FabSwingers.com forum: How to mail females

By *tsjustme_69 OP Man
6 weeks ago

letterkenny

Hey, so I feel I speak on behalf of most single males on here when I say this, it’s extremely hard to get a reply from females on here, no matter approach is taken. I understand we can’t be everyone’s type, I understand women get hundreds of messages a day..but is there a better way or more successful way to message a female?! I feel like I’m doing something badly wrong here lol.

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By *og-ManMan
6 weeks ago

somewhere

You don't have to speak on behalf of anyone apart from yourself

If you're not having any luck with messages just stop or it'll wreck your head

If you want to get known then take part in the forums and show people your personality and if you can attend a social

That's my advice

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By *tsjustme_69 OP Man
6 weeks ago

letterkenny

Thanks for the advice

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
6 weeks ago

Portstewart

Just be yourself without being vulgar or crass and try to to have a good first sentence

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By *electableicecreamMan
6 weeks ago

The West

People will look at your profile first. You could try filling out your bio with stuff that people might want to know before deciding to reply.

A lot of men's profiles say 'been here before'. They, and you, might well have been but it's a bit of a cliche that won't work in your favor.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
6 weeks ago

South Down

There's no "one size fits all" when it comes to messages. My advice - only message those that truly interest you. If you can't think of anything to say in your message, then ask yourself why are you messaging.

I'd also advise working on your profile. Many people will look at that before deciding if they should read your message. If you were to message me (and we were broadly what we each were looking for) I'd probably not bother reading it because there's so little in your bio to tell me anything about you and whether we might be compatible. You've got decent photos so your halfway there, but lack of effort in the bio especially when you've been here before and should know better, suggests laziness at best and entitlement at worst.

Lastly, don't rely on messages -as has already been said, get yourself along to some socials and get involved in the forums

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By *ingpot!Man
6 weeks ago

West Cork

Everyone here is right about profile quality. Don't be a mindless bunch of body parts.

Getting out on the social scene is multitudes more beneficial for your chances.

Might help to stop calling women "females" 🙃

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
6 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

Your profile (and post) has a smell of " I've got a great body so I shouldn't have to try very hard". Women may worry that meeting you would be similar.

Put some effort into your profile and tell potential meets what you have to offer. Show some personality.

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By *tsjustme_69 OP Man
6 weeks ago

letterkenny

Ohhh I didn’t think about that at all, and I know this is the expected response but that it not at all who I am, I am actually quite the opposite but thank you I will get a look and try to add more to it.

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By *eordie.Woman
6 weeks ago

The Sticks

"Might help to stop calling women "females" 🙃"

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By *tsjustme_69 OP Man
6 weeks ago

letterkenny

Thank you, I will keep this in mind

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By *tsjustme_69 OP Man
6 weeks ago

letterkenny

Really? Is this offensive?

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By *eeking female funMan
6 weeks ago

finn valley

I'm same but was wondering was it just as Donegal so quite, now I know my profile doesn't say much as had to for few around here telling everyone who in fab ,just beginning to wonder is there better alternative to fab,

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By *astelloWoman
6 weeks ago

Far far away

I always always check out profiles. The balance of pics to content ratio. The dick pic profile is an immediately off putting..

The hi message won't even get looked at. Engaging in forums allows people to ascertain your personality.

It's multi factorial and each of those factors can differ from person to person. That's just my perspective. Good luck.

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By *ardyboy54321Man
6 weeks ago

Fermanagh

I find "well babe what's the craic. How's your ma keeping " works a treat

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By *electableicecreamMan
6 weeks ago

The West

"Really? Is this offensive?"

A lot of women have written here on fab that they are not fond of being referred to as 'a female' or 'the female'.

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By *ublinstud_MisstattooCouple
6 weeks ago

City Centre

"Thank you, I will keep this in mind "

Not a bad profile 🙃 could be maybe the messages? You might think they are OK, but for us girls and couples it might come across rude or offensive. Not saying that is you as we never interacted

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By *s LollyWoman
6 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Im outside your age preference but if you did messages me id look at your bio and see absolutely nothing to gain my interest, your pics are very good so like LK said above your halfway there, ive met more people through interaction on here(forum page)than through messaging alone sometimes people just don't come across well in messages....

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By *ot really famousMan
6 weeks ago

monaghan

"Hey, so I feel I speak on behalf of most single males on here when I say this, it’s extremely hard to get a reply from females on here, no matter approach is taken. I understand we can’t be everyone’s type, I understand women get hundreds of messages a day..but is there a better way or more successful way to message a female?! I feel like I’m doing something badly wrong here lol. "
....it all depends on what day of the week you send them messages..

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By *tsjustme_69 OP Man
6 weeks ago

letterkenny

Hhahaah

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By *tsjustme_69 OP Man
6 weeks ago

letterkenny

Hi, thank you I appreciate that, I may get to work and update the profile. I think age set as a limit but it’s not the main thing. It’s more about the chemistry . I might change the age limit.

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By *tsjustme_69 OP Man
6 weeks ago

letterkenny

Thank you I appreciate the reply and help. Very nice profile by the way! I know couples and women have hundreds a day in some cases to filter through

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By *tsjustme_69 OP Man
6 weeks ago

letterkenny

Oh I haven’t seen any profiles listing that where I have interacted but I will keep that in mind

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By *tsjustme_69 OP Man
6 weeks ago

letterkenny

Hahaha, humor is the winner for you then so. Maybe I need to try that lol

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By *s LollyWoman
6 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Ye need to use the reply&quote button here so people know who your referring to 😁

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By *tsjustme_69 OP Man
6 weeks ago

letterkenny

"Ye need to use the reply&quote button here so people know who your referring to 😁"

Hmm that makes much sense my apologies lol

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
6 weeks ago

"Really? Is this offensive?"

I wouldn't say it's offensive but does cause a lot of eye rolling.

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By *tsjustme_69 OP Man
6 weeks ago

letterkenny

"Really? Is this offensive?

I wouldn't say it's offensive but does cause a lot of eye rolling."

Thank you.. for anyone I did cause eye rolling or offence I apologise

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By *og-ManMan
6 weeks ago

somewhere

By the way OP use the quote and reply button when answer other fabbers so we know who youre talking to

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By *tsjustme_69 OP Man
6 weeks ago

letterkenny

"By the way OP use the quote and reply button when answer other fabbers so we know who youre talking to

Yea I only realised that I wasn’t replying to messages I was replying to the full thread

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By *om TangoMan
6 weeks ago

aughnacloy monaghan area

I always sent the following message

You have the pussy, I’ve the cock and bedroom. Let’s get together

For some reason it doesn’t work 🤪

Only joking lady’s I definitely don’t send messages like that.

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By *rown PrismWoman
6 weeks ago

Dublin

"I always sent the following message

You have the pussy, I’ve the cock and bedroom. Let’s get together

For some reason it doesn’t work 🤪

Only joking lady’s I definitely don’t send messages like that. "

Hahaha And I would definitely reply to such a message... Because it made me laugh.

I hope I won't get hundreds of such messages now because I won't reply.

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By *om TangoMan
6 weeks ago

aughnacloy monaghan area

"I always sent the following message

You have the pussy, I’ve the cock and bedroom. Let’s get together

For some reason it doesn’t work 🤪

Only joking lady’s I definitely don’t send messages like that.

Hahaha And I would definitely reply to such a message... Because it made me laugh.

I hope I won't get hundreds of such messages now because I won't reply. "

You might reply but would it work.

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By *rown PrismWoman
6 weeks ago

Dublin

"I always sent the following message

You have the pussy, I’ve the cock and bedroom. Let’s get together

For some reason it doesn’t work 🤪

Only joking lady’s I definitely don’t send messages like that.

Hahaha And I would definitely reply to such a message... Because it made me laugh.

I hope I won't get hundreds of such messages now because I won't reply.

You might reply but would it work. "

It depends on what will be in the next messages

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By *tsjustme_69 OP Man
6 weeks ago

letterkenny

"I always sent the following message

You have the pussy, I’ve the cock and bedroom. Let’s get together

For some reason it doesn’t work 🤪

Only joking lady’s I definitely don’t send messages like that.

Hahaha And I would definitely reply to such a message... Because it made me laugh.

I hope I won't get hundreds of such messages now because I won't reply.

You might reply but would it work.

It depends on what will be in the next messages"

You two are hilarious 😆

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By *aughty MilfCouple
6 weeks ago

Fermanagh/Monaghan Ireland , Northern Ireland

Maybe if some read profiles they might know why not all will reply

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By *sualSuspect222Man
6 weeks ago

dublin

"Maybe if some read profiles they might know why not all will reply"

I agree with you there 100%

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By *ionycusMan
6 weeks ago

Babylon

Trying to understand the workings of the mind of the human female.

Many a ship has perished on those rocks.

The beauty and the mystery of a woman's mind and the unpredictability of it is one of the biggest attractions for me, that and a shapely ass that likes a spanking.

I message, mostly when I'm chilling out at home having a drink, you can get some replies and even make some friends. If you're a genuine person you will meet some people and have a laugh. It's not all about the sex, you need to be able to communicate before and certainty after.

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By *tsjustme_69 OP Man
6 weeks ago

letterkenny

"Maybe if some read profiles they might know why not all will reply"

Yea I do, I tend to read them before I mail and see if we are remotely similar or have things in common.

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By *aughty MilfCouple
6 weeks ago

Fermanagh/Monaghan Ireland , Northern Ireland

Definitely can make friends. But some messages females get is another reason not many reply.😅

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By *tsjustme_69 OP Man
6 weeks ago

letterkenny

"Definitely can make friends. But some messages females get is another reason not many reply.😅"

I do agree there as well, i personally just find it hard to stand out I suppose. But oh well, what’s meant for you won’t pass you I guess

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By *eeisbackMan
6 weeks ago

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I think the ratio men to women and the amount of mail women receive is the factor. Cause a good message could get unread, think the past while like last few years it’s nearly all socials parties etc where others recommend each other and the cycle continues in that circle. If you look at some profiles their all veried by same people mostly from socials or parties.

If you can get to a social and become known they you get meets. Otherwise its not easy to even get a reply

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By *oe Cool xxxMan
6 weeks ago

South Dublin

You’re forgetting to factor in the number of Cunts on here too , cause with them is dosnt matter what’s in ur message.

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By *tingray271Man
6 weeks ago

Sligo Donegal

I always be yourself. You not on here to impress anyone really.

They other like you or not.

I like chatting. Come and talk

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By *eus17Man
6 weeks ago

belfast

I dont even msg anymore i just put myself out there and if it hapens it happens,tho i havnt had any luck🤣

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
6 weeks ago

South Down

"You’re forgetting to factor in the number of Cunts on here too , cause with them is dosnt matter what’s in ur message. "

Does not being interested in someone make you a cunt?

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"You’re forgetting to factor in the number of Cunts on here too , cause with them is dosnt matter what’s in ur message.

Does not being interested in someone make you a cunt?

A cunt as per Google refers to a woman's genitals. Or in British slang an unpleasant or stupid person.

Google makes no reference to responding to messages on Fab 🤷‍♂️

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
6 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

Fair play to you listening to feedback and updating your profile. Most often it's ignored. Much improved good luck!

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By *chochamberWoman
6 weeks ago

Munster

"You’re forgetting to factor in the number of Cunts on here too , cause with them is dosnt matter what’s in ur message. "

Suggest you don't follow the advice of mysogynists or repeatedly refer to women as cunts.

Manners go a long way, many single women are weary and wary of any signs of aggression.

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