FabSwingers.com forum: Reasons to stay single

By *lueLotus OP Woman
7 weeks ago

the wilderness

Help, I'm feeling an unusual urge to get all romantic and couply (is that a word) with someone, nobody in particular just an urge to merge.

This however will be detrimental to my well being. I just can't.

Please give me all the reasons to stay single thank you!

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By *ethmeonfireMan
7 weeks ago

Dublin

Drama

As a couple you will have drama of whether you like someone or want to play with someone or how dare you look at the someone.

As a single, you’re the master of your own choice so it makes it easier to keep things in control.

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By *asuallyChilledMan
7 weeks ago

Drogheda

No one to move shit around in your house, and not put it back where it's meant to go!

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By *lueLotus OP Woman
7 weeks ago

the wilderness

"No one to move shit around in your house, and not put it back where it's meant to go!"

Oh god yes an ex used to borrow my phone to ring his to find it, then randomly drop mine wherever his had been and just head off out grrrr

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By *luralizes_everythingsMan
7 weeks ago

limerick

You won't be getting dragged to events you don't want to go to?

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By *eordie.Woman
7 weeks ago

The Sticks

The freedom

Do what you want, when you want

Full ownership of the remote and what to watch

The whole bed to yourself

No snoring

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By *lueLotus OP Woman
7 weeks ago

the wilderness

Love the whole bed to myself in fairness, and not being judged for watching shite

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By *og-ManMan
7 weeks ago

somewhere

You can sit on the couch watching sports while scratching your balls merrily to your hearts content *

This might not apply to you

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By *luralizes_everythingsMan
7 weeks ago

limerick

On with the tv subject - volume is always set by and for you.

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By *ozzlesMan
7 weeks ago

galway

"The freedom

Do what you want, when you want

Full ownership of the remote and what to watch

The whole bed to yourself

No snoring

This

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By *electableicecreamMan
7 weeks ago

The West

You get to look like you slept in a bush, wear your ugly comfy clothes and bawl your eyes out covered in the crumbs of your guilty pleasure while watching the most horrendously cheesy shite on tv

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By *ozzlesMan
7 weeks ago

galway

Nobody to complain about you finishing a Netflix series while they are not with you.

Grrrrr feck off with ye I'll watch what I want when I want.

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By *onewolf84Man
7 weeks ago

North cork

"Help, I'm feeling an unusual urge to get all romantic and couply (is that a word) with someone, nobody in particular just an urge to merge.

This however will be detrimental to my well being. I just can't.

Please give me all the reasons to stay single thank you! "

No drama, fighting, you're own person. You do want when want. Freedom,self care. Hope that helps.😊

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By *lueLotus OP Woman
7 weeks ago

the wilderness

"You get to look like you slept in a bush, wear your ugly comfy clothes and bawl your eyes out covered in the crumbs of your guilty pleasure while watching the most horrendously cheesy shite on tv"

How idyllic that sounds yes this is how I want to live my life

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By *electableicecreamMan
7 weeks ago

The West

"You get to look like you slept in a bush, wear your ugly comfy clothes and bawl your eyes out covered in the crumbs of your guilty pleasure while watching the most horrendously cheesy shite on tv

How idyllic that sounds yes this is how I want to live my life "

After I wrote it I found myself thinking 'this is the woman I want'.

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By *chochamberWoman
7 weeks ago

Munster

God, I couldn't bear to be coupled up.

No dealing with other people s moods.

No joint expenses.

No in - laws.

No false conversations, no fake couply small talk.

As much flirting with randomers as you like.

No other people's shite all over your house.

No joint calendars.

No mansplaining

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By *ady ChatterleyWoman
7 weeks ago

Athlone

You can Ignore Valentines Day

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By *udding RoseWoman
7 weeks ago

Somewhere out there

You don't have another person to consider when you want to plan things!! I love my own company which you wouldn't have much of if you were in a relationship!!

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By *og-ManMan
7 weeks ago

somewhere

You can have sex as often as you want

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By *lueLotus OP Woman
7 weeks ago

the wilderness

Can have toast for dinner without someone moaning about it

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By *luralizes_everythingsMan
7 weeks ago

limerick

Crisps in bed too!

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By *lueLotus OP Woman
7 weeks ago

the wilderness

"You get to look like you slept in a bush, wear your ugly comfy clothes and bawl your eyes out covered in the crumbs of your guilty pleasure while watching the most horrendously cheesy shite on tv

How idyllic that sounds yes this is how I want to live my life

After I wrote it I found myself thinking 'this is the woman I want'."

Let's not ever get married.

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By *ofusplusCouple
7 weeks ago

Limerick

"You can Ignore Valentines Day"

We don't celebrate that nonsense either

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By *otownkid1967Man
7 weeks ago

Portlaoise

You can let the dishes pile up in the sink .

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By *lueLotus OP Woman
7 weeks ago

the wilderness

A lot of very compelling arguments here.

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By *eekyNerdMan
7 weeks ago

Portarlington

No wondering if the paycheck will last the month because of random Amazon purchases by the other person

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By *eekyNerdMan
7 weeks ago

Portarlington

Oh, and not having to plan meals around the other person's timetable and/or food likes.

(This is more on me as I'm the fussy eater but still applies)

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By *udding RoseWoman
7 weeks ago

Somewhere out there

Don't have to cook for anybody else, just yourself!! It's usually me that does the cooking, need to find myself a chef!!

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

No walking on egg shells around their mood swings

You can go where you want when you want and be answerable to no one.

You get to make dinners you want

you want cereal? Enjoy your bowl

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By *og-ManMan
7 weeks ago

somewhere

You dont have to talk all the time if there's no one in the room

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
7 weeks ago

City Centre

Extra wardrobe space 😆

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

You can talk and sing to your pets with no judgement

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By *eralt80Man
7 weeks ago

cork

You can fart as much as you want

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By *udding RoseWoman
7 weeks ago

Somewhere out there

You can wear whatever clothes you want!! Don't need to wear make-up!!

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By *og-ManMan
7 weeks ago

somewhere

You can spoil yourself as often as you want

Go on a trip on a whim

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By *og-ManMan
7 weeks ago

somewhere

You can stay in the nip all day

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By *kinnyDippersCouple
7 weeks ago

Dublin

It’s better sharing your life with someone. Believe me While there are positives to being single being part of a couple and having a companion is way better.

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By *hipMan
7 weeks ago

ireland

Peace and happiness! Also you can do what you want all of the time. Love telling all my married friends that when they get onto me about finding someone to get a relationship with. When I respond with that the look in their faces agrees with me

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By *kinnyDippersCouple
7 weeks ago

Dublin

"You can stay in the nip all day "
We often do as a couple so not something exclusively for singles

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By *hipMan
7 weeks ago

ireland

That goes for both sexes

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By *rMotivator2.0Man
7 weeks ago

Donegal

One word...peace

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By *udding RoseWoman
7 weeks ago

Somewhere out there

"It’s better sharing your life with someone. Believe me While there are positives to being single being part of a couple and having a companion is way better."

I'm open minded to it, just finding a person who likes you for you and not passing judgement on you because you've had a sex life!! If they like you enough, it shouldn't matter!!

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By *kinnyDippersCouple
7 weeks ago

Dublin

"It’s better sharing your life with someone. Believe me While there are positives to being single being part of a couple and having a companion is way better.

I'm open minded to it, just finding a person who likes you for you and not passing judgement on you because you've had a sex life!! If they like you enough, it shouldn't matter!!

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Best of luck in your search. You’d be surprised but they are out there.

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By *ofusplusCouple
7 weeks ago

Limerick

When you find the right person, then there's no thinking needed, or major decisions to be made, you'll just let it happen.

Most points mentioned above are not exclusive to singles.

Do what feels right for you.

Good luck ☘

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By *udding RoseWoman
7 weeks ago

Somewhere out there

"When you find the right person, then there's no thinking needed, or major decisions to be made, you'll just let it happen.

Most points mentioned above are not exclusive to singles.

Do what feels right for you.

Good luck ☘"

Makes sense!!

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By *oc09Man
7 weeks ago

near u

The thing I love most bout been single is just have the freedom to do what u like. But at the same time I miss a lot of things bout been coupled up

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By *heBlowinsCouple
7 weeks ago

West Cork

"When you find the right person, then there's no thinking needed, or major decisions to be made, you'll just let it happen.

Most points mentioned above are not exclusive to singles.

Do what feels right for you.

Good luck ☘"

Was trying to find a non-snarky way of saying exactly this sentiment.. amen! 💓😁🙌

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By *og-ManMan
7 weeks ago

somewhere

"You can stay in the nip all day We often do as a couple so not something exclusively for singles "

Don't think my kids woukd be to impressed

They already think Im weird for going to nude swims

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By *eordie.Woman
7 weeks ago

The Sticks

"It’s better sharing your life with someone. Believe me While there are positives to being single being part of a couple and having a companion is way better."

Nah

I'd rather stick pins in me eyes

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By *lueLotus OP Woman
7 weeks ago

the wilderness

I think the only right person for me is me.

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By *ubguy777Man
7 weeks ago

There's pros and cons for both sides, single or in a relationship, all depends on the individuals involved to which works best for them, either way, do what's best for you, enjoy life.

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By *ewadventures2017Couple
7 weeks ago

some where near

Definitely much better having a partner in life

Wouldn't want to be without my hon

I have been both sides of the fence lol

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By *indenMan
7 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

The grass is always greener on the other side, but be wary of those what may be fertilising if with 🐂💩

I wouldn’t let reasons decide if I wanted to be single or not, I’d trust how I felt.

If you want to you’ll find a way, if you don’t you’ll find an excuse.

I’m happily single, I’m not looking for anything, but I’m not a no, nay, never sort of person either, you never know what or who is around the next corner.

A mind is like a parachute, it doesn’t work unless it’s open……..

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By *indenMan
7 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"You can stay in the nip all day We often do as a couple so not something exclusively for singles "

🔭🥸😬

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By *easingTimMan
7 weeks ago

Loughlinstown

- Whole bed to myself

- Toilet seat up 24/7

- Stress free Valentines Days

- Not being that guy with my male friends venting about his girlfriend

- 100% final decision on holidays

- Shouting "I wear the trousers around here" without any objections

... Life is fooking great

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By *BantsMan
7 weeks ago

Mayo for now

You decide what to have for dinner and what's on TV

No one pestering you for sex.

Let the bush grow out, less maintenance lol.

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By *astelloWoman
7 weeks ago

Far far away

Solo travel.. the beauty of going where you like and own agenda..miss the company at dinner time though...

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By *indenMan
7 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

Car/motorbike parts in the Kitchen/dishwasher…..

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By *og-ManMan
7 weeks ago

somewhere

"Car/motorbike parts in the Kitchen/dishwasher…..

You wouldn't believe what I put in there when the family went away on holidays

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By *indenMan
7 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"Car/motorbike parts in the Kitchen/dishwasher…..

You wouldn't believe what I put in there when the family went away on holidays

Which obviously must make you wonder, what they put in there when you’re away…….

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

"No one to move shit around in your house, and not put it back where it's meant to go!

Oh god yes an ex used to borrow my phone to ring his to find it, then randomly drop mine wherever his had been and just head off out grrrr "

One of the reasons he's your ex .

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

"It’s better sharing your life with someone. Believe me While there are positives to being single being part of a couple and having a companion is way better."

Once they're both on the same wavelength, being in a " relationship" with the wrong person is hell, & there are many reasons why a person can end up in one of those, & that's why some are staying single because once out they won't ever go back because they know what they came out of .

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Great question OP..ok where to begin on this one ..

Advantages of being single..

Go where you like ,when you like .

Do what you like when you like .

These cover a multitude without having to ask permission.( All mentioned here before )

Biggest thing about being single is the loneliness, it's a bummer BUT you can't have jam on both sides .

If you're in a marriage or relationship with the wrong person,as l said it's hell , everything ..& l mean everything .. immediately becomes your problem, you have to go where they wanna go ( you're in a marriage or a relationship remember ) ,all the drama in their life suddenly becomes your issues, they put on weight it's your fault , they have nothing to wear its your fault, what's for them suddenly becomes what's for you ..get the picture ?? None of this happens if you are single but the loneliness is the biggest issue of all as regards being single.

I'm separated, single,can go where l like & do , concerts,sports,cinema,it's great while they're happening but they end too & then loneliness kicks in , for a while then a new day new adventure but like l said when a person has seen & experienced the other side they think " do l really want to go there again ? "..that's why l think they're wary of such a situation cause a lot are running out of time & don't wanna waste anymore of being with the wrong person..

so single V not single.. freedom V Loneliness .. choose wisely.

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By *ex coupleCouple
7 weeks ago

wexford

Ya can shite in your own unsuite without been judged after drinking Guinness

My bad

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By *eordie.Woman
7 weeks ago

The Sticks

"It’s better sharing your life with someone. Believe me While there are positives to being single being part of a couple and having a companion is way better.

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By *attooYouMan
7 weeks ago

just about northside

"When you find the right person, then there's no thinking needed, or major decisions to be made, you'll just let it happen.

Most points mentioned above are not exclusive to singles.

Do what feels right for you.

This.

Someone above said being single eventually brings on feelings of loneliness. OP on balance I would think you should go for it. You can use the early part of the journey tell them your likes dislikes and let them know it’s okay for them to do the same. Don’t be cynical either just let it happen and if it doesn’t come naturally it’s okay to end it so long as you do it early and don’t drift

Good luck ☘"

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By *ornyguyMan
7 weeks ago

Hillsborough, NI

You will not need to listen to them watching stuff on their phone when in the same room as you or hearing notifications noises binging.

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By *xstevenxxMan
7 weeks ago

Ashbourne

No one’s mentioned the toilet seat yet

Up or down

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By *chochamberWoman
7 weeks ago

Munster

You ll never have to take one for the team in a group swap situation.

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
7 weeks ago

City Centre

"The grass is always greener on the other side, but be wary of those what may be fertilising if with 🐂💩

I wouldn’t let reasons decide if I wanted to be single or not, I’d trust how I felt.

If you want to you’ll find a way, if you don’t you’ll find an excuse.

I’m happily single, I’m not looking for anything, but I’m not a no, nay, never sort of person either, you never know what or who is around the next corner.

A mind is like a parachute, it doesn’t work unless it’s open……..

Now this is something I can get behind. 🙌

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By *udding RoseWoman
7 weeks ago

Somewhere out there

Hey, I have to say this..... there's absolutely nothing wrong with being single, it's not for everyone but some people really like it!!

Don't get me wrong I'm open to a relationship, not ruling it out completely but I'm also happy being single too, been single 13 years so it would be hard to get into a relationship again...... He would want to be someone really really special for my head to be turned..... I don't want to be controlled, I don't want to be judged on what I did or didn't do in the past..... and just because I've enjoyed/enjoying having a sex life, it doesn't mean I can't be trusted.....

Again I repeat, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING SINGLE, no point in being with somebody for the sake of it to suit other people!!

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By *antra MassageMan
7 weeks ago

Wicklow

"It’s better sharing your life with someone. Believe me While there are positives to being single being part of a couple and having a companion is way better."

When you have C as your companion....lucky ducklings.

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By *indenMan
7 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"The grass is always greener on the other side, but be wary of those what may be fertilising if with 🐂💩

I wouldn’t let reasons decide if I wanted to be single or not, I’d trust how I felt.

If you want to you’ll find a way, if you don’t you’ll find an excuse.

I’m happily single, I’m not looking for anything, but I’m not a no, nay, never sort of person either, you never know what or who is around the next corner.

A mind is like a parachute, it doesn’t work unless it’s open……..

Now this is something I can get behind. 🙌"

How about in front of, underneath or on top of?…..

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By *og-ManMan
7 weeks ago

somewhere

Think there's always reasons to stay single or as a couple but it's nice when you get a chance to wake up with a warm body beside you in the bed

I mean someone alive before you ask

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By *rystalsswingCouple
7 weeks ago

Galway

"You can Ignore Valentines Day"

It already gets ignored here 😅😅

But Shien knows and acknowledges Valentines 😇🤗

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
7 weeks ago

Home

"You can have sex as often as you want "
really 🤔 I'm single and that never happens for me.

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By *ubadubdubWoman
7 weeks ago

Hereabouts

Single is great, there's no one in my head but me! and I do love my independence.

But sometimes 2 heads are better than one, Im planning a holiday soon and am kinda wishing I had a partner for that.

Swings and roundabouts OP.

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By *panishRebelMan
7 weeks ago

Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland

The two are just different! Neither good nor bad in of themselves. But being with someone who gets you, that's where it's best for me. Until then enjoy singleness. Even when lonely, cause some are in relationships and still lonely! So only be with those who get you!

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By *og-ManMan
7 weeks ago

somewhere

"You can have sex as often as you want really 🤔 I'm single and that never happens for me."

Sex with yourself counts

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
7 weeks ago

Home

"You can have sex as often as you want really 🤔 I'm single and that never happens for me.

Sex with yourself counts

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🤣🤣🤣🤣

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By *auls21Man
7 weeks ago

Derry

Not about being single or with a partner

Should be about what makes you happy

If you are happy single then continue as you are

If you find the right person

and that makes you happier..

grab it with both hands and enjoy it

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By *asuallyChilledMan
7 weeks ago

Drogheda

There are so many fantastic sex toys available these days 🤷‍♀️

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By *aughty MilfCouple
7 weeks ago

Fermanagh/Monaghan Ireland , Northern Ireland

Toys can be enjoyed with your partner also

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By *otorman20021Man
7 weeks ago

East Cork

As someone who spent quite a bit of time being with the wrong person the difference in me personally now I find is immense. As someone said already not having to walk on eggshells or coming home to all picture and no sound and wondering what has gone wrong this time. I honestly can’t see myself ever letting someone in that much ever again in my life but also at the same time you can’t close yourself off completely. As Linden said you never know what is around the corner. It’s finding the right balance for you at the present moment is the important part, having your own freedom to do what you want and when is hard to let go of.

You can’t have the rainbows without the rain they say!

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By *oodOmensfor2Couple
7 weeks ago

Ennis

If you enjoy being single and prefer it, that's fair enough but a lot of the given reasons are because you can't do them in a relationship and sorry guys but that's just not true. If you can't be yourself in a relationship it may not be the right one.

Although, the extra space in bed is true of course

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By *affa31Woman
7 weeks ago

Galway

A lot of people here seem to think all relationships are toxic

Big difference between being in a happy, healthy relationship where you don’t have to be anyone but yourself and being in a toxic relationship.

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By *og-ManMan
7 weeks ago

somewhere

"A lot of people here seem to think all relationships are toxic

Big difference between being in a happy, healthy relationship where you don’t have to be anyone but yourself and being in a toxic relationship. "

Kinda glad I'm in a Toxic relationship

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By *leasurer77Man
7 weeks ago

Athlone

"Help, I'm feeling an unusual urge to get all romantic and couply (is that a word) with someone, nobody in particular just an urge to merge.

This however will be detrimental to my well being. I just can't.

Please give me all the reasons to stay single thank you! "

I was held up at gunpoint recently and the guy said; Give me your money or I'll take your life. I said, I'm married, I don't have either!

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By *razyNippleLoverMan
7 weeks ago

Naas

Great song about a man's choice to be single

The Mary Wallopers, "Love Will Never Conquer Me,"

Check it out

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By *unflowerWoman
7 weeks ago

Dublin

"Help, I'm feeling an unusual urge to get all romantic and couply (is that a word) with someone, nobody in particular just an urge to merge.

This however will be detrimental to my well being. I just can't.

Please give me all the reasons to stay single thank you! "

It’s scientifically proven that single women live longer and are reacher.

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By *BantsMan
7 weeks ago

Mayo for now

I've been told single women have better sex

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By *alway BikerMan
7 weeks ago

Oughterard

"A lot of people here seem to think all relationships are toxic

Big difference between being in a happy, healthy relationship where you don’t have to be anyone but yourself and being in a toxic relationship. "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Because I was shit at being in a relationship, not adultery just not considerate enough

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By *adhatter and coCouple
7 weeks ago

Middle of mayo n peaceful tranquility

No snoring

I feel like killing my husband sometimes

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By *amsevenMan
7 weeks ago

cork

Bag a cans

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By *eordie.Woman
7 weeks ago

The Sticks

"Bag a cans"

Do you share?

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By *amsevenMan
7 weeks ago

cork

For sure.

Plenty to go around

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By *heBlowinsCouple
7 weeks ago

West Cork

"I've been told single women have better sex"

By whom? 😂

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By *og-ManMan
7 weeks ago

somewhere

"I've been told single women have better sex

By whom? 😂"

A single woman by any chance

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By *lueLotus OP Woman
7 weeks ago

the wilderness

Thanks for all the great posts I'm feeling better about staying single for now!

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By *og-ManMan
7 weeks ago

somewhere

"Thanks for all the great posts I'm feeling better about staying single for now! "

Good youre feeling better about it

Sometimes the good people of fab can be a great help

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By *indenMan
7 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

According to Central Statistics Office figures from 2022, there are almost 426,000 people who are single or living alone in Ireland.

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By *ubadubdubWoman
7 weeks ago

Hereabouts

"Thanks for all the great posts I'm feeling better about staying single for now!

Good youre feeling better about it

Sometimes the good people of fab can be a great help "

Speaking of which I probably should've warned you sooner to get out of that bath before you turn crinkly 😆😋

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By *og-ManMan
7 weeks ago

somewhere

"Thanks for all the great posts I'm feeling better about staying single for now!

Good youre feeling better about it

Sometimes the good people of fab can be a great help

Speaking of which I probably should've warned you sooner to get out of that bath before you turn crinkly 😆😋"

In fairness Rubs I was crinkly before I got in

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By *ellinixxMan
7 weeks ago

sallins

"Help, I'm feeling an unusual urge to get all romantic and couply (is that a word) with someone, nobody in particular just an urge to merge.

This however will be detrimental to my well being. I just can't.

Please give me all the reasons to stay single thank you! "

Single is not always the answer to your problems, more looking at the problem and staying away from it. Meaning, if you know deep down that person is self centered and not a good player to the relationship. Stay away from that! Look for person who is always willing to do extra mile stuff, loves to spend time with you. One can do things that self centered person would not do. And do it without asking.

Then you know

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By *ellinixxMan
7 weeks ago

sallins

"According to Central Statistics Office figures from 2022, there are almost 426,000 people who are single or living alone in Ireland. "

I am not surprised

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

No narcissistic aHoles controlling every aspect of your life. I won't ever marry again

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

"Thanks for all the great posts I'm feeling better about staying single for now! "

There's always gonna be the pros & cons of such a scenario,& that's ok too.

me ? l Will remain single until l find the lady that's on the same wavelength as me, will keep looking of course,here & in the real world, l would prefer to remain single than be with the wrong person but if ..if.. l find a lady that's right in physical & mental attributes for me & l her ...for each other , then she'll own me , it really is that simple, but until then it's the single life for me, not being selfish here , not by any stretch of the imagination, just being practical, for both .

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By *asual777Man
7 weeks ago

i travel all over

It’s possible that if the couple are incredibly well matched or it’s their second onwards really long term relationship that their values align with some compromises that don’t overwhelm them . They may be good enough communicators to work through challenges . They may have the experience to agree on expectations and red lines at the beginning .

However I think In many scenarios once the honeymoon period is over , you get to a point where one partner or both are giving the other a free pass. Not contributing enough to household chores , being overly critical , not being present enough as a parent/carer, not being validating enough as a partner/lover etc . There comes a critical point where a decision needs to be made , am I going to accept this forever ?

Some don’t , and split up , or go to therapy etc . Some do , because they’re financially dependent , or emotionally dependent , or are trying to protect the kids . I suppose some will stay because they think they love the other person too much to leave , but the cynical me says what they’re describing is dependence/pragmatism not love .

Single is ok , no free passes to someone who is taking you for granted

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By *chochamberWoman
7 weeks ago

Munster

Single is more than OK, it's not the second best option.

It a valid choice, being happily coupled up is not the ultimate goal, with single being the slightly less attractive alternative.

Some people, myself included, actively want to be single. It's not selfish, narcissistic etc, it's just a valid choice like any other.

There is no pinnacle of relationship statuses, with happily coupled up at the top. Being single is equally as valid, as is polyamoury as is open relationships etc.

Single women live longer than coupled up women, as they are not drained from the extra caring responsibilities. Single men live shorter lives, because they lack the caring of a spouse. So what does that tell us? On average, being coupled up means women drain themselves a little more to provide care for the unit than men do. Single women, over a lifetime, are physically healthier than women burdened with excessive caring duties.

Anyway, to each their own. Plenty of people are single by choice and not by circumstance, and are happily single, not hunting for the next (couple) partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

"It’s possible that if the couple are incredibly well matched or it’s their second onwards really long term relationship that their values align with some compromises that don’t overwhelm them . They may be good enough communicators to work through challenges . They may have the experience to agree on expectations and red lines at the beginning .

Single is ok , no free passes to someone who is taking you for granted "

If there is someone taking the other person for granted ,who's wrong ?..the person doing it or the person taking it ? You see ,to me anyway , in a relationship or Marriage what can happen very easily is the scenario " what's for me is also for you " & that can be so detrimental, that's why it's so important to get it right,a person who truly knows you will never inflict that sort of situation on you , never make you feel uneasy just because they think they can, they won't bring unnecessary drama to your life , in my opinion that's why it's so important to find the right person for yourself & her,if both find that person then it's bliss for them while they're on this Earth simply because they're made for each other & that's why it's so difficult to find that & until that happens it's way better for a person to stay single,do not get involved with a person that's wrong for you .

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By *attooYouMan
7 weeks ago

just about northside

"Thanks for all the great posts I'm feeling better about staying single for now!

There's always gonna be the pros & cons of such a scenario,& that's ok too.

That’s a wonderful line “she’ll own me”. I get it.

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By *attooYouMan
7 weeks ago

just about northside

I wish I had it

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By *udding RoseWoman
7 weeks ago

Somewhere out there

You have independence, you can go on solo holidays!! I've yet to do that, where I go with a group and decide each day whether to go with them on an outing or do your own thing and find someplace amazing yourself!! I know couples can do that too but if you were doing it solo, it'll give you more confidence, make you a stronger person!!

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By *eus17Man
7 weeks ago

belfast

I miss the cuddles

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By *ukeM8519Man
7 weeks ago

Sandymount

I’m Single by choice for now. But as I’m older I sometimes struggle with the stigma around been an older single, especially in an Ireland where most people are married with 2 kids etc.. nobody ever makes any comments to me but I think in my head they are saying, weirdo, odd, strange, what’s wrong with him. That can be the hard part.

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By *asuallyChilledMan
7 weeks ago

Drogheda

I'm polyamorous and non-monogamous. So, I consider myself available but not single.

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