FabSwingers.com forum: Female Opinions on male partner not cumming

By *asuallyChilled OP Man
12 weeks ago

Drogheda

I'm on several meds that means, while arousal isn't an issue ever, there are occasions when I know I won't cum. Of course, the advantage there is also a three to four hour session.

Seriously though, how do women feel if their male partner doesn't cum?

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
12 weeks ago

Northern Ireland

Sometimes my partner can't cum because he has too many times already and we have fun but we know he'll not get there. He's happy that I'm happy and getting pleasure.

Other times I'll tell him I'm using him for my pleasure only and that's more to do consensual objectification, but he gets off on that too. Not literally...because no cumming for him!

So we just enjoy it for what it is. The male orgasm should not necessarily signal the end of sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I mostly afraid that can damage his mentality, trying to support him and be careful with my words. For me most important we have fun without any bad feelings whatsoever.

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By *eckme70Man
12 weeks ago

Strabane

"I mostly afraid that can damage his mentality, trying to support him and be careful with my words. For me most important we have fun without any bad feelings whatsoever. "

I can find it hard to orgasm sometimes, but to be honest I'd rather bring the woman to climax that gives me the most pleasure 🤷‍♂️🥰

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By *exyScientistsCouple
12 weeks ago

Castlebar

For me my partner cumming is a huge turn on. But if that isnt going to or likely to happen then I'd prefer to know that and that's ok. I don't always cum myself and I will tell my partner if I don't think it's going to happen for whatever reason. I try not to get too hung up on who cums and who doesn't. It's about enjoying the other person.

Mrs

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By *eckme70Man
12 weeks ago

Strabane

"For me my partner cumming is a huge turn on. But if that isnt going to or likely to happen then I'd prefer to know that and that's ok. I don't always cum myself and I will tell my partner if I don't think it's going to happen for whatever reason. I try not to get too hung up on who cums and who doesn't. It's about enjoying the other person.

Mrs

Mrs you're 100% it's about the enjoyment a pleasure 🤷‍♂️

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By *amon.dMan
12 weeks ago

antrim

Sometimes I find it hard to cum if there's alot of lube involved, but to be honest I love and prefer making someone else cum. Watching them writhe hearing them moan as they explode.

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By *heBlowinsCouple
12 weeks ago

West Cork

Great question OP!

We're similar in a lot of ways so this doesn't just pertain to Mr:

We engage in a fair bit of orgasm denial, for both of us. We love edging each other, many times over multiple sessions.

Cumming is rarely our primary goal and when on meets with others, neither of us ever do - we not only like to reserve that for each other but it's also difficult to mentally allow ourselves to reach that point with other people

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By *hilaboutMan
12 weeks ago

kilkenny

Generally get to cum but on the occasions it doesnt happen its giving pleasure n seeing partner happy is so satisfying.

Cumming isnt the be all n end all but is pretty damm satisfying lol

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By *chochamberWoman
12 weeks ago

Munster

Doesn't bother me at all. I don't always cum (even though I ve had fun), I think it's normal to not cum on demand. There should be less focus on it. It's just one part of the process/exchange, it doesn't have to be the end goal.

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By *r.AnonymousMan
12 weeks ago

town

I’d prefer to focus on the process than the results

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By *eckme70Man
12 weeks ago

Strabane

"Doesn't bother me at all. I don't always cum (even though I ve had fun), I think it's normal to not cum on demand. There should be less focus on it. It's just one part of the process/exchange, it doesn't have to be the end goal. "

Plus when someone cums it can be an ending, so the longer I get to pleasure someone the better

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By *milyRose321TV/TS
12 weeks ago

Derry, Ireland

Been there plenty of times with ex's and current always start good then loose erection lol even where when I get into zone current partner she would be cumming and shouting breed me but I just loose my erection think just bored don't get me wrong sex good and always dressed kinky and loved them even ex fiance current partner even said you not fancy me anymore told her I do but just wasn't interested in sex as bored so I rarely when with women cum even though it hurt them but what can you do lol

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By *chochamberWoman
12 weeks ago

Munster

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By *otwife Owners ClubCouple
12 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

"I'm on several meds that means, while arousal isn't an issue ever, there are occasions when I know I won't cum. Of course, the advantage there is also a three to four hour session.

Seriously though, how do women feel if their male partner doesn't cum?"

My wife had an older lover for 8 years and they would spend the night together once a month on average. During that entire time, Steve had maybe 4 or 5 orgasms at most. What he also had was a very thick cock and amazing sexual stamina, which meant my sexy petite wife would normally orgasm 2 or 3 times during each 2 hour session. She LOVED this and would return home with a huge smile on her face the next morning!

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By *ubadubdubWoman
12 weeks ago

Hereabouts

Past boyfriend never came in the 6 months we were together, he told me he'd been that way for years and it wasn't anything to do with me (he'd no problem getting hard)

I just accepted it, even though I felt kinda bad for him like he was missing out but sex was great anyway

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By *eckme70Man
12 weeks ago

Strabane

"Past boyfriend never came in the 6 months we were together, he told me he'd been that way for years and it wasn't anything to do with me (he'd no problem getting hard)

I just accepted it, even though I felt kinda bad for him like he was missing out but sex was great anyway "

I'd say he had everything he wanted in you and I'm sure he loved making you cum

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By *eadMeisterMan
12 weeks ago

Blanchardstown

"Sometimes my partner can't cum because he has too many times already and we have fun but we know he'll not get there. He's happy that I'm happy and getting pleasure.

Other times I'll tell him I'm using him for my pleasure only and that's more to do consensual objectification, but he gets off on that too. Not literally...because no cumming for him!

So we just enjoy it for what it is. The male orgasm should not necessarily signal the end of sex.

The last sentence is golden

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By *hilmeup85Man
8 weeks ago

Glasgow

I have been swinging for the last 3 years with my now ex-wife and didn't matter who we or I played with, I couldn't cum with anyone else...

Was invited to an MFM last week and stopped caring after the 3rd load.

For me it was all psychological.

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