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By *asual777 OP Man
7 weeks ago

i travel all over

Please tell us about moments in your life when you realised something important for the first time , good or bad

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By *rRiosMan
7 weeks ago

dublin

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By *rRiosMan
7 weeks ago

dublin

Talking to my dad when I was 25ish. I was describing how I don’t feel my age at all and he replied he feels 35, he was 60 odd at the time. He said he still gets surprised when he sees himself in the mirror. It was at this moment that I realized probably everybody feels like this to a point, even dads

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By *astelloWoman
7 weeks ago

Far far away

When l said goodbye to my sibling as they turned off life support. Life is fragile, short, and can be heartbreaking too. Life, it's also a gift to enjoy. No one knows what's next.

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By *udding RoseWoman
7 weeks ago

Somewhere out there

When my dad told me he was proud of me, it was amazing to hear it from one of my parents!! He went downhill after that and life was never the same.... It proves that life's too short and if things need to be said, say it sooner before it's too late!!

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By *asuallyChilledMan
7 weeks ago

Drogheda

Discovering this year that I'm neurodivergent and in so discovering my true sexuality.

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By *asual777 OP Man
7 weeks ago

i travel all over

"When l said goodbye to my sibling as they turned off life support. Life is fragile, short, and can be heartbreaking too. Life, it's also a gift to enjoy. No one knows what's next. "

So sorry to hear

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7 weeks ago

"When l said goodbye to my sibling as they turned off life support. Life is fragile, short, and can be heartbreaking too. Life, it's also a gift to enjoy. No one knows what's next. "

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
7 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

Having babies is always like that

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By *ubadubdubWoman
7 weeks ago

Hereabouts

"Please tell us about moments in your life when you realised something important for the first time , good or bad "

For me my most profound realisations have come through dreams. My subconscious is really good at generating imagery to make sense of something that I may not be able to process consciously.

Dreams have helped me define my spiritual understanding, and prompted the ending of my marriage.

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By *panishRebelMan
7 weeks ago

Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland

"Please tell us about moments in your life when you realised something important for the first time , good or bad "

Not sure if I am willing to share some moments.

But .... As one post mentioned children above, I still remember the feelings and emotions beside the utter emotional exhaustion (yes as a man we get tired too 🤣🤣) and then holding each my children for the first time. The relief of holding one for the first time after spending the first two weeks in ITC intensive care incubator unit.

There was this moment of pride, happiness, a daunting sense of responsibility, a trill about the possibilities, and also a sense of fragility that no matter how well I do my new job as a parent, anything could happen good or bad and there was no guarantee that I could stop the bad or provide the good!

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By *antra MassageMan
7 weeks ago

Wicklow

If I was a cat I've used up many of my nine lives by now.

I'm very lucky.

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By *chochamberWoman
7 weeks ago

Munster

Unravelling some family trauma from generations ago, and having a better understanding of the cascading effect of that trauma on the following generations.

A death or a birth are the price and value of love.

The kindness of strangers, every now and then you cross paths with a stranger and something small that they do, comes at the right time and it makes me stop and recognise the beauty of the exchange.

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By *eralt80Man
7 weeks ago

cork

About 13 or 14 years ago o started counselling for anxiety. The first 2 or 3 sessions I was going in and chatting away but not really taking it seriously, wait for the counsellor to say do this, this and this and all will be better. The quick fix in other words. But one weekend I was invited to a friends house warming. Now I had a bit of a crush on her so it was a biggish deal at the time for me but I didn’t know too many of her friends but I knew enough that I could manage. Night of the event came and I turned up fashionably late thinking that there would be a nice crowd there and I’d get by but there were only 4/5 people there at that time and I knew no one and over the next 45 minutes I mentally shut down. Even when people came that I did know I was barely able to talk to them. I struggled on for another while then made my excuses and left.

The following day I was mentally exhausted and furious with myself and finally accepted the fact there are no quick fixes in life. I was just going to have to start taking the sessions seriously.

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By *ind PaddyMan
7 weeks ago

South County Dublin

2 weeks ago I had panic attacks 2 days in a row.

They were very sore and scary.

Luckily I have meds for them. They left me exhausted and tired.

I'm grand now. You're health is your wealth.

The simple things in life are the best.

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By *asual777 OP Man
7 weeks ago

i travel all over

Some very reflective posts

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By *ustBoWoman
7 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

One night when I was in a very toxic relationship when my partner came home and decided he was having sex regardless of the fact I had said no,he decided he had a right to carry on anyhow. That night was the night I finally made the decision to get out of that relationship and to never ever allow anyone to treat me like that ever again and to never make excuses for their crappy behaviour like I had been for years in that relationship.

While it was a horrific night it snapped me out of the haze I was in and I started all over again by myself with just my animals and my clothes I had .

And have been much happier in myself and have the confidence now to not allow anyone to treat me like he did for years. Sometimes you can be lonelier in a relationship than you are when you are single I realised.

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By *icklish_WarriorMan
7 weeks ago

Raheny

"Please tell us about moments in your life when you realised something important for the first time , good or bad

For me my most profound realisations have come through dreams. My subconscious is really good at generating imagery to make sense of something that I may not be able to process consciously.

Dreams have helped me define my spiritual understanding, and prompted the ending of my marriage. "

How have you come to place so much trust in your dreams then?

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By *icklish_WarriorMan
7 weeks ago

Raheny

"About 13 or 14 years ago o started counselling for anxiety. The first 2 or 3 sessions I was going in and chatting away but not really taking it seriously, wait for the counsellor to say do this, this and this and all will be better. The quick fix in other words. But one weekend I was invited to a friends house warming. Now I had a bit of a crush on her so it was a biggish deal at the time for me but I didn’t know too many of her friends but I knew enough that I could manage. Night of the event came and I turned up fashionably late thinking that there would be a nice crowd there and I’d get by but there were only 4/5 people there at that time and I knew no one and over the next 45 minutes I mentally shut down. Even when people came that I did know I was barely able to talk to them. I struggled on for another while then made my excuses and left.

The following day I was mentally exhausted and furious with myself and finally accepted the fact there are no quick fixes in life. I was just going to have to start taking the sessions seriously. "

Sorry to hear that - I hope it's getting better. I'm sure a lot of people here can relate to that feeling

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By *ozzlesMan
7 weeks ago

galway

Being entirely helpless and in the hands of strangers was a very profound experience for me. As my then partner was wheeled into a life altering and possible life ending procedure. Stays with me long after the relationship has ended.

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By *icklish_WarriorMan
7 weeks ago

Raheny

A death or a birth are the price and value of love.

Beautifully put.

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By *ind PaddyMan
7 weeks ago

South County Dublin

"One night when I was in a very toxic relationship when my partner came home and decided he was having sex regardless of the fact I had said no,he decided he had a right to carry on anyhow. That night was the night I finally made the decision to get out of that relationship and to never ever allow anyone to treat me like that ever again and to never make excuses for their crappy behaviour like I had been for years in that relationship.

While it was a horrific night it snapped me out of the haze I was in and I started all over again by myself with just my animals and my clothes I had .

You were so brave to walk away

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