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"Generally I don't waste my time messaging *new* folks to the site, partially because there are so many fakes/tourists but also presumed they got an avalanche of msgs and you can't stand out. But saw a profile status today by a lady who said she received 227 msgs in 5 hours and I had no idea *THAT* was the level of insanity taking place! That is so overwhelming, no wonder so many never come back. " When a friend joined, she received over 700 messages in first two hours. No pics. No bio. Nothing. | |||
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"It's also used as an ego boost by some in fairness There's filters to stop unwanted messages Maybe they like having that many " When you just join you don't know about the filters tho  | |||
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"Set your filters as tight as a ducks ass brings the volume wayyyyy down any one that's needs to status update that info loves to brag and enjoys the attention 🙄 "I’m getting way too much attention, I know, I’ll make a status about it to attract less attention!  | |||
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"Set your filters as tight as a ducks ass brings the volume wayyyyy down any one that's needs to status update that info loves to brag and enjoys the attention 🙄
I’m getting way too much attention, I know, I’ll make a status about it to attract less attention! "It's on par with the "fab for a friend request" or "fab if you'd fuck me" brigade 🙄 | |||
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"It's also used as an ego boost by some in fairness There's filters to stop unwanted messages Maybe they like having that many " A few times when I have seen ladies complain in status updates about stupid or insulting messages, I have suggested that they block men and do their own searching. They respond to say that it's a good idea, but they never do it. | |||
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"As a solo female in the past with no knowledge of filters it was about 130 odd in ten minutes and most of them were too gross to repeat. Just treating me like an available hole, i felt dehumanised. I was really upset and on the phone to my bf who was like I'm so sorry I should have warned you. But he didn't actually know. Now when I hear of a friend considering joining I'm like let me talk you through it." Aye. Seems like a form of trolling tbh, as in how effective can that approach be? Seems like a self-defeating vicious cycle. Spam EVERYONE with hi's/pics/winks as anything you put effort into is going to be lost anyway. Shrugs. Each to their own, pity though as its ruining the entire collective experience | |||
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"It's also used as an ego boost by some in fairness There's filters to stop unwanted messages Maybe they like having that many " This ^^ | |||
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"It's also used as an ego boost by some in fairness There's filters to stop unwanted messages Maybe they like having that many When you just join you don't know about the filters tho "I get that and I got a friend to join once and she left when she got overwhelmed as I forgot to mention the filters She came back on and set them fine I don't understand the mentality of a man sending dick pic and other messages to a blank profile especially when they're also a blank profile | |||
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"It's also used as an ego boost by some in fairness There's filters to stop unwanted messages Maybe they like having that many A few times when I have seen ladies complain in status updates about stupid or insulting messages, I have suggested that they block men and do their own searching. They respond to say that it's a good idea, but they never do it. " There are some that will never do that. They love the attention of it all, so much so they'll put it in a status update. They love the dopamine hit! | |||
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"The status update might be a way of mass communicating the message that her inbox is overloaded, it might not be a stealth boast. It's always the same brigade that jump to negative conclusions about women. " This was my take on the status. | |||
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"Generally I don't waste my time messaging *new* folks to the site, partially because there are so many fakes/tourists but also presumed they got an avalanche of msgs and you can't stand out. But saw a profile status today by a lady who said she received 227 msgs in 5 hours and I had no idea *THAT* was the level of insanity taking place! That is so overwhelming, no wonder so many never come back. " It's completely ridiculous for new girls on here. It's impossible to keep up with it. Messages come in faster than they can be replied to. The status messages are because they are overwhelmed and feel like they need to explain why they aren't responding. | |||
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"Generally I don't waste my time messaging *new* folks to the site, partially because there are so many fakes/tourists but also presumed they got an avalanche of msgs and you can't stand out. But saw a profile status today by a lady who said she received 227 msgs in 5 hours and I had no idea *THAT* was the level of insanity taking place! That is so overwhelming, no wonder so many never come back. It's completely ridiculous for new girls on here. It's impossible to keep up with it. Messages come in faster than they can be replied to. The status messages are because they are overwhelmed and feel like they need to explain why they aren't responding. " That's all well and good if you're hear a few day's or a wk or so but not for the one's that are here 3yrs +🤷 | |||
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"Generally I don't waste my time messaging *new* folks to the site, partially because there are so many fakes/tourists but also presumed they got an avalanche of msgs and you can't stand out. But saw a profile status today by a lady who said she received 227 msgs in 5 hours and I had no idea *THAT* was the level of insanity taking place! That is so overwhelming, no wonder so many never come back. It's completely ridiculous for new girls on here. It's impossible to keep up with it. Messages come in faster than they can be replied to. The status messages are because they are overwhelmed and feel like they need to explain why they aren't responding. That's all well and good if you're hear a few day's or a wk or so but not for the one's that are here 3yrs +🤷" Yes, but your aggressive first response was in relation to a new joiner. | |||
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"The majority of single ladies and couples usually set filters to stop most of the messages as it would be a full time job reading them " If you go for the platinum level FAB upgrade you can available of Artificial Intelligence who will respond to every mail on your behalf 💡 | |||
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"Generally I don't waste my time messaging *new* folks to the site, partially because there are so many fakes/tourists but also presumed they got an avalanche of msgs and you can't stand out. But saw a profile status today by a lady who said she received 227 msgs in 5 hours and I had no idea *THAT* was the level of insanity taking place! That is so overwhelming, no wonder so many never come back. It's completely ridiculous for new girls on here. It's impossible to keep up with it. Messages come in faster than they can be replied to. The status messages are because they are overwhelmed and feel like they need to explain why they aren't responding. That's all well and good if you're hear a few day's or a wk or so but not for the one's that are here 3yrs +🤷 Yes, but your aggressive first response was in relation to a new joiner. " While i do find it flattering ye need to re quote me all the time i think it's time ye got yourself a hobby mabey knitting or watch a movie, id recommended Frozen it's got a great song "Let it go, let it go" | |||
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"When I came back with my single profile I had no pics at all for a while. Still got messages telling me how gorgeous I was and what a great profile I had. "I get excited by punctuation 😁 maybe others did also 🤔😁 Gorgeous 😋 | |||
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"When I came back with my single profile I had no pics at all for a while. Still got messages telling me how gorgeous I was and what a great profile I had.
I get excited by punctuation 😁 maybe others did also 🤔😁 Gorgeous 😋"Charm personified, we need more of this ☀️☀️🍀😉 | |||
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I don’t think I’ve ever got any more than 2 at a time
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"Single men destroy this lifestyle. Its the same online as it is in Swinger clubs. People will try and defend them, but at the end of the day people are deleting accounts daily because of them." Single man are absolutely crucial to the scene. Many/most couples require them for their threesomes and other fantasies. | |||
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"Single men destroy this lifestyle. Its the same online as it is in Swinger clubs. People will try and defend them, but at the end of the day people are deleting accounts daily because of them." Man bashing couples are destroying this lifestyle and driving off all the guys | |||
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"Single men destroy this lifestyle. Its the same online as it is in Swinger clubs. People will try and defend them, but at the end of the day people are deleting accounts daily because of them." I have friends, women and couples who have deleted their accounts over the years and vowed never to return. Every one of them left because of drama created by other women. I don't know anyone who has left because of something a man has done. | |||
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"When I came back with my single profile I had no pics at all for a while. Still got messages telling me how gorgeous I was and what a great profile I had. "• That's because the more perceptive gentlemen on here work on intuition, premonition and foresight. 🩶😉 | |||
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"When I came back with my single profile I had no pics at all for a while. Still got messages telling me how gorgeous I was and what a great profile I had. "Yeah, it's the complete opposite of an ego boost😆 it kinda feels like you've thrown yourself into a bucket of piranhas 😂 | |||
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"When I came back with my single profile I had no pics at all for a while. Still got messages telling me how gorgeous I was and what a great profile I had.
Yeah, it's the complete opposite of an ego boost😆 it kinda feels like you've thrown yourself into a bucket of piranhas 😂 "😅😅 jump out quick | |||
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"When I came back with my single profile I had no pics at all for a while. Still got messages telling me how gorgeous I was and what a great profile I had.
Yeah, it's the complete opposite of an ego boost😆 it kinda feels like you've thrown yourself into a bucket of piranhas 😂
😅😅 jump out quick"Or maybe stay if you like a little nibble  | |||
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"When I came back with my single profile I had no pics at all for a while. Still got messages telling me how gorgeous I was and what a great profile I had.
Yeah, it's the complete opposite of an ego boost😆 it kinda feels like you've thrown yourself into a bucket of piranhas 😂 "😁😁 That's it exactly- nothing flattering about being told the nothingness you 'advertise' is oh-so appealing 😁 | |||
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"Single men destroy this lifestyle. Its the same online as it is in Swinger clubs. People will try and defend them, but at the end of the day people are deleting accounts daily because of them. I have friends, women and couples who have deleted their accounts over the years and vowed never to return. Every one of them left because of drama created by other women. I don't know anyone who has left because of something a man has done. " This! I've only ever heard about women causing drama, for both men and women. It's a site for people who want to shag other people.. it's supposed to be a bit of fun, a bit of escapism. Leave everything else at the door. | |||
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"Just maybe there's a kink about lusting after a blank profile " Well bless people's imaginations so | |||
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"Single men destroy this lifestyle. Its the same online as it is in Swinger clubs. People will try and defend them, but at the end of the day people are deleting accounts daily because of them. I have friends, women and couples who have deleted their accounts over the years and vowed never to return. Every one of them left because of drama created by other women. I don't know anyone who has left because of something a man has done. This! I've only ever heard about women causing drama, for both men and women. It's a site for people who want to shag other people.. it's supposed to be a bit of fun, a bit of escapism. Leave everything else at the door." Unfortunately not always the case though. | |||
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"Single men destroy this lifestyle. Its the same online as it is in Swinger clubs. People will try and defend them, but at the end of the day people are deleting accounts daily because of them." Gatekeeping destroys this lifestyle. Its the same online as it is in Swinger clubs. People will try and defend it, but at the end of the day people are deleting accounts daily because of it | |||
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"Fab should 100% block incoming mail on new accounts for a minimum of 48 hours. There should also be a proper site induction or tutorial build in to the set up process." 48 hours is extreme.. I'd suggest 44.45.. | |||
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"Fab should 100% block incoming mail on new accounts for a minimum of 48 hours. There should also be a proper site induction or tutorial build in to the set up process." • It's not Fab's responsibility to hand-hold us or give us any form of tutelage for other people's shortcomings or transgressions. In the Fab privacy section there are options to restrict newbies, those without site supporter, those who are not photo verified and those who have no pubic photos on display. It's not a panacea that solves everything but it's sufficient mitigation. | |||
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"Fab should 100% block incoming mail on new accounts for a minimum of 48 hours. There should also be a proper site induction or tutorial build in to the set up process. • It's not Fab's responsibility to hand-hold us or give us any form of tutelage for other people's shortcomings or transgressions. In the Fab privacy section there are options to restrict newbies, those without site supporter, those who are not photo verified and those who have no pubic photos on display. It's not a panacea that solves everything but it's sufficient mitigation." People messaging a new profile isn't necessarily a transgression. And none of your above suggestions prevent the issue of a new profile being bombarded with messages. And I would suggest it is absolutely the sites responsibility and also in their best interest to make the site as user friendly and as newbie friendly as possible. | |||
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"Fab should 100% block incoming mail on new accounts for a minimum of 48 hours. There should also be a proper site induction or tutorial build in to the set up process." Not a bad idea. I can't see it being popular with users though | |||
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"Fab should 100% block incoming mail on new accounts for a minimum of 48 hours. There should also be a proper site induction or tutorial build in to the set up process. Not a bad idea. I can't see it being popular with users though " It's a bit like website terms and conditions. Everyone ticks the box but no one reads them. | |||
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