nice and just for once think about how others feel on here we all feel a bit down every so often on here and like to vent because it is hard and then you have people like you having a go . There's word's I want to describe you but I can't use them on here."

OK but here is the thing.

Venting about how hard it is in here is fair enough but it's also a very negative look.

And that in itself isn't really projecting your best self forward.

Also people can often come kn and vent about worries and insecurities they have and get great support but when it boils down to it's too hard to get a chat/ride on fab it just comes off as entitled, especially when they engage in the threads time and again and nothing about theor approach changes.

Feel free to call me what ever you like tho 👍

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By *avegoodMan
2 weeks ago

Drogheda

I am a guy on his own here and I have chatted to alot of people on here mostly guys looking for anything

Also a couple of couples lol hard to find like minded people but I hope I do

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By *b220Man
2 weeks ago

limerick

Not a dig at anyone but Being a single guy on here is what you make it and maybe lower the expectation of woman falling all over you . Sitting there complaining that your not getting meets is in no way going to change it.. get to socials and events. Coming from a couples profile to single male is interesting but at the end of the day put in some effort and you might be surprised.

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By *rs is a fab fuckCouple
2 weeks ago

City

Maybe if people read profiles before messaging, would stop wasting their and others time.

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
2 weeks ago

kinkytown


"Maybe if people read profiles before messaging, would stop wasting their and others time."

This

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By *b220Man
2 weeks ago

limerick


"Maybe if people read profiles before messaging, would stop wasting their and others time."
👍

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By *izzKathrynWoman
2 weeks ago

Drogheda

Your profile screams cheating on my wife some of us don't need the home wrecking drama. Also loads of socials to attend and mingle with people. It's a lifestyle not a pussy galore site. You get back what ya put in.

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By *o strings but a G-stringMan
2 weeks ago

city


"Its tough to meet let alone get a reply.

The double standards are shocking "

Probably difficult for women to wade through crap messages too. But when it works, it works. If you do get a meet, aim to be the guy a lady wants to meet again

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By *ungry CatCouple
2 weeks ago

Belfast


"Maybe if people read profiles before messaging, would stop wasting their and others time."

Too much to ask I'm afraid. There was a bloke who messaged us the other day, commenting on the amount of verifications we had and asking if we have slept with all of those people together or do we meet them all separately too. I remarked that he very obviously didn't read our profile, to which he responded "its too much" 🙄 if a few lines is too hard to read, what would make anyone assume that he is worth meeting at all...

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By *eestar10Man
2 weeks ago

cavan

Lads on here have gone to a new level. They obvs heard about site from someone an decided it’s simple easy sex

They ruin it for others

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By *eordie.Woman
2 weeks ago

The Sticks


"Lads on here have gone to a new level. They obvs heard about site from someone an decided it’s simple easy sex

They ruin it for others "

Noone ruins it for others

The lads who send crap, lazy messages or don't put effort into their profiles or attending socials actually make it easier for the good guys to stand out

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By *eestar10Man
2 weeks ago

cavan


"Lads on here have gone to a new level. They obvs heard about site from someone an decided it’s simple easy sex

They ruin it for others

Noone ruins it for others

The lads who send crap, lazy messages or don't put effort into their profiles or attending socials actually make it easier for the good guys to stand out "

Maybe ur right. But some of us been here long time and just fed up

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By *eordie.Woman
2 weeks ago

The Sticks


"Lads on here have gone to a new level. They obvs heard about site from someone an decided it’s simple easy sex

They ruin it for others

Noone ruins it for others

The lads who send crap, lazy messages or don't put effort into their profiles or attending socials actually make it easier for the good guys to stand out

Maybe ur right. But some of us been here long time and just fed up "

I'm around these parts more than a decade - have seen it all and heard it all

As per above comments from other posters, moaning will not attract potential meets

Positivity and a sense of humour will open more doors

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By *eestar10Man
2 weeks ago

cavan


"Lads on here have gone to a new level. They obvs heard about site from someone an decided it’s simple easy sex

They ruin it for others

Noone ruins it for others

The lads who send crap, lazy messages or don't put effort into their profiles or attending socials actually make it easier for the good guys to stand out

Maybe ur right. But some of us been here long time and just fed up

I'm around these parts more than a decade - have seen it all and heard it all

As per above comments from other posters, moaning will not attract potential meets

Positivity and a sense of humour will open more doors"

I’m not being negative

I just feel that way lol there is some amazing people on fab btw

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By *ueen_MeadhbhWoman
2 weeks ago

sligo


"Lads on here have gone to a new level. They obvs heard about site from someone an decided it’s simple easy sex

They ruin it for others

Noone ruins it for others

The lads who send crap, lazy messages or don't put effort into their profiles or attending socials actually make it easier for the good guys to stand out

Maybe ur right. But some of us been here long time and just fed up "

Fed up of what though?

That any woman you nessage hast cone running and dropped her knickers.

There's a % of guys who hear about this site, join thinking every woman is gagging for it, has no standards and will literally meet a complete stranger in a car park for a random fuck or invite a complete stranger into their room for a quick fuck.

Guys who can even take a good pic than think it's OK to send a dick pic in their first message.

Its a swingers site not a sex site.

The level of disrespect from.guys can actually be shocking ( and I know own it's not every guys)

I'm on off here over 7 years i think and its the same complaints from single guys, advice is given its ignored or used,the ones that ignore the advise usually disappear. The ones that use the advise start to enjoy the site.

I've stopped putting Amy effort into meeting because I'm fed up of the messers and time wasters but I know what works because of seen other men and women use the advice given.

There is the good and bad on here just like in life, I've hosted a few socials and attended loads and the single guys who go to them with no expectations other than good night out with like minded people are successful, the ones who make no effort.

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By *adger BrocMan
2 weeks ago

Co. Cork


"Lads on here have gone to a new level. They obvs heard about site from someone an decided it’s simple easy sex

They ruin it for others

Noone ruins it for others

The lads who send crap, lazy messages or don't put effort into their profiles or attending socials actually make it easier for the good guys to stand out

Maybe ur right. But some of us been here long time and just fed up

I'm around these parts more than a decade - have seen it all and heard it all

As per above comments from other posters, moaning will not attract potential meets

Positivity and a sense of humour will open more doors"

.....

👍 This.

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By *iscuits8Man
2 weeks ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham


"There's a % of guys who hear about this site, join thinking every woman is gagging for it, has no standards and will literally meet a complete stranger in a car park for a random fuck or invite a complete stranger into their room for a quick fuck."

Leave me alone!

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By *iSi74Man
2 weeks ago

Drogheda, Meath, Dublin


"Its tough to meet let alone get a reply.

The double standards are shocking "

Wow. Such self pity.

What socials have you attended. Have you arranged a coffee or cuppa meet with any one?

This is a lifestye site, not a quucky hook up site

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By *electableicecreamMan
2 weeks ago

The West

Fab is totally a sex site and a hook up site. It's a swingers site too.

It's totally fine to have expectations. Everyone here has expectations.

None of that means your gonna get laid though because standards exist and most people like to fuck people they find attractive.

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By *affa31Woman
2 weeks ago

Galway

Fab is whatever the hell you want it to be. Don’t listen to anyone who says it’s for this or that, row your own boat and use it whatever way works for you. That might change over time and that’s fine.

If what you’re doing isn’t working for you or yielding the results you want, then step back and reevaluate. After all, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Fab also isn’t for everyone. It rarely yields quick results. Effort is needed from everyone. Read profiles, don’t ignore their boundaries and don’t shove your genitals in their faces until they’ve requested that you do so!

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By *ueen_MeadhbhWoman
2 weeks ago

sligo


"There's a % of guys who hear about this site, join thinking every woman is gagging for it, has no standards and will literally meet a complete stranger in a car park for a random fuck or invite a complete stranger into their room for a quick fuck.

Leave me alone! "

Ah sure you know it's only want to dip ya in

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