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"What's the story with people with all their verifications hidden? When asked why they say the other person requested it for discretion purposes. Really? Everyone one of them? Given that almost no profiles on fab are identifiable I find this very odd. Anyone got a better explanation? " One possible explanation (for women and couples profiles) is that it's a fake profile and the one veri is from the male who created the profile. | |||
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"What's the story with people with all their verifications hidden? When asked why they say the other person requested it for discretion purposes. Really? Everyone one of them? Given that almost no profiles on fab are identifiable I find this very odd. Anyone got a better explanation? " I hide all my veri’s, I prefer to keep it quiet and keep the gossiping and amateur detectives away from me | |||
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"What's the story with people with all their verifications hidden? When asked why they say the other person requested it for discretion purposes. Really? Everyone one of them? Given that almost no profiles on fab are identifiable I find this very odd. Anyone got a better explanation? I hide all my veri’s, I prefer to keep it quiet and keep the gossiping and amateur detectives away from me " Why do you verify others then? We've displayed yours, so the gossiping continues  | |||
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"This week I had a message from a guy. He was asking about a woman using her first name who verified me at least a year ago and had deleted her account. I only keep my veris visible because they're pretty honest. None are super sexual that I can remember." This is exactly why I keep verifications hidden. Men asking other men about me, or even making comments to me directly about why I'd meet so and so but won't meet them  | |||
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"It’s probably a flaw that Mr and Mrs Fab need to look at to be fair. You can verify anyone and anyone can verify you, provided you are a paid member/or have been verified but any verifications you have you cannot delete them, you can just hide them….. I have a hidden verification and sadly the lovely lady who left it has since passed away so people have many many reasons why they choose to hide certain things. I think it is important to remember that it is entirely the choice of the account holder to display what they want, when they want to, and not be judged or cross examined 🙏 Amen " Being a paid member doesn't change having to to be verified to verify others. 🙏 Hail Satan | |||
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"This week I had a message from a guy. He was asking about a woman using her first name who verified me at least a year ago and had deleted her account. I only keep my veris visible because they're pretty honest. None are super sexual that I can remember. This is exactly why I keep verifications hidden. Men asking other men about me, or even making comments to me directly about why I'd meet so and so but won't meet them "I like looking at veris to know if I'm somebodies type or what matters most to them. This place can be so unhealthy though, and it's a rare occasion where I can say it's not just a single male issue. | |||
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"Lots of reasons: The whole world doesn't need to know, everyone you ve met. Too many connections in a small community, too many overlaps, better to stay discreet. " I've two of his exes I'd like to avoid so I like veris being shown and I'll ask for them to be temporarily shown so I can rule them out or at least try (I know one of their usernames and the other one I dont because their old couple account is inactive but I'm sure she's rejoined). Northern Ireland is too small sometimes. | |||
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Previous profiles I showed my verifs. | |||
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And then you get the people who trawl through veris and try to meet those others have met in order to prove they are better. 
So ye to me anyhow veris mean very little and should be taken with a pinch of salt and people have a right to display or not display whatever ones they want without having to explain why. | |||
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"We like to keep the number of ours shown at 69 for the fun of it loads hidden though obvs"Maybe someday for the rest of us. It could be a code...🤣🤣🤣🤣 | |||
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"What's the story with people with all their verifications hidden? When asked why they say the other person requested it for discretion purposes. Really? Everyone one of them? Given that almost no profiles on fab are identifiable I find this very odd. Anyone got a better explanation? " I've had 2 other previous profiles over many years on and off here and have always kept my verifications private, because they are no one elses business apart from myself and the person who wrote it. I have also not left verifications for others for similar reasons. I understand that verifications are used as a reference for a lot of people before they choose to meet some and no visible verifications can be a no go for many, but I will continue to do my own thing and if it reduces my probability then so be it.... So to answer your question, I don't find it odd at all tbh OP.. | |||
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"I've had to hide mine because I've just found out that a fake account only opened in the last few days an then disappeared as quick was messaging my verifications and asking questions about me and my meetings. I've also heard a seen a woman also meeting men from my verifications and asking odd stuff relating to me. I don't know if they are connected or what but it's turning me into a paranoid mess!!!The world is full of strange people and nothing surprises or shocks me anymore!" I used to get weird messages like this. But always thought spam | |||
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"I've had to hide mine because I've just found out that a fake account only opened in the last few days an then disappeared as quick was messaging my verifications and asking questions about me and my meetings. I've also heard a seen a woman also meeting men from my verifications and asking odd stuff relating to me. I don't know if they are connected or what but it's turning me into a paranoid mess!!!The world is full of strange people and nothing surprises or shocks me anymore! I used to get weird messages like this. But always thought spam" I unfortunately know this to be fact an real  | |||
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"I've also heard an seen a woman also meeting men from my verifications and asking odd stuff relating to me. " Sorry but this is very strange behaviour 👀 Sounds like they have a weird fascination with you, so much so, that they are willing to meet men you've met to 'walk on your shoes' per say...😲 So, what's your real life Netflix documentary name? 🤔😬🤣 | |||
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"I've also heard an seen a woman also meeting men from my verifications and asking odd stuff relating to me. Sorry but this is very strange behaviour 👀 Sounds like they have a weird fascination with you, so much so, that they are willing to meet men you've met to 'walk on your shoes' per say...😲 So, what's your real life Netflix documentary name? 🤔😬🤣 " I know it's quiet concerning. It had gotten to four people on my verifications, so I hid them then. I seem to just attach nutters. | |||
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" I know it's quiet concerning. It had gotten to four people on my verifications, so I hid them then. I seem to just attach nutters. "I think there is likely a higher ratio of nutters on here than whats representative of the wider society in general, so don't be too harsh on yourself 🤔 Maybe it's your toes that they are fascinated with? 🤔😬🤣🤣 | |||
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"I'm surprised nobody mentioned this one. I feel that SOME hide their verifications, purely because of the volume of them and don't want to be seen in a certain light." You'd still see the Verification Summary even if you hide them? | |||
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"I'm surprised nobody mentioned this one. I feel that SOME hide their verifications, purely because of the volume of them and don't want to be seen in a certain light. You'd still see the Verification Summary even if you hide them?" Not necessarily. You can hide them all and not show a summary. The profile just has a verification tick. I think I'm right on that. | |||
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"I'm surprised nobody mentioned this one. I feel that SOME hide their verifications, purely because of the volume of them and don't want to be seen in a certain light." Is this body count shaming? | |||
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"I'm surprised nobody mentioned this one. I feel that SOME hide their verifications, purely because of the volume of them and don't want to be seen in a certain light. Is this body count shaming? " Sure sounds like it | |||
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" I know it's quiet concerning. It had gotten to four people on my verifications, so I hid them then. I seem to just attach nutters.
I think there is likely a higher ratio of nutters on here than whats representative of the wider society in general, so don't be too harsh on yourself 🤔
Maybe it's your toes that they are fascinated with? 🤔😬🤣🤣"I had to hide my photos last week too sure!! | |||
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"I'm surprised nobody mentioned this one. I feel that SOME hide their verifications, purely because of the volume of them and don't want to be seen in a certain light. Is this body count shaming? " I don't see it as such. It is a direct response to the OP's query. If you think otherwise. I'd love to hear your reasoning. | |||
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"I think all verification needs to be shown. I meet someone last year and there verification wasn't shown. I left the meet in a complete state with blood running down my legs. He was on something and I didn't know until it was to late. Now I don't meet anyone if there verification is hidden. To me it's a dangerous situation " Apologies to hear such a vile thing. | |||
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"I think all verification needs to be shown. I meet someone last year and there verification wasn't shown. I left the meet in a complete state with blood running down my legs. He was on something and I didn't know until it was to late. Now I don't meet anyone if there verification is hidden. To me it's a dangerous situation " Hey, sorry to hear about that terrible encounter you had. It sounded horrible, traumatic and an awful experience 🫂 I'm personally not into reviewing people like they are an amazon product or vice versa. I would solely base my opinion on my interaction with them on here or during a social meet to decide if I was comfortable around them (and them around me). I trust my own judgement of character and gut feeling over other people's reviews tbh.. | |||
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" I know it's quiet concerning. It had gotten to four people on my verifications, so I hid them then. I seem to just attach nutters.
I think there is likely a higher ratio of nutters on here than whats representative of the wider society in general, so don't be too harsh on yourself 🤔
Maybe it's your toes that they are fascinated with? 🤔😬🤣🤣
I had to hide my photos last week too sure!! "That's a shame. Everyone should have the ability to enjoy themselves on here without being targeted by trolls. Hopefully they piss off soon and leave you alone 🫂👍 | |||
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"I think all verification needs to be shown. I meet someone last year and there verification wasn't shown. I left the meet in a complete state with blood running down my legs. He was on something and I didn't know until it was to late. Now I don't meet anyone if there verification is hidden. To me it's a dangerous situation " That reads like r*pe to me! You may pass it off as asa*Lt but when sex is involved it's more. I hope I picked that up wrong. Please seek help and support! | |||
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"Has anyone ever seen a bad veri displayed on this site…… so do they actually hold much water? Veris from socials, do they hold as much water as veris from actual plays…….?" Some people have displayed bad veries as a joke in the past that were deliberately written that way. I don't have any play veries and wouldn't display them if I did. My verifications are there to show that I'm real and fairly social. It's nobody's business what happens after that. | |||
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"While they tend to be on the overly flattering side, we like verifications as a little insight on what impressions/vibes the person(s) gives to others. Profile text is how people perceive themselves, verifications are a small window into how others perceive them. It's not perfect, but it can give a slightly better picture. Abd if nothing else, it certainly gives a lot more confidence that the people behind the profiles exist and do show up." I like this. I know they aren't fool proof but would still rather have them. | |||
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" I know it's quiet concerning. It had gotten to four people on my verifications, so I hid them then. I seem to just attach nutters.
I think there is likely a higher ratio of nutters on here than whats representative of the wider society in general, so don't be too harsh on yourself 🤔
Maybe it's your toes that they are fascinated with? 🤔😬🤣🤣
I had to hide my photos last week too sure!!
That's a shame. Everyone should have the ability to enjoy themselves on here without being targeted by trolls. Hopefully they piss off soon and leave you alone 🫂👍"Hopefully. And thank you x | |||
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"It’s probably a flaw that Mr and Mrs Fab need to look at to be fair. You can verify anyone and anyone can verify you, provided you are a paid member/or have been verified but any verifications you have you cannot delete them, you can just hide them….. I have a hidden verification and sadly the lovely lady who left it has since passed away so people have many many reasons why they choose to hide certain things. I think it is important to remember that it is entirely the choice of the account holder to display what they want, when they want to, and not be judged or cross examined 🙏 Amen " I guess we are referring to Male profiles in particular, guys messaging and telling us how experienced they are yet having no visible verifications. Then it's I've yet to see anyone with a profile that made them identifiable in real life so I'm not really buying into the privacy aspect either. | |||
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