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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

People assume that if you can't accommodate your married or attached.

Some people just don't feel comfortable with having a meet come to there home.

But straight away they assume, its cause your married..

Am I the only one that thinks people judge before asking. ?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No you are 100% right. I love in a house with my mate so I can't be coming bk to the house withcouple etc I do try to be discreet so just because I don't accom doesn't mean I'm not genuine

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

This isn't a debate I can really get involved in due to the fact that I'm married, but personally, I wouldn't jump to that conclusion. I know that people are nervous about bringing people to their home, especially if they have kids, and that's perfectly reasonable as far as I'm concerned. If someone tells me they're married or they're not married, I believe them, once their nose isn't two feet long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we just keep it to those who can accom but thats our personal preference,we dont want any1 who is marrid or has partner and find it simpler that way and if it catches a few gen single guys as well sure thats life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I share so it's more difficult to accom now. .. Had my own place b4 and loved the freedom. .. I'd much rather meet in a hotel as its neutral as I'd hate to be caught in a compromising position where I live.. However, I find most guys really dont want to cough up and usually a quickie is suffice ... As for me I prefer to take my time and much rather marathon to a sprint sexy time session lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we don't accom because we don't want to, I don't want random people knowing where I live, not critcising anyone that does , but I definitely feel more comfortable keeping my 'real' life seperate to 'play' life. I think it is really unfair when people bang on about ones who don't accom as if they have something to hide, just because a guy is single why should he want to invite complete strangers into his home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we cant accommodate because we have kids.people forget that others would have too especially single guys. not everyone is free to acc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my own place down here in Waterford but I've regularly travelled n yes to you oola I love fun hotel meets drinks at the bar first plenty chat n banter it's all part of the fun of it for me relaxing enjoying the social side aswell n then move to bed where a long marathon session is always best

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By *rBrownnSexyMan
over a year ago

Destination Unknown Munster

Same here sharing the house with other people so you real can not accommodate.

But I met cpl here who want single guys(me)to accommodate and they told me if I can not there are lots of guys would no problem ......

I have no problem paying for my share in the hotel but not going to pay for them too I think it should be half and half.

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"we just keep it to those who can accom but thats our personal preference,we dont want any1 who is marrid or has partner and find it simpler that way and if it catches a few gen single guys as well sure thats life."

dito we were lied to once that was enough!! dont want some woman crashing at my door upset or a girlfriend, i wouldnt like it done on me, so we dont do it, it is our choice not to take a chance, if that is judging so be it, then better safe than sorry we all make choices

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's true, and understandable u don't want to bring just any Tom dick or Harry to ur home, love hotel meets myself and if u can make a nite of it even better.

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By *ilfandme206Couple
over a year ago

North Kerry


"we cant accommodate because we have kids.people forget that others would have too especially single guys. not everyone is free to acc "

Too true!!!

People can not pawn off there children every weekend, so that they can accommodate.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"

People can not pawn off there children every weekend, so that they can accommodate.

"

Can't they go out the back and play? Sure I'll be done in five minutes. I don't think I'm being unreasonable there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we use to acc since we went back to college where unable its a bit hard to do it in ya mammys house lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we use to acc since we went back to college where unable its a bit hard to do it in ya mammys house lol

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Well we use to acc since we went back to college where unable its a bit hard to do it in ya mammys house lol"

... unless your mammy's a bit of a goer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno abt that hahaha
"Well we use to acc since we went back to college where unable its a bit hard to do it in ya mammys house lol

... unless your mammy's a bit of a goer "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never really questioned a single fems motive for not accommodating cause I would think it's a safety issue. I've never accommodated even for repeat meets. I prefer the neutral setting of a hotel and so far that has worked out well for me.

As for couples, again I can't blame them for not wanting to accom in their family home so I've never given much thought in if they do or don't accom.

If a single guy can't accom then yes I'll be honest I would question if he was single. Same if he only does day time/quickie meets or says I'll be working in your area on such and such a day. That kinda thing makes me think he's attached or married.

So I guess I'm one of those that would presume a guys married/attached if he couldn't. I knew a guy that had single and can accom on his profile. He can alright, only in hotels when away with work. Turns out he was very much married too.

It bothers some people and others not so much.

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"I never really questioned a single fems motive for not accommodating cause I would think it's a safety issue. I've never accommodated even for repeat meets. I prefer the neutral setting of a hotel and so far that has worked out well for me.

As for couples, again I can't blame them for not wanting to accom in their family home so I've never given much thought in if they do or don't accom.

If a single guy can't accom then yes I'll be honest I would question if he was single. Same if he only does day time/quickie meets or says I'll be working in your area on such and such a day. That kinda thing makes me think he's attached or married.

So I guess I'm one of those that would presume a guys married/attached if he couldn't. I knew a guy that had single and can accom on his profile. He can alright, only in hotels when away with work. Turns out he was very much married too.

It bothers some people and others not so much. "
nicely put and fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seems a double standard going on here..what about single fathers?..or guys that share a house with others....or he maybe ashamed of where he lives. ..or is afraid of nut job women?...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

double standards are class its all about supply and demand so many single guys here they far outnumber cpls and fems so its easy to be choosey,i like my single guys to be able to accom if they cant sure there are loads that can!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"double standards are class its all about supply and demand so many single guys here they far outnumber cpls and fems so its easy to be choosey,i like my single guys to be able to accom if they cant sure there are loads that can! "

this is nothing to do with being choosy.

this is to do with suspicion and or assumptions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But unfortunately the assumptions are right 9 times out of 10 the wife at home doesn't mean they aren't single lol

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"seems a double standard going on here..what about single fathers?..or guys that share a house with others....or he maybe ashamed of where he lives. ..or is afraid of nut job women?... "

for us it has nothing to do with double standards, simple choice we make to be sure!!!! evryone has choices and people that chose not to meet guys that are single because they dont accom, is their right of choice

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"seems a double standard going on here..what about single fathers?..or guys that share a house with others....or he maybe ashamed of where he lives. ..or is afraid of nut job women?...

for us it has nothing to do with double standards, simple choice we make to be sure!!!! evryone has choices and people that chose not to meet guys that are single because they dont accom, is their right of choice "

What? Women have rights?

When did that happen?

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"seems a double standard going on here..what about single fathers?..or guys that share a house with others....or he maybe ashamed of where he lives. ..or is afraid of nut job women?...

for us it has nothing to do with double standards, simple choice we make to be sure!!!! evryone has choices and people that chose not to meet guys that are single because they dont accom, is their right of choice

What? Women have rights?

When did that happen? "

ops maybe i got ahead of myself lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"seems a double standard going on here..what about single fathers?..or guys that share a house with others....or he maybe ashamed of where he lives. ..or is afraid of nut job women?...

for us it has nothing to do with double standards, simple choice we make to be sure!!!! evryone has choices and people that chose not to meet guys that are single because they dont accom, is their right of choice "

ok...this thread is not about choice...but assumptions...talking about choice is bringing it off topic.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"

What? Women have rights?

When did that happen?

ops maybe i got ahead of myself lol "

That's more like it. Those dishes won't wash themselves, you know!

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"seems a double standard going on here..what about single fathers?..or guys that share a house with others....or he maybe ashamed of where he lives. ..or is afraid of nut job women?...

for us it has nothing to do with double standards, simple choice we make to be sure!!!! evryone has choices and people that chose not to meet guys that are single because they dont accom, is their right of choice

ok...this thread is not about choice...but assumptions...talking about choice is bringing it off topic."

no it's not!! i can assume what i want if the person can't accom! so i make a choice! not to meet single guys that cant accom to be sure!! i didnt think clearity was required

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"seems a double standard going on here..what about single fathers?..or guys that share a house with others....or he maybe ashamed of where he lives. ..or is afraid of nut job women?...

for us it has nothing to do with double standards, simple choice we make to be sure!!!! evryone has choices and people that chose not to meet guys that are single because they dont accom, is their right of choice

ok...this thread is not about choice...but assumptions...talking about choice is bringing it off topic.

no it's not!! i can assume what i want if the person can't accom! so i make a choice! not to meet single guys that cant accom to be sure!! i didnt think clearity was required "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day this is about whether someone can or can't accom.

I don't think it's fair to use the twisting of words to get an individual point across.

Choosy or assumption, so what?

Everyone has their own reason as to the title subject, just like someone has a right about who or not to contact (or choose).

I for one understand the different elements that we all take into account when meeting someone, and trust is a lot to do with it.

I do believe that in a lot of cases, there's an alterior motive why someone can't accom, but that's just my opinion.

At the end of the day we all have our own ideas on the topic. It still won't make any difference to who I meet or where.

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"At the end of the day this is about whether someone can or can't accom.

I don't think it's fair to use the twisting of words to get an individual point across.

Choosy or assumption, so what?

Everyone has their own reason as to the title subject, just like someone has a right about who or not to contact (or choose).

I for one understand the different elements that we all take into account when meeting someone, and trust is a lot to do with it.

I do believe that in a lot of cases, there's an alterior motive why someone can't accom, but that's just my opinion.

At the end of the day we all have our own ideas on the topic. It still won't make any difference to who I meet or where.

"

very well put and really there is no need to take it person for those that can't accom, if it is a blanket bann on everyone that can't accom

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