FabSwingers.com forum: Getting the missus interested

By (user no longer on site) OP
26 weeks ago

Hey, married guy here and a complete horndog. I'm trying to get herself into this and becoming a couple profile. She ain't having it though. Any tips?

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"Hey, married guy here and a complete horndog. I'm trying to get herself into this and becoming a couple profile. She ain't having it though. Any tips?"

You know your wife better than anyone. It seems she's giving it a hell no. Have you known her to change her mind after declaring she's not interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"She ain't having it though. Any tips?"

Just have to respect her decision. You can’t force or make her get into it, and even if you could, she wouldn’t be into it on her grounds and therefore not 100% committed.

One option would be to have a chat about the possibility of you having permission to play alone, but you’re probably more likely to find hens teeth

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
26 weeks ago

South Down

Respect her wishes

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By *rish_GuyMan
26 weeks ago

Foxford

Like what's already been said above, you know her best. Respect her wishes, don't push her into it in anyway. As she wouldn't be into it & could feel like she was pressured into it, to make you happy. Ye've already talked about it. You need to think of why she doesn't want to be on here, let it be. As it could cost you more than what it's worth, in a way.

Like the song says "Let it be, Let it be" OP.

On a different note OP, everybody that sees or reads this thread. Now knows that your married & using a single guy's profile(I take it).

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
26 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

Don't force it ... But tell her what's in it for her. Too many men are just focused on their own pleasure. Which of her fantasies might this fulfill.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
26 weeks ago

Portstewart

Sounds like you would be better being truthful with her or it could end up blowing up in your face

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By *aseylee324Couple
26 weeks ago

Valley of Squinting Windows

"Respect her wishes "

This,

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
26 weeks ago

The West

"Don't force it ... But tell her what's in it for her. Too many men are just focused on their own pleasure. Which of her fantasies might this fulfill. "

This question comes up every now and then, and you just know that what's in it for her hasn't been discussed. It usually appears to be a man that wants to meet others and is trying to drag Mrs along, because he's married.

If she is open to talking about it, discuss her her fantasies and desires. Is there anything she might like to try? Other ladies, multiple men for her??

For example, would you be as keen if she says she wants a 5 man gang bang and you're not in it?

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By *ingpot!Man
26 weeks ago

West Cork

+1 to everything said above- absolutely don't force it and don't make it about you.

Honest, open, and *ongoing* communication is *the* most important part of being a couple (on Fab, or anywhere really).

Tell her how you feel. Tell her what turns you on. Ask from her the same. Everything you do should come with mutual consent and understanding.

If she's intrigued even in the slightest, a vanilla (non-play) social might help as she can see we're all just real people, not just body parts on a sex site.

All that being said, this lifestyle isn't for everyone. If it's not for her, accept it.

Good luck OP

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