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By *hegoatest OP   Man
4 weeks ago

somewhere

How does one get verified when no one will meet an unverified person ....have tried the help a fabber out thread with no luck! Can't really do parties or social groups meets (my profile explains) - even if I wanted to these are also generally only for verified people? It's a real catch 22.....help this fabber out?

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By *iresmillyWoman
4 weeks ago

Dublin

Search the forums as this question is asked regularly. The main answer you will receive is go to socials, followed by review your profile.

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By *hegoatest OP   Man
4 weeks ago

somewhere


"Search the forums as this question is asked regularly. The main answer you will receive is go to socials, followed by review your profile. "

Thanks for the advice, unfortunately can't do socials nor can I give too much away on my profile... I guess my circumstances really hamper my chances! .... realistically I should take it as a sign to just settle for my life as is and GTFO of here

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By *he KakapoMan
4 weeks ago

A nice rock

So its not really a catch 22, you just cant/won't take the steps between the two points.

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By *hegoatest OP   Man
4 weeks ago

somewhere


"So its not really a catch 22, you just cant/won't take the steps between the two points."

Yes...can't ...but could privately with someone I got to know and trusted

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
4 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

How are you gonna get to know someone when all they can see is a black silhouette and you never go to anything?

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By *chochamberWoman
4 weeks ago

Munster

Do you talk to empty bin liners blowing in the wind?

Do you expect other people to?

People are not looking for complicated, misery meets.

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By *heMystroMan
4 weeks ago

Dublin

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By *heMystroMan
4 weeks ago

Dublin

Because you are married doesn’t prevent you going to a social it not like it’s going to be in the local community centre. As has been said you are between two stools. If you want to get into fab life you have to be a bit more realistic. For other people on Fab the last thing they want is drama. If its this much hassle to get verified what chance have you to actually meet someone

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By *londegem75Woman
4 weeks ago

city

See this boils my piss. Married guys thinking everyone else should respect there terms. I get this alot . Let's meet for coffee oh hold on there married can't sit in a coffee shop can we sit in my car. Like why bother 🙄

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By *alvin.Man
4 weeks ago

Cork/Dublin

"See this boils my piss".

Ouch

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By *he KakapoMan
4 weeks ago

A nice rock


"See this boils my piss. Married guys thinking everyone else should respect there terms. I get this alot . Let's meet for coffee oh hold on there married can't sit in a coffee shop can we sit in my car. Like why bother 🙄 "

Why shouldn't someone respect their terms though.

By all means choose not to meet someone but anyone's terms and level of comfort should be respected regardless of theor status.

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By *londegem75Woman
4 weeks ago

city

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By *londegem75Woman
4 weeks ago

city


"See this boils my piss. Married guys thinking everyone else should respect there terms. I get this alot . Let's meet for coffee oh hold on there married can't sit in a coffee shop can we sit in my car. Like why bother 🙄

Why shouldn't someone respect their terms though.

By all means choose not to meet someone but anyone's terms and level of comfort should be respected regardless of theor status."
all well and good till day of social and they turn the tables and went to sit in there car.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
4 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

We've done this little dance before with people not wanting to have a social in public (which is a mandatory part of setting up a play meet for us) or bottling at the last min because they are worried about being seen by someone with a woman who isn't their wife .

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By *exyScientistsCouple
4 weeks ago

Castlebar

I've met a lot of unverified people. And skulking about in deserted carparks is more suspicious than anything and the best way to draw attention to yourself.

It's really hard work trying to verify people who are trying to be invisible.

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By *leasurer77Man
4 weeks ago

Athlone


"How does one get verified when no one will meet an unverified person ....have tried the help a fabber out thread with no luck! Can't really do parties or social groups meets (my profile explains) - even if I wanted to these are also generally only for verified people? It's a real catch 22.....help this fabber out?"

Patience is key. Keep trying the help a fabber out threads. Put up a few discrete pics, not dick pics. Ignore the saints and knockers. There are people who, God forbid, will meet in cars or other discrete places. Don't go to socials if not comfortable to. Maybe cut back on your profile likes as you've a few that wouldn't interest many people. Engage in forum discussions. Good luck!

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
4 weeks ago

South Down

Just a suggestion, but if all you're maybe looking to do is swap photos and chat, what about the cam rooms and getting a cam verification?

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By *hegoatest OP   Man
4 weeks ago

somewhere

I think my point has been missed and proven by some of the replies on here....I've been open and honest about my situation and am looking for someone who can accept that and is willing to chat, get to know me and maybe meet for a coffee! Just as I don't want to be in an uncomfortable situation, I don't want to put anyone in one either, so if a married guy who is looking for discretion is not your thing that's fine! This post was a last stitch attempt to find someone who might be accepting of my situation - not for those who are not! Apologies if that was not clear

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
4 weeks ago

East / North, Cork


"Just a suggestion, but if all you're maybe looking to do is swap photos and chat, what about the cam rooms and getting a cam verification?"

Thats got to be a risk for someone who is playing away too.

I guess if you're exposed enough to be seen by a potential playpartner then you're also exposed enough to be seen by someone who may know your wife.

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By *chochamberWoman
4 weeks ago

Munster

Waaaaaaaa

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By *itlbeeCouple
4 weeks ago

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It's a swinging site, not a cheating site. If you say the two are the same your going to offend a lot of people, they have the fundamental difference of consent.

It's not really set up to facilitate this situation. Meets and chats are supposed to be mutual fun, and you can't really offer that.

The site just has too many single men already, married women playing without consent are incredibly rare on here. I've never seen a profile admitting to it, yet seen hundreds of married men - mostly on the forums complaining about how hard it is.

Sorry, you would not find it easy on here.

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By *og-ManMan
4 weeks ago

somewhere

married women playing without consent are incredibly rare on here. I've never seen a profile admitting to it

There's dozens of them n here it's just that no one jumps down their throat on every post

It also helps that they never start threads saying they can't get a meet

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By *adger BrocMan
4 weeks ago

Co. Cork


"I think my point has been missed and proven by some of the replies on here....I've been open and honest about my situation and am looking for someone who can accept that and is willing to chat, get to know me and maybe meet for a coffee! Just as I don't want to be in an uncomfortable situation, I don't want to put anyone in one either, so if a married guy who is looking for discretion is not your thing that's fine! This post was a last stitch attempt to find someone who might be accepting of my situation - not for those who are not! Apologies if that was not clear "

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The thing is, this is an open forum so when you put a thread on here you can expect to get all sorts of posts in reply. Some you may not like but as long as they are within the forum rules you have to take what you get and you cannot dictate who should or shouldn't contribute to a forum thread.

I sympathise with your situation but in my experience while discretion is a must on fab not many people are interested in meeting blank profiles and are only happy to meet in public places on personal safety grounds.

Wishing you good luck on your fab journey.

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By *reative-N-FieryCouple
4 weeks ago

Castledermot


"I think my point has been missed and proven by some of the replies on here....I've been open and honest about my situation and am looking for someone who can accept that and is willing to chat, get to know me and maybe meet for a coffee! Just as I don't want to be in an uncomfortable situation, I don't want to put anyone in one either, so if a married guy who is looking for discretion is not your thing that's fine! This post was a last stitch attempt to find someone who might be accepting of my situation - not for those who are not! Apologies if that was not clear "

Whereabouts are you based?

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By *alvin.Man
4 weeks ago

Cork/Dublin


"married women playing without consent are incredibly rare on here. I've never seen a profile admitting to it

There's dozens of them n here it's just that no one jumps down their throat on every post

It also helps that they never start threads saying they can't get a meet "

Correct

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By *he KakapoMan
4 weeks ago

A nice rock


"married women playing without consent are incredibly rare on here. I've never seen a profile admitting to it

There's dozens of them n here it's just that no one jumps down their throat on every post

It also helps that they never start threads saying they can't get a meet

Correct"

Let's be honest though.

Even if they started daily threads they would still be gushed over

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By *alvin.Man
4 weeks ago

Cork/Dublin


"married women playing without consent are incredibly rare on here. I've never seen a profile admitting to it

There's dozens of them n here it's just that no one jumps down their throat on every post

It also helps that they never start threads saying they can't get a meet

Correct

Let's be honest though.

Even if they started daily threads they would still be gushed over"

Obviously. But not by me.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
4 weeks ago

South Down


"Just a suggestion, but if all you're maybe looking to do is swap photos and chat, what about the cam rooms and getting a cam verification?

Thats got to be a risk for someone who is playing away too.

I guess if you're exposed enough to be seen by a potential playpartner then you're also exposed enough to be seen by someone who may know your wife.

"

I guess it might be less of an issue outwith the Ireland room but I was thinking purely about the verification question

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By *ot really famousMan
4 weeks ago

monaghan


"married women playing without consent are incredibly rare on here. I've never seen a profile admitting to it

There's dozens of them n here it's just that no one jumps down their throat on every post

It also helps that they never start threads saying they can't get a meet

Correct

Let's be honest though.

Even if they started daily threads they would still be gushed over"
.....when you say "gushed over".....?

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By *rthur GuinnessMan
4 weeks ago

Lucan

Head to the DV8 social in Dublin sone Sunday. Have a chat to some people and you'll get verified fairly easy. It's open to anyone.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
4 weeks ago

East / North, Cork


"Head to the DV8 social in Dublin sone Sunday. Have a chat to some people and you'll get verified fairly easy. It's open to anyone."

Thats a massive risk for someone playing away without permission. They could easily be spotted by someone and it get back to the wife.

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By *he KakapoMan
4 weeks ago

A nice rock


"married women playing without consent are incredibly rare on here. I've never seen a profile admitting to it

There's dozens of them n here it's just that no one jumps down their throat on every post

It also helps that they never start threads saying they can't get a meet

Correct

Let's be honest though.

Even if they started daily threads they would still be gushed over.....when you say "gushed over".....? "

Both ways work

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