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By *ries2468 OP Man
6 weeks ago

navan

Starting to hate fab....hard for guys. Some people very ignorant

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
6 weeks ago

South Down

You've only been here 8 weeks so you might need to adjust your expectations. Or your profile. Or your approach. Who knows?

If you hate it, staying isn't compulsory. You can take a break temporarily or permanently.

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By *ries2468 OP Man
6 weeks ago

navan

I have met a cracker from here. But some people can be ignorant. Hard to get it right....on profile...cock pic or no cock pic. Its just hard

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
6 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

Seems to me you're doing pretty well. 8 weeks in already verified in person. Try and stay positive, and if you can't then leave. It's not worth getting upset about this stuff

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
6 weeks ago

South Down

You can't and won't please everyone. It's foolish to try

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By *chochamberWoman
6 weeks ago

Munster

Go to a coffee social, improve your pics and bio. Body pics are nice.

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By *ries2468 OP Man
6 weeks ago

navan

Have done a coffe social. Shes hot. Had a kiss. In the veri she gave me she said im really nice.....good kisser.....easy on the eye. But still struggling

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
6 weeks ago

South Down

Your list of interests, although these are often just loose indicators, would lead me to think you're not really interested in meeting in person. And if you are really only interested in those things that's fine, but also appreciate it might only attract those who are into virtual meets themselves.

If that's not all you're looking for then work on your profile so it actually represents you and what you're looking for/offering.

Also Fab isn't necessarily "easy" for anyone.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
6 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

"Have done a coffe social. Shes hot. Had a kiss. In the veri she gave me she said im really nice.....good kisser.....easy on the eye. But still struggling"

What is it you think you are struggling with?

You expected sex straight away?

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By *ries2468 OP Man
6 weeks ago

navan

God no

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
6 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

"God no"

Perhaps you can explain the problem you're having?

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By *ries2468 OP Man
6 weeks ago

navan

People being ignorant. Nearly all near me read messages n dont reply. Frustrating

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
6 weeks ago

ireland

"People being ignorant. Nearly all near me read messages n dont reply. Frustrating"

If people don't reply ,they most likely aren't interested so just forget it and move on.

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By *ries2468 OP Man
6 weeks ago

navan

Yeah i know

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By *ungry CatCouple
6 weeks ago

Belfast

"People being ignorant. Nearly all near me read messages n dont reply. Frustrating"

What do you mean by "people being ignorant" ?

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By *ries2468 OP Man
6 weeks ago

navan

When u say hi.....nice to say hi back. See where it goes. Im a nice guy and will reply to all. Even guys. Im straight but ill still reply

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
6 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

From the site FAQ...

"There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?"

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
6 weeks ago

South Down

"Yeah i know"

So if you know, then why deem it ignorant?

There are many reasons why people choose to not reply

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By *ewcorkcpl23Couple
6 weeks ago

Cork

"People being ignorant. Nearly all near me read messages n dont reply. Frustrating"

At the start that used frustrate us too but we quickly realised its because people get inundated with messages on here if they were to reply to everyone they would probably need a secretary, don't take its personally its just fab , readjust your expectations, take a day or 2 break then come back on. In general you may need to readjust a few times on fab.

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By *eekyNerdMan
6 weeks ago

Portarlington

Just hang out on the forums.

Good things come to those who wait.

I also hate waiting but stuff will happen when it's supposed to.

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By *ries2468 OP Man
6 weeks ago

navan

Suppose im expecting too much too quickly.

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By *eekyNerdMan
6 weeks ago

Portarlington

I was the same.

Don't compare your number of meets and experience with others (specifically the ladies).

There's dozens, if not more, men to each lady on the site, the ladies will get lots of messages and can meet lots of people socially based on the numbers. And then they can find it goes from feast to famine.

Some people have been here for months and had no meets so if you have one meet you are well ahead so relax, chill and be zen...

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
6 weeks ago

South Down

OP I haven't had sex in just over a year but I'm still muddling along hopeful that one day, mutual attraction and opportunity will align. We aren't all rampantly shagging all round us.

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By *onny17Man
6 weeks ago

Dublin

"OP I haven't had sex in just over a year but I'm still muddling along hopeful that one day, mutual attraction and opportunity will align. We aren't all rampantly shagging all round us. "

Well said. Not the most sexually active atm myself but if I wanted a quick shag every night I'd be on a lady of the night site not swinging. Social side of fab is great in my opinion

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By *ries2468 OP Man
6 weeks ago

navan

Been talking to some in uk....some cam fun too on telegram. So i shouldnt be moaning i suppose

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By *otorman20021Man
6 weeks ago

East Cork

Fab needs to be treated like a marathon and not a sprint. Some days are better than others but you never know what is around the corner, it’s the rush of the new “1 unread message” in the inbox that keeps me going.

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By *weethomeWoman
6 weeks ago

Cork

It's what you make of it. Know what you want, regular, casual, ons. Don't hound people with loads of messages either. If they don't reply after one or two move on. But women get 100s of messages so it's not ignorance, it's just impossible to reply to everyone. But I do get men becoming disheartened. There's someone out there, they'll pop up when you least expect.

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By *weethomeWoman
6 weeks ago

Cork

"Been talking to some in uk....some cam fun too on telegram. So i shouldnt be moaning i suppose"

Telegram groups are good. Easier to build connects on them

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

You've got to remember the ladies like to take their time when they're shopping and this is a shop with many floors, whereas most men are ready to pick up the first thing they see when they walk in

...(By the way ladies I'm in the bargain basement if anyone cares to look)

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By *ustBoWoman
6 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"It's what you make of it. Know what you want, regular, casual, ons. Don't hound people with loads of messages either. If they don't reply after one or two move on. But women get 100s of messages so it's not ignorance, it's just impossible to reply to everyone. But I do get men becoming disheartened. There's someone out there, they'll pop up when you least expect.

I don't get a load of messages thanks to tight filters. I don't answer if the profile doesn't interest me. I don't see it as ignorant I see it as keeping the door shut on interacting with people I don't want to. Once you answer they can continue to answer even if you change your filters.

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By *weethomeWoman
6 weeks ago

Cork

I don't either. When I'm chatting to someone or two my profile goes private

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By *oshSardineMan
6 weeks ago

Castleknock

"Starting to hate fab....hard for guys. Some people very ignorant"

With the greatest of respect my friend, a little profile housekeeping is in order. Out of three pictures, a picture or two from what I saw is of your prick and is really only going to entice some males to inbox you looking to suck you off. Try a few body shots, put your camera on a chair and crop the photo. Change your age preferences. Your 51 and your looking for 18-99, are you going to meet an 18 or 19 year old? Seriously? And 99, there’s probably no one here over 70.

I’ve rewritten my profile loads of times and added and removed some lines from it but it’s a long ass bio but it’s about me and who I am. I regularly get mails saying what a well written bio I’ve got but I’m not dripping in pussy. It’s just the way it is. Fab should not be the end all or everything coz it’s not. What I’m saying is constructive, it’s certainly not criticism. You’ve got to set your stall out so you stand out amongst the other ten or twenty thousand male profiles trying to get someone’s attention.

Good luck with it but don’t get yourself too down over it.

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By *izzKathrynWoman
6 weeks ago

Drogheda

"Starting to hate fab....hard for guys. Some people very ignorant"

I don't mean to be rude but a pic of your cock out the side of your boxers just ain't the one, reminds me of my poor Grandad who had dementia and would escape down his leg.

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By *ewcorkcpl23Couple
6 weeks ago

Cork

"Starting to hate fab....hard for guys. Some people very ignorant

Good luck with it but don’t get yourself too down over it. "

So true, the profile is the key for so many people on here, silly one liner ones with no pics etc are a pure waste of time on fab. We have edited ours a few times since joining. Aswell if you can get in a few kik or telegram groups do, just be responsible and respectfull when you get on them then you'll be laughing.

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By *aughty MilfCouple
6 weeks ago

Fermanagh/Monaghan Ireland , Northern Ireland

"Starting to hate fab....hard for guys. Some people very ignorant"
Males can be ignorant also.

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By *oc09Man
6 weeks ago

near u

I find if u go to social and interact with people it's much easier then texting people on this cause 9 out of 10 times ur not going to get a reply but that's not people been rude that's just people out interested in what they see in profile. I get what ur saying tho don't judge a book by his cover but this is why u have to go to socials u have to put the work in it's not just going to be handed to u

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By *ries2468 OP Man
6 weeks ago

navan

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By *ries2468 OP Man
6 weeks ago

navan

"Starting to hate fab....hard for guys. Some people very ignorant

I don't mean to be rude but a pic of your cock out the side of your boxers just ain't the one, reminds me of my poor Grandad who had dementia and would escape down his leg. "
thanks for letting me know

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By *ervy PriestMan
6 weeks ago

The Diocese Of Lesbos And Poppincandy

"People being ignorant. Nearly all near me read messages n dont reply. Frustrating"

I’m sorry if this offends you but this just reeks of being needy and that FAB owes you something.

Females on here cannot cope with the copious amounts of shite messages they get, I’m guilty of sending them too by the way! Nobody is under any obligation, whatsoever, to reply to you or anyone else. Learn to enjoy FAB as an escape from every day life and relax, take a few deep breaths and don’t let things get to you. If all else fails, get your dick out and have a wank!

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