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By (user no longer on site) OP   
23 weeks ago

This is a long one lol! I've now just been blocked literally minutes after saying goodbye to what I was sure to be a very successful fucking and with chances of being more fun in the future.

Also I had plans that I was late for, so he offered to drive me instead of getting taxi, told me to send him my address (we had walked to my place from coffee shop) and texted me "won't be long x" after getting ready and waiting 10 mins outside my house I went to check fab and this user had blocked me. Which means my snaps hadn't been sending to him after his text. He's the second guy in 2 weeks to do this. I've met 3 off fab now in total. What am I doing wrong? Honestly they literally can't stop complimenting and texting and then when we do fuck they chuck you like trash. I'm here for fun with respect for eachother and now I just feel neither of these things. I'd love to know how we stop this bullshit. Also these are both verified users, this current guy verified 5 times and on it over a year. Would love some advice x

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By *chochamberWoman
23 weeks ago

Munster

There are lots of guys on here that are looking to explore with loads and loads of people. They are into the chase, and once you ve hooked up, the chase is over and they want something new.

They can be verification fishing. Sometimes you ll have young lads that want older women and once they get a few veris from ladies in the age group they want, they move on. They need you to catapult them into the circle/age group that they are after.

Lots of people consider this a "fuck site" not a "fuck buddy site". Have limited expectations of other people and protect yourself.

Also tonnes and tonnes of married men, who are protecting their secret, and might go to extreme measures to limit contact, or limit you knowing anything about them.

I think the people at the socials, use fab for expanding their social circle and see it more of a community and are possibly more courteous. Perhaps go to a few socials, and assess the guys that are attending, those guys will need to maintain a positive reputation (and usually treat women well).

The assholes would want to watch themselves, because people talk and gossip. No one likes abusers or users.

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By *chochamberWoman
23 weeks ago

Munster

The Posh Poket rocket, is a GREAT profile by an empowered woman.

I LOVE her approach.

She only meets men in clubs, is v selective, never meets in hotels and never brings anyone into her home.

You need to prioritise You on this site, because many men are here for a fuck and run. So only ever do, what you want to do. Let them pay for hotels etc, if that is what THEY want.

You only need to look out for yourself.

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By *chochamberWoman
23 weeks ago

Munster

By the way, it happens to everyone, remember, people will disgard you like a used condom when they are done, so only ever do what you desire. Expect them to be self serving, not everyone is like that, but many are.

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By *ol_ieMan
23 weeks ago

Dublin west

Some people are just assholes and mess people around.

Or they bottle it and run off into the distance but either way you better off without those guys.

Play harder to get I would suggest and take your time and you might get rid of some of the messer's but it's hard when people will just be assholes.

Hope your next playmate works out for you

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By *ind PaddyMan
23 weeks ago

South County Dublin

That is terrible what happened to you OP.

You should report them to admin.

Keep your head up and do what is best for you.

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By *j47Man
23 weeks ago

limerick

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By *og-ManMan
23 weeks ago

somewhere

Op....maybe what you're looking for is completely different to what the 3 men were looking for

They got to have sex and moved on

They might not have gone about it in a way that you agree with but a lot of people just see it as a sex site

Do you need to change your bio a bit to show you're looking for more than a one night thing

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago


"This is a long one lol! I've now just been blocked literally minutes after saying goodbye to what I was sure to be a very successful fucking and with chances of being more fun in the future.

Also I had plans that I was late for, so he offered to drive me instead of getting taxi, told me to send him my address (we had walked to my place from coffee shop) and texted me "won't be long x" after getting ready and waiting 10 mins outside my house I went to check fab and this user had blocked me. Which means my snaps hadn't been sending to him after his text. He's the second guy in 2 weeks to do this. I've met 3 off fab now in total. What am I doing wrong? Honestly they literally can't stop complimenting and texting and then when we do fuck they chuck you like trash. I'm here for fun with respect for eachother and now I just feel neither of these things. I'd love to know how we stop this bullshit. Also these are both verified users, this current guy verified 5 times and on it over a year. Would love some advice x"

Did you meet these guys for a social prior to your play?

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By *panishRebelMan
23 weeks ago

Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland


"This is a long one lol! I've now just been blocked literally minutes after saying goodbye to what I was sure to be a very successful fucking and with chances of being more fun in the future.

Also I had plans that I was late for, so he offered to drive me instead of getting taxi, told me to send him my address (we had walked to my place from coffee shop) and texted me "won't be long x" after getting ready and waiting 10 mins outside my house I went to check fab and this user had blocked me. Which means my snaps hadn't been sending to him after his text. He's the second guy in 2 weeks to do this. I've met 3 off fab now in total. What am I doing wrong? Honestly they literally can't stop complimenting and texting and then when we do fuck they chuck you like trash. I'm here for fun with respect for eachother and now I just feel neither of these things. I'd love to know how we stop this bullshit. Also these are both verified users, this current guy verified 5 times and on it over a year. Would love some advice x"

Unfortunately there are users and takers in every part of life. Fab seems no different. We all need to learn to speak our mind clearly while maintaining respect. I am sorry you got dropped like this. However long term what goes around comes around.

Not every man on here is like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

I could write a novel on this very subject.

Rule #1: Don't move outside your personal comfort zone, location wise, to meet complete stranger. Choose a nice restaurant, preferably in mid-range, see his reaction. If he balks and gives excuses, you know he's either a tight ass looking to score cheap sex or cheating on someone.

And no lunch meets.

Rule #2: Let him pay the taxi for any hotel bookings. Once at reception get his passport details and split the bill. You pay your half in cash, he can pay his half on his VISA. Unless his company is paying.

Rule #3: Don't trust the verifications. A lot of lies and back-scratching among old buddies.

Good luck!

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By *oe Cool xxxMan
23 weeks ago

South Dublin

Stop talking to arseholes for starters

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By *og-ManMan
23 weeks ago

somewhere


"I could write a novel on this very subject.

Rule #1: Don't move outside your personal comfort zone, location wise, to meet complete stranger. Choose a nice restaurant, preferably in mid-range, see his reaction. If he balks and gives excuses, you know he's either a tight ass looking to score cheap sex or cheating on someone.

And no lunch meets.

Rule #2: Let him pay the taxi for any hotel bookings. Once at reception get his passport details and split the bill. You pay your half in cash, he can pay his half on his VISA. Unless his company is paying.

Rule #3: Don't trust the verifications. A lot of lies and back-scratching among old buddies.

Good luck! "

Rule 1 and 2 ....wow

Do you both share the same taxi to the hotel so he can pay

Where do you share the taxi from

Since when do you need a passport to check into a hotel.

Why would you expect a man to pay in a restaurant for your dinner

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By *ewitchingblondeWoman
23 weeks ago

dublin

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By *ewitchingblondeWoman
23 weeks ago

dublin

OP I’m so sorry this happened to you . Not everyone is like that but unfortunately you have encountered some who don’t navigate this in a courteous way .

I’ll echo what others have said , only do what you’re comfortable with and in a sense take the lead about when and how you want a meet to go , communicate it from the beginning and set your boundaries .

I’ve had a little experience of what you have encountered and it does knock your confidence . But there are so many on Fab that don’t behave like that so remember you are a gorgeous lady and keep moving forward . It took me plenty of iterations of my profile and approach to find a way to navigate Fab in a way that made me happy and helped me avoid those experiences . Xx

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By *ublinstud_MisstattooCouple
23 weeks ago

City Centre


"I could write a novel on this very subject.

Rule #1: Don't move outside your personal comfort zone, location wise, to meet complete stranger. Choose a nice restaurant, preferably in mid-range, see his reaction. If he balks and gives excuses, you know he's either a tight ass looking to score cheap sex or cheating on someone.

And no lunch meets.

Rule #2: Let him pay the taxi for any hotel bookings. Once at reception get his passport details and split the bill. You pay your half in cash, he can pay his half on his VISA. Unless his company is paying.

Rule #3: Don't trust the verifications. A lot of lies and back-scratching among old buddies.

Good luck!

Rule 1 and 2 ....wow

Do you both share the same taxi to the hotel so he can pay

Where do you share the taxi from

Since when do you need a passport to check into a hotel.

Why would you expect a man to pay in a restaurant for your dinner

"

I must have been doing all this wrong when I was a single girl here. A coffee or walk meet was enough for me.

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By *ealitybitesMan
23 weeks ago

Belfast

There seems to be a lot of aggression in some of these replies as well as some ridiculous expectations.

Maybe those are some of the reasons that people don't turn up.

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By *ubadubdubWoman
23 weeks ago

Hereabouts

"Honestly they literally can't stop complimenting and texting"

These are the ones to watch out for. That intensity is a dopamine hit, and it wears off as fast as the fuck itself.

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By *heBlowinsCouple
23 weeks ago

West Cork


""Honestly they literally can't stop complimenting and texting"

These are the ones to watch out for. That intensity is a dopamine hit, and it wears off as fast as the fuck itself.

"

THIS ^^

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
23 weeks ago

coleraine

Usually it’s married guys that bottle it

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

When I’m meeting alone I always do a social first. Few reasons for this; you can actually see if they fit the description, get a chance to see if their is sexual chemistry or not, if there is then there will be a fantastic build up before we fuck, if no chemistry then great, I haven’t wasted any vaginal juices on him. I can honestly say doing a social first has served me well on Fab. I have made some really good male friends here and had some amazing sexual experiences. Don’t let one bad experience ruin Fab for you. Take what you want from Fab and make your own rules to follow.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

*there

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago


"I could write a novel on this very subject.

Rule #1: Don't move outside your personal comfort zone, location wise, to meet complete stranger. Choose a nice restaurant, preferably in mid-range, see his reaction. If he balks and gives excuses, you know he's either a tight ass looking to score cheap sex or cheating on someone.

And no lunch meets.

Rule #2: Let him pay the taxi for any hotel bookings. Once at reception get his passport details and split the bill. You pay your half in cash, he can pay his half on his VISA. Unless his company is paying.

Rule #3: Don't trust the verifications. A lot of lies and back-scratching among old buddies.

Good luck!

Rule 1 and 2 ....wow

Do you both share the same taxi to the hotel so he can pay

Depends how far he is staying from me.

Since when do you need a passport to check into a hotel.

EU rules.

Why would you expect a man to pay in a restaurant for your dinner

I never said he should pay for dinner. I prefer splitting the bill.

But I expect good manners and a nice restaurant... not horribly expensive but at least a place that does good food. I'm flexible: I like Thai, Indian, Japanese, steak, seafood and Sunday brunch.

I don't do junk food or seedy little kebab places.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago


"I could write a novel on this very subject.

Rule #1: Don't move outside your personal comfort zone, location wise, to meet complete stranger. Choose a nice restaurant, preferably in mid-range, see his reaction. If he balks and gives excuses, you know he's either a tight ass looking to score cheap sex or cheating on someone.

And no lunch meets.

Rule #2: Let him pay the taxi for any hotel bookings. Once at reception get his passport details and split the bill. You pay your half in cash, he can pay his half on his VISA. Unless his company is paying.

Rule #3: Don't trust the verifications. A lot of lies and back-scratching among old buddies.

Good luck!

Rule 1 and 2 ....wow

Do you both share the same taxi to the hotel so he can pay

Where do you share the taxi from

Since when do you need a passport to check into a hotel.

Why would you expect a man to pay in a restaurant for your dinner

I must have been doing all this wrong when I was a single girl here. A coffee or walk meet was enough for me. "

Good for you. To each their own. I prefer dinner, civilised conversation and playing footsie under the table.

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By *inkykitten999Woman
23 weeks ago

cork

in my experience, guys have hyped themselves up so much that when the time comes to delivering the goods they run scared

just my opinion x

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By *oves_funMan
22 weeks ago

Douglas

Also there are nice genuine lads here, who don't hype themselves up and are respectful and decent.

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By *inkykitten999Woman
22 weeks ago

cork

of course i have met a few of them guys , im not painting them all with the one brush

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By *indenMan
22 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"in my experience, guys have hyped themselves up so much that when the time comes to delivering the goods they run scared

just my opinion x"

Challenge accepted…..

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By *inkykitten999Woman
22 weeks ago

cork

im glad someone has lol

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By *electableicecreamMan
22 weeks ago

The West

Finally I get it. Don't offer Kebabs.

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By *rish_vixenWoman
22 weeks ago

I travel.

This has shocked me, hope you’re ok:

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By *indenMan
22 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"im glad someone has lol"

Shall I book dinner?……

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By *inkykitten999Woman
22 weeks ago

cork

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By *inkykitten999Woman
22 weeks ago

cork


"im glad someone has lol

Shall I book dinner?…… "

yes and dessert x

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By *indenMan
22 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"im glad someone has lol

Shall I book dinner?……

yes and dessert x"

Oh I’ll bring that with me……

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By *indenMan
22 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

Apologies OP for the tangent on a serious thread……

Hope you find your way here, it can be a learning curve…..

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By *inkykitten999Woman
22 weeks ago

cork


"Apologies OP for the tangent on a serious thread……

Hope you find your way here, it can be a learning curve….."

dont let me distract you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
22 weeks ago

Appreciate all the replies! Xx Also kudos on the dinner plans you two lol 3

Honestly a fuck is a fuck, I'm not really bothered by this part of my problem, like honestly it was above average with potential. It started out as a social but I got horny and my place is nearby so... iykyk.

Taking on all the advice (I have been very clear on regular meets, every guy I met has expressed the same wants) - from now on with what has been said, I'll do social not in my area to avoid temptation.

My problem is though:

I just hate that this guy thinks it's OK to enjoy my company, I suck his cock with actual effort, we fuck and tease for over an hour, acts like he's mad for our next meeting -promises to go get the car to drop me to my next thing, demands my eircode so he can drive the car without any issues and then - wham! poof! bye! all fucking over. The guy was 25, verified 5 times with displayed verifications and here for over a year and his username contained respectful in it. I mean nothing respectful with that.

If we fuck and then you decide after not interested, then don't be a coward and just say sorry you're not my cup of tea. I'm taking his age as a factor to this horrendous behaviour.

But honestly I'm shit out of luck trying to figure out the decent ones on this. I just want a fuck buddy. Why so hard lol

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago


"in my experience, guys have hyped themselves up so much that when the time comes to delivering the goods they run scared

just my opinion x"

Too true

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago


"Appreciate all the replies! Xx Also kudos on the dinner plans you two lol 3

Honestly a fuck is a fuck, I'm not really bothered by this part of my problem, like honestly it was above average with potential. It started out as a social but I got horny and my place is nearby so... iykyk.

Taking on all the advice (I have been very clear on regular meets, every guy I met has expressed the same wants) - from now on with what has been said, I'll do social not in my area to avoid temptation.

My problem is though:

I just hate that this guy thinks it's OK to enjoy my company, I suck his cock with actual effort, we fuck and tease for over an hour, acts like he's mad for our next meeting -promises to go get the car to drop me to my next thing, demands my eircode so he can drive the car without any issues and then - wham! poof! bye! all fucking over. The guy was 25, verified 5 times with displayed verifications and here for over a year and his username contained respectful in it. I mean nothing respectful with that.

If we fuck and then you decide after not interested, then don't be a coward and just say sorry you're not my cup of tea. I'm taking his age as a factor to this horrendous behaviour.

But honestly I'm shit out of luck trying to figure out the decent ones on this. I just want a fuck buddy. Why so hard lol

"

This has happened to me before.

Invest in a chastity cage, some velcro restraints and some impact gear.

And demand tribute. Not money. But flowers, treats, shoes.

You're no one's mommy

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22 weeks ago

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By *eldubMan
22 weeks ago

Swords

There are a lot of assholes on here. But also a lot of genuine guys. Maybe you should broaden your age profile,might have more luck. I'd love a chance to chat with you.

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By *chochamberWoman
22 weeks ago

Munster

Sounds like poor communication skills on his part. He can do the compliments etc, but he can't communicate what he really wants, which is to fuck and go. It's social conditioning too, being polite to your face and then ghosting afterwards. It's immature communication. It's all on him and not on you.

This is why the veri s should be taken with a pinch of salt, they are either post social meet with a desire for more, or post sex, before the ghosting sets in.

Someone said to me before, this site really suits the anxious avoidant types, who crave the connection but then avoid after. I think it's true. Fab hook ups are not your pal, not after the first hook up anyway, maybe after a while.

Lower the expectations, if you are horny and decide to do something expect it to be with no strings/lifts/exchanges. The favours are for friends, not fab one offs.

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By *j47Man
22 weeks ago

limerick


"Appreciate all the replies! Xx Also kudos on the dinner plans you two lol 3

Honestly a fuck is a fuck, I'm not really bothered by this part of my problem, like honestly it was above average with potential. It started out as a social but I got horny and my place is nearby so... iykyk.

Taking on all the advice (I have been very clear on regular meets, every guy I met has expressed the same wants) - from now on with what has been said, I'll do social not in my area to avoid temptation.

My problem is though:

I just hate that this guy thinks it's OK to enjoy my company, I suck his cock with actual effort, we fuck and tease for over an hour, acts like he's mad for our next meeting -promises to go get the car to drop me to my next thing, demands my eircode so he can drive the car without any issues and then - wham! poof! bye! all fucking over. The guy was 25, verified 5 times with displayed verifications and here for over a year and his username contained respectful in it. I mean nothing respectful with that.

If we fuck and then you decide after not interested, then don't be a coward and just say sorry you're not my cup of tea. I'm taking his age as a factor to this horrendous behaviour.

But honestly I'm shit out of luck trying to figure out the decent ones on this. I just want a fuck buddy. Why so hard lol

"

After reading this it relates to so many other stories on here we are all looking something so simple with a little respect its hard to find but when you do it can be amazing however loyalty is very frilivours on a site like this at the end of the day its a bunch of strangers off the internet that think doing shit like this is no harm they have no intrest in how they make others feel as long as they are satisfied

Take it with a pinch of salt turn ur back and look for whos next hopefully you will find someone that wants similar to you and respects you

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By *adforsexMan
22 weeks ago

Santry


"This is a long one lol! I've now just been blocked literally minutes after saying goodbye to what I was sure to be a very successful fucking and with chances of being more fun in the future.

Also I had plans that I was late for, so he offered to drive me instead of getting taxi, told me to send him my address (we had walked to my place from coffee shop) and texted me "won't be long x" after getting ready and waiting 10 mins outside my house I went to check fab and this user had blocked me. Which means my snaps hadn't been sending to him after his text. He's the second guy in 2 weeks to do this. I've met 3 off fab now in total. What am I doing wrong? Honestly they literally can't stop complimenting and texting and then when we do fuck they chuck you like trash. I'm here for fun with respect for eachother and now I just feel neither of these things. I'd love to know how we stop this bullshit. Also these are both verified users, this current guy verified 5 times and on it over a year. Would love some advice x"
stop shagging dickheads lol

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By *exyScientistsCouple
22 weeks ago

Castlebar

It's difficult to judge someone's character. You have to do what's right for you...if you take your time before sex or jump straight it. But be prepared for the fact that you weren't what they wanted. If you hadn't been interested again maybe you would have blocked them? Lots of people are here for quick fucks and will say what they need to to get what they want...I just assume the worst and if its not the case it's a nice surprise!

Mrs

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By *s LollyWoman
22 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Yeno everyone who reads this will be scrolling looking for male profile's who are 25 with 5 verfies and has respectful in the username

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By *ogladyWoman
22 weeks ago

The bog


"Yeno everyone who reads this will be scrolling looking for male profile's who are 25 with 5 verfies and has respectful in the username "

If I wasn't so lazy I'd probably be doing it..

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By *merald CharmWoman
22 weeks ago

scotland


" The Posh Poket rocket, is a GREAT profile by an empowered woman.

I LOVE her approach.

She only meets men in clubs, is v selective, never meets in hotels and never brings anyone into her home.

You need to prioritise You on this site, because many men are here for a fuck and run. So only ever do, what you want to do. Let them pay for hotels etc, if that is what THEY want.

You only need to look out for yourself. "

I totally agree with this and since having a new profile this is what I have done.

I only meet in clubs (only met 1 guy out of the club) never take people to my home and never leave the club with anyone. They know their place.

Guys offer to go halves on a hotel - no chance.

I don't get many messages to meet but I do only get quality people looking to meet in the club and I have lots of people in the club I'm happy to chat with.

Make sure you're safe all the time and do what YOU want to do

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
22 weeks ago

City Centre, Dublin


"I could write a novel on this very subject.

Rule #1: Don't move outside your personal comfort zone, location wise, to meet complete stranger. Choose a nice restaurant, preferably in mid-range, see his reaction. If he balks and gives excuses, you know he's either a tight ass looking to score cheap sex or cheating on someone.

And no lunch meets.

Rule #2: Let him pay the taxi for any hotel bookings. Once at reception get his passport details and split the bill. You pay your half in cash, he can pay his half on his VISA. Unless his company is paying.

Rule #3: Don't trust the verifications. A lot of lies and back-scratching among old buddies.

Good luck!

Rule 1 and 2 ....wow

Do you both share the same taxi to the hotel so he can pay

Depends how far he is staying from me.

Since when do you need a passport to check into a hotel.

EU rules.

Why would you expect a man to pay in a restaurant for your dinner

I never said he should pay for dinner. I prefer splitting the bill.

But I expect good manners and a nice restaurant... not horribly expensive but at least a place that does good food. I'm flexible: I like Thai, Indian, Japanese, steak, seafood and Sunday brunch.

I don't do junk food or seedy little kebab places.

"

Ah shure one badly packed kebab is enough for an evening

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By *og-ManMan
22 weeks ago

somewhere

Just wondering why women are given the advice to treat the men any way they want and its empowerment

Yet when the men do the same thing they're in the wrong ....always

Are most apps or even this site not designed for a fuck and good luck agenda without it being someone's fault if thats what they do

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By *he English OneMan
22 weeks ago

west


"This is a long one lol! I've now just been blocked literally minutes after saying goodbye to what I was sure to be a very successful fucking and with chances of being more fun in the future.

Also I had plans that I was late for, so he offered to drive me instead of getting taxi, told me to send him my address (we had walked to my place from coffee shop) and texted me "won't be long x" after getting ready and waiting 10 mins outside my house I went to check fab and this user had blocked me. Which means my snaps hadn't been sending to him after his text. He's the second guy in 2 weeks to do this. I've met 3 off fab now in total. What am I doing wrong? Honestly they literally can't stop complimenting and texting and then when we do fuck they chuck you like trash. I'm here for fun with respect for eachother and now I just feel neither of these things. I'd love to know how we stop this bullshit. Also these are both verified users, this current guy verified 5 times and on it over a year. Would love some advice x"

Fortunately there are decent guys here that know how to treat people right unfortunately they don't get given a chance obviously due to one too many fools who think they are God's gift or something

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By *eroLondonMan
22 weeks ago

Mayfair

OP, change your stance. Swap the men for the gentlemen.

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By *chochamberWoman
22 weeks ago

Munster


"Just wondering why women are given the advice to treat the men any way they want and its empowerment

Yet when the men do the same thing they're in the wrong ....always

Are most apps or even this site not designed for a fuck and good luck agenda without it being someone's fault if thats what they do "

No need to lie about lifts etc. Just communicate honestly like an adult. Words and actions need to align. That goes for everyone.

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By *1donkMan
22 weeks ago

cahir

As a guy whi hasn't really established himself on this site I can honestly say this happens to men too! Yes there are male assholes out there but there are also females that act like this as well. I've had women been all chat and up for a social meet, I've arranged time off work and driven long distances only to find as I'm nearing my destination the female has disappeared! Blocked me and hidden profile! It's already very hard for a single male on this site bit when things like this happens it's really disheartening.

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By *unchalMan
22 weeks ago

Dartford


"This is a long one lol! I've now just been blocked literally minutes after saying goodbye to what I was sure to be a very successful fucking and with chances of being more fun in the future.

Also I had plans that I was late for, so he offered to drive me instead of getting taxi, told me to send him my address (we had walked to my place from coffee shop) and texted me "won't be long x" after getting ready and waiting 10 mins outside my house I went to check fab and this user had blocked me. Which means my snaps hadn't been sending to him after his text. He's the second guy in 2 weeks to do this. I've met 3 off fab now in total. What am I doing wrong? Honestly they literally can't stop complimenting and texting and then when we do fuck they chuck you like trash. I'm here for fun with respect for eachother and now I just feel neither of these things. I'd love to know how we stop this bullshit. Also these are both verified users, this current guy verified 5 times and on it over a year. Would love some advice x"

Did you actually meet this fella. It kinda reads as if you didn’t. Oh, and men are beasts.

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By *ustBoWoman
22 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Just wondering why women are given the advice to treat the men any way they want and its empowerment

Yet when the men do the same thing they're in the wrong ....always

Are most apps or even this site not designed for a fuck and good luck agenda without it being someone's fault if thats what they do "

I don't get it either. I don't understand the whole theory that men should be the ones who pay for everything buy "gifts" and get treated like dirt on here,and have to show their id. That all seems very weird and entitled to me.

I prefer to get to know someone and treat them like an equal personally. I find it has worked out a lot better for me when I've been meeting on here. The same as having a social with someone before anything else happens.

And while the scenario the op mentions is pretty crap it could be simply that the guy didn't enjoy the experience and didn't want to say that. Yes a bit crap how he disappeared. But if the shoe was on the other foot the woman would have been told she did the right thing by just disappearing and avoiding any agro that could have happened.

Fab is made up of all sorts. It can be quite a journey to find someone on the same page as you.

I don't even understand why some are on here when they have such a shite attitude towards the people they claim they want to meet.

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By *ingpot!Man
22 weeks ago

West Cork


"Just wondering why women are given the advice to treat the men any way they want and its empowerment

Yet when the men do the same thing they're in the wrong ....always

Are most apps or even this site not designed for a fuck and good luck agenda without it being someone's fault if thats what they do

I don't get it either. I don't understand the whole theory that men should be the ones who pay for everything buy "gifts" and get treated like dirt on here,and have to show their id. That all seems very weird and entitled to me.

I prefer to get to know someone and treat them like an equal personally. I find it has worked out a lot better for me when I've been meeting on here. The same as having a social with someone before anything else happens.

And while the scenario the op mentions is pretty crap it could be simply that the guy didn't enjoy the experience and didn't want to say that. Yes a bit crap how he disappeared. But if the shoe was on the other foot the woman would have been told she did the right thing by just disappearing and avoiding any agro that could have happened.

Fab is made up of all sorts. It can be quite a journey to find someone on the same page as you.

I don't even understand why some are on here when they have such a shite attitude towards the people they claim they want to meet. "

Totally agree.

There are certainly some truths to gender stereotypes but people are people, no matter what their anatomy is. Some are great. Some are assholes.

Most of us are neither but are capable of doing both great and assholey things.

Ghosting, cold feet, deceit.. it's all unfortunately part of Fab (and dating in general).

As someone who doesn't care for larger socials, I actually highly recommend them if you want a higher chance of people treating you like a real human being

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By *chochamberWoman
22 weeks ago

Munster

OP: I suggest updating your Bio to state " I m only interested in radically honest people who are capable of clear, consistent, authentic communication. I want to avoid false flattery and ghosting, please only get in touch if you can maintain honest communication." Might cut down on the messers.

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By *aseylee324Couple
22 weeks ago

Valley of Squinting Windows


"Just wondering why women are given the advice to treat the men any way they want and its empowerment

Yet when the men do the same thing they're in the wrong ....always

Are most apps or even this site not designed for a fuck and good luck agenda without it being someone's fault if thats what they do

I don't get it either. I don't understand the whole theory that men should be the ones who pay for everything buy "gifts" and get treated like dirt on here,and have to show their id. That all seems very weird and entitled to me.

I prefer to get to know someone and treat them like an equal personally. I find it has worked out a lot better for me when I've been meeting on here. The same as having a social with someone before anything else happens.

And while the scenario the op mentions is pretty crap it could be simply that the guy didn't enjoy the experience and didn't want to say that. Yes a bit crap how he disappeared. But if the shoe was on the other foot the woman would have been told she did the right thing by just disappearing and avoiding any agro that could have happened.

Fab is made up of all sorts. It can be quite a journey to find someone on the same page as you.

I don't even understand why some are on here when they have such a shite attitude towards the people they claim they want to meet. "

Absofuckinglutely

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By *eeking_sensuality77Woman
22 weeks ago

Athlone

Thankfully, I can't say the same regarding actually 'meeting assholes' although I had the misfortune of meeting one late last year and that was enough to put me off for a while. I have however been chatting to guys on here who'll suggest meeting and then slowly but surely go quiet! That's ok, I'm well beyond running after anyone at this stage of my life...much less a fool off fab!

I hope you have better luck going forward op, it's not easy but stick with it as there are still a few nice guys left out there.

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By *rownie03Man
22 weeks ago

Kill

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By *igkidexyMan
22 weeks ago

Dublin

Up your age get rid of young

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By *rownie03Man
22 weeks ago

Kill


"This is a long one lol! I've now just been blocked literally minutes after saying goodbye to what I was sure to be a very successful fucking and with chances of being more fun in the future.

Also I had plans that I was late for, so he offered to drive me instead of getting taxi, told me to send him my address (we had walked to my place from coffee shop) and texted me "won't be long x" after getting ready and waiting 10 mins outside my house I went to check fab and this user had blocked me. Which means my snaps hadn't been sending to him after his text. He's the second guy in 2 weeks to do this. I've met 3 off fab now in total. What am I doing wrong? Honestly they literally can't stop complimenting and texting and then when we do fuck they chuck you like trash. I'm here for fun with respect for eachother and now I just feel neither of these things. I'd love to know how we stop this bullshit. Also these are both verified users, this current guy verified 5 times and on it over a year. Would love some advice x"

Love to know you more and plan something, asking as a gent, what would be the best way to ask you out and not get a no haha

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
22 weeks ago

Portstewart

Unfortunately most single males who we had chats with all turn into fuck boys if they even smell the chance to get some action. They seem to regress to an earlier stage of their development

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By *j47Man
22 weeks ago

limerick


"Unfortunately most single males who we had chats with all turn into fuck boys if they even smell the chance to get some action. They seem to regress to an earlier stage of their development "

Your meeting the wrong guys

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By *ayFieldsMan
22 weeks ago

Leixlip

Is this a joke ...does your profile name not give you your answer lol

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By *UIETELLE2052Couple
22 weeks ago

Dundrum/Rathfarnham

Most likely the guys were married and only wanted a one off. We get overloaded with messages from guys. As club swingers we know most guys we met there if alone were married so not issue for us on this site. But still find we need to do a lot of engagement before a meet to ensure it’s a success. Had one no show and block early on but once we put more work in to suss out the offers Sue gets no issues since. Put it down to experience and don’t let it put you off

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