FabSwingers.com forum: Pictures vs reality

By *eeisback OP Man
12 weeks ago

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Can someone look bette in person than in picture? Reason being is if i met anyone at a social or that they’d say i look better than in pictures? But when mailing anyone it goes great till asked for face pic then its like straight noway. Just wondering on yer opinions

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
12 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

I think there are definitely pictures that don't accurately show someone. That means both pics that look better than reality, and those that look worse. It's depends on the photo rather than the person

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By *elloMarylouWoman
12 weeks ago

mayo

"Can someone look bette in person than in picture? Reason being is if i met anyone at a social or that they’d say i look better than in pictures? But when mailing anyone it goes great till asked for face pic then its like straight noway. Just wondering on yer opinions "

Yes and no.

I've met people that look nothing like their pics, or the pics are a few years older.

I'm honest from the start about my size, don't use filters abd a face pic is currently how I look

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By *exesrangerMan
12 weeks ago

North Cork

Paper bags mate (preferably brown, gives a bitta colour) Bags can be your friend too. Works for me anyway

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By *s LollyWoman
12 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Filter's and makeup are magical for some people on here, generally people just see the body before the face, some people are crap at selfies me included, ive been sent facepics that ive not at that time been attracted to yet in person they look better, its all about the angle and good lighting taken good pictures.....

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By *electableicecreamMan
12 weeks ago

The West

I've met a few people who's photos don't do them justice.

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By *ealitybitesMan
12 weeks ago

Belfast

Em 🤔

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By *uper duperMan
12 weeks ago

around

I met a lady once and she looked like the picture she sent me.

Only problem was the picture must have been taken 20 years previously

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By *exyScientistsCouple
12 weeks ago

Castlebar

I've definitely been very attracted to several people in person that I wouldn't have been interested in based on a face pic. Some people have a charisma that hooks me. It's nothing I can predict. So I don't ask for face pics. I have to meet someone to truly know...

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By *he KakapoMan
12 weeks ago

A nice rock

There is also the face to face nice factor to consider.

Ita much easier for some to be blunt online and then just pat mindless compliments in person.

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By *otorman20021Man
12 weeks ago

East Cork

It has went the other way for me before, when I received a face picture I was not attracted to them but I met the person later at an event and it was completely different. It was the way she walked with confidence and a cheeky look made all the difference.

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
12 weeks ago

in the waves

I generally find men look better in person than in selfies or pics they send here. If the chat is good I'd prefer to meet someone in person and see if I'm attracted or not.

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By *ofusplusCouple
12 weeks ago

Limerick

"I've definitely been very attracted to several people in person that I wouldn't have been interested in based on a face pic. Some people have a charisma that hooks me. It's nothing I can predict. So I don't ask for face pics. I have to meet someone to truly know..."

Agreed

Face pics miss so much. We'd prefer not to see them.

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By *electableicecreamMan
12 weeks ago

The West

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By *electableicecreamMan
12 weeks ago

The West

Agreed

Face pics miss so much. We'd prefer not to see them."

Sometimes they add too much. Bad light and bad angles and bad cameras.

And some people just don't like taking selfies. I know I grimace.

So I'm the same. Prefer to meet without face pics. I'll send if asked but I don't usually ask.

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By *chochamberWoman
12 weeks ago

Munster

A lot of men take bad selfies. A genuine nice smile, and twinkly mischievous eyes are v attractive. You don't always capture that in selfies.

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By *electableicecreamMan
12 weeks ago

The West

"A lot of men take bad selfies. A genuine nice smile, and twinkly mischievous eyes are v attractive. You don't always capture that in selfies. "

A lot of men don't use filters or wear makeup

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By *ogladyWoman
12 weeks ago

The bog

I've definitely met a few that look nothing like there pics both men and women.. Filters have a lot to do with it.. But I've also met many that looked way better than there pics..

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By *oe Cool xxxMan
12 weeks ago

South Dublin

U can’t judge by face alone , some have gorgeous face ur shite personality ,

U can’t really know if u get on with someone till u meet

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By *adyKarmennTVTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Dublin

Really depends how I go my makeup that day!! I’ve met a few very very different .. one had sent a photo easily 15 years of a difference!!

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By *og-ManMan
12 weeks ago

somewhere

I find that if I'm taking a selfie its better with the lights out

I enjoy the fact that I haven't got a clue what most people look like until I meet them face to face

My mind allocates them a look and then if I finally meet them my mind replaces the image I had of them with what they actually look like

Prefer no face pics in advance

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By *eijaWoman
12 weeks ago

City Centre

God ask my friends I absolutely hate selfies...like HATE 🙈🤣

People always think I look better in person.

I look super awkward in selfies 🤣🤣 ask LadyKate!

B x

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By *oe Cool xxxMan
12 weeks ago

South Dublin

I look exactly the same in person 🤓

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By *ofusplusCouple
12 weeks ago

Limerick

"I find that if I'm taking a selfie its better with the lights out

I enjoy the fact that I haven't got a clue what most people look like until I meet them face to face

My mind allocates them a look and then if I finally meet them my mind replaces the image I had of them with what they actually look like

Prefer no face pics in advance "

This 👆👆👆

It's fun to anticipate the social, having no clue what they look like. It adds to the excitement

We'd only meet if we clicked with the messaging so we know we'll at least have a decent chat and the social won't have been for nothing if there's no attraction.

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By *iscuits8Man
12 weeks ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

I don't take/send selfies... prefer to disappoint people in person, baby! 😎

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By *ACOLCouple
12 weeks ago

limerick

"I don't take/send selfies... prefer to disappoint people in person, baby! 😎"

I send pics with no make up and just not much effort. So the disappointment isn't too bad when they meet us 😅

Our personalities are better 🥰 or so we heard.😇

Lina.

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By *oinNumberMan
12 weeks ago

Not in Dublin

They say a picture tells a thousand words, we’ll see something for real you don’t need any words!!

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By *ebelCouple40Couple
12 weeks ago

Cork

Loads of profiles don't do themselves any favours with the lack of photos,and the quality of photos on their profiles.

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By *ig_specsWoman
12 weeks ago

Kilbarrack

Men particularly suck at taking pictures. There are a few that make me think "seriously you dared to publish this?"

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By *ebelCouple40Couple
12 weeks ago

Cork

The amount of couples profiles on here with only photos of the Female is staggering!.Its like the ladies don't need to see the men at all!lol

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By *arajeanCouple
12 weeks ago

mayo

Face to face is only way to get to know someone

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By *eestar10Man
12 weeks ago

cavan

"Face to face is only way to get to know someone "

Sorts the messers out

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By *aseylee324Couple
12 weeks ago

Valley of Squinting Windows

I've never encountered anyone who looked better than their pics, most people with any level of intelligence can figure out good angles!

It's personality that makes someone attractive or not, you can't see that in a pic.

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By *osepearlWoman
12 weeks ago

bray

You should always have at least one photo without a filter just in case you get lost and people are looking for some super model instead Mrs. Brown

Not big fan of filters I only use them for messing around, all my pictures here just natural and only belongs to me

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By *osepearlWoman
12 weeks ago

bray

"I don't take/send selfies... prefer to disappoint people in person, baby! 😎"

Can’t wait to be disappointed 😈🤣🤣🤣

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By *astelloWoman
12 weeks ago

Far far away

I'm still giggling at bogman, trying to identify the one blue eyed girl at a social. Tbf you found me. But pics are one dimensional and meeting in person is multi dimensional.

Having engrossed myself in blind date UK for the past week..it seems connections can work.

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By *he KakapoMan
12 weeks ago

A nice rock

I couldn't imagine organising a meet without having seen a face pic.

And yes I know they can be misleading but still it's an important step for me.

Although I do remember back in the day arranging a few dates with girls who's number you got on a night out and not having the vaguest recollection of what they looked like.

Standing outside McDonald's pretending to recognise 3 or 4 people until the right person walked up..

🤣🤣

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By *og-ManMan
12 weeks ago

somewhere

"I couldn't imagine organising a meet without having seen a face pic.

And yes I know they can be misleading but still it's an important step for me.

Although I do remember back in the day arranging a few dates with girls who's number you got on a night out and not having the vaguest recollection of what they looked like.

Standing outside McDonald's pretending to recognise 3 or 4 people until the right person walked up..

🤣🤣"

Nothing worse that standing there like a prat and everyone else knows you've been stood up especially before the days of mobiles

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By *aseylee324Couple
12 weeks ago

Valley of Squinting Windows

"I couldn't imagine organising a meet without having seen a face pic.

And yes I know they can be misleading but still it's an important step for me.

Although I do remember back in the day arranging a few dates with girls who's number you got on a night out and not having the vaguest recollection of what they looked like.

Standing outside McDonald's pretending to recognise 3 or 4 people until the right person walked up..

🤣🤣"

Ah but nothing beats the kick of watching someone's face fall when they realise you're the person they're meeting

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By *he KakapoMan
12 weeks ago

A nice rock

"I couldn't imagine organising a meet without having seen a face pic.

And yes I know they can be misleading but still it's an important step for me.

Although I do remember back in the day arranging a few dates with girls who's number you got on a night out and not having the vaguest recollection of what they looked like.

Standing outside McDonald's pretending to recognise 3 or 4 people until the right person walked up..

🤣🤣

Nothing worse that standing there like a prat and everyone else knows you've been stood up especially before the days of mobiles "

I've never been stood up... the absolute cheek of ya...

She just went to the wrong McD's honest...

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By *hoenixagamTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Rural

STEP 1: PRIMER. ...

STEP 2: COLOUR CORRECTOR. ...

STEP 3: FOUNDATION. ...

STEP 4: CONCEALER. ...

STEP 5: POWDER. ...

STEP 6: BRONZER & CONTOUR. ...

STEP 7: HIGHLIGHTER. ...

STEP 8: BROWS.

Always works for me

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By *he KakapoMan
12 weeks ago

A nice rock

"STEP 1: PRIMER. ...

STEP 2: COLOUR CORRECTOR. ...

STEP 3: FOUNDATION. ...

STEP 4: CONCEALER. ...

STEP 5: POWDER. ...

STEP 6: BRONZER & CONTOUR. ...

STEP 7: HIGHLIGHTER. ...

STEP 8: BROWS.

Always works for me

Step 1. Attempt to smile

Step 2. Realise I look like a deranged serial killer

Step 3. Don't smile

Step 4. Every single recipient "you should smile"

Step 5. Throw phone away

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By *rish_GuyMan
12 weeks ago

Foxford

I'm 1 of those men, that's brutal at taking pictures of myself. I don't use filters, that much. I'd prefer a person to not be expecting alot or thinking I'm something special. Only to meetup & freak out, when then realise it's me, there meeting.🥴🥴

Afterall what's wrong with a person being there self & if others don't like it. It's fine, they can move on ASAP?🤔🤷‍♂️😉😂👍

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By *hoenixagamTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Rural

"STEP 1: PRIMER. ...

STEP 2: COLOUR CORRECTOR. ...

STEP 3: FOUNDATION. ...

STEP 4: CONCEALER. ...

STEP 5: POWDER. ...

STEP 6: BRONZER & CONTOUR. ...

STEP 7: HIGHLIGHTER. ...

STEP 8: BROWS.

Always works for me

Step 1. Attempt to smile

Step 2. Realise I look like a deranged serial killer

Step 3. Don't smile

Step 4. Every single recipient "you should smile"

Step 5. Throw phone away"

Or cock size, I've had no complaints yet....

Or the good old torso, what am I meant to do with a torso

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By *chochamberWoman
12 weeks ago

Munster

I love the bravery of a face pic as a profile pic.

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By *osepearlWoman
12 weeks ago

bray

"STEP 1: PRIMER. ...

STEP 2: COLOUR CORRECTOR. ...

STEP 3: FOUNDATION. ...

STEP 4: CONCEALER. ...

STEP 5: POWDER. ...

STEP 6: BRONZER & CONTOUR. ...

STEP 7: HIGHLIGHTER. ...

STEP 8: BROWS.

Always works for me

Feck all that I am Beautiful as I am without plastering my face with all this stuff, just good sex and smiles makes my even prettier. I better spend all that time shagging

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By *eralt80Man
12 weeks ago

cork

"I couldn't imagine organising a meet without having seen a face pic.

And yes I know they can be misleading but still it's an important step for me.

Although I do remember back in the day arranging a few dates with girls who's number you got on a night out and not having the vaguest recollection of what they looked like.

Standing outside McDonald's pretending to recognise 3 or 4 people until the right person walked up..

🤣🤣"

Ah here, McDonald’s? I’m not surprised she didn’t turn up.

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By *og-ManMan
12 weeks ago

somewhere

"STEP 1: PRIMER. ...

STEP 2: COLOUR CORRECTOR. ...

STEP 3: FOUNDATION. ...

STEP 4: CONCEALER. ...

STEP 5: POWDER. ...

STEP 6: BRONZER & CONTOUR. ...

STEP 7: HIGHLIGHTER. ...

STEP 8: BROWS.

Always works for me

Step 1. Attempt to smile

Step 2. Realise I look like a deranged serial killer

Step 3. Don't smile

Step 4. Every single recipient "you should smile"

Step 5. Throw phone away

Or cock size, I've had no complaints yet....

Or the good old torso, what am I meant to do with a torso

The boot of your car....sorry I think you meant something else

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By *og-ManMan
12 weeks ago

somewhere

"I'm still giggling at bogman, trying to identify the one blue eyed girl at a social. Tbf you found me. But pics are one dimensional and meeting in person is multi dimensional.

Having engrossed myself in blind date UK for the past week..it seems connections can work. "

Looking at women and only concentrating on their eye was a bit of a challenge alright until I found you

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By *chochamberWoman
12 weeks ago

Munster

Boom

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By *hoenixagamTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Rural

"STEP 1: PRIMER. ...

STEP 2: COLOUR CORRECTOR. ...

STEP 3: FOUNDATION. ...

STEP 4: CONCEALER. ...

STEP 5: POWDER. ...

STEP 6: BRONZER & CONTOUR. ...

STEP 7: HIGHLIGHTER. ...

STEP 8: BROWS.

Always works for me

Step 1. Attempt to smile

Step 2. Realise I look like a deranged serial killer

Step 3. Don't smile

Step 4. Every single recipient "you should smile"

Step 5. Throw phone away

Or cock size, I've had no complaints yet....

Or the good old torso, what am I meant to do with a torso

The boot of your car....sorry I think you meant something else

Ah I can see how it's like a true detective novel now ha ha

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
12 weeks ago

City Centre

I prefer to meet in person than rely on face pics or the fantasy that's being portrayed in a profile. I've been catfished before and it wasn't pleasant.

I never give my face pic. I've had people refusing to speak to me because of this. Not because they're annoyed with my boundaries but simply they need to feel attraction to a face pic before investing their time. That's fair.

Bet yes OP, I find attraction and connections with people when I meet them that doesn't always translate in their profiles or photos. I love that about fab and RL.

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By *og-ManMan
12 weeks ago

somewhere

A face photo isn't 100% perfect as a way of knowing if there's any attraction between 2 people ....its just the starter with the main course to follow

However no matter how good a person looks if they have a terrible personality then nothing will ever happen so there's not going to be any desert

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By *ensualnFunCouple
12 weeks ago

Midlands

I’m of 2 minds about face pics… didn’t used to send but I have recently and got turned down after… so really maybe it’s a good thing as it saved me from wasting my time…

Personally I prefer meeting people because I’m rarely attracted to a face pic and some men I met and really liked, I might not have met them if I had seen their pic…

Attraction is a funny thing…

That said I ask for face pics… to see how serious people are… so many men playing games on fab!

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By *ealitybitesMan
12 weeks ago

Belfast

One of the problems as a man on fab is when I say I don't exchange facepics and have never asked for one, some people associate that with a willingness to fuck anyone whereas the opposite is actually true.

When I'm meeting I don't exchange pics because I chat for weeks or months before agreeing to a social and physical attraction often isn't relevant because I know beforehand that it will only ever be a social.

The only reason for sharing a pic is so we will recognise each other in the coffee shop.

I've never met anyone on a one to one social who didn't look like their pics but I have had people at group socials introduce themselves and there is no way in hell I would have picked them out of a lineup because their pics are obviously filtered to fuck.

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By *aelicDMan
12 weeks ago

Dublin City

Have to agree with this. While I've no problem swapping a facepic, there is the undeniable thrill of mystery when you meet someone without knowing what they look like.

Obviously I understand the safety concern for women so it's a tricky one. No hard and fast answer I feel.

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By *eeisback OP Man
12 weeks ago

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Glad that I’m

Not the only one here so . I find people are all into me they’ll chat etc but when they ask for face pic its like em no sorry not for me!!!!

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By *og-ManMan
12 weeks ago

somewhere

"Glad that I’m

Not the only one here so . I find people are all into me they’ll chat etc but when they ask for face pic its like em no sorry not for me!!!!"

But you can never be for everyone no matter what you look like

You need to realise that

Do you find some women attractive and other women not as attractive ....its the same thing

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By *ofusplusCouple
12 weeks ago

Limerick

"Glad that I’m

Not the only one here so . I find people are all into me they’ll chat etc but when they ask for face pic its like em no sorry not for me!!!!"

Why not (just hear me out!) change your strategy? Attend organised socials and dazzle the laydeez with your stunning personality there

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By *eeisback OP Man
11 weeks ago

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"Glad that I’m

Not the only one here so . I find people are all into me they’ll chat etc but when they ask for face pic its like em no sorry not for me!!!!

Why not (just hear me out!) change your strategy? Attend organised socials and dazzle the laydeez with your stunning personality there

You defo gota point there

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By *ionycusMan
11 weeks ago

Babylon

The conversation in Pulp Fiction about personality comes to mind. As for pictures on here representing reality. I am yet to meet anyone that looked better in reality than their pictures. Some didn't even look like the same person, I left a verification and then got dogs abuse saying I accused them of catfishing. They didn't even look like cousins 😂😂😂, catfish, more like lochnesscatfishmonster

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By *panishRebelMan
11 weeks ago

Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland

"I met a lady once and she looked like the picture she sent me.

Only problem was the picture must have been taken 20 years previously

🤣🤣🤣🤣👏👏👏👏

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By *panishRebelMan
11 weeks ago

Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland

A picture tells a thousand words

A thousand words is a story

A story is all words a dictionary

When you meet it may be fiction

But some stories are gorgeous

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By *ig_specsWoman
11 weeks ago

Kilbarrack

If the person is not willing to send me a face picture I simply don't keep chatting. So many unattractive men get into my inbox, even me stating what is my type!

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By *ionycusMan
11 weeks ago

Babylon

"If the person is not willing to send me a face picture I simply don't keep chatting. So many unattractive men get into my inbox, even me stating what is my type!"

I respect your choice, i must , it's your choice. In saying this , you must also respect the choices of everyone else you communicate with on here by the same rules and standards.

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By *rown PrismWoman
11 weeks ago

Dublin

I still remember my first and only social In the pub... I didn't recognize a single woman, with men it wasn't much better... I was sure I had mistaken the place or date of the meeting. People knew each other and talked, creating groups, I was like air...

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By *arbie2020Man
11 weeks ago

Dublin 9

Take honest pics and maybe down play the picture, better to be pleasantly surprised than disappointed. Especially if someone has the irreversible look of disappointment on their face when they meet you in person lol.

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