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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 " Well I think you're sexy | |||
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"Hey girl, I totally get where you're coming from. It's easy to lose that sexy feeling when you haven't had attention in a while. But trust me, it's still there! First off, never underestimate yourself. You're amazing! Maybe you've just been chilling in comfy clothes and not thinking about flirting, but that doesn't mean you've lost your touch. Think of it like riding a bike - you might be a bit wobbly at first, but you'll get back in the groove. Start by doing things that make YOU feel good. Put on an outfit that makes you feel confident, even if you're just staying in. Blast some music and dance around your living room. Remind yourself how awesome you are! Don't worry about being "useless" at flirting or anything. It'll come back naturally. Just relax, have fun, and remember that you deserve to feel sexy and confident. Organisea girls night out and hit the town. You got this! ❤️" Great advice ! | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 " .....you say it's been a good while since you had any male attention...are you talking about on fab or in general ..? | |||
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"This site isn’t great if you’ve a soft skin I’ve found, especially as a guy. The ratio of guys to girls seems 100/1! " Quality over quantity is worse | |||
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"This site isn’t great if you’ve a soft skin I’ve found, especially as a guy. The ratio of guys to girls seems 100/1! Quality over quantity is worse" Seems to be a few fake profiles around. Nothing wrong with the quality of your page tbf  | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 You have some Fantastic ink! VERY SEXY! 😍 " | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 " You've had 8 in-person meets in the last month. If you had no sex appeal then surely they wouldn't have met you. | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 You've had 8 in-person meets in the last month. If you had no sex appeal then surely they wouldn't have met you." Going by the veris all we're very positive and definitely comes across as attractive. | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 You've had 8 in-person meets in the last month. If you had no sex appeal then surely they wouldn't have met you." Popcorn and coca cola ready!!!  | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 .....you say it's been a good while since you had any male attention...are you talking about on fab or in general ..?" In general. | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 You've had 8 in-person meets in the last month. If you had no sex appeal then surely they wouldn't have met you." Yeah I get that but they are coffee meets. In my head I'm still me, devoid of any male attention in over 2yrs 🙈 | |||
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"There will be 1001 lads willing and eager to practice sexy techniques with you. I think get to a social and get flirting!! " Agree | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 You've had 8 in-person meets in the last month. If you had no sex appeal then surely they wouldn't have met you. Yeah I get that but they are coffee meets. In my head I'm still me, devoid of any male attention in over 2yrs 🙈" Did none of these men want to take things further? From reading the comments that's not the impression they gave. Bite the bullet and pick one! | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 You've had 8 in-person meets in the last month. If you had no sex appeal then surely they wouldn't have met you. Yeah I get that but they are coffee meets. In my head I'm still me, devoid of any male attention in over 2yrs 🙈 Did none of these men want to take things further? From reading the comments that's not the impression they gave. Bite the bullet and pick one!" I wasnt feeling any attraction to a good few. Few potentials but fell through for one reason or another. I dont want to just 'bite the bullet' either just to get it over with. My body is 'altered' and Im very particular who I let see that tbh 😏 | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 .....you say it's been a good while since you had any male attention...are you talking about on fab or in general ..? In general. " ...if you don't mind me saying, I read your profile and it doesn't seem like you're interested in casual encounters. So maybe you're shopping in the wrong store. I'm sure your kids..if they're average teenagers, wouldn't miss you for a few hrs a few times a week. I'm not a counsellor, but it does sound like your confusing sex with companionship | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 .....you say it's been a good while since you had any male attention...are you talking about on fab or in general ..? In general. ...if you don't mind me saying, I read your profile and it doesn't seem like you're interested in casual encounters. So maybe you're shopping in the wrong store. I'm sure your kids..if they're average teenagers, wouldn't miss you for a few hrs a few times a week. I'm not a counsellor, but it does sound like your confusing sex with companionship " Defo not looking for companionship. Nope x | |||
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"Hey girl, I totally get where you're coming from. It's easy to lose that sexy feeling when you haven't had attention in a while. But trust me, it's still there! First off, never underestimate yourself. You're amazing! Maybe you've just been chilling in comfy clothes and not thinking about flirting, but that doesn't mean you've lost your touch. Think of it like riding a bike - you might be a bit wobbly at first, but you'll get back in the groove. Start by doing things that make YOU feel good. Put on an outfit that makes you feel confident, even if you're just staying in. Blast some music and dance around your living room. Remind yourself how awesome you are! Don't worry about being "useless" at flirting or anything. It'll come back naturally. Just relax, have fun, and remember that you deserve to feel sexy and confident. Organisea girls night out and hit the town. You got this! ❤️" Thanks for your reply. You're right, I am so out of touch. I threw away all my going out clothes too as I gained some weight as I wasnt able to exercise. I'm back on track and lost some lbs but then I had no clothes to wear. Tracksuit bottoms dont count! I've been to 1 social. Its still not easy to get dolled up and be happy with how I feel. I know its a work in progress however and I am taking things at my pace, albeit it a slow one. I'm happy to be focusing on myself and beig in here but the sexiness I used to feel isnt there, yet. | |||
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"Hi OP I sat and chatted to you a few weeks ago and you definitely didn't come across as losing your sexiness.....didn't even notice the tracksuit bottoms "Lol I hid them very well! I played it well so 🙂 | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 .....you say it's been a good while since you had any male attention...are you talking about on fab or in general ..? In general. ...if you don't mind me saying, I read your profile and it doesn't seem like you're interested in casual encounters. So maybe you're shopping in the wrong store. I'm sure your kids..if they're average teenagers, wouldn't miss you for a few hrs a few times a week. I'm not a counsellor, but it does sound like your confusing sex with companionship Defo not looking for companionship. Nope x" ..ok..im sure you'll have no problem hooking up here...I wish you well | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. I wasnt feeling any attraction to a good few. Few potentials but fell through for one reason or another." I get the feeling it's more you haven't found someone you're attracted to that's making you feel this way. Like others have suggested all I can say is go to socials, strike up a conversations and see if one lights a spark. Or if visual, scan the area. With the male to female ratio you should have a wide variety to choose from. Just choose one that appeals to you. Some of us can be dense so you may want to pratice your old chatup lines  | |||
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"Hey girl, I totally get where you're coming from. It's easy to lose that sexy feeling when you haven't had attention in a while. But trust me, it's still there! First off, never underestimate yourself. You're amazing! Maybe you've just been chilling in comfy clothes and not thinking about flirting, but that doesn't mean you've lost your touch. Think of it like riding a bike - you might be a bit wobbly at first, but you'll get back in the groove. Start by doing things that make YOU feel good. Put on an outfit that makes you feel confident, even if you're just staying in. Blast some music and dance around your living room. Remind yourself how awesome you are! Don't worry about being "useless" at flirting or anything. It'll come back naturally. Just relax, have fun, and remember that you deserve to feel sexy and confident. Organisea girls night out and hit the town. You got this! ❤️ Thanks for your reply. You're right, I am so out of touch. I threw away all my going out clothes too as I gained some weight as I wasnt able to exercise. I'm back on track and lost some lbs but then I had no clothes to wear. Tracksuit bottoms dont count! I've been to 1 social. Its still not easy to get dolled up and be happy with how I feel. I know its a work in progress however and I am taking things at my pace, albeit it a slow one. I'm happy to be focusing on myself and beig in here but the sexiness I used to feel isnt there, yet. " I definitely felt like this for many years... Joining fab and getting out and about, getting dressed up and actually putting makeup on, flirting and igniting a few sparks gradually brought the old me back, at least some of the time. But you have to find what works for you. Hope you do xx Mrs | |||
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"Sometimes is actually getting out of the fab world. Just striking up a conversation with someone. A smile and a friendly hello..l couldn't believe how nice and attractive people are when you look up and not down. Feeling worthy doesn't have to equate to losing weight or changing yourself. Inner changes are more powerful than external transient ones. Good luck with it. " Absolutely. It's more about attitude than attributes. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder but most passionate people kiss with their eyes closed. Be your own best friend and only then can you truely be a friend to others. (Good Lord. Badger is going soft in his old age......and no, I don't mean in that department, before all you smart asses jump in). | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 " Maybe lads are afraid to send a wee message of compliment to you. as they fear rejection from you and they really like how you look.some guys are like that. You have some great pics there in fairness. Have a wee look in your inbox compliment coming your way | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 Well I think you're sexy" | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 Well I think you're sexy" And so do I. | |||
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"Yep, could've written this myself. All I can say is I totally understand where you're coming from. Warm hugs to you 🤗" Maybe if you showed your profile ? | |||
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"As a newly separated 44 year old man...I totally get you op....it's a odd world but you are great and it's all in your own head....there's a market for everything...." The world is odd alright. I'm still figuring this out. I dont know why I feel the need to be 'sexy' or whatever. I just do me 🙂 | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 " You probably just haven’t had someone remind you of it lately. Sometimes all it takes is a little nudge to feel like yourself again. If you're up for it, I'd be happy to help pick out nail colors for your next few appointments? One at a time...of course. | |||
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"And btw, I didnt post this to get attention or anything. Its genuinely how I feel. I am scared sh!tless of having to flirt or try to feel sexy. I'm so long out of the loop, it's such a difficult thing for me to try and overcome. Oh and the guilt because I want to have fun and this means time away from my 2 teenage kids when they have had me to themselves this whole time 🤦♀️🤦♀️" I think a lot of parents share that guilt but the good thing is your kids are getting older and of course they only want you to be happy. A few hours away from them is very much ok and acceptable and benefits everyone. 🙂 Take things at your pace. Try not to focus on flirting or being sexy for anyone. Becoming more self aware is important. Begin to know yourself again. God knows we all get lost in life's routines and the mundane. It sounds like you're becoming aware that there is a whole new you and the next chapter beckons. Think about your feelings, motives, and desires. What exactly would make you feel happy at this moment. Enjoy other people's company without any expectation or feeling that you have to feel or behave a certain way. Explain to your date you need to take things at your pace. Socials are fun, do them on your terms. If you only feel able to stay for an hour to build up your confidence, do that. If you're feeling a little anxious explain that to the host. Good ones will help introduce you and make you feel welcome. Catch up with your own friends and family. Start getting into a routine of going out with them. Cinema, food, drinks etc. Treat yourself to some new threads, even if it's a new tracksuit. Feel a million doing whatever you're up to. 🙂 Your spark will come back. You will find yourself again, she's there. Good luck OP 🌸 | |||
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"Op we definitely think that you look very sexy from what we can see. Just take things at your own pace and you will get your mojo back. Feel free if you want to pm us to chat about anything you want no matter what sometimes helping someone vocalise any issues can help see it from a different light " Thank you xx | |||
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"And btw, I didnt post this to get attention or anything. It’s genuinely how I feel. I am scared sh!tless of having to flirt or try to feel sexy. I'm so long out of the loop, it's such a difficult thing for me to try and overcome. Oh and the guilt because I want to have fun and this means time away from my 2 teenage kids when they have had me to themselves this whole time 🤦♀️🤦♀️ I think a lot of parents share that guilt but the good thing is your kids are getting older and of course they only want you to be happy. A few hours away from them is very much ok and acceptable and benefits everyone. 🙂 Take things at your pace. Try not to focus on flirting or being sexy for anyone. Becoming more self aware is important. Begin to know yourself again. God knows we all get lost in life's routines and the mundane. It sounds like you're becoming aware that there is a whole new you and the next chapter beckons. Think about your feelings, motives, and desires. What exactly would make you feel happy at this moment. Enjoy other people's company without any expectation or feeling that you have to feel or behave a certain way. Explain to your date you need to take things at your pace. Socials are fun, do them on your terms. If you only feel able to stay for an hour to build up your confidence, do that. If you're feeling a little anxious explain that to the host. Good ones will help introduce you and make you feel welcome. Catch up with your own friends and family. Start getting into a routine of going out with them. Cinema, food, drinks etc. Treat yourself to some new threads, even if it's a new tracksuit. Feel a million doing whatever you're up to. 🙂 Your spark will come back. You will find yourself again, she's there. Good luck OP 🌸" | |||
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"If you are an average Man (like 90% of fabbers), you will have totally no attention from women here, because all of them having hundreds of maila daily. Fab is like a mens hell 😈" ...no its not...its deadly craic | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 " Be you..go out, flirt, feel naughty and enjoy yourself. Life is too short | |||
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"Sometimes it can help to embrace the place you are and spend a little time understanding what circumstances brought you to this place. The road through can be slower that way but the healing can also be more complete. You already have a goal, which is too get your mojo back and enjoy some personal freedom. You're posting here about it so you're already making positive moves for yourself. You're on the way. Give yourself credit for that because I'm sure you can remember a time when you didn't have the energy to even share what you wanted. Your doing great. " 💞 great considered and meaningful response. Thank you. I was actually having a frank discussion with my psychologist this morning about Fab, without naming it. I've been seeing her on/off for oh 10yrs. I talked through my feelings and battles about looking for fun etc. Helped me understand me. | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 " I thought you were very sexy when I met you at the social in Dublin - don't be down on yourself, you have a great personality and really cool tattoos  | |||
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"I ld love to know what a psychologist makes of Fab. " Well her take on it was once it all consentual, we are all grown adults having fun. She didnt get into the married/attached ppl doing it though. I'm single so..... | |||
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"I ld love to know what a psychologist makes of Fab. " I wonder how many psychologists are on fab? | |||
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal. Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time. Everybody are always sexy. I'd sat you'd look good in a sodden coal bag. It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈 " | |||
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"I ld love to know what a psychologist makes of Fab. I wonder how many psychologists are on fab?" All of them | |||
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" I was actually having a frank discussion with my psychologist this morning about Fab, without naming it." Psychologist suddenly has the fear that they may have forgotten to hide their own Fab profile when this conversation starts 😬🤣🤣 Good luck with finding your mojo again OP, sounds like you are on the right track 🫂🙌 | |||
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"Can I have some reassurance too. "Dont be hoppin on my bandwagon!! 😂😂 I'm joking. Hop on x | |||
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"Can I have some reassurance too.
Dont be hoppin on my bandwagon!! 😂😂 I'm joking. Hop on x"You sure there's room after your ego boost from this thread. 
Only messing.
Hope you've a great day.
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"Can I have some reassurance too.
Dont be hoppin on my bandwagon!! 😂😂 I'm joking. Hop on x
You sure there's room after your ego boost from this thread.
Only messing.
Hope you've a great day.
P.S great tattoo and a lovely pair of legs."I would need a ego transplant to overcome my self image issues!! 😅 P.S. thank you x | |||
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