FabSwingers.com forum: If you don't drink how do you chillax on a 1st meet

By *exysecretxxx OP Woman
31 weeks ago

waterford .and surrounding

I find a few drinks help me unwind for a 1st meet.

If you don't engage in a few how do you get rid of the nerve s

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By *ifeisforliving2016Man
31 weeks ago

waterford

For me a good long clears all the nerves & gets ya right in the zone !

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By *j47Man
31 weeks ago

limerick

A coffee and having chatted enough with the person to the boundaries

Theres nervous nerves and excited nervousness i prefer the latter

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By *xplicitMan
31 weeks ago

donegal

it does help if your nervous, but once you have one you cant drive so can depend on whether you're accommodating or not...

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By *og-ManMan
31 weeks ago

somewhere

Depends on the circumstances

First meet is normally a social coffee that I've driven to so no drinks anyway

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By *ealitybitesMan
31 weeks ago

Belfast

I don't get nervous on first meets.

Tbh I would be reluctant to meet anyone who needed a drink before meeting me.

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By *astelloWoman
31 weeks ago

Far far away

Much prefer a coffee meet. No worries for either party then.

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By *ifeisforliving2016Man
31 weeks ago

waterford

"For me a good long clears all the nerves & gets ya right in the zone !"

I feckin missed putting in the word "snog "

So should have read a good long snog

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By *og-ManMan
31 weeks ago

somewhere

"For me a good long clears all the nerves & gets ya right in the zone !

I feckin missed putting in the word "snog "

So should have read a good long snog "

I thought you meant

"wank"

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By *ofusplusCouple
31 weeks ago

Limerick

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By *om TangoMan
31 weeks ago

aughnacloy monaghan area

I’d never dream of turning up for a first social with drink in me. Whatever about meeting in a bar and having a drink fair enough. Plus if I turned up for a 1 on 1 social and the other person had drink taken it would be a red flag

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By *xplicitMan
31 weeks ago

donegal

"For me a good long clears all the nerves & gets ya right in the zone !

I feckin missed putting in the word "snog "

So should have read a good long snog

I thought you meant

"wank" "

this could be a whole new forum game, i was thinking gin

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By *unflowerWoman
31 weeks ago

Dublin

Never worry about a meet. It’s just another person. If they are not a psycho, then it’s grand. Coffee and chat, sometimes stroll work perfectly

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
31 weeks ago

There and Here

I'd be put off if someone needed to have a few drinks before meeting me, even if it's to settle the nerves.

Many are nervous about meeting new people, it's not uncommon but it's just another person and I kinda think you're more likely to make a good impression just being yourself, nervous or not, rather than shored up by alcohol.

Sure, meet up and have a pint together, but if you turn up and you've already had a couple then go on to have a couple more during the social then you're going to be pretty well on.

And I'm just talking about a social meet here.

I'd be even less impressed if it was to meet for sex, to the point I'd probably not go ahead with it

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By *og-ManMan
31 weeks ago

somewhere

I get a bit nervous excited more than anything else but sure at least I'd know I'm still alive

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By *anUTV/TS
31 weeks ago

Rural

I've the opposite problem lol I'm off drink over 20 years and I have to pull myself back from being over confident, I'm quite direct and flirty without drink. Not arrogant but confident and good fun and very socially aware.

Definitely not submissive, my problem is being this way can put dominant guys off as some don't like the feminine side being more savvy and knowing what they want

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By *ustBoWoman
31 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't drink anymore well very very rarely. I've never had a drink when I'm meeting someone because I usually met during the day and I am always driving anyhow ,and a first meet is just a social anyhow.

I've never been really nervous before any meet anyhow. A few butterflies in my tum but that is it. If I felt that nervous that I needed something to calm my nerves I think I would cancel if I'm honest. Because it would mean I wasn't comfortable with whom I was meeting.

Didn't see this thread when I posted on the other one.

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By *aseylee324Couple
31 weeks ago

Valley of Squinting Windows

I don't get nervous. I might have a drink or two, I might have none.

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By *ol_ieMan
31 weeks ago

Dublin west

Have no expectations so I'm never nervous. Sure it's just a coffee and a chat and see how you get on.

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By *andyMandy xWoman
31 weeks ago

Luck of the Irish ....

I prefer to meet for a cuppa on the help a fabber thread, it's only for a social and nothing else

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By *addyseeds.ieMan
31 weeks ago

Gorey, Enniscorthy

I prefer to be nervous and be myself.

I rarely drink, perfect first meet is a coffee meet, a glass of wine can be nice as well

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

If it's a coffee then won't be any drink, he won't drink either way as driving, and zero need to be nervous, besides 75% chance they don't show up

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By *1cky300Man
31 weeks ago

letterkenny

Well me personally I don't drink anyway so I feel fine on a first meet

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By *s SingletWoman
31 weeks ago

Kilkenny

I don't drink and while Ive no issue with anyone who does, I think I'd be put off by someone needing a drink to meet me

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By *antra MassageMan
31 weeks ago

city

I don't get nervous, and also don't drink on a meet.

One of my first meets was with a couple, who guaranteed I could stay the night in their house in the country.So we had a few drinks. Unfortunately, they had a huge screaming argument,and I decided to leave and drive away. Never again.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

First meet and greet, usually coffee or a short walk. No need for booze.

Sex : I m a nervous talker, if we can get snogging and laughing that helps to move things along. A night visit will prob involve wine. I much prefer relatively sober sex, just have to get over the initial awkwardness of moving things to the bedroom.

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By *cottybear74Man
30 weeks ago

kilkenny

I don't get nervous

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By *owwow909Woman
30 weeks ago

La La Land

I thought you meant a blunt

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By *owwow909Woman
30 weeks ago

La La Land

"I don't get nervous, and also don't drink on a meet.

Ya too much alcohol ruins a good night.. and what is it with so many couples who end up fighting in circumstances like these. I’ve seen it so many times that i actually don’t meet couples alone anymore

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By *OCONO5Couple
30 weeks ago

Sensual Center

For us No drinks needed ...nervous Yes..with excitement

Not Fear

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By *xstevenxxMan
30 weeks ago

Ashbourne

"For us No drinks needed ...nervous Yes..with excitement

Not Fear "

The same - can’t beat the feeling of the old butterflies in the stomach feeling

Nerves quickly go once you start chatting

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By *exysecretxxx OP Woman
30 weeks ago

waterford .and surrounding

"For me a good long clears all the nerves & gets ya right in the zone !

I feckin missed putting in the word "snog "

So should have read a good long snog "

I also thought want lol

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By *ifeisforliving2016Man
30 weeks ago

waterford

"For me a good long clears all the nerves & gets ya right in the zone !

I feckin missed putting in the word "snog "

So should have read a good long snog

I also thought want lol"

"Want"?????

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By *dfabMan
30 weeks ago

Dunboyne

Love a coffee meet during the day but if evening, like a pint or two.

Best not be a pub with craft beer though or I'll be convincing you to stay until closing and falling out of the place

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By *ezoMan
30 weeks ago

The Kingdom

Like many, no alcohol on first meet because I'm likely driving.

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By *ezoMan
30 weeks ago

The Kingdom

I am typically waiting on others so I will be reading or checking my messages.

Otherwise I don't relax and begin to worry if I am at the right place.

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By *ilderMan
30 weeks ago

dublin

It's been so long since I've had a first meet I can't remember

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By *ubadubdubWoman
30 weeks ago

Hereabouts

"Never worry about a meet. It’s just another person. If they are not a psycho, then it’s grand. Coffee and chat, sometimes stroll work perfectly "

Yeah same as this. Meet somewhere public. And keep the meet in perspective, don't overthink it

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By *exyScientistsCouple
30 weeks ago

Castlebar

I've never d*unk alcohol on a first meet. It would impare my judgement, well maybe not 1 or 2 but it could. I've done quite a few now and don't really get nervous any more... unless it's nervous excited and that's a good thing.

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By *erryGoldMan
30 weeks ago

Redditch

Prefer a coffee and a laugh

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By *rnicaMan
30 weeks ago

The Great Outdoors

I don't drink at all. No issue with someone having a drink once I get to know them, but as a man I'd be very wary around a woman who needed a drink just to meet me.

I'd much prefer someone being a little shy/nervous/giddy around me initially as it's authentic and probably a reasonable indicator of attraction. Honestly, I'm also likely to be nervous and chatty as well the first time I meet someone hot, but I would be inclined to tell the person rather than hide/suppress it - there's every chance they feel the same.

Best advice I could offer to minimise nerves/anticipatory anxiety is turnup with zero expectations and be yourself.

If you click, you click. If you don't, that's no big deal.

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By *angtasticallyMan
30 weeks ago

Drogheda

I don't drink at all best be your true self if you like the person you will naturally feel comfortable

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