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By *asual777 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

i travel all over

There are many threads about how hard it is for men on fab

If you’re a bloke who has done well here please share your tips for success . Being really good looking , having a massive cock or being enormously charming aren’t useful . It’s got to be stuff that others can emulate

Let’s define well as ‘having had play meets with a minimum of 5 ladies’ on here just for the sake of having a cut off

I am assuming the people writing the threads about becoming more successful don’t want to meet a single partner . There are other apps for that

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

Enthusiastic,

Makes the effort,

Follows through,

Meets in public, followed by polite suggestion to meet again.

Goes at the ladies pace,

Presents well,

Is not sleazy or sneery,

No BS or drama, is up for making swinging friends as well as anything else.

Funny, nice, social, polite, smiles and puts people at ease.

Sucesful guys tend to be upfront, honest and upbeat.

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By *he KakapoMan
18 weeks ago

A nice rock

I'm not exactly balls deep in the scene but as a single guy with no interest in the social side a fee things I learned:

1. Don't login in when your insanely horny looking for release, it will influence your behavior and interactions kn a negative way.

2. Don't actively seek sex, it will help you treat people like actual people and not fleshlites which amazingly in turn will help them to want to to have the sex with you.

3. Make an effort in your pictures and your profile and your interactions in general. No you do not have to be an adonis to take interesting photos.

4. Contrary to the above Don't follow everyone's advise to the letter you need to be yourself and let your own personality shine through.

5. Don't worry too much about the famed "first message" yes try and write more than Hi or FAF but not everyone is great with words so just be clear and respectful, 90% of the time your profile will decide the reply not your message.

6. I can't state this one clearly enough... being polite and respectful should be a minimum expectation of your interactions here and in real life do not state it like your a hero for being so.

Can I stop now?

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By *iscuits8Man
18 weeks ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham


"Being really good looking , having a massive cock or being enormously charming aren’t useful."

But that's all I have

I'm messing of course. I'd "qualify" on the above criteria. I don't see anything that I do out of the ordinary to be honest, and people definitely shouldn't be taking tips from me on being successful with women... it'd be like taking parenting advice from Josef Fritzl

Have some patience. Mentioning sex or meeting from the off will 99% of the time get you nowhere. Don't speak to or treat anyone any different than you would in-person just because you're in a virtual, anonymous world. Don't be a creep or say/do anything that makes people uncomfortable. That's basic stuff. Have some humility and respect, you're not god's gift and women aren't queuing up to drop their knickers for you. Have a bit of craic on here and don't be afraid to take the piss out of yourself a bit. Women can see a copy/paste message a mile off. Nobody finds a gallery of your mickey taken from 10 different angles appealing. Nobody is obliged to interact with you, don't pester them... there's a well-known saying on here - "No answer, is an answer"

Anyways after all that waffle... anyone fancy a ride?

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By *ymbunny2016Man
18 weeks ago

Bangor

Don’t take it too seriously, don’t be an idiot, and remember you’re speaking to another human being!

Do be respectful and nice in your messages, you profile is your advertisement- make some effort with it.

Have fun with it, and don’t let any setbacks get you down!

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By *alvin.Man
18 weeks ago

Cork/Dublin

Don't.

Be an asshole. Entitled. Dishonest in your dealings.

Do

Bring your best self. A light touch. Entegrity with arrangments.

Laughter is the best aphrodisiac. It works in life as well as the forums. So bring that.

Gym fit and humungus willy's are not my USP. My little cock gets laughed at in real life so many times over the years. It's like my lucky rabbits foot. Laughter eh

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By *og-ManMan
18 weeks ago

somewhere

Be yourself and don't change who you are thinking it will give you a better chance with some one

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By *electableicecreamMan
18 weeks ago

The West

Being self aware and knowing what you're looking for and your own boundaries and limitations is enormously helpful.

Play to your strengths. Some guys take decent photos and others write good messages. Others thrive in social event.

Success on Fab isn't a reflection of anyone personally. Profiles and messages are surface detail.

Fab isn't for everyone. If this place doesn't suit you, don't let it get you down. There's other ways to meet people.

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By *exesrangerMan
18 weeks ago

city

Getting some great tips here. Keep em coming

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By *eordie.Woman
18 weeks ago

The Sticks


"Getting some great tips here. Keep em coming"

Like you need any

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By *iscuits8Man
18 weeks ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham


"Getting some great tips here. Keep em coming

Like you need any "

I won't give you a tip.. I'll give you the whole lot, wha'

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By *leasurer77Man
18 weeks ago

Athlone


"Enthusiastic,

Makes the effort,

Follows through,

Meets in public, followed by polite suggestion to meet again.

Goes at the ladies pace,

Presents well,

Is not sleazy or sneery,

No BS or drama, is up for making swinging friends as well as anything else.

Funny, nice, social, polite, smiles and puts people at ease.

Sucesful guys tend to be upfront, honest and upbeat. "

Who gave you access to my CV?

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By *leasurer77Man
18 weeks ago

Athlone

Patrick Swayze covered this in the original and best Road House. "Be nice"

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By *eordie.Woman
18 weeks ago

The Sticks


"Getting some great tips here. Keep em coming

Like you need any

I won't give you a tip.. I'll give you the whole lot, wha' "

You don't need any tips either, you brat

You're perfectly charming in person

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By *adger BrocMan
18 weeks ago

Co. Cork

Get thee to a social.

Hopefully get chatting to a few people at the social and get verified. Check out the lists of socials, some for unverified people, on here.

Don't use a blank or dic pic as your profile pic.

Put some effort into your bio.

Patience and perseverance pay off.

Treat everyone with respect and treat the site as a bit of fun with the possibility of of some intimate fun if you are lucky enough to connect with the right person.

Fab can be good fun if you don't take it too seriously.

Oh and if you do get verified and dont have a dic as your profile pic you could consider joining a fab walking group to meet even more like minded people.

Best of luck with your fab journey and genuinely "happy fabbing".

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By *eekyNerdMan
18 weeks ago

Portarlington

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By *eekyNerdMan
18 weeks ago

Portarlington

Not not qualified to reply but anyway....

1) always be polite to the person you are talking to. You don't know if they are having a bad day and being a jerk will not help at all.

2) don't jump in straight away with a 'i can accommodate, wanna meet?

I'm a guy, I get those messages from 'straight' guys and it pissed me right off! So I can only imagine how the ladies on the site would feel getting hundreds of those messages.

3) READ THE PROFILE BIO! Why? Some ladies aren't looking for single men and state this. Most instant block if you message.

Also reading the bio will let you pick out one or two interesting bits that you can put into your message to engage them.

4) when messaging, it's a conversation, treat it as such. You'd hardly walk over to a random woman on the street and ask her for sex. Same here. Yes, it is a sex site, but, a persons safety comes first. By having the conversation, they can get an initial idea of whether you are someone they want to meet.

5) don't constantly message or wink. One of each is enough. If they are interested, they will let you know. Constant messages and winks make you seem desperate.

6) engage in the forums. They are lots of threads like fab a fella that will help you get starting talking to lots of people. Some chats may lead to something, some won't. Such is life.

7) you want sex on demand, go to the 'ford car model' Ireland website. People here have lives and family that will always come first.

8) it takes 2 to tango. Try to arrange social/coffee meets at a time and place that suit you both and are public. Again, safety fucking first.

9) if you are a complete dick to a lady, it won't go well for you. People on the site go to meets and may talk. Word of mouth.

10) if English is your first language, use it right. Full sentences, proper spelling and grammar. Your phone will correct it for you. Having minor mistakes or autocorrects is fine, but the whole message being a mess shows that you are just being lazy.

11) attend the local coffee socials if you can. (I will be). At least there, you can meet other people, chat and get tips or tricks.

Thank you for attending my TED talk.

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By *asual777 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

i travel all over

Some excellent tips

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By *ouple4fun35Couple
18 weeks ago

Near You

These are excellent tips that many could be doing with on here! It seems like conversing is a lost art and patience is lost on many.

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By *heCatWhoGotTheCream2024Man
18 weeks ago

Funville

I've always found that:

Having a sense of humour helps

Don't fear conversations, they are not that scary

Be creative, stir the imaginative juices

Find the threshold between being naughty or being creepy and stay on the right side of it

Always start a coffee date by frisking your meet against the wall

60 percent of the time, it works every time

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By *ionycusMan
18 weeks ago

Babylon

I always start with just the tip.

Afterwards if she likes she can have the rest of it.

🫶🏻

✌🏻🤪✌🏻

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By *s LollyWoman
18 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"I always start with just the tip.

Afterwards if she likes she can have the rest of it.

🫶🏻

✌🏻🤪✌🏻"

Cause the tip just isn't enough 🤭

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By *alhamCoupleCouple
17 weeks ago

London


"There are many threads about how hard it is for men on fab

If you’re a bloke who has done well here please share your tips for success . Being really good looking , having a massive cock or being enormously charming aren’t useful . It’s got to be stuff that others can emulate

Let’s define well as ‘having had play meets with a minimum of 5 ladies’ on here just for the sake of having a cut off

I am assuming the people writing the threads about becoming more successful don’t want to meet a single partner . There are other apps for that

"

Great suggestions here to a positive question. I have played as a single man before my relationship and after a while I became “successful”. Here is what I remember:

1. Know what you want. What you deep down want. If you are really bi, or into the cuckolding scene, or want bareback play, try to own it. There are people out there who are looking for you.

2. Be social in the widest sense-go to events as much as possible (and don’t expect anything but hope for a verification). Attend clubs and especially gangbangs; gbs are particularly good as a) shows you turn up, b) you are open to actually fucking c) you make contacts with the others guys and couples who may organise other events which you could be invited to thus expanding your network

3.Don’t expect it all to fall into your lap. That comes after you have made the effort to help a network

4.When you do get to fuck always be respectful before during and affer. She is always a human and someone’s wife.

Good luck and thanks for the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

Messages from our point of view

Even just doing the first thing puts a message above about 80% of the stuff we’re sent

1 - READ THE PROFILE to understand what someone is looking for and say more then just hi

2 - Make it a conversation

3 - Don’t try to just drill for answers just to use for your personal fantasy instead…it gets boring

4 - Don’t kill the momentum by overcooking things, take it easy and let things take shape by themselves

5 - Don’t send a follow up message if you don’t get a reply (even if one of us is online, we might just be organising something or keeping the message to reply to later)

6 - Having a tantrum about no reply = block

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By *ionycusMan
17 weeks ago

Babylon

Under a full moon,

Get completely Naked,

Cover your right buttcheek with milk of magnesia,

Stand on your right leg,

Lift up your left hand,

Make sure the wind is blowing from the south west,

And then if you're feeling lucky send your message.

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

I've just realised to that un opened messages disappear from the stack, so if anyone getting messages and she doesn't get to open them there gone.

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