FabSwingers.com forum: What am I doing wrong

By *r Steelhammer OP Man
1 week ago

belfast

Someone help me here I’ve been here for 2 maybe three years now and not one person has wanted to meet me on here

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By *allySlinkyWoman
1 week ago

Leeds

If it's not working

, maybe change your profile text and pic

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By *r Steelhammer OP Man
1 week ago

belfast

If it's not working

, maybe change your profile text and pic "

I’ve changed the text multiple times and pics alternate all the time I don’t know

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By *aybeLadyWoman
1 week ago

West Dublin

Your 1 photo and lack of anything else might be the obvious reason.

I personally do not like a full on close up dick pic as a profile pic.

HTH x

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By *r Steelhammer OP Man
1 week ago

belfast

"Your 1 photo and lack of anything else might be the obvious reason.

I personally do not like a full on close up dick pic as a profile pic.

HTH x"

I’ve tried other pictures for example face body etc

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By *og-ManMan
1 week ago

somewhere

You're in Belfast and if you can't make your profile work by just sending messages then you need to try to get to a social in Belfast

There's also an age thing that's working against you but socials are a great way of starting off to see if you can find your tribe

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
1 week ago

Portstewart

You have 3 verifications on your profile so you have met at least 3 people and personally your profile pic is off putting. If we want to see someone's junk we will specifically ask for it your bio could do with more details and we feel that honesty is a great thing in a bio

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By *r Steelhammer OP Man
1 week ago

belfast

"You have 3 verifications on your profile so you have met at least 3 people and personally your profile pic is off putting. If we want to see someone's junk we will specifically ask for it your bio could do with more details and we feel that honesty is a great thing in a bio "

This three veris I knew them people for a long time personal close friends of mine x and I only put that pic there because I had loads of pictures but I took them all down so I left that there x

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
1 week ago

Northern Ireland

The dick pick is offputting, it is to me but it would appear many other women share this opinion. A close up dick pic is even worse. Try a full body shot, even clothed. Face blurred. Or torso and arms and shoulders.

A filled out bio works better.

And get to a social.

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By *r Steelhammer OP Man
1 week ago

belfast

"You're in Belfast and if you can't make your profile work by just sending messages then you need to try to get to a social in Belfast

There's also an age thing that's working against you but socials are a great way of starting off to see if you can find your tribe

Maybe that is it with the age thing

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
1 week ago

East / North, Cork

"Your 1 photo and lack of anything else might be the obvious reason.

I personally do not like a full on close up dick pic as a profile pic.

HTH x

I’ve tried other pictures for example face body etc "

Why did you go back to dick pic? That will get you deleted unread by most.

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By *ileen_cdTV/TS
1 week ago

Dublin

Keep the dick pic in your gallery, but put a nice clothed photo as the profile pic.

But I think most problems arise from the lack of proper communication. How do you approach potential sex partners? If someone sends me a "hi, how are you" spam, it immediately marks the person as lazy and inattentive. Do I want a lazy, inattentive partner in my bed? No, I have a cat already. Do you send your correspondent a long message about how great you are? Please don't, it marks a person as selfish and narcissistic.

Personally, I like to get a message which shows that the person finds me attractive and actually suggests a possible action, like going for a coffee, or meeting at a social, or meeting in a hotel. I hate the empty stupid questions like how my day was. I am not your child, my days are my business, get to the point or get blocked.

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By *aughty MilfCouple
1 week ago

Fermanagh/Monaghan Ireland , Northern Ireland

Maybe try a few public pics bar 1

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By *iresmillyWoman
1 week ago

Dublin

I’m not mad about your profile pic. Your Bio isn’t great- yep you are easy going genuine and a few more adjectives saying the same thing. But sexually what are you into? What are you looking for. Tell us ladies a bit more about yourself- not just describing words. Lastly your age group that you are looking for is 18-99, to me personally it just turns me off. Maybe tighten that up so it doesn’t read that you will ride anyone. I like to think a man who messages me is a bit choosy

have a look at other men’s profiles and get inspired.

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By *mmortalbMan
1 week ago

kildare

I suck at pics so can't advise, but yeah 90% of profiles I've seen say no dick pic. For single lads all I can say is try get to one of the socials meetups. Haven't been able myself, but the one time I did met some awesome people and had a good laugh. So much easier and natural to meet people that way. I do think couples have better luck here, but it is a swingers site after all. Dv8 has started doing a pub social every Sunday, look them up. Planning to head to one myself. Nice and cheap for one hahaha

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By *ileen_cdTV/TS
1 week ago

Dublin

"I suck at pics so can't advise,...."

Humble bragging much? Your pics are perfect.

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By *avexxMan
1 week ago

cheshire

listen to the to the ladies for picture advice

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By *aughty MilfCouple
1 week ago

Fermanagh/Monaghan Ireland , Northern Ireland

Cock pic as a profile pic wouldn't get my attention. Put on public pics . Jane

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By *he KakapoMan
1 week ago

A nice rock

Ignore them all 👆👆

More dick is the way to go

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By *asuallyChilledMan
1 week ago

Drogheda

My advice:

No public dick pics

A decent full body shot PFP

A dozen public images showing you at various activities

A well written bio detailing who you are, what you want, and what you like. Be clear and honest. Even if you're just looking for hard core sex with no relationship - be HONEST about what you want.

A well written header - what are you looking for?

Usual updates - show a bit of humanity and insight

Be active on the Forums. Show your personality.

Don't send dick pics. Read people's bios and ask them about themselves.

Above all, don't expect anything you do will flood your inbox with offers. It won't. Fab is the same as real life and generally it's necessary to build a connection before fucking someone.

♂️♀️⚧️🐉🦄🌈

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By *mmortalbMan
1 week ago

kildare

"I suck at pics so can't advise,....

Humble bragging much? Your pics are perfect. "

Haha thanks appreciate that. Needed it

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By *tevieobMan
1 week ago

Dublin

I’m in the same boat as you!

Chatted with a few people on messaging apps, etc but it peters out, I’d go along with the dick pick profile pic and have a look at the bio, make it personal and outgoing!

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By *ueen_MeadhbhWoman
1 week ago

sligo

Your profile is a shop window. You need to entice us in.

There are socials held regularly in and around Belfast and there's a great community up there to help you dip your toe in. Maybe try them , getting to meet people in a social situation might be the way to go.

Take the advice above and use it

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By *r Steelhammer OP Man
1 week ago

belfast

Thank you everyone it’s all much appreciated x

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By *exesrangerMan
1 week ago

out and and about

Oh my days!!! That's a dic pic?? I thought it was folded arms (my eye sight is clearly getting worse) and a close up pic too. Oh boy.

My advise is to take some new pics with some cloths on maybe, and make them look good or interesting or appealing. Show some personality, not promises you can't keep. Get rid of the couples FF cause left face it even if you were Brad Pitt, you'd still have trouble landing that one. Ppl want more information not less before they will even entertain a response in not taking eircode, pps no. or your job title here but just something to make them fell at ease with you. Be polite be respectful be interesting or funny or if your not any of those.... be hot as f.

Best of luck in your quest and of course....Happy fabbing

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By *ot really famousMan
1 week ago

monaghan

"Ignore them all 👆👆

More dick is the way to go"
#eliminatingthecompetion

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By *ionycusMan
1 week ago

Babylon

Lower your standards.

Start offering them money.

More dick pics.

That's three good ones to start with.

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By *tevieobMan
1 week ago

Dublin

"Lower your standards.

Start offering them money.

More dick pics.

That's three good ones to start with.

Marketing 101 right here, excellent plans

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By *ig_specsWoman
1 week ago

Kilbarrack

"Your 1 photo and lack of anything else might be the obvious reason.

I personally do not like a full on close up dick pic as a profile pic.

All have been said

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