FabSwingers.com forum: Socials

By (user no longer on site) OP
26 weeks ago

Hey,

So I’ve been on and off Fab 4 or so years, and I’ve yet to attend a group social in Ireland. I’ve been at a few clubs and such in Manchester and they were great.

I guess I’m wondering, are they worth it? I’ve heard some say there’s a clique, and others say they’re fantastic. I’m a bit torn, so I thought I’d ask the experts (Aka Fabbers who go to them often)

There seems to be a fair few good ones like Dv8, and I’ve seen some profiles orientated around socials too.

Cheers,

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
26 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

Many/most here like to have social meets before play meets. Look at these as the opportunity to have multiple social meets all in one place, before moving on to the play next time. They are quite the time saver

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By *electableicecreamMan
26 weeks ago

The West

I'd say social events are by far the best way to make new connections and especially if your a single guy.

People talk about cliques but really what you have is groups of friends who knew each other very well add her regularly at socials and parties.

There's always a good mix of regulars and new folk at every social and there are always people who make it a point to welcome new people.

I'd say go for it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
26 weeks ago

Very true FilthyNights, I’ll give one a bash.

That’s a good way of putting it DelectableCream, I think if it’s someone’s first time and they’re nervous, they may see some old mates socialising as a clique.

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By *ofusplusCouple
26 weeks ago

Limerick

"Very true FilthyNights, I’ll give one a bash.

That’s a good way of putting it DelectableCream, I think if it’s someone’s first time and they’re nervous, they may see some old mates socialising as a clique.

Maybe go to a daytime coffee social first. Much easier to talk to people and make connections than at the larger ones imo. Good luck.

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By *og-ManMan
26 weeks ago

somewhere

DV8 is the perfect spot for your first social so ask on their thread can you attend

Yes it can seem a bit daunting when you see groups of people chatting but we only meet at socials mainly so its a case of a drink and a catch up

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By *mmortalbMan
26 weeks ago

kildare

Actually found the fet l socials easy to attend. Think a lot of people from there are here to. It's easy to bookmark events. Haven't done one from here yet but wouldn't mind. Find it does be great to get out and meet new people, regardless if something comes of it or not

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

Socials are definitely a great way to meet new people. If you're new to here try this one.

ENVY - June 19th - Newbies Meet and Greet (Weds night)

There is a thread in the forums so you should contact them. Best of luck.

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By *ACOLCouple
26 weeks ago

limerick

I agree, social is the best place for a single that might find it hard to meet others.

Good luck OP.

Lina.

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By *eroLondonMan
26 weeks ago

Covent Garden

One of the ideal ways to make the most out of Fab is to attend a fab-organised social, and meet people, imbibe with them, network and improve your social circle. It's a wonderful way to meet with no agenda or preconceived expectations.

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By *hunkyRedPandaMan
26 weeks ago

City

20 ish years on and off in the swinging community.

First social last Sunday.

Why the hell did I not attend these before! Good to get out and at least chat to some like minded people. Have a few laughs, have a good time.

Definitely worth it. Looking for to the next one, even if up the other end of the country

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By (user no longer on site) OP
26 weeks ago

Solid advice guys, will definitely rock into the next one !

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By *nA101Couple
26 weeks ago

limerick

As said above cliques is a bit of a strong term for it .people would be more friendly with people they have met previously but that doesn't mean there not approachable.. we have met a number of people at socials and have made some great connections from them .

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By *rRiosMan
26 weeks ago

dublin

"As said above cliques is a bit of a strong term for it .people would be more friendly with people they have met previously but that doesn't mean there not approachable.. we have met a number of people at socials and have made some great connections from them ."

That’s EXACTLY what someone in the “clique” would say…

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By *nA101Couple
26 weeks ago

limerick

Far from it now lost herself for a bout an hour last social while she was off mingling haha

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By *ol_ieMan
26 weeks ago

Dublin west

Socials are the easiest way to make connections with people so while not essential they are recommended.

And yes of course there will be people there who know each other but lots are approachable and will introduce you to others.

So if you get the chance I can only recommend you take it.

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By *ifty Fifty 22Couple
26 weeks ago

Dublin

Our experience is that the "lifestyle" is far less Cliquey than any other hobby/interest you could think of. Even for a newbie people of all ages and classes reach out and are happy to at least have a chat.

The biggest mistake is to focus on the sex. Make friends first (less pressure and way easier) and through further introductions the sex will follow.

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By *arrot_in_a_boxCouple
26 weeks ago

kinda dublin

I see people talking about "cliques" here in the forums a lot, but could someone actually point me to a profile in one so I know what you're talking about

As far as I can see here, the "popular" profiles, are so not because they're in some exclusive club, but the opposite, because they're the most social and friendly people around.

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By *apri 555Man
26 weeks ago

wexford or Dublin

Can only agree with all of the above ,,,

Socials are a great way of meeting like minded people in a friendly atmosphere,,we as a couple love going to them and meeting new friends,

If you attend one I don't think you will regret it,

Good luck OP

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By *inxnmasterCouple
26 weeks ago

naughty valley

Socials are great to make acquaintance . And it makes it less awkward to walk away if first contact doesn’t match

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By *heMystroMan
26 weeks ago

Dublin

You can’t become part of a clique until you out put yourself out there and until you talk to people and show the real you. Mostly nice people so give it a go

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
26 weeks ago

Portstewart

In our opinion socials are always a welcome event to attend as you get to interact with people who we have been chatting without any expectations of anything else but there is also the opportunity if things go really well to extend an invitation to join us in our room

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By *carlett!Woman
25 weeks ago

"I see people talking about "cliques" here in the forums a lot, but could someone actually point me to a profile in one so I know what you're talking about

As far as I can see here, the "popular" profiles, are so not because they're in some exclusive club, but the opposite, because they're the most social and friendly people around."

Very well said & couldn't agree more.

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By *carlett!Woman
25 weeks ago

I love social events. Great to catch up with people you know on the scene & to meet new people. I always go out of my way to introduce myself to new people & have seen lots of others do the same. Less pressure & no expectations at a social event compared to one on one meets, I feel. Can't wait for the Sunday social in dv8 tomorrow :D

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By *eroLondonMan
25 weeks ago

Covent Garden

My favourite clique is a clique of one¹, and she is mononymously known as Scarlett! She is diminutive and pocket sized, but effervescent like a bottle of Fizz...•°*

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By *carlett!Woman
25 weeks ago

"My favourite clique is a clique of one¹, and she is mononymously known as Scarlett! She is diminutive and pocket sized, but effervescent like a bottle of Fizz...•°*"

way to make a girl blush

thank you

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By *udding RoseWoman
25 weeks ago

Somewhere out there

"I love social events. Great to catch up with people you know on the scene & to meet new people. I always go out of my way to introduce myself to new people & have seen lots of others do the same. Less pressure & no expectations at a social event compared to one on one meets, I feel. Can't wait for the Sunday social in dv8 tomorrow :D "

I agree for sure!!!

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By *aid backMan
25 weeks ago

by a lake with my rod out

I honestly believe that you can make a better impression in 5 mins in person at a social than you can in months of emails or forum interactions.

But the opposite can also be true is you've been faking a persona online and you can't be that person in a real life situation then you're fucked or not dependant on what you want

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By *llthewaysMan
25 weeks ago

City centre/Naas

Socials are the best way of getting to know a person and seeing if you click.

Dv8 run free Sunday socials, from 4 until 10 or so.

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By *eroLondonMan
25 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"Socials are the best way of getting to know a person and seeing if you click.

Dv8 run free Sunday socials, from 4 until 10 or so."

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Assuming that the person with whom you've been chatting with for days / weeks / months is also attending the same social.

Some people attend socials to connect and solidify their nexus of friends. And yes - miracles do happen when it comes to spontaneous meets. Such situations are a bonus and not a mindset.

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By *og-ManMan
25 weeks ago

somewhere

"My favourite clique is a clique of one¹, and she is mononymously known as Scarlett! She is diminutive and pocket sized, but effervescent like a bottle of Fizz...•°*

way to make a girl blush

thank you

You're not blushing ...you're delighted with it

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By *carlett!Woman
25 weeks ago

"My favourite clique is a clique of one¹, and she is mononymously known as Scarlett! She is diminutive and pocket sized, but effervescent like a bottle of Fizz...•°*

way to make a girl blush

thank you

You're not blushing ...you're delighted with it

Sssshhh not everyone knows me. They may well believe I'm the shy blushing type

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By *insBadMan
25 weeks ago

& around

I enjoy the social side of the lifestyle as much as the sex side, okay, I enjoy the sex more, but the social side is a very close second.

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By *om TangoMan
25 weeks ago

aughnacloy monaghan area

Went to my first social last weekend and thankfully met up with a great bunch of people and now looking forward to getting to my next one. Great way of meeting other likeminded people and having a great nights craic.

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By *uittopMan
25 weeks ago

South County Dublin

Just been to DV8 met some extremely interesting people. Do not knock it until you have tried it.

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By *uittopMan
25 weeks ago

South County Dublin

"My favourite clique is a clique of one¹, and she is mononymously known as Scarlett! She is diminutive and pocket sized, but effervescent

like a bottle of Fizz...•°*

way to make a girl blush

thank you

You're not blushing ...you're delighted with it

Sssshhh not everyone knows me. They may well believe I'm the shy blushing type

I can verify that scarlet is a fabulous open book

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

We haven't been able to get to as many socials as we'd like to as of late... They're brilliant. One of our favourite parts of fab. It's a great way to meet friends and let loose. We would very highly recommend the DV8 Sunday social.

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By *carlett!Woman
25 weeks ago

"My favourite clique is a clique of one¹, and she is mononymously known as Scarlett! She is diminutive and pocket sized, but effervescent

like a bottle of Fizz...•°*

way to make a girl blush

thank you

You're not blushing ...you're delighted with it

Sssshhh not everyone knows me. They may well believe I'm the shy blushing type

I can verify that scarlet is a fabulous open book"

Thank you

was nice to chat & have a few laughs.

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By *carlett!Woman
25 weeks ago

"We haven't been able to get to as many socials as we'd like to as of late... They're brilliant. One of our favourite parts of fab. It's a great way to meet friends and let loose. We would very highly recommend the DV8 Sunday social.

We miss you sexy pair. Hopefully you guys can make it to another one soon x

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By *acob12369Man
25 weeks ago

URPANTS

Need to get to a social soon.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
25 weeks ago

Home

100% worth it. I went to my first social the weekend gone and you won't get to know lot's of people on fab without going to socials.

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By *chochamberWoman
25 weeks ago

Munster

Agree, take it all with a pinch of salt, go say hello, get the measure of people, decide who you ld like to get to know more. Have fun.

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By *itlbeeCouple
25 weeks ago

It's very hard to really find people you click with from profiles and apps. Often meeting someone in person will make a huge difference.

We've met couples in person whose profiles would have never caught our attention otherwise.

Though the issue we all know is there is a disproportionate amount of single men and not enough people looking for them. So you're experience may vary.

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By *affa31Woman
25 weeks ago

Galway

I think socials are the best way to meet people but you have to be willing to mingle and actually be social.

I’m a bit of a disaster (unless I’m hosting) for mingling so I’ve seen both sides of it.

So go to socials, but only if you’re willing to chat to people. And yes, it’s hard to break into groups, but most people are nice and will chat away

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By *s LollyWoman
25 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I always say to new people or in your case rejoines social coffee afternoon's or social nights are the best way to connect and meet new people,i attend on my own all the time it just takes a deep breath and go interduce yourself to people,most are friendly some not but hay hoo that's in life anyway

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By *udding RoseWoman
25 weeks ago

Somewhere out there

"I always say to new people or in your case rejoines social coffee afternoon's or social nights are the best way to connect and meet new people,i attend on my own all the time it just takes a deep breath and go interduce yourself to people,most are friendly some not but hay hoo that's in life anyway

And also hiking/walking groups!! I'm in two different hiking/walking groups and they are great!!!

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
25 weeks ago

Home

And also hiking/walking groups!! I'm in two different hiking/walking groups and they are great!!!

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I've bad knee's and ankle so I'd be crippled if I did them.

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By *s LollyWoman
25 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

And also hiking/walking groups!! I'm in two different hiking/walking groups and they are great!!!

I've bad knee's and ankle so I'd be crippled if I did them."

Ive knee's like rice krispies, ye definitely don't want to hear me snap, crackle or pop when i walk uphill

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By *ilderMan
25 weeks ago

dublin

"I honestly believe that you can make a better impression in 5 mins in person at a social than you can in months of emails or forum interactions.

But the opposite can also be true is you've been faking a persona online and you can't be that person in a real life situation then you're fucked or not dependant on what you want "

It's true. On paper I'm a 10 out of 10. but when you meet me I'm actually only a 9 and a 1/2

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By *rish_GuyMan
25 weeks ago

Foxford

And also hiking/walking groups!! I'm in two different hiking/walking groups and they are great!!!

I've bad knee's and ankle so I'd be crippled if I did them.

Ive knee's like rice krispies, ye definitely don't want to hear me snap, crackle or pop when i walk uphill

Is that what that noise was a few weeks ago?

Once you pop, CAN you stop?

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
25 weeks ago

Home

And also hiking/walking groups!! I'm in two different hiking/walking groups and they are great!!!

I've bad knee's and ankle so I'd be crippled if I did them.

Ive knee's like rice krispies, ye definitely don't want to hear me snap, crackle or pop when i walk uphill

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I creak like an old barn door when I get up.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
25 weeks ago

wexford

I love a good social I've Been to many but I have to say DV8 is the best one for a 1st time social events. I'm a country girl in no "clique" I didn't feel that about Dv8 atal quite the opposite. I've been the last 2 weekends and love it.

So to those that want to try out a social event I can't recommend Dv8 enough.

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By *unlovingcouplehereCouple
25 weeks ago

Dublin

"I love a good social I've Been to many but I have to say DV8 is the best one for a 1st time social events. I'm a country girl in no "clique" I didn't feel that about Dv8 atal quite the opposite. I've been the last 2 weekends and love it.

So to those that want to try out a social event I can't recommend Dv8 enough."

Totally agree. We prefer meeting lots of people at socials then moving on to play down the line with those we would like to

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