FabSwingers.com forum: Male Half of a couple

By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

I get that some couples don’t want to meet single men, although I find it funny the ratio of single men to single women is huge. Happy to play with a woman but god forbid the female gets a man.

Before anyone jumps down my throat I’ve met a fair few females from couples who’s other half don’t know “he doesn’t like seeing me with men”. Clearly lots of women are happy with their partner and are bi or curious which is cool so this doesn’t apply.

Obviously this doesn’t apply to all couples but as the years roll on this is becoming more of a thing.

20 years I’m in this scene and the decline in actual “swinging couples” is crazy. I was on as a couple for a fair number of years and not once was there jealousy or anything, if the fella invited along rails the good lady then everyone’s a winner.

I love meeting couples but sadly it’s becoming a dying sport if you will.

(I’ll likely take this down in ten minutes but for the shits and giggles and over reactions I’ll leave it up a bit).

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
9 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

As far as I remember this site has always been a majority single men. I'm talking profiles on the site.

Once you get into actual attending things and meeting then the couples and women probably overtake the single men in numbers significantly.

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By *ucumberPumpMan
9 weeks ago

Waterford

Feels to me its more single men now then years ago. I as on here maybe 7 years ago and it was easier meeting people. Much harder now. But maybe i'm too old and wrinkly lol.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
9 weeks ago

There and Here

I can only say that's not my experience of things however, there is often a lack of understanding of couples' dynamics; there's a strong assumption amongst many single men that any guy in a couple (who is looking to meet single guys) is a cuck, that he's in some way unable to satisfy his wife/partner, that she needs a bull to "fuck her properly". The prevalence of guys wading in like this is super off-putting.

As an aside, you can't remove a thread once you've posted it - only a forum mod can.

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By *asuallyChilledMan
9 weeks ago

Drogheda

My thinking is that single men, particularly younger single men, discovered or were told about the site and they see it as a way to get laid. There is no swinging in mind for them. They just want to have sex with women, single or attached.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

This is exactly what I’m talking about though. What happened to just joining a couple to join in the fun as an addition.

Have single men ruined it?

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By *he KakapoMan
9 weeks ago

A nice rock

From what I've seen and read there are still plenty couples happy to meet single lads.

Not my thing so couldn't tell you if it's any more or less than it was 15years ago, but it doesn't seem to be

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
9 weeks ago

Portstewart

Having single males try to get all in charge and dom and they just turn nasty. Lollipops answer is why we don't meet single males hubby isn't a cuck and in no way do either of us want any kind of bull or alpha type trying to control or tell us what to do. There is only one person who I will submit to in any way and that is hubby

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

Again, like I replied to that comment.

When did it change? Is it the fault of single men turning up and behaving like that that’s put you off?

Because it definitely has changed.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
9 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

"Again, like I replied to that comment.

When did it change? Is it the fault of single men turning up and behaving like that that’s put you off?

Because it definitely has changed. "

I think it's always been like that

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
9 weeks ago

There and Here

"This is exactly what I’m talking about though. What happened to just joining a couple to join in the fun as an addition.

Have single men ruined it? "

For some, maybe.

However, I think a guy that approaches a couple with a modicum of empathy, and he is attractive to that couple in all the various ways, will stand out even more as someone they might like to meet. That was certainly the case for us on our couple's profile.

Of course there then will be all the other potential barriers to meeting to get past.

There are absolutely couples meeting single men but they can't possibly meet all the single men that message them, even the compatible ones.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

I’m not for one second saying I’d expect every couple I just roll out the red carpet when I message.

My point is I think there are less couples actually meeting single men.

Maybe I’m wrong and I’m just a grumpy old man.

Have fun

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By *asuallyChilledMan
9 weeks ago

Drogheda

I also think a lot of it comes down to availability and individual needs. You have to consider that single males are probably the group with the most available time and the most want on them. Therefore most of the activity is from single males and it would always appear like that is the most active group on the platform.

I think though that there is a problem when it comes to single males who don't understand what a top is what a dog is and you simply have these aggressive overbearing types who do give a bad name to single males.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

I’d agree with you on the first bit on availability and some folk using it as a sex site opposed to swinging.

I’ll stand over my point though that there are less couples meeting single men than there used to be.

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By *og-ManMan
9 weeks ago

somewhere

Wouldn't have a clue what the site was like in the good old days as some people call it but I do know the world changed so people had to change too

The cost of living crisis means more people want more bangs for their bucks so organised parties either private or advertised give you a better chance of good sex without the worry that comes with a single bloke

A party has sex on tap if you're interested and you won't have forked out the cost of a hotel room usually

Having said that if you look at the hot Irish photos there's lots of couple's meeting single men

They just don't use the forums to look for them

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By *antra MassageMan
9 weeks ago

city

Ive been on this site and another site for a few years. I've had no problem meeting couples as a single man. I seem to have mastered the very delicate art of being appealing, in different ways to the male and female of the couple. However, i have noticed s change in swinging culture on this site. A huge influx of young single guys, who arent swingers, but looking for sex. Thats evolution. If you are, perhaps an older single man, you need to adapt to the different culture, evolve, of become extinct.

I suppose it's good to ask a couple.... WHAT DO YOU WANT?. And adapt your profile, and your searching to that. There are many couples who only want a single man. Make it easy for them to find you.

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By *ewcorkcpl23Couple
9 weeks ago

Cork

We regard ourselves as traditional swinging couple. We just love to see each other having fun and it's what we get off on. Herself is bi , himself is straight not fab straight actually straight lol but our big issue is we don't have time to attend party's or socials so that effects us greatly on here. We would love to meet a couple or couples similar to ourselves but it's hard got too on here as people base things on assumptions thinking if we can't attend party's then we must be fake which can be very frustrating here. We were on a great couples only telegram group but it unfortunately got closed down by admin as they didn't have time to run it.

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By *ofusplusCouple
9 weeks ago

Limerick

What i think has changed is HOW couples meet single guys. The social scene has exploded , especially since Covid and the single guys who go to lots of events are reaping the rewards.

Those of you who don't go are possibly losing out.

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By *orthsouth4957Couple
9 weeks ago

swords

We do not meet single men because I am a bi woman and we joined here for me to explore my bi side and I have no interest in meeting men, if hubby had his way I'd be meeting lots of single men. He says the thought of me with other guys is a big turn on for him but he is happy what ever I do as long as I am happy. I just want other bi woman.

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By *panishRebelMan
9 weeks ago

Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland

"What i think has changed is HOW couples meet single guys. The social scene has exploded , especially since Covid and the single guys who go to lots of events are reaping the rewards.

Those of you who don't go are possibly losing out."

I think you nailed it there. Meeting people first, so they get a measure of trust of you changes the dynamics. After meeting people for a first time, if you make a good impression and everyone feels comfortable, then things flow well.

There are always exceptions, but this mirrors life outside fab too.

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By *ionycusMan
9 weeks ago

Babylon

"We do not meet single men because I am a bi woman and we joined here for me to explore my bi side and I have no interest in meeting men, if hubby had his way I'd be meeting lots of single men. He says the thought of me with other guys is a big turn on for him but he is happy what ever I do as long as I am happy. I just want other bi woman. "

#luckyman

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

Very well put. Hadn’t thought of it like that. Makes sense.

I do go. That’s the only place I meet couples.

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