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"?? says in the message that nothing expected other than a chat. Next to impossible for single, unverified guys to get a response to a message here never mind a verification. Some of us not really into the group meet thing and prefer one to one interactions etc. but each to their own thanks" I hear ya, as so does other's on here, despite what I'm going to say next. It doesn't really matter what it says in the message in the first place. You'd be better to stop messaging profiles altogether, unless they message you first. Sence it's your first verification, it shouldn't matter who it's from, man, woman or couple. By looking just for a woman, your making things very hard on yourself to get verified in the first place. There's plenty of coffee social popping up around the place & fairly often. They're on during the day, you should go to 1 of them. After awhile if you feel there's to many there for you. Tell the organiser that your leaving, say your goodbyes & that's it, no harm done. As much as us single guy's would like 1 to 1 private meets. Without going to a few socials, it can be a long, lonely road, without a turn on here. It's up to you OP.  | |||
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"To be fair to the OP the question of men verifying men has come up before and as far as I can tell most women and couples wouldn't put their trust in a guy that was verified solely by another guy. It also makes sense to me that most guys on a sex site wouldn't want to meet up with another guy to get verified. And guys should be able to post in the forum to ask for a veri without getting shut down for it. Yes there is Help a Fabber thread and group socials but they don't suit everyone so it's fair to ask." So if it's a very well known and respected guy or couple? Again lots of ways to get your first one, being picky is not the best way. | |||
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"To be fair to the OP the question of men verifying men has come up before and as far as I can tell most women and couples wouldn't put their trust in a guy that was verified solely by another guy. It also makes sense to me that most guys on a sex site wouldn't want to meet up with another guy to get verified. And guys should be able to post in the forum to ask for a veri without getting shut down for it. Yes there is Help a Fabber thread and group socials but they don't suit everyone so it's fair to ask." That's all true & fine. He's here's long enough to get verified in someway. The longer he's on here without getting verified the less likely women or Couples will trust him either. What if the verification is from a guy they know personally, like do they not trust him either? That maybe true alright, everybody has to start somewhere. Beside's it's just for a chat at the end of the day. That's true, they don't always work. Your better to try & give them a go, then not at all. | |||
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"To be fair to the OP the question of men verifying men has come up before and as far as I can tell most women and couples wouldn't put their trust in a guy that was verified solely by another guy. It also makes sense to me that most guys on a sex site wouldn't want to meet up with another guy to get verified. And guys should be able to post in the forum to ask for a veri without getting shut down for it. Yes there is Help a Fabber thread and group socials but they don't suit everyone so it's fair to ask. That's all true & fine. He's here's long enough to get verified in someway. The longer he's on here without getting verified the less likely women or Couples will trust him either. What if the verification is from a guy they know personally, like do they not trust him either? That maybe true alright, everybody has to start somewhere. Beside's it's just for a chat at the end of the day. That's true, they don't always work. Your better to try & give them a go, then not at all. " this | |||
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" Next to impossible for single, unverified guys to get a response to a message here never mind a meet " Try being a single girl on here. So annoying to miss the decent messages with the amount of ridiculous messages we receive daily. It's not that you specifically are being ignored, it's a matter of the ratio of men to women on the site. There are lots of ways to get verified. You just need to be willing to put the effort in & possibly move out of your comfort zone a bit. If not, you won't get very far. Agree with the comment, the longer you're on here without a verification kinda goes against you. Unfortunately. | |||
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"It's all fine in theory to say that if it's a trusted guy it should work but the reality of it is that it doesn't. The likelihood of male half of a couple or 99% of single guys, well known or not, agreeing to meet and verify an unknown male is extremely unlikely. There's a few guys who would do it for sure but I know I can count them on one hand. It's also unfair and judgemental to say that just because there are options that don't suit particular person then they can go fish because they are picky. Group socials don't suit everyone. Absolutely they are the most efficient but it's not the only way. I know two women that left the social on Sunday night early because it was overwhelming. Are they picky too? I know of guys that went to day time socials and walked back out again without saying hello because the pressure felt too much. Are they picky? What about the people posting in the other thread saying they prefer one to one's? Preference doesn't mean picky. I got my first five verifications through the forum by simply chatting and joining in games and discussions. The guy just asked for a social. Sure it might not work. But it worked for me." You're right, no harm asking & preference doesn't mean picky I don't think  | |||
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"It's all fine in theory to say that if it's a trusted guy it should work but the reality of it is that it doesn't. The likelihood of male half of a couple or 99% of single guys, well known or not, agreeing to meet and verify an unknown male is extremely unlikely. There's a few guys who would do it for sure but I know I can count them on one hand. It's also unfair and judgemental to say that just because there are options that don't suit particular person then they can go fish because they are picky. Group socials don't suit everyone. Absolutely they are the most efficient but it's not the only way. I know two women that left the social on Sunday night early because it was overwhelming. Are they picky too? I know of guys that went to day time socials and walked back out again without saying hello because the pressure felt too much. Are they picky? What about the people posting in the other thread saying they prefer one to one's? Preference doesn't mean picky. I got my first five verifications through the forum by simply chatting and joining in games and discussions. The guy just asked for a social. Sure it might not work. But it worked for me." I've been saying this for quite a while now. Some socials are great but there are multiple issues at others that prevent or hinder people from chatting to new people. I'm not introverted but I much prefer the intimacy of a one to one meet over having to lip read at a noisy social. As a non drinker I also prefer chatting to people when they aren't under the influence of something. I once offered here on the forums to meet a guy who was having difficulty getting verified but he didn't take up the offer. I also offered to help organise a non verified coffee social in Dublin once because none of those arranging it were verified and they needed someone who could actually verify those who turned up. I never heard any word back from them. I asked in a chatgroup once with 40+ members, most of whom were women, what the general consensus was in regard to men verifying other men in the group. Most of the women said they would assume any straight man with a verification from another man was only fab straight and they wouldn't trust them. Very different to what others say on the forums but then again forum opinions and interactions only account for 5 percent of fab members. | |||
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