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"Its has to be one of the saddest things when you sit and realise that a friendship has ran its course One of the guys who works for me, we have had a fantastic friendship over the past 8/9 years. It started from him coming to work with me and it progressed from there an we hung out constantly, chatted daily and were there for each other through everything Working together was great because its with your friend so made it so much easier! 2 years ago he met this girl on a hen party and that progressed to him dating here ( ill be honest i have no clue what she is cause he has a gf aswell as her) but this was the start of it. I asked him what was going on and he blanked me Ever since then he has stopped speaking to me ( aside from anything work related), we never hang out anymore and he has pretty much all removed himself from everything. I was working with him earlier in the year and she was with him and we had a great chat! Shes lovely and always was but for some reason he has pulled away from everyone and nobody knows why, not even she knows! Now hes not even making the effort with work stuff and today i just knew that was it, we arent anything anymore and its actually really sad to see that a friendship after all those years just dies Just a part of growing older i guess!" He sounds like a man who doesn't know himself. Very common. Some people are just fair weather friends. If you are lucky in life, you may have 1 or 2 proper friends if you are lucky. This guy was never your friend... | |||
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"Its has to be one of the saddest things when you sit and realise that a friendship has ran its course One of the guys who works for me, we have had a fantastic friendship over the past 8/9 years. It started from him coming to work with me and it progressed from there an we hung out constantly, chatted daily and were there for each other through everything Working together was great because its with your friend so made it so much easier! 2 years ago he met this girl on a hen party and that progressed to him dating here ( ill be honest i have no clue what she is cause he has a gf aswell as her) but this was the start of it. I asked him what was going on and he blanked me Ever since then he has stopped speaking to me ( aside from anything work related), we never hang out anymore and he has pretty much all removed himself from everything. I was working with him earlier in the year and she was with him and we had a great chat! Shes lovely and always was but for some reason he has pulled away from everyone and nobody knows why, not even she knows! Now hes not even making the effort with work stuff and today i just knew that was it, we arent anything anymore and its actually really sad to see that a friendship after all those years just dies Just a part of growing older i guess! He sounds like a man who doesn't know himself. Very common. Some people are just fair weather friends. If you are lucky in life, you may have 1 or 2 proper friends if you are lucky. This guy was never your friend..." I try not to think that but i have! I have some great friends in my life just always sad when one ends Suppose when you dont know why makes it worse! | |||
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"It is really is sad OP. Maybe he felt you crossed a boundary when asking about what he was up to in his relationship. Maybe he didn't want you seeing him in a negative light. You'll never know the real reason unless he offers an explanation. Do you think reaching out could salvage anything? I had a lifetime friendship that ended a few years ago that broke me. I had to grieve the loss of it because it felt like a death. I'm at a place where I can forgive her now but only privately within myself. True friendship is beautiful, I value those in my life that are. " Oh god trust me i hadnt! This is a lad who had 3somes with one of the other guys who worked an he would ring me after it telling me everything! I mean when he told me everything he told me EVERYTHING!! I dont think it can if im honest, more my side i just cant put myself through that! Even when i text him now i get a thumbs up or a one word reply! | |||
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"I think the new girlfriend, replaced you. I think she is now the sounding board for his gossip. Often happens, find a new partner, dump the friends. " I had thought that myself but I spoke with her lots and she was saying he needs to talk to me more but he won’t! Now saying that I worked with him a few weeks back and she ignored me so who knows!! She’s still only the side one he sees at weekends  | |||
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"Its has to be one of the saddest things when you sit and realise that a friendship has ran its course One of the guys who works for me, we have had a fantastic friendship over the past 8/9 years. It started from him coming to work with me and it progressed from there an we hung out constantly, chatted daily and were there for each other through everything Working together was great because its with your friend so made it so much easier! 2 years ago he met this girl on a hen party and that progressed to him dating here ( ill be honest i have no clue what she is cause he has a gf aswell as her) but this was the start of it. I asked him what was going on and he blanked me Ever since then he has stopped speaking to me ( aside from anything work related), we never hang out anymore and he has pretty much all removed himself from everything. I was working with him earlier in the year and she was with him and we had a great chat! Shes lovely and always was but for some reason he has pulled away from everyone and nobody knows why, not even she knows! Now hes not even making the effort with work stuff and today i just knew that was it, we arent anything anymore and its actually really sad to see that a friendship after all those years just dies Just a part of growing older i guess!" Sounds like it could be Mental Health relate. May be that his ability to mirror and mask has reached a limit and he's starting to break under some sort of mental strain. Keep reaching out and make sure he knows he's not alone. | |||
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"Its has to be one of the saddest things when you sit and realise that a friendship has ran its course One of the guys who works for me, we have had a fantastic friendship over the past 8/9 years. It started from him coming to work with me and it progressed from there an we hung out constantly, chatted daily and were there for each other through everything Working together was great because its with your friend so made it so much easier! 2 years ago he met this girl on a hen party and that progressed to him dating here ( ill be honest i have no clue what she is cause he has a gf aswell as her) but this was the start of it. I asked him what was going on and he blanked me Ever since then he has stopped speaking to me ( aside from anything work related), we never hang out anymore and he has pretty much all removed himself from everything. I was working with him earlier in the year and she was with him and we had a great chat! Shes lovely and always was but for some reason he has pulled away from everyone and nobody knows why, not even she knows! Now hes not even making the effort with work stuff and today i just knew that was it, we arent anything anymore and its actually really sad to see that a friendship after all those years just dies Just a part of growing older i guess!" Day will break, stars will fall There's always something you'll forget to say Don't dismay True friends never part Time will pass, paths will stray There's always someone who will break your heart There's no point, being cruel True friends never part We'll meet again Trust me my friend There's no harm in goodbye Give me your glass Follow your heart Wipe that tear from your eye Time makes amends Don't be afraid You'll not let love pass you by Remember this True friends never part Day will break, stars will fall There's always something you'll forget to say Don't dismay True friends never part We'll meet again Trust me my friend There's no harm in goodbye Give me your glass Follow your heart Wipe that tear from your eye Time makes amends Don't be afraid You'll not let love pass you by Remember this True friends never part And we are True Friends In the best words of Jerry Fish | |||
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"Its has to be one of the saddest things when you sit and realise that a friendship has ran its course One of the guys who works for me, we have had a fantastic friendship over the past 8/9 years. It started from him coming to work with me and it progressed from there an we hung out constantly, chatted daily and were there for each other through everything Working together was great because its with your friend so made it so much easier! 2 years ago he met this girl on a hen party and that progressed to him dating here ( ill be honest i have no clue what she is cause he has a gf aswell as her) but this was the start of it. I asked him what was going on and he blanked me Ever since then he has stopped speaking to me ( aside from anything work related), we never hang out anymore and he has pretty much all removed himself from everything. I was working with him earlier in the year and she was with him and we had a great chat! Shes lovely and always was but for some reason he has pulled away from everyone and nobody knows why, not even she knows! Now hes not even making the effort with work stuff and today i just knew that was it, we arent anything anymore and its actually really sad to see that a friendship after all those years just dies Just a part of growing older i guess!" I done the same a long time ago, I back away from my friends and everything thing they done when I met my ex wife, I wouldn't go anywhere r do anything with them,I ended up with nno friend's r so I thought and I guess I became the husband that would just do what they're told 🤷♂️ Fast Forward 32 years and a Divorce, I found myself in a flat Until a knock on my door and it was 1 of my old mate's who just said grab your coat and cum on,met his GF in the pub,and All my mates were back!! Best thing ever except for putting my children(Young Women) thru anything!! So don't dispare get on with Your life and who knows what's around the corner 🤗🤗 | |||
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"Fast Forward 32 years and a Divorce, I found myself in a flat Until a knock on my door and it was 1 of my old mate's who just said grab your coat and cum on,met his GF in the pub," Where did you finish? 🙃 | |||
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"That's a really lovely post OP, and I really like the way you chose to describe it as 'a friendship that's run its course', rather than a friendship lost. That's a healthy attitude. It's one of the saddest experiences the world in my opinion. The death of a loved is extremely painful for sure, but there is a finality to that one can come to terms with in time. What you've described is very similar in terms of the grieving process, except for the additional pain of rejection. A true bond is formed when one human being sits next to another and says "what, you too? I thought I was the only one" (Think that was C.S. Lewis). How often that happens in a person's lifetime is a mystery to me but it's rare. Once I make a connection like that with someone, it never goes away for me even if that person does. I think it's more of a heart than a head thing. Memories are unreliable and nebulous at best - always stuck in the past, but the emotional bond is the bit that lives and breathes. It's always there, sometimes weak, sometimes strong but it never really disappears. Whenever I think of someone special I no longer see, Im just remember that bond and send them good vibes." | |||
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"That's a really lovely post OP, and I really like the way you chose to describe it as 'a friendship that's run its course', rather than a friendship lost. That's a healthy attitude. It's one of the saddest experiences the world in my opinion. The death of a loved is extremely painful for sure, but there is a finality to that one can come to terms with in time. What you've described is very similar in terms of the grieving process, except for the additional pain of rejection. A true bond is formed when one human being sits next to another and says "what, you too? I thought I was the only one" (Think that was C.S. Lewis). How often that happens in a person's lifetime is a mystery to me but it's rare. Once I make a connection like that with someone, it never goes away for me even if that person does. I think it's more of a heart than a head thing. Memories are unreliable and nebulous at best - always stuck in the past, but the emotional bond is the bit that lives and breathes. It's always there, sometimes weak, sometimes strong but it never really disappears. Whenever I think of someone special I no longer see, Im just remember that bond and send them good vibes. " | |||
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