FabSwingers.com forum: Friend zone

By *adger Broc OP Man
13 weeks ago

Co. Cork

So you messaged, met for coffee and got along really well.

How do you keep it from bypassing the FWB/FB stage and going directly to the Friend Zone.

Asking for a FWOB.

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By *rish_GuyMan
13 weeks ago

Foxford

Can be a difficult 1, to sort out for some people. So I'm keeping a close eye on this thread.

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By *chochamberWoman
13 weeks ago

Munster

If u get friend zoned, keep at it, you might be out some night and end up hooking up.

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By *adger Broc OP Man
13 weeks ago

Co. Cork

"If u get friend zoned, keep at it, you might be out some night and end up hooking up. "

Noted! 😘

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
13 weeks ago

South Down

"If u get friend zoned, keep at it, you might be out some night and end up hooking up. "

I'm not sure I agree - if I've met someone socially and there was no spark but we got on great as friends, I'd be a bit annoyed if they kept at it hoping for more. It would probably lead me to try and distance myself from them.

I'm also not sure it's emotionally healthy hanging on in some kind of false hope.

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By *aseylee324Couple
13 weeks ago

Valley of Squinting Windows

"If u get friend zoned, keep at it, you might be out some night and end up hooking up.

I'm also not sure it's emotionally healthy hanging on in some kind of false hope. "

Agreed, have been semi-stalked by men convinced that our "friendship" was going to evolve into something else.

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By *aseylee324Couple
13 weeks ago

Valley of Squinting Windows

Let the person know if you're interested and cut out the necessity for bs. If they're not interested, accept that fact

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By *otownkid1967Man
13 weeks ago

Portlaoise

Lipstick and castles have hit the nail on the head. I have lots of friends on here who I have met socially . It hasn't always ended up between the sheets but we enjoy chatting.

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By *otownkid1967Man
13 weeks ago

Portlaoise

Caseylee even

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
13 weeks ago

Northern Ireland

I always think of people as potential friends and if there's chemistry there then maybe more. I am Demisexual so I don't feel sexually attracted to that many people.

I would be put off if someone hovered around hoping for more. In fact it would get on my nerves so no quicker way to get outright rejected

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By *3nsesMan
13 weeks ago

Dublin

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By *3nsesMan
13 weeks ago

Dublin

Not that I'd ever use the term, but being "friendzoned" simply means the person isn't attracted to you. There's nothing you can do about that, baring some type of significant facial surgery but I'll assume you'll be reluctant to do that. The next situation that can arise is that you meet someone and they are attracted to you, but they don't realise that and so nothing further happens. Now, how does one go a avoiding that situation? That's right, you all guessed correctly. You tell them two things.

1) that you find them attractive

2) you'd like to put your penis inside their vagina.

Now some people might recommend just leading with option 1 and leaving option 2 out of the conversation but where's the fun in that.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
13 weeks ago

Castlebar

Only way is to avoid getting into the friendzone. If it starts as friends with no spark I don't believe it can change. To maintain the spark is important I reckon. Keep it sexy and keep the connection. Friends and fwb. If you take the friend bit too far it's doomed.

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By *elloMarylouWoman
13 weeks ago

mayo

"I always think of people as potential friends and if there's chemistry there then maybe more. I am Demisexual so I don't feel sexually attracted to that many people.

I would be put off if someone hovered around hoping for more. In fact it would get on my nerves so no quicker way to get outright rejected"

Oh I like that term demisexual

That's definitely me. I'm very rarely attracted to a guy and when I am I probably friend zone them as not sure how to take it further

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By *og-ManMan
13 weeks ago

somewhere

Jesus

Think I'm friend zoned with most people I've met and some I've just chatted too on here

Thats fine but you're all a sexy bunch of friends anyway

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By *uitman1986Man
13 weeks ago

dublin

"I always think of people as potential friends and if there's chemistry there then maybe more. I am Demisexual so I don't feel sexually attracted to that many people.

I would be put off if someone hovered around hoping for more. In fact it would get on my nerves so no quicker way to get outright rejected

Oh I like that term demisexual

That's definitely me. I'm very rarely attracted to a guy and when I am I probably friend zone them as not sure how to take it further "

What makes you feel attracted to a guy Mary Lou?

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By *WEETESTSTRAWBERRYFOR1Woman
13 weeks ago

Clare

"So you messaged, met for coffee and got along really well.

How do you keep it from bypassing the FWB/FB stage and going directly to the Friend Zone.

Asking for a FWOB."

Unfortunately there might have been no chemistry for 1 of ye. It does happen sadly.

Like others said no point trying to pursue something if its only 1 sided .

Would rather keep a friendship than nothing.

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By *ubadubdubWoman
13 weeks ago

Hereabouts

"So you messaged, met for coffee and got along really well.

How do you keep it from bypassing the FWB/FB stage and going directly to the Friend Zone.

Asking for a FWOB.

Unfortunately there might have been no chemistry for 1 of ye. It does happen sadly.

Like others said no point trying to pursue something if its only 1 sided .

Would rather keep a friendship than nothing.

Yeah I'd agree with this, they just might not fancy you but still enjoy your company and that's got to be respected.

However one thing I will add is that sometimes, only sometimes!, a bit of body contact can ignite a spark that may not have been immediately obvious.

A gentle touch on the back when walking through a crowded bar or pulling out a chair, a brief knee against knee while chatting, hand brushing the shoulder while helping with a coat... Social subtleties, and not everyone is comfortable with body contact, but sometimes it can make a difference.

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