FabSwingers.com forum: Where do you usually meet for the initial coffee?

By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

My preference is a coffee shop. Nothing fancy, just somewhere warm and comfortable!

Is it a lads thing, or do many of you prefer to meet at a petrol/service station?

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By *enitMan
11 weeks ago

Galway

"My preference is a coffee shop. Nothing fancy, just somewhere warm and comfortable!

Is it a lads thing, or do many of you prefer to meet at a petrol/service station?

Coffee shop, probably also best if it has a camera!

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By *og-ManMan
11 weeks ago

somewhere

If both of ye are driving then the Costa Coffee in retail parks are handy

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By *opoftheworld39Man
11 weeks ago

Swords

Costa Coffee is a good one, parking is always handy!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

Yep, just somewhere handy.

I've noticed lately lads suggesting a service station. One wanted to just sit in his car! Eh, no thanks! On both counts.

Honest to God, I'm laughing at the good of it! 😂

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By *ot really famousMan
11 weeks ago

monaghan

"If both of ye are driving then the Costa Coffee in retail parks are handy "
...I refuse to meet anyone who drinks Costa coffee...

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By *agic mike1Man
11 weeks ago

around

Last coffee meet i had was in April.

She picked the place.

Applegreen petrol station.

Nice warm Saturday morning so we sat at the picnic tables and drank coffee.

Well she had tea

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By *eordie.Woman
11 weeks ago

The Sticks

"Yep, just somewhere handy.

I've noticed lately lads suggesting a service station. One wanted to just sit in his car! Eh, no thanks! On both counts.

Honest to God, I'm laughing at the good of it! 😂 "

Big red flag for me. It's so they can pin you in their car alright

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By *agic mike1Man
11 weeks ago

around

"Yep, just somewhere handy.

I've noticed lately lads suggesting a service station. One wanted to just sit in his car! Eh, no thanks! On both counts.

Honest to God, I'm laughing at the good of it! 😂

Big red flag for me. It's so they can pin you in their car alright"

Not all guys are like that!!

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By *s LollyWoman
11 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"Yep, just somewhere handy.

I've noticed lately lads suggesting a service station. One wanted to just sit in his car! Eh, no thanks! On both counts.

Honest to God, I'm laughing at the good of it! 😂 "

Im kinda like that ive no problem sitting in my car having a chat in a public place, least ye can chat without being overhead, coffee and a chat absolutely no problem 😁

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

I like to get a coffee to go and walk and talk.

Removes the chances of others eavesdropping, no awkward silences, or direct eye contact.

Plus I get some exercise done as well.

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By *ot really famousMan
11 weeks ago

monaghan

"Yep, just somewhere handy.

I've noticed lately lads suggesting a service station. One wanted to just sit in his car! Eh, no thanks! On both counts.

Honest to God, I'm laughing at the good of it! 😂

Big red flag for me. It's so they can pin you in their car alright

Not all guys are like that!!"
...yes you are !!!

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By *exesrangerMan
11 weeks ago

city

"I like to get a coffee to go and walk and talk.

Removes the chances of others eavesdropping, no awkward silences, or direct eye contact.

Plus I get some exercise done as well."

This

Always good to get a few steps in. I think they call it.....multitasking

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By *exesrangerMan
11 weeks ago

city

I walk kinda fast though so you best keep up

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By *eestar10Man
11 weeks ago

cavan

"I like to get a coffee to go and walk and talk.

Removes the chances of others eavesdropping, no awkward silences, or direct eye contact.

Plus I get some exercise done as well."

This is my go to

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By *eldducMan
11 weeks ago

Cork

Wherever both of us agree to really.

Prefer a coffee and a walk or a coffee in the car in a public place when both are comfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

Well just be careful whose listening I was on coffee social back during the lockdown day at a certain service station. Drove home then when I logged in to Fab got a message from a guy saying hope you enjoyed your coffee he was sitting behind the partition and was listening in.

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By *eestar10Man
11 weeks ago

cavan

"Well just be careful whose listening I was on coffee social back during the lockdown day at a certain service station. Drove home then when I logged in to Fab got a message from a guy saying hope you enjoyed your coffee he was sitting behind the partition and was listening in. "

Omg stop????

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By *agic mike1Man
11 weeks ago

around

"Yep, just somewhere handy.

I've noticed lately lads suggesting a service station. One wanted to just sit in his car! Eh, no thanks! On both counts.

Honest to God, I'm laughing at the good of it! 😂

Big red flag for me. It's so they can pin you in their car alright

Not all guys are like that!!...yes you are !!!"

Nope!!

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By *razySexyCoolCorkWoman
11 weeks ago

Cork

To be fair a lot of the service stations nowadays have decent seating areas. And the Applegreen coffee is good too!

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By *adger BrocMan
11 weeks ago

Co. Cork

"I like to get a coffee to go and walk and talk.

Removes the chances of others eavesdropping, no awkward silences, or direct eye contact.

Plus I get some exercise done as well."

....

Maybe you should join a fab walking group....🚶‍♂️🚶‍♀️☕🍰

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By *adger BrocMan
11 weeks ago

Co. Cork

"To be fair a lot of the service stations nowadays have decent seating areas. And the Applegreen coffee is good too!"

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Costa Coffee is always a good spot.....but the first person to arrive there should buy the coffee. ☕

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By *ildGroverMan
11 weeks ago

rathfarnham

Coffee shop usually, service station if we both have to travel

Trying to thinking I've ever had a non coffee shop/service station social... is a hotel for a coffee any different?

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By *JRRMan
11 weeks ago

"My preference is a coffee shop. Nothing fancy, just somewhere warm and comfortable!

Is it a lads thing, or do many of you prefer to meet at a petrol/service station?

Who on earth is meeting at petrol stations ??

I don’t really like coffee shops sometimes I find that you can’t speak openly about what you both want and are interested in. I prefer open public places on neutral ground with lots of people about. Plazas, popular parks, shopping centres. You can talk freely, its safe and if either of you aren’t feeling it you can just walk in any direction to get away!

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By *eldducMan
11 weeks ago

Cork

"I like to get a coffee to go and walk and talk.

Removes the chances of others eavesdropping, no awkward silences, or direct eye contact.

Plus I get some exercise done as well."

What Badger said above best of both worlds

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By *heMilkMan92Man
11 weeks ago

dublin

A good coffee shop…no bullshit circle k coffee cordial here. Proper brew only.

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By *razy-CplCouple
11 weeks ago

and surrounding areas

Coffee shop , nice and warm and cosy too , but i find alot of guys dont want to meet for a coffee first , they want to just skip it

finding it hard to meet guys for a coffee lately

im not just gona have a social in a car

Mrs crazy

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By *eekyNerdMan
11 weeks ago

Portarlington

I'd meet wherever is handiest for the person I am meeting.

As some people are travel via motorway, the service stations with coffee shops seem to be most suggested.

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By *oxic1998Woman
11 weeks ago

Belfast

Coffee shops is preferred here, although haven't been on one for ages

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By *iCuri0Man
11 weeks ago

Shannon

"Costa Coffee is a good one, parking is always handy!! "

Costa should start sponsoring this given how much people have socials there😆😆

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
11 weeks ago

There and Here

Coffee shop for me too. Somewhere easily accessible for both that has plenty of parking.

Often the ones who want to sit in the car are, shall we say, "shy" about being seen in public with a strange woman for whatever reason...

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By *asual777Man
11 weeks ago

i travel all over

Outside Laura Ashley

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By *exyScientistsCouple
11 weeks ago

Castlebar

"Yep, just somewhere handy.

I've noticed lately lads suggesting a service station. One wanted to just sit in his car! Eh, no thanks! On both counts.

Honest to God, I'm laughing at the good of it! 😂 "

Yeah car meets are a thing 🤣

Wonder why? Can be pretty steamy, maybe not as a first meet though 😇

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By *og-ManMan
11 weeks ago

somewhere

"Coffee shop for me too. Somewhere easily accessible for both that has plenty of parking.

Often the ones who want to sit in the car are, shall we say, "shy" about being seen in public with a strange woman for whatever reason..."

You're not that strange

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By *exyScientistsCouple
11 weeks ago

Castlebar

Costa is good but I've seen lots of people listening in. I've left a coffee because the other person was talking a bit loud and I could see ears twitching 😳

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By *on Juan the MADridMan
11 weeks ago

Lisbon/ North England/ Wales/ Madrid/

Costa Coffee as they usually have some discreet parking places just in case.

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By *ogladyWoman
11 weeks ago

The bog

Well now I see where I've been going wrong all this time cause I do suggest a petrol station the whole time 🙈🙈.. Time to change my tactics to a coffee shop now..

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By *exyScientistsCouple
11 weeks ago

Castlebar

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By *exyScientistsCouple
11 weeks ago

Castlebar

Plenty of petrol stations have seating areas. Nothing wrong with them. Maybe I'm just a coffee tramp but if the coffee is OK and i can sit down I'm not fussy 😊

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By *exesrangerMan
11 weeks ago

city

Cmon down I'll meet ya at lidl and buy you a coffee

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By *iresmillyWoman
11 weeks ago

South Dublin

"Yep, just somewhere handy.

I've noticed lately lads suggesting a service station. One wanted to just sit in his car! Eh, no thanks! On both counts.

Honest to God, I'm laughing at the good of it! 😂 "

I had a close to bad encounter get with a Garda in my car before for a social meet. We were to meet up in Carrickmines and get a tea in Costa, but he jumped in my car and wasn’t for getting out of my car. I wasn’t feeling the vibe at all with him but he wasn’t for getting out of the car, so I had to get out of my own car until he removed himself. He was pure agro with me. Anyhow, alls well that ends well but lesson learnt, and I will never get myself into that position again.

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By *ozzlesMan
11 weeks ago

galway

It's not a drug deal, a decent cup of coffee in a nice place shouldn't be out of the question.

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By *og-ManMan
11 weeks ago

somewhere

"Cmon down I'll meet ya at lidl and buy you a coffee

Never tried it...is it decent

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By *agic mike1Man
11 weeks ago

around

I prefer insomnia coffee to Costa

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By *ot really famousMan
11 weeks ago

monaghan

"Yep, just somewhere handy.

I've noticed lately lads suggesting a service station. One wanted to just sit in his car! Eh, no thanks! On both counts.

Honest to God, I'm laughing at the good of it! 😂

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By *exesrangerMan
11 weeks ago

city

"Cmon down I'll meet ya at lidl and buy you a coffee

Never tried it...is it decent "

I wouldn't recommend it mate.

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By *ueen_MeadhbhWoman
11 weeks ago

sligo

Coffee shop preferably.

Have had a coffee car social. I usually sit in my own car and park alongside theirs.

Oh I've had the oh can we sit in the car, I'm well known in the area, people will.talk if I'm seen having coffee with a stranger.

Would u ever jog the feck on

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By *iresmillyWoman
11 weeks ago

South Dublin

"Yep, just somewhere handy.

I've noticed lately lads suggesting a service station. One wanted to just sit in his car! Eh, no thanks! On both counts.

Honest to God, I'm laughing at the good of it! 😂

Ah look I know they arent all the same, but I never want to be in that position again. I pulled my car up near his too, so it could have been crossed wires, but when he was getting in I said no get out and we will get tea- but sure it’s grand now. So yes, coffee meets in a cafe not in the carpark!

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
11 weeks ago

Northern Ireland

Costa for us...not for the coffee quality but because it's big and anonymous. A wee independent cafe has too many listening ears. Although Costa has that problem too at times. If it's warm enough at least you can sit outside.

I also feel safer parking in a big retail park and then my date doesn't necessarily know which car is mine.

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By *illyouup400Man
11 weeks ago

City

Costa or Insomnia, there's usually a quite corner that's public enough to be feel comfortable and safe.

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By *aughty MilfCouple
11 weeks ago

Fermanagh/Monaghan Ireland , Northern Ireland

Coffee shop or a coffee in a local hotel . No ears listening in

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By *asuallyChilledMan
11 weeks ago

Drogheda

A coffee shop midway between locations usually.

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By *razyNippleLoverMan
11 weeks ago

Back End of Beyond

Location for me has always been ladies choice, not everyone like a "coffee " but as long as you can get a decent chat in and feel safe and comfortable.

" I remember meeting someone once in their car in the carpark of a coffee shop and was uncomfortably dying for a p , felt odd when I had to go into the coffee shop buy a muffin ( to get the code ) so I could use the toilet, the lady taught I was soo cute for buying her a muffin, "😇😇😇😇😇

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By *K430Man
11 weeks ago

Tipperary

Coffee shop , somewhere comfortable to chat

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

Always coffee first. Get a corner seat where you can people watch a little!

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By *astelloWoman
11 weeks ago

Far far away

Much prefer coffee shops. I love coffee. Try to avoid car meets but it has happened...

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By *adger BrocMan
11 weeks ago

Co. Cork

A nice hotel with a view over the river is always a pleasant place for coffee....

But it's the company that is most important. ☕🍰🤗

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By *astelloWoman
11 weeks ago

Far far away

"A nice hotel with a view over the river is always a pleasant place for coffee....

But it's the company that is most important. ☕🍰🤗"

There are some very nice spots by the river...

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By *eldducMan
11 weeks ago

Cork

"Much prefer coffee shops. I love coffee. Try to avoid car meets but it has happened... "

Coffee shops are good too if the weather doesn't allow a walk. A proper Coffee shop though not a petrol station place.

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By *oy.2022Man
11 weeks ago

Dublin

"Cmon down I'll meet ya at lidl and buy you a coffee

I proposed to meet at Lidl while shopping to someone I met on t i n d e r

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By *astelloWoman
11 weeks ago

Far far away

Tbf the coffee is cheap too from the vending machine

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By *phrodite72Woman
11 weeks ago

dublin/galway

I generally prefer hotels to coffee shops cos they are more spacious so more conducive to private conversations..in Dublin my go to is castleknock hotel cos its convenient workwise or glasnevin cemetery has lovely coffee shop with ample outdoor seating and suits me location wise when I'm not working

I'd have no issue with a service station meet like Applegreen en route from galway but in the actual Costa shop not a hope I'm getting in a strangers car

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
11 weeks ago

Portstewart

We don't mind usually somewhere that is about half way travel between us and who were meeting that way sooner has too far to go usually prefer quiet places we can chat freely

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By *r G goes Down underCouple
11 weeks ago

Mullingar

My last coffee meet was in a local hotel. It was a busy evening, even in the lobby seating area. After I went to the toilet, I returned and sat in the chair closer to him as I felt we were talking loud to be heard across the table! He took that as a good sign that I liked him... a year later we are still together

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By *he SophisticatsCouple
11 weeks ago

Casa Del Fun

"My preference is a coffee shop. Nothing fancy, just somewhere warm and comfortable!

Is it a lads thing, or do many of you prefer to meet at a petrol/service station?

Exactly this.

Doesn’t have to be anywhere ‘fancy’, it’s just an initial social meet.

The follow up meet can be a lot more special/private 😜

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