FabSwingers.com forum: Red lines

By *asual777 OP Man
13 weeks ago

i travel all over

What are your red lines or never events in terms of fab meets

Mine are bareback or use of illegal substances

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By *heviking80Man
13 weeks ago

Cork/Dublin

Overly d*unk a few drinks completey fine.but way over the top d*unk is a big no.

A good few years ago I got a message from a well verified women asking if I could meet the next day, and if I had experience in fisting. Each to their own but that was also a line I did not want to cross.

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
13 weeks ago

kinkytown

Narcotics in general. We avoid people who we know use them.

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By *asual777 OP Man
13 weeks ago

i travel all over

People I have chatted to have stated that their red lines might include things like

Meeting near where they live

Meeting in someone else’s home or theirs

And being too close to someone of the same sex such as DP/DVP

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By *izzKathrynWoman
13 weeks ago

Drogheda

Bareback pics, mention off etc...

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By *izzKathrynWoman
13 weeks ago

Drogheda

People who don't seem to understand consent & give messages of what there gonna do step by step

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By *electableicecreamMan
13 weeks ago

The West

Excessive d*unkenness. I'm not going to bed with someone who is shit faced. Unless we know each other well and I am shit faced too.

Had a coffee last month with a woman who had two pints of Guinness at 11am while I had a flat white. I didn't think we were compatible.

People who don't look like their photos. This is common. If you've aged 15 years since you've posted your face pic it's not happening.

Possessiveness and jealousy are a hard no as well.

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By *ot really famousMan
13 weeks ago

monaghan

People over 95

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By *unflowerWoman
13 weeks ago

Dublin

People with fragile masculinity.

People with fragile ego.

People who are racists or don’t think that non-binary gender is a thing.

People who think that feminists hate men.

Bad hygiene.

People who don’t read books.

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By *izzKathrynWoman
13 weeks ago

Drogheda

2 pints of stout in the morning wowwww

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By *ot really famousMan
13 weeks ago

monaghan

"2 pints of stout in the morning wowwww"
...and on to the Chinese I suppose ..

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By *electableicecreamMan
13 weeks ago

The West

"2 pints of stout in the morning wowwww"

Don't get me wrong, I have plenty of friends that enjoy day drinking or the hair of the dog.

The thing that struck me was the fact that she had two pints at 11am while meeting a guy she didn't know for a coffee social!

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
13 weeks ago

City Centre

Bad teeth, bad hygiene. No

D*unk or high. No

I won't meet at anyone's home unless I know them very well as a friend.

I never accommodate. You'd have to be pretty special to be asked to visit mine.

I don't like anyone invading my personal space when meeting for a social. Keep your hands to yourself.

Anyone who talks to me about physically hurting me.

People who persistently ask me personal questions.

Possessiveness or jealousy, although I haven't come across that, thankfully.

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By *rRiosMan
13 weeks ago

dublin

It’s getting to the point where I consider people who reply to me a massive red flag!

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By *agic mike1Man
13 weeks ago

around

People who ask questions but won't answer the same type of questions in return or reply with another question.

Oh I'm sure I've a few more!!

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By *astelloWoman
13 weeks ago

Far far away

Won't accommodate unless lots of social meets.

Anal not my thing

Smokers

Bad hygiene

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
13 weeks ago

ireland

The obvious ones

Bareback

Drugs

Also we would never have fabbers to our home-def no no !

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

"2 pints of stout in the morning wowwww"

Lightweight lol

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By *og-ManMan
13 weeks ago

somewhere

Smokers...kissed someone a few years ago that told me they didn't smoke ...realised they did and my mouth had a reaction to the nicotine and I puked on the way home ...not an experience to be repeated

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By *ueen_MeadhbhWoman
13 weeks ago

sligo

At the moment , everything fab related is a red line

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By *iresmillyWoman
13 weeks ago

Stillorgan

Hard limits are electrics, cutting, needles, blood, any drugs or d*unkenness , any beast or under 18s, breathe play (but enjoy some mild choking), scat, bruising to visible areas, bare backing and humiliation

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By *dfabMan
13 weeks ago

Dunboyne

"Hard limits are electrics, cutting, needles, blood, any drugs or d*unkenness , any beast or under 18s, breathe play (but enjoy some mild choking), scat, bruising to visible areas, bare backing and humiliation"

Electrics? Do you mean electro-stim stuff? Or something even weirder?

Beast! What's that?

I'm thinking I may need to revisit the Sex Terms thread again as I'm feeling uneducated, which is unusual for me in this arena

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By *adyKarmennTVTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Dublin

Electrics? Do you mean electro-stim stuff? Or something even weirder?

Beast! What's that?

I'm thinking I may need to revisit the Sex Terms thread again as I'm feeling uneducated, which is unusual for me in this arena

It’s anything animal related

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By *iamo69Man
13 weeks ago

South

Drugs mainly

I've no moral high ground as done it all myself in past but on a meet first or many meets with same person I still would say no if they are clearly on something

Few drinks ok

Drugs give me the icke now days but as I said I have no moral high ground with them .

Always meet very public place first is another rule of mine.

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By *leasurer77Man
13 weeks ago

Athlone

People with a long list of red lines.

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By *ombikerMan
13 weeks ago

the right side of the river

There are a few obvious ones for instance someone trying to involve someone under age or someone without the capacity to consent for example a medical or mental health reason or being intoxicated.

But then there are the personal ones for example if the person or people are just obnoxious.

Or behaviour that I would see as extremely risky for example a bare back greedy girl gang bang.

But every person is different so each to their own.

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By *hiteKniteMan
13 weeks ago

Nearby

"What are your red lines or never events in terms of fab meets

Mine are bareback or use of illegal substances "

Same as this

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
13 weeks ago

There and Here

I've more red lines than my bank statement

Off the top of my head...

Excessive alcohol

Drugs of any kind

Outdoors with risk

Sex in a vehicle

Bareback (or a history of frequent/group bareback)

Excessive pain, bruising, etc

Restraint and/or blindfold

Watersports

Scat

Blind dates

Extreme political and/or world views at odds with my own, poorly expressed

Intolerance of gender and sexual diversity

I'm sure there are lots more though

Some of these are absolute, some I might dabble in with an established partner or someone with whom I've built trust.

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By *ot really famousMan
13 weeks ago

monaghan

"There are a few obvious ones for instance someone trying to involve someone under age or someone without the capacity to consent for example a medical or mental health reason or being intoxicated.

But then there are the personal ones for example if the person or people are just obnoxious.

Or behaviour that I would see as extremely risky for example a bare back greedy girl gang bang.

But every person is different so each to their own."
...you've had contact with people like this?

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