FabSwingers.com forum: Approaching a stranger

By *attooed.dadbod OP Man
26 weeks ago

centre

So I'm fed up with dating apps ....I have a friend that just approaches anyone he fancies ....and asks them to go on a date ....

I think he's mental

What would you do ...

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By *he KakapoMan
26 weeks ago

A nice rock

I like apps but that's just me.

Is your friend still single?

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By *attooed.dadbod OP Man
26 weeks ago

centre

On and off ...but has had lengthy relationships....he mostly dates foreign girls as irish girls usually assume he's a looper when he approaches them 🤣

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
26 weeks ago

There and Here

Kinda like we used to do it in the olden days...

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By *attooed.dadbod OP Man
26 weeks ago

centre

Exactly but was mostly in a pub or club....he would do it at a bus stop or Cafe....

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

I’d like that direct approach

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By *og-ManMan
26 weeks ago

somewhere

"Kinda like we used to do it in the olden days..."

Will you go with me.....or my mate over there

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By *ka ..Agent k ..Man
26 weeks ago

"I’d like that direct approach "

the hands on approach..

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By *rawtipMan
26 weeks ago

Palmerstown

I took that approach in DV8 last Friday and can't believe how lucky I got. Normally too afraid to try it!

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By *om TangoMan
26 weeks ago

aughnacloy monaghan area

Wouldn’t walk up and ask a stranger. Maybe in a bar I could but it would be more like can I buy you a drink. But many’s a time I’ve met someone I knew and just asked if the fancied a coffee but nothing ever came out of it and personally for me those times it was just about company.

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By *astelloWoman
26 weeks ago

Far far away

I'd love the direct approach but so seldom happens.

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By *attooed.dadbod OP Man
26 weeks ago

centre

I get bursts in my head of saying go up and tell that girl ya like her ... but I always assume I'll be pepper sprayed 😅

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By *ezoMan
26 weeks ago

The Kingdom

I would like the confidence to do that.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
26 weeks ago

There and Here

"Kinda like we used to do it in the olden days...

Will you go with me.....or my mate over there

It was the standard way of approaching someone in my youth

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By *yesgreenMan
26 weeks ago

north and south

"Kinda like we used to do it in the olden days...

Will you go with me.....or my mate over there

It was the standard way of approaching someone in my youth

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must ask a lady in asda are the pineapples ripe lol

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By *ischief2020Man
26 weeks ago

Borderline

"I'd love the direct approach but so seldom happens. "

I tried being direct a few times, but some of the replies that came back (not the rejection, but how it was said) made me stop.

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By *ex coupleCouple
26 weeks ago

wexford

"So I'm fed up with dating apps ....I have a friend that just approaches anyone he fancies ....and asks them to go on a date ....

I think he's mental

What would you do ..."

Direct is best

Gives you a better understanding of the guys I guess

Lord loves a trier

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By *exyScientistsCouple
26 weeks ago

Castlebar

I think most ladies and lads would love the direct approach. And I'd always be flattered if someone did that, whoever they are or in any situation...

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"So I'm fed up with dating apps ....I have a friend that just approaches anyone he fancies ....and asks them to go on a date ....

I think he's mental

What would you do ..."
it's good thing to do if your confident I'm not confident plus don't like talking to women without known there relationship status lol

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By *aseylee324Couple
26 weeks ago

Valley of Squinting Windows

Unfortunately any approach I've had like this has been more sex offender than dating territory. It's made me very wary of men I don't know trying to strike up a conversation in everyday circumstances

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
26 weeks ago

My town

Sure before dating apps how did people meet..my daughters age her friends all in dating apps and when I suggested going out and meeting people the looks from them.

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By *erryGoldMan
26 weeks ago

Redditch

I never have a problem chatting to strangers just alway shy to make the fist move to go further

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By *erryGoldMan
26 weeks ago

Redditch

Frist move even 🤣😂🤣

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By *ublinstud_MisstattooCouple
26 weeks ago

City Centre

Misses online

I have approached guys in the past. Was I pied yes. But no risk no gain. I used to like being approached unless dancing or the guy is so d*unk he can barely stand. 🤣🤣😅

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By *affa31Woman
26 weeks ago

Galway

It’s all in the delivery…don’t get in her space, strike up a casual convo first instead of launching in with asking for a date, project a warm, friendly persona and be gracious if she says no. Don’t be weird about compliments, keep them general instead of comments about her body.

Most women would be fine then, I would have said

Sure fuck it, why not try it. Most of us are sick of the apps!

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By *heelofTimeCouple
26 weeks ago

Two Rivers

Ah back to the 90s when we weren’t tied down by screens! Dove here I used to love when this was the way to pick up people. An art that’s gradually being lost, as an extremely shy woman I would never orchestrate it.

Himself though is far from shy and it’s how we met. He walked straight up to me and started chatting away and here we are still together 24 years later!

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By *omebirdWoman
26 weeks ago

I'd be extremely flattered and def give the guy my time even if not interested in pursuing anything.. I wouldn't have the balls to myself.

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By *21 funMan
26 weeks ago

Navan

I’ve done this on a few occasions,

all in the approach, nervous but can be very rewarding

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By *ot so needyMan
26 weeks ago

Galway

I would be too shy to ask a stranger out🤣

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By *agic mike1Man
26 weeks ago

around

Isn't everyone a stranger here until you meet them???

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By *arcus102Man
26 weeks ago

Navan

Direct is always fun, as the chat and banter and great conversations.Beats any app.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
26 weeks ago

Castlebar

"I would be too shy to ask a stranger out🤣"

Unless they hand you knickers...then not so much 🤔😉

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By *ACOLCouple
26 weeks ago

limerick

I am one that needs that type of approach, I won't do nothing if you don't ask me, or almost spelled it out, it boils down to this very good saying. If you don't risk a chicken you don't get an egg!

Lina

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
26 weeks ago

Portstewart

If we're on a night out we sometimes have each other walk up to someone we both have an interest in and stat chatting them up and flirting and see how it goes. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't

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By *ot so needyMan
26 weeks ago

Galway

"I would be too shy to ask a stranger out🤣

Unless they hand you knickers...then not so much 🤔😉"

You know me so well.🤣

I'm not shy and have often asked people I just met for a drink or a coffee and I would say it definitely does work.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
26 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

Id be fine approaching someone I liked 1 on 1. The problem is that most people go out with a group of friends, and it's way harder approach when someone is deep in craic and conversation already. I would consider it rude to interrupt.

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By *inkywife1981Couple
26 weeks ago

A town near you

"So I'm fed up with dating apps ....I have a friend that just approaches anyone he fancies ....and asks them to go on a date ....

I think he's mental

What would you do ..."

Mad stuff altogether Ted lol

Back in the days before Internet dating we would go to a pub and then maybe a night club and approach someone we found attractive and chat them up and hopefully get a date lined up or maybe a quickie lol

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By *yesgreenMan
26 weeks ago

north and south

"So I'm fed up with dating apps ....I have a friend that just approaches anyone he fancies ....and asks them to go on a date ....

I think he's mental

What would you do ...

Mad stuff altogether Ted lol

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By *ickedtiesWoman
26 weeks ago

limerick

I would never approach a stranger, way too shy, prefer to be approached...

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By *ot so needyMan
26 weeks ago

Galway

"I would never approach a stranger, way too shy, prefer to be approached...

V "

Yes I would have to agree.

I thought you were shy when we first met.😇

Now not so much.😈

But you are still a good girl🥰

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By *ickedtiesWoman
26 weeks ago

limerick

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By *ickedtiesWoman
26 weeks ago

limerick

"I would never approach a stranger, way too shy, prefer to be approached...

Yes I would have to agree.

I thought you were shy when we first met.😇

Now not so much.😈

But you are still a good girl🥰

😍😈😈

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By *ionycusMan
26 weeks ago

Babylon

I enjoy this , I find it far easier in different countries than Ireland. I've never had a problem making the first move and if there's no interest I have no problem dealing with that either.

I've met some very interesting people this way .

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By *yesgreenMan
26 weeks ago

north and south

"I enjoy this , I find it far easier in different countries than Ireland. I've never had a problem making the first move and if there's no interest I have no problem dealing with that either.

I've met some very interesting people this way . "
I always think it’s easier to say hello in the relaxing world of shopping and it’s less of a chat up

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

I do quite well on dating apps but I just could not be bothered talking for any longer than a couple of days - if I’m interested I usually ask to grab a coffee pretty soon.

I would approach a girl on a night out, but I could never on a regular old day out.

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By *I TwoCouple
26 weeks ago

PDI 12-26th Nov 24

Approaching a single is no problem, we do struggle when approaching couples, or rather the "right" couples

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By *illy10willyMan
26 weeks ago

Belfast

How do people find it approaching ladies in work place

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"How do people find it approaching ladies in work place "

I would advise against it

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
26 weeks ago

City Centre

"I enjoy this , I find it far easier in different countries than Ireland. I've never had a problem making the first move and if there's no interest I have no problem dealing with that either.

I've met some very interesting people this way . "

I like this. I'm far to shy to approach anyone but I've no problem with anyone trying to strike up a conversation with me. As you said, it's lead to enjoying the company of some very interesting people.

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By *illy10willyMan
26 weeks ago

Belfast

"How do people find it approaching ladies in work place

I would advise against it "

Really has your experience not been good

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"How do people find it approaching ladies in work place

I would advise against it

Really has your experience not been good"

Not much experience myself but I have seen before. The risks are way too high...

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By *ionycusMan
26 weeks ago

Babylon

"How do people find it approaching ladies in work place

I would advise against it

Really has your experience not been good

Not much experience myself but I have seen before. The risks are way too high..."

It's a fine line between flirting and sexual harrassment in the eyes of HR. I am not speaking from experience, I've never been lucky enough to be sexually harassed at work, even when I worked as a stripper.

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