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"Intrigued to know if there are many on here that are happily married without their spouse knowing that are looking for that extra bit of excitement??" Yeah I’m one | |||
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"Intrigued to know if there are many on here that are happily married without their spouse knowing that are looking for that extra bit of excitement??" Can you truly be happily married and be on here in secret? | |||
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"We all know the way this thread is heading the same as the one the other day, men bashing, judging people for their choices and lecturing them on how poor their choices are etc etc." .. These threads always end the same way  | |||
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"I’m happily married. Don’t live with her and she doesn’t talk to me. Some would ask why not get a divorce. Well good wife’s like her are hard to find 😝. Another wife might want to live with me and talk to me " Hit the jackpot ha ha | |||
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"As clearly stated on my profile I am a cheater....might as well say it and save the "holier than thou" brigade the bother of pointing it out to me. I have a very strong and happy relationship but without any degree of intimacy for quite a number of years. While sex has always been an important part of my life it certainly is not the most important aspect of my marriage and lack of sex is certainly not a reason for me to walk away from what is good in my marriage. Yes, cheating brings with it the risk of losing everything, the guilt of being unfaithful but it does fulfill a basic need and if done with absolute discretion should hopefully not cause harm or upset to anyone. " Very well put, thanks for that | |||
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"I am one and clearly display it on profile and bio. The previous comments are correct. After 27 years together our bond is as strong as ever but our sexual wavelengths are very different. I have very occasional fun on the side and keep it very discreet. On here I seek ladies with the same issue. We are doing no harm at all fulfilling each others physical needs." I'd you're not doing any harm then why not tell your wife? | |||
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"Intrigued to know if there are many on here that are happily married without their spouse knowing that are looking for that extra bit of excitement??" Yes me  | |||
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"There's a bang of hypocrisy from a poster or two on this thread " One in particular can never resist a cut on these topics. | |||
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"These threads never end well. Agree or disagree. The partner cheating cause regardless of they admit it or not it's cheating. Constantly thinking if they gonna find out covering tracks,it's not healthy on them and truth be told its a weight on shoulder's. Not many gonna say I don't care if they find out cause most don't want that. Sex is important in a relationship and if you both didn't like a certain food or one like something and others didn't, I bet it's talked about and alternatives are done. Some find the little things to mend in a relationship easier food ain't gonna split you up . But the lack of sex intimacy does cause most won't talk or can't talk. That is the problem it's the communication over issues. You work at a marriage don't patch it up. It takes one person to cheat it takes two to work at marriage. If the talking don't happen the marriage hasn't got a hope. So what happens then. " Have to say this thread has made me think and one or two message i have recivied also. My self and the wife had long discusion about this both yesterday and today. No more hiding on here for me now. She even volunteering to take photos if I wanted. If only i had spoken more to her months ago, but im glad I have now | |||
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"These threads never end well. Agree or disagree. The partner cheating cause regardless of they admit it or not it's cheating. Constantly thinking if they gonna find out covering tracks,it's not healthy on them and truth be told its a weight on shoulder's. Not many gonna say I don't care if they find out cause most don't want that. Sex is important in a relationship and if you both didn't like a certain food or one like something and others didn't, I bet it's talked about and alternatives are done. Some find the little things to mend in a relationship easier food ain't gonna split you up . But the lack of sex intimacy does cause most won't talk or can't talk. That is the problem it's the communication over issues. You work at a marriage don't patch it up. It takes one person to cheat it takes two to work at marriage. If the talking don't happen the marriage hasn't got a hope. So what happens then. Have to say this thread has made me think and one or two message i have recivied also. My self and the wife had long discusion about this both yesterday and today. No more hiding on here for me now. She even volunteering to take photos if I wanted. If only i had spoken more to her months ago, but im glad I have now" Hopefully something positive comes out of this thread and things are looking up for you, but thread carefully  | |||
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" Have to say this thread has made me think and one or two message i have recivied also. My self and the wife had long discusion about this both yesterday and today. No more hiding on here for me now. She even volunteering to take photos if I wanted. If only i had spoken more to her months ago, but im glad I have now" Wow fair play, that must have been difficult for you both. Fingers crossed your new arrangement works out for you guys. | |||
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"As clearly stated on my profile I am a cheater....might as well say it and save the "holier than thou" brigade the bother of pointing it out to me. I have a very strong and happy relationship but without any degree of intimacy for quite a number of years. While sex has always been an important part of my life it certainly is not the most important aspect of my marriage and lack of sex is certainly not a reason for me to walk away from what is good in my marriage. Yes, cheating brings with it the risk of losing everything, the guilt of being unfaithful but it does fulfill a basic need and if done with absolute discretion should hopefully not cause harm or upset to anyone. This sums it up for me " | |||
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"These threads never end well. Agree or disagree. The partner cheating cause regardless of they admit it or not it's cheating. Constantly thinking if they gonna find out covering tracks,it's not healthy on them and truth be told its a weight on shoulder's. Not many gonna say I don't care if they find out cause most don't want that. Sex is important in a relationship and if you both didn't like a certain food or one like something and others didn't, I bet it's talked about and alternatives are done. Some find the little things to mend in a relationship easier food ain't gonna split you up . But the lack of sex intimacy does cause most won't talk or can't talk. That is the problem it's the communication over issues. You work at a marriage don't patch it up. It takes one person to cheat it takes two to work at marriage. If the talking don't happen the marriage hasn't got a hope. So what happens then. Have to say this thread has made me think and one or two message i have recivied also. My self and the wife had long discusion about this both yesterday and today. No more hiding on here for me now. She even volunteering to take photos if I wanted. If only i had spoken more to her months ago, but im glad I have now" Well done. Honesty is the best policy and women will often surprise with their response. Hopefully more will consider talking to their wives/partners and asking (nicely) for the odd hall pass. | |||
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"These threads never end well. Agree or disagree. The partner cheating cause regardless of they admit it or not it's cheating. Constantly thinking if they gonna find out covering tracks,it's not healthy on them and truth be told its a weight on shoulder's. Not many gonna say I don't care if they find out cause most don't want that. Sex is important in a relationship and if you both didn't like a certain food or one like something and others didn't, I bet it's talked about and alternatives are done. Some find the little things to mend in a relationship easier food ain't gonna split you up . But the lack of sex intimacy does cause most won't talk or can't talk. That is the problem it's the communication over issues. You work at a marriage don't patch it up. It takes one person to cheat it takes two to work at marriage. If the talking don't happen the marriage hasn't got a hope. So what happens then. Have to say this thread has made me think and one or two message i have recivied also. My self and the wife had long discusion about this both yesterday and today. No more hiding on here for me now. She even volunteering to take photos if I wanted. If only i had spoken more to her months ago, but im glad I have now" WoW, great news! Not everyone has your luck and such an understanding wife, treasure that! Good luck, being able to share this lifestyle with your partner even if she is not into, is just amazing. Enjoy the long and raw chats ❤️ Lina. | |||
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"Interesting mostly men " Current women online:93 Current men online :300+ | |||
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"Interesting mostly men " The OP was posted by a woman and the number of male versus female respondents is probably a reflection of the male to female ratio of members on this site. Seeking sexual adventures outside of a committed relationship, either with or without the other partners knowledge, is I am fairly sure not exclusive to either gender. | |||
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"Because men are applauded for being sexual available whereas (in society) women are not. Madonna/wh0re complex. The same thing doesn't exist for men. " Your not allowing for the fab factor. Women in general get far less stick on here for cheating | |||
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"Because men are applauded for being sexual available whereas (in society) women are not. Madonna/wh0re complex. The same thing doesn't exist for men. Your not allowing for the fab factor. Women in general get far less stick on here for cheating " I wonder is it because a single man's reputation wouldn't be tarnished for fucking a married woman who was interested in recreational extra marital sex. Whereas single woman would be judged for screwing a married guy 🤔🤔. Men aren't judged for recreational sex, but women are (by some people). | |||
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"Because men are applauded for being sexual available whereas (in society) women are not. Madonna/wh0re complex. The same thing doesn't exist for men. " I have often heard the label "manwhore/male slut" applied, by both men and women, to men who are promiscuous and have rarely if ever heard guys being praised for playing around. I believe the behaviour it is equally frowned upon in society irrespective of gender. | |||
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"Because men are applauded for being sexual available whereas (in society) women are not. Madonna/wh0re complex. The same thing doesn't exist for men. I have often heard the label "manwhore/male slut" applied, by both men and women, to men who are promiscuous and have rarely if ever heard guys being praised for playing around. I believe the behaviour it is equally frowned upon in society irrespective of gender. " Yet the term Slutshaming is almost exclusively reserved for women. | |||
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"Because men are applauded for being sexual available whereas (in society) women are not. Madonna/wh0re complex. The same thing doesn't exist for men. Your not allowing for the fab factor. Women in general get far less stick on here for cheating I wonder is it because a single man's reputation wouldn't be tarnished for fucking a married woman who was interested in recreational extra marital sex. Whereas single woman would be judged for screwing a married guy 🤔🤔. Men aren't judged for recreational sex, but women are (by some people). " I don't think so (on here). Look at the reactions to any slightly controversial thread posed by a women on here. The gender power balance has been flipped on fab vs the real world | |||
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"Totally agree however I think a man's ideal scenario is to have a women who appears to be vanilla but really isn't " Agree, and ideally brings in money too!! The ideal woman. | |||
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"Because men are applauded for being sexual available whereas (in society) women are not. Madonna/wh0re complex. The same thing doesn't exist for men. I have often heard the label "manwhore/male slut" applied, by both men and women, to men who are promiscuous and have rarely if ever heard guys being praised for playing around. I believe the behaviour it is equally frowned upon in society irrespective of gender. Yet the term Slutshaming is almost exclusively reserved for women." I have heard the phrase slut used with both the he and she pronouns attached. I have yet to hear it used with the "they" pronoun but I hope to live long enough to do so. | |||
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"Totally agree however I think a man's ideal scenario is to have a women who appears to be vanilla but really isn't Agree, and ideally brings in money too!! The ideal woman. " It's all about the frontage | |||
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"Because men are applauded for being sexual available whereas (in society) women are not. Madonna/wh0re complex. The same thing doesn't exist for men. I have often heard the label "manwhore/male slut" applied, by both men and women, to men who are promiscuous and have rarely if ever heard guys being praised for playing around. I believe the behaviour it is equally frowned upon in society irrespective of gender. Yet the term Slutshaming is almost exclusively reserved for women. I have heard the phrase slut used with both the he and she pronouns attached. I have yet to hear it used with the "they" pronoun but I hope to live long enough to do so. " Wait until you hear about fuckboys. Those rascals. I agree that the situation is reversed on fab though. Women get a pass from the majority of site members (men). I'm not a woman so I can't speculate on reasons they stay quite but pick any discussion on cheating you'll find that it's overwhelmingly men that talk about their reasons. Maybe it is a numbers thing. | |||
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"Because men are applauded for being sexual available whereas (in society) women are not. Madonna/wh0re complex. The same thing doesn't exist for men. I have often heard the label "manwhore/male slut" applied, by both men and women, to men who are promiscuous and have rarely if ever heard guys being praised for playing around. I believe the behaviour it is equally frowned upon in society irrespective of gender. Yet the term Slutshaming is almost exclusively reserved for women. I have heard the phrase slut used with both the he and she pronouns attached. I have yet to hear it used with the "they" pronoun but I hope to live long enough to do so. Wait until you hear about fuckboys. Those rascals. I agree that the situation is reversed on fab though. Women get a pass from the majority of site members (men). I'm not a woman so I can't speculate on reasons they stay quite but pick any discussion on cheating you'll find that it's overwhelmingly men that talk about their reasons. Maybe it is a numbers thing." 👍 | |||
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"As clearly stated on my profile I am a cheater....might as well say it and save the "holier than thou" brigade the bother of pointing it out to me. I have a very strong and happy relationship but without any degree of intimacy for quite a number of years. While sex has always been an important part of my life it certainly is not the most important aspect of my marriage and lack of sex is certainly not a reason for me to walk away from what is good in my marriage. Yes, cheating brings with it the risk of losing everything, the guilt of being unfaithful but it does fulfill a basic need and if done with absolute discretion should hopefully not cause harm or upset to anyone. " In the exact same boat myself. I'll do the right oar, you take the left one
Marriage and kids are fantastic but just nothing beyond kissing
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"Intrigued to know if there are many on here that are happily married without their spouse knowing that are looking for that extra bit of excitement??" Thank you all for your answers to my question! | |||
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"What do you mean.."I saw 2 different ladies kicking their female friend saying.."??" Hard to explain need to be there. | |||
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"My wife has MS, very frustrating for us both. I'm looking more for socialising. Just a female companion to go for a drink to pictures theatre rather then look like Billy no mates. I have not been at a social since February. The last social I saw 2 different ladies kicking their female friend saying here is your man over. Don't care what the holy Mary's think of me, you are on a swingers site. Never know might met a female companion. " Holy Mary's???, | |||
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" Don't care what the holy Mary's think of me, you are on a swingers site." Can you elaborate? | |||
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"Different perspective maybe. I'm on here with husband & we are lucky we love swinging together.. But never in my marriage vows did I give my husband my sexuality & vice versa. I gave him my heart & my commitment he owns them.. "Same. We made sure when we got married that we didn't say anything we didn't mean, and avoided making any commitments that suggested that we wouldn't sleep with other people. | |||
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"I think a lot of these people's sources need to be given a hall pass to have their own fun. Sex drive isn't a fixed state. It's contextual. Novelty excites people. Much better people have conceptual open relationships with agreed upon boundaries. " This. If you genuinely have your partners best interests at heart, and you aren't able to give them what they need to feel happy, but you want to stay married, then this makes perfect sense. | |||
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"I think a lot of these people's sources need to be given a hall pass to have their own fun. Sex drive isn't a fixed state. It's contextual. Novelty excites people. Much better people have conceptual open relationships with agreed upon boundaries. This. If you genuinely have your partners best interests at heart, and you aren't able to give them what they need to feel happy, but you want to stay married, then this makes perfect sense. " 100% | |||
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