FabSwingers.com forum: How to find someone

By *ogeon4 OP Man
18 weeks ago

Dundalk

I'm really lonely. I just want a lady I can be with. I just feel so alone. Dating apps don't work, what should I do?

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
18 weeks ago

There and Here

I'd say that perhaps you need to change your focus. Look to enrich your life instead - do the things you love; try the things you've always wanted to try. Travel, join a club, take up a sport, go out with your friends. Chances are you'll meet many people along the way who'll make your life less lonely and who'll help fill it with experiences and good memories that'll last a lifetime. Along the way, some of them might even be women 😊

You're young, enjoy and live your life - the rest will fall into place eventually. Use dating apps as a supplement to meeting someone, not as the primary method.

All the best

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By *asual777Man
18 weeks ago

i travel all over

"I'd say that perhaps you need to change your focus. Look to enrich your life instead - do the things you love; try the things you've always wanted to try. Travel, join a club, take up a sport, go out with your friends. Chances are you'll meet many people along the way who'll make your life less lonely and who'll help fill it with experiences and good memories that'll last a lifetime. Along the way, some of them might even be women 😊

You're young, enjoy and live your life - the rest will fall into place eventually. Use dating apps as a supplement to meeting someone, not as the primary method.

All the best"

I wanted to write something like this but knew someone would make a far superior job out of it. Fab and dating apps are definitely icing , but there needs to be a solid cake underneath of stuff which makes you feel good . Everyone has their thing , but mine has been reading , courses , exercising and outdoor swimming

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By *adger BrocMan
18 weeks ago

Co. Cork

You're young, enjoy and live your life - the rest will fall into place eventually. Use dating apps as a supplement to meeting someone, not as the primary method.

All the best"

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Super advice, very well put.

Join a walking club, there are even some on fab that will always welcome new members. Or start a group in your own area. Get involved in your local "Park Run" which caters for all fitness levels. Both are a great way to meet new people in a safe, no-pressure social setting. And you get to exercise and improve your fitness and general wellbeing also. It's a win win all round.

Attend one of the fab socials which are held in various locations for unverified fabbers. (DV8 in Dublin, on Sunday afternoons, is a good place to start).

Recognising your situation and wanting to make a change in your life is more than half the battle.

Best of luck OP with your future life and especially the fab part of that journey.

Oh and one other bit of advice.

Put up a profile pic. (Preferably not a willy waver).

Blank profiles don't do very much for people on here.

Best of luck.

🦡

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By *ACOLCouple
18 weeks ago

limerick

You're young, enjoy and live your life - the rest will fall into place eventually. Use dating apps as a supplement to meeting someone, not as the primary method.

All the best"

Really lovely advice! Well put hun.

Lina.

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By *he KakapoMan
18 weeks ago

A nice rock

Great advice above.

All is add OP is that perhaps speaking to a counsellor or therapist might be an idea.

You are young and being single should be fun but if being alone is making you this lonely and unhappy I think speaking to someone professionally could be a really good first step.

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By *ot really famousMan
18 weeks ago

monaghan

"I'm really lonely. I just want a lady I can be with. I just feel so alone. Dating apps don't work, what should I do?"
...this is probably the wrong place to be looking for a long term partner ..im not saying it never happens, but it's rare.

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By *rRiosMan
18 weeks ago

dublin

"I'm really lonely. I just want a lady I can be with. I just feel so alone. Dating apps don't work, what should I do?"

I feel for you man, it can be tough. You should really heed LK and Kakapo’s advice. If it’s all a bit too overwhelming, start small. You don’t need to run before you can walk.

And just to echo the men’s shed sentiment, my inbox is open

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By *angtasticallyMan
18 weeks ago

Drogheda

Absolutely you will find someone with hobbies and things u like doing fab and dating app are definitely a landmine at time enjoy your life

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By *elloMarylouWoman
18 weeks ago

mayo

Great advice above. I think it's harder now for young people to meet people. Covid cut lot of the social side of life and I don't think it's recovered

At 25 the world is your oyster, feck it at any age it's your oyster.

My advice done be afraid to tall to people about how you feel, speak to a professional too it might help.

Reach out you'll be surprised at who cares.

I turned 50 this year and have always been single and I get very lonely and what I'd give for a good cuddle but I also know a lot of people who are in relationships that ain't as pretty as they look on the outside.

Hope you okay op, hope by putting your feelings out in the world you feel better.

Pm is open if you need to chat

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