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By *rown Prism OP   Woman
6 weeks ago

Dublin

When you write to someone as the first... in return you don't get any answer, the answer was not nice, someone made a complete fool of themselves (for various reasons, lost message, bad day, problems) you create a private negative note... my question is, do you give this person a second chance and try to establish contact with them again or you don't?

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By *oby72555Man
6 weeks ago

Dublin

First impression for me is key. There is never a good enough reason for being rude or impolite.

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By *ot really famousMan
6 weeks ago

monaghan


"When you write to someone as the first... in return you don't get any answer, the answer was not nice, someone made a complete fool of themselves (for various reasons, lost message, bad day, problems) you create a private negative note... my question is, do you give this person a second chance and try to establish contact with them again or you don't?"
....I'd have to unblock them first....and that's never going to happen.

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By *eeking_sensuality77Woman
6 weeks ago

Athlone

Never give a second chance to make a first impression.

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

I could go on!

You're worth more than to allow anyone treat you any way other than the way you deserve.

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By *rown Prism OP   Woman
6 weeks ago

Dublin

Ohhh 🥹.... hahah thank you you.... At least I no longer have any illusions that things might be different

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
6 weeks ago

kinkytown

We don't give second chances.

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By *irdnBorisMan
6 weeks ago

meath

Only give one chance and if there disrespectful or rude in anyway press that big block button respect goes a long way

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By *rown Prism OP   Woman
6 weeks ago

Dublin

🥹🥹🥹 what if it was someone's mistake.... And you're missing out on friendship and life's adventure???

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By *ewcorkcpl23Couple
6 weeks ago

Cork

Respect and manners are a key dynamic for us so only get 1 chance with us. As the phrase goes " it's nice to be important but it's more important to be nice".

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By *ot really famousMan
6 weeks ago

monaghan


"🥹🥹🥹 what if it was someone's mistake.... And you're missing out on friendship and life's adventure???"
. .its sounds like you're looking for positive reenforcement rather than advice...?

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By *rown Prism OP   Woman
6 weeks ago

Dublin

Yes, it might actually look like this, I needed to be 100% sure. I know I deserved it.... I appreciate every opinion

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By *olourpurpleMan
6 weeks ago

Waterford

Once I stick a private not on an a profile for a negative reason that is that.

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By *irdnBorisMan
6 weeks ago

meath


"🥹🥹🥹 what if it was someone's mistake.... And you're missing out on friendship and life's adventure???"
only you can make that call im afraid it is hard to find good friends some have developed on here some outside of here you got to really think about it if they didnt show you respect at the start there probly not going to show you any at the end wish you all the best which ever you decide

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By *eckme70Man
6 weeks ago

Strabane

I think everyone deserves a second chance, there could be loads of genuine reason's why it didn't happen the first time, that's just my honest opinion 🤗

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By *ot really famousMan
6 weeks ago

monaghan

Anyway...this whole private note thing...its a bit like fr noel furlong and his wee black book...

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By *rown Prism OP   Woman
6 weeks ago

Dublin


"🥹🥹🥹 what if it was someone's mistake.... And you're missing out on friendship and life's adventure???only you can make that call im afraid it is hard to find good friends some have developed on here some outside of here you got to really think about it if they didnt show you respect at the start there probly not going to show you any at the end wish you all the best which ever you decide "

In this case, I am the bad side.

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By *ot really famousMan
6 weeks ago

monaghan


"🥹🥹🥹 what if it was someone's mistake.... And you're missing out on friendship and life's adventure???only you can make that call im afraid it is hard to find good friends some have developed on here some outside of here you got to really think about it if they didnt show you respect at the start there probly not going to show you any at the end wish you all the best which ever you decide

In this case, I am the bad side. "

...in that case...the rules change completely...all should be forgiven....just kidding..

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By *rown Prism OP   Woman
6 weeks ago

Dublin


"🥹🥹🥹 what if it was someone's mistake.... And you're missing out on friendship and life's adventure???only you can make that call im afraid it is hard to find good friends some have developed on here some outside of here you got to really think about it if they didnt show you respect at the start there probly not going to show you any at the end wish you all the best which ever you decide

In this case, I am the bad side. ...in that case...the rules change completely...all should be forgiven....just kidding.. "

Haha thank you, that was a nice joke... I even smiled

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By *ustBoWoman
6 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Once I have a negative private note on someone I don't even open their messages if they send more. I always check someone's profile before I open a message.

If it was someone I was chatting for a while and they were rude for whatever reason I would ask them why first of all.If they were still a gobshite then I would just ignore them from then on. I may give them a second chance if they had a good enough reason but it would definitely tarnish my image of them. If someone can lash out to someone they are just getting to know on here then chances are they would continue to do so later on.

Yes we all have crappy days etc but I don't believe that gives us free rein to be a twat to others.

Some times when we screw up we just have to live with the consequences after even if we wish we could change things.

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By *rown Prism OP   Woman
6 weeks ago

Dublin


"Once I have a negative private note on someone I don't even open their messages if they send more. I always check someone's profile before I open a message.

If it was someone I was chatting for a while and they were rude for whatever reason I would ask them why first of all.If they were still a gobshite then I would just ignore them from then on. I may give them a second chance if they had a good enough reason but it would definitely tarnish my image of them. If someone can lash out to someone they are just getting to know on here then chances are they would continue to do so later on.

Yes we all have crappy days etc but I don't believe that gives us free rein to be a twat to others.

Some times when we screw up we just have to live with the consequences after even if we wish we could change things. "

I totally agree

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By *elfastblondMan
6 weeks ago

Belfast

Private notes are great, not very often 1st impressions are wrong

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By *ealitybitesMan
6 weeks ago

Belfast

On the extremely rare occasion I write a private note about anyone that's the last time I'll be speaking to them.

We all make mistakes but some people live and die by the sword.

They create drama or stir shit and then 🤷 when it comes back to bite them and pull out the victim card.

I don't keep private notes generally but when I do there's no going back.

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By *eekyNerdMan
6 weeks ago

Portarlington

If the issue was a language barrier, or a translation mistake, I would give them the benefit.

Anything else, where as I would have given a second chance previously, it's gone to one strike and you're out.

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