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"How do you know it's time to walk away from a friendship that seems to have fallen apart,? " If things seem to be a one way street where all the texts, calls etc seem to be coming from you and nothing reciprocated, id be pretty much done | |||
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"How do you know it's time to walk away from a friendship that seems to have fallen apart,? If things seem to be a one way street where all the texts, calls etc seem to be coming from you and nothing reciprocated, id be pretty much done" Agree | |||
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"How do you know it's time to walk away from a friendship that seems to have fallen apart,? " ...define friendship? | |||
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"How do you know it's time to walk away from a friendship that seems to have fallen apart,? If things seem to be a one way street where all the texts, calls etc seem to be coming from you and nothing reciprocated, id be pretty much done" Agreed. Also if I feel I’m sharing life things and they share nothing with me, doubts creep in. Honestly I have 3 true friends. Friends since childhood, lots of acquaintances, but only 3 that I can count on. | |||
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"How do you know it's time to walk away from a friendship that seems to have fallen apart,? " When you ask this question. | |||
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"How do you know it's time to walk away from a friendship that seems to have fallen apart,? When you ask this question." I did think of this answer when I wrote the question | |||
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"How do you know it's time to walk away from a friendship that seems to have fallen apart,? When you ask this question. I did think of this answer when I wrote the question" There are certain people to avoid in life, the funny thing is when you meet them first you don't realize what they are truly like. (Bill Eddy 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities) is an excellent read. Avoiding high conflict personalities. Savage cabbage. | |||
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"A so-called friend of mine treated me very badly recently. She knew my personal circumstances yet acted totally ignorant to all that. I cut her off. I've never fallen out with a friend, ever. Its her. She tried reaching out to me in relation to an IG post I put up about sth personal to me. I ignored her. Dont need a 'frend' like that in my life. " totally agree a true friend stays through to give you support when you need it the most in life .life is very tough for us all at the moment but once we are there for people it means a lot if one sided so called friends time to give them the heave ho no matter if there lifelong friends | |||
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"How do you know it's time to walk away from a friendship that seems to have fallen apart,? " When it's become a constant drag to keep the friendship going. When you don't even look forward to sending or receiving a message. When you sigh When you see the name coming up. I think at that stage it's fizzling out anyway. | |||
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"How do you know it's time to walk away from a friendship that seems to have fallen apart,? " If you feel its time to walk away from it then it's probably time to go,drop them, | |||
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"How do you know it's time to walk away from a friendship that seems to have fallen apart,? " Friendship requires a bit of effort, but it shouldn't be a head f*xk. Everyone has their moments, but if you notice a pattern it's prob time to walk away | |||
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"Friends come and go , we all do it , different life stages different needs , be your own best friend, I don't hang on to dead wood, new people come along all the time need space for them to connect. Dead.wood gets in the way of that . Luther "100% friends change, so do we. | |||
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"A slow fade is a good option. No need for conflict. Just stop contact. " Agree with this  | |||
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"How do you know it's time to walk away from a friendship that seems to have fallen apart,? " Whenever the trust has gone! | |||
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"How do you know it's time to walk away from a friendship that seems to have fallen apart,? Friendship requires a bit of effort, but it shouldn't be a head f*xk. Everyone has their moments, but if you notice a pattern it's prob time to walk away" Have to say agree here too | |||
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"Thanks everyone I've decided to walk away as I have done so much for this person over the years, lent her a large sum of money which took over a year to get back even though she had 2 holidays during the year. Took time of work to help her out and she has had a go at me about not keeping in touch. Will just fade away as I have my own struggles and honestly can't be arsed being the one making the attempts. " If its one way the whole time then it's probably for the best It's a dose being taken for granted, | |||
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"Thanks everyone I've decided to walk away as I have done so much for this person over the years, lent her a large sum of money which took over a year to get back even though she had 2 holidays during the year. Took time of work to help her out and she has had a go at me about not keeping in touch. Will just fade away as I have my own struggles and honestly can't be arsed being the one making the attempts. " Do what feels right for you. It sounds like you have made your decision, stick to it. If you're making that much effort and it's not appreciated, it's not a great friendship, it's best to walk away then. xx | |||
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"Thanks everyone I've decided to walk away as I have done so much for this person over the years, lent her a large sum of money which took over a year to get back even though she had 2 holidays during the year. Took time of work to help her out and she has had a go at me about not keeping in touch. Will just fade away as I have my own struggles and honestly can't be arsed being the one making the attempts. " It's probably the right decision but maybe stay open to her coming back when she realises what she has lost. Just don't make it too easy for her. Good luck with it xx | |||
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"Thanks everyone I've decided to walk away as I have done so much for this person over the years, lent her a large sum of money which took over a year to get back even though she had 2 holidays during the year. Took time of work to help her out and she has had a go at me about not keeping in touch. Will just fade away as I have my own struggles and honestly can't be arsed being the one making the attempts. " Best of luck with your decision. Onwards and upwards.. believe in yourself and don't look back x | |||
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"Losing a friendship is hard, there is a grief attached to it. But if they are no longer a genuine friend, then it's best not to entertain any falsness. " Well spoken!! Sorry, actually written!! | |||
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" If things seem to be a one way street where all the texts, calls etc seem to be coming from you and nothing reciprocated, id be pretty much done" I would very much agree with this as much as it hurts me to do so but I am giving on a number of people because of situations like this. Some are quick to ring, text or call to the house when they want something but not so quick just to make contact just for a quick chat. | |||
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"I've never walked away from a friendship, but with moving to various countries over the years and circumstances changing generally due to work, friendships have come and gone. I've come to learn about effort, and it's not all one way. If you have to question it, or feel that you're doing the running, then stand still and see what happens. 28 years ago I walked out of a bar in Kenmare telling my buddies I am done with this lifestyle, I have to change it. (Back then it was a serious drinking town) I lived with some of them, worked with the others. To this day, not one bothered to question why or what was I going through, and they' re still around there drinking away. But yet, if I go to that bar today, they'll be there still. They didn't change, I did. I accepted I made the changes which affected the friendships, but did they meet me halfway? I thought if friendship meant anything, they would have made some effort to understand. Nope. I kind of blamed them without realising too. I was only looking for more out of my life at that time, than sitting in a pub. So at what cost are some friendships? Some changes just have to be made. If the friendship matters, the others must step up. I always leave the door open for anyone to walk through and a lot of friendships are not as close as before, or have evolved in different directions. Others have become deeper over time. I never take anything personal with regards to friendships. They are what they are." Very wise words  | |||
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"How do you know it's time to walk away from a friendship that seems to have fallen apart,? " Never ever walk away from a friend. | |||
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"How do you know it's time to walk away from a friendship that seems to have fallen apart,? Never ever walk away from a friend." Sometimes you have to for your own peace It is hard but sometimes it has to be done | |||
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"How do you know it's time to walk away from a friendship that seems to have fallen apart,? Never ever walk away from a friend. Sometimes you have to for your own peace It is hard but sometimes it has to be done" Yeah, I agree with this. | |||
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"I'm disagreeing with most people tbh. You don't know what's going on in her life or in her head. As I previously said, walk away for your own peace of mind but be open to her coming back if/when she is ready. Be firm that you can't tolerate her behaviour, things need to change etc etc. You've been too tolerant in the past and she needs a reality check. She may well need you, but she doesn't realise it yet. It's a tough one, it may not be as simple as cutting ties permanently. Only you know what to do. " Nah , Cut ties , Burn the bitch before they take more of your energy. Forgiveness is awarded not taken. Create boundaries, label people appropriately, friend, colleague, acquaintance. I disagree with your approach. | |||
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"I'm disagreeing with most people tbh. You don't know what's going on in her life or in her head. As I previously said, walk away for your own peace of mind but be open to her coming back if/when she is ready. Be firm that you can't tolerate her behaviour, things need to change etc etc. You've been too tolerant in the past and she needs a reality check. She may well need you, but she doesn't realise it yet. It's a tough one, it may not be as simple as cutting ties permanently. Only you know what to do. Nah , Cut ties , Burn the bitch before they take more of your energy. Forgiveness is awarded not taken. Create boundaries, label people appropriately, friend, colleague, acquaintance. I disagree with your approach." Ok | |||
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"I'm disagreeing with most people tbh. You don't know what's going on in her life or in her head. As I previously said, walk away for your own peace of mind but be open to her coming back if/when she is ready. Be firm that you can't tolerate her behaviour, things need to change etc etc. You've been too tolerant in the past and she needs a reality check. She may well need you, but she doesn't realise it yet. It's a tough one, it may not be as simple as cutting ties permanently. Only you know what to do. " I have found in the pass they don't tend to come back to you these so called friends they take with no care to how they have treated you as a friend just my experience | |||
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"I'm disagreeing with most people tbh. You don't know what's going on in her life or in her head. As I previously said, walk away for your own peace of mind but be open to her coming back if/when she is ready. Be firm that you can't tolerate her behaviour, things need to change etc etc. You've been too tolerant in the past and she needs a reality check. She may well need you, but she doesn't realise it yet. It's a tough one, it may not be as simple as cutting ties permanently. Only you know what to do. " The problem is I'm the one that's needed the friend and she hasn't been there. I have let people walk all over me and gone out of my way for a lot of people over the years but yet at my darkest very few of them so called friends were at my door. | |||
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"I'm disagreeing with most people tbh. You don't know what's going on in her life or in her head. As I previously said, walk away for your own peace of mind but be open to her coming back if/when she is ready. Be firm that you can't tolerate her behaviour, things need to change etc etc. You've been too tolerant in the past and she needs a reality check. She may well need you, but she doesn't realise it yet. It's a tough one, it may not be as simple as cutting ties permanently. Only you know what to do. The problem is I'm the one that's needed the friend and she hasn't been there. I have let people walk all over me and gone out of my way for a lot of people over the years but yet at my darkest very few of them so called friends were at my door. " Ok it's clearer now. They weren't friends at all really. | |||
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"Thanks everyone I've decided to walk away as I have done so much for this person over the years, lent her a large sum of money which took over a year to get back even though she had 2 holidays during the year. Took time of work to help her out and she has had a go at me about not keeping in touch. Will just fade away as I have my own struggles and honestly can't be arsed being the one making the attempts. I think you have made the correct decision. Like a lot of bumps along the road of life - give it time. If it really is a true friendship then nature will bring you both back together again eventually. In the meantime, enjoy your life and cherish the good moments that you both had. Happy Christmas. " | |||
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"Female friendships are so different to most men. For me, any Man who acted like women do in friendships is someone I could never be friends with! I have many friends that I rarely see. I might meet them once every year or so. I will meet them this Christmas. I have close friends that I don't see regularly as we're all very busy with family, work, life etc. We socialise when we can. I think men can go a much longer time without meeting friends, and it won't mean anything. We don't overthink it, we haven't been avoiding each other on purpose, we just had other priorities and we understand that our friends have other priorities. It would be a very serious situation that I would need or expect a friend for help. I'd never walk away from a friendship on purpose. Maybe you just need to see things from a different angle!?" I would disagree to some extent. I accept that male friendship can be different and there are people I don't see for months or more and we just pick up where we left off but at the same time I have walked away from many friendships for exactly that reason. I don't have a single friend from childhood or school and all my friends are people I've only known 10-15 years or less. I walked away from people I was extremely close to when at school and supported them through very difficult times when they lost family members and in one tragic case a very young spouse. What I came to realise over time though was that it was all one way and when I was having difficulties and needed their help and support they were nowhere to be seen. Not even so much as a phonecall. Then they would try to pick up again at a later stage when it suited them. I just gave up checking in on them and haven't spoken to anyone within that group of 6 or 7 friends for more than 30 years. It was no surprise that once I stopped making the effort no one else could be arsed. My circle of friends now is tiny but I know that if I need anything they are only a phonecall away and they are all people who are prepared to make the effort and not just sponge off me. | |||
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" The problem is I'm the one that's needed the friend and she hasn't been there. I have let people walk all over me and gone out of my way for a lot of people over the years but yet at my darkest very few of them so called friends were at my door. " OP seems like you already have an answer to the question you posed but to me feels like you had already figured it out within the thread as quoted above.. True friendship isn't a one way relationship. I find, a real friend is there for you when you need them, sometimes before you even know you need them yourself. That's why true friendships are so hard to come by as well as retain when we get older and busier in day to day life 🫂 | |||
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"The longer you stay on the wrong train, the more expensive it is to get home" Ooooh I like that xxx | |||
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"The longer you stay on the wrong train, the more expensive it is to get home Ooooh I like that xxx" Yeah its a good one .. goes for anything too | |||
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"The longer you stay on the wrong train, the more expensive it is to get home Ooooh I like that xxx Yeah its a good one .. goes for anything too" Definately resonates after this year Roll on 2025 xx | |||
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"The longer you stay on the wrong train, the more expensive it is to get home Ooooh I like that xxx Yeah its a good one .. goes for anything too" Definately resonates after this year Roll on 2025 xx | |||
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"How do you know it's time to walk away from a friendship that seems to have fallen apart,? " Some friendships run their course and then it's all about talking about how "great" the past was again and again  Myself, I don't do nostalgia too often...
Other friendships have never been properly tested and can crumble after even the smallest disagreement so walking away can be healthy..
For me, if someone is disloyal or dishonest, "its been knowing you" but its down to knowing if someone is threading on the values you hold dear..
Friendships like meets should be about quality of interaction and not quantity of people | |||
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