FabSwingers.com forum: Fab seems impossible to casually be on

Hey all,

I've changed up my profile over and over recently, trying to conform to what seems to be working for others, but to no avail. I've recently decided just to do things my way again, despite that never seeming to work.

My question to you all is, is it impossible for me to find anything on here if I'm not spending a tonne of time on the site each day/week?

I've had (very fun) meets here in the past, but those people never seemed to be interested in adding verifications to anyone's profile.

Nowadays, nobody seems to want to pay any interest unless you're 1. "Stereotypically" gym fit, 2. You've already got a tonne of verifications, or 3. You've a cock the length of the M50

I've got no time or interest to go on cams, it makes me uncomfortable to be on there, and not much time to go to socials or parties, so it seems to be impossible for me to get any verifications. People seem to just ignore my messages outright now, and obviously I don't want to hound people, so when they ignore, I just give up. I'm now honestly just thinking of giving up on this altogether, it's been that long since anything good has come from here.

Apologies for the length, but I guess I'm just looking for advice here. Is there something more I should be doing? Must I go out of my way to be on here and on the cams more? Do I really have to force myself to do things I'm not comfortable with just to maybe meet likeminded people?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
40 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

So youve no time to spend on the site. No time to go on cam. No time to attend events or socials. How are you ever going to have time to meet anyone?

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By *eductivepiercingsWoman
40 weeks ago

louth

Save me writing a long message and say "YES" to all your questions

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By *rish_GuyMan
40 weeks ago

Foxford

"So youve no time to spend on the site. No time to go on cam. No time to attend events or socials. How are you ever going to have time to meet anyone?"

Agree with this, also you say your straight. Your verification is from a TV/TS, that says it was on cam. But the writing says ye meetup. There mixed signals to a woman or couple.

I'm not trying to make you leave or anything, that's up to you OP. If your staying try to interact in the forum & try to go to a social of somekind. Look up the forum, there's a thread about them on it. Try to pick 1 & go from there OP. Not EVERYBODY on here is getting flooded with pussy or whatever they're in too. It can take time for some people to going on here OP.

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By *hickForPleasure OP Man
40 weeks ago

I've got time to chat with people, that's the whole purpose of the messaging function, and it's how I've had meetups and friendships on here in the past.

I'd love to make it to some parties, but they are exceedingly expensive for guys to get into, and some I've signed up for have just straight up said they don't find me attractive enough to be in their circles, which I guess isn't my loss if they're gonna be that rude.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
40 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

I'm not aware of any social events that are expensive nor any that don't let people in that they don't find attractive. They are generally very inclusive.

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By *hickForPleasure OP Man
40 weeks ago

I've been on here for years so I know it can take time and I'm a patient man. Trust me, I'm not expecting to be swimming in it. It'd just be nice to chat to people, but nobody seems to want to chat anymore, at all.

Also, my account says I'm bi? Not sure how I'm doing mixed messaging there?

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By *rish_GuyMan
40 weeks ago

Foxford

"I've got time to chat with people, that's the whole purpose of the messaging function, and it's how I've had meetups and friendships on here in the past.

Unless someone can (wreck) me, parties & socials are to different things. There's plenty of socials to go to OP. Be that day time coffee meetup or night time once. They're not that dear to go to, when there a length of time away. Anybody that says them thing's to you, your better off away from them. I'm FAR from ripped or anything like that. If people don't like me, they can move on, life's to short to be interacting with them. I've gone to a few socials, so far this year & hoping to go to a few more. Everybody I've meet have been sound to be around. We mightn't play with eachother, that's fine with me. Each to they're own OP.

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By *rish_GuyMan
40 weeks ago

Foxford

"I've been on here for years so I know it can take time and I'm a patient man. Trust me, I'm not expecting to be swimming in it. It'd just be nice to chat to people, but nobody seems to want to chat anymore, at all.

Also, my account says I'm bi? Not sure how I'm doing mixed messaging there? "

O right, I must have read it wrong, sorry about that OP. The verification says it was on cam, with the writing says ye meetup, that part is a mix message OP.

(little tip, there's a reply to quote in the bottom right side. Use it as people will know who your talking to OP)

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By *electableicecreamMan
40 weeks ago

The West

I hear you OP. It's extremely difficult to get the ball rolling through messages alone.

If I was you I would take that time you have available to hook up with someone and use it to go a social event where you'll meet many more people.

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By *ovesfun41Man
40 weeks ago

dublin

Gym fit?, large cock?, (having both will lead to multiple verifications)

This isn't an attack or a dig but it is a blunt question.

When the dice are stacked in women's favour here, (which we all know they are, the sheer men to women ratio is mind boggling) then isn't it common sense that your gonna need to stand out of the crowd.

Now, being fit and in good shape isn't everyone's must have for nsa fun.

Just like having a large cock isn't everyone's must have for nsa.

However,exceptions dont negate the general rule.

Women here literally have their pick of the litter.

So if two men are in front of her, one is tall, fit, well hung, and the other, well, isn't. Which one will she choose for nsa sex and a bit of fun.

Not liking the answer doesn't change the answer.

And I know people will of course chime in and say oh I don't care about cock size, and oh I prefer a bit of meat on a man's bones blah blah.

The chippendales ain't dad bods for a reason.

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By *electableicecreamMan
40 weeks ago

The West

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By *electableicecreamMan
40 weeks ago

The West

So if two men are in front of her, one is tall, fit, well hung, and the other, well, isn't. Which one will she choose for nsa sex and a bit of fun.

Dude this is a hilariously two dimensional view of how women choose partners.

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By *ustBoWoman
40 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Also, my account says I'm bi? Not sure how I'm doing mixed messaging there? "

It does now it didn't earlier.

If you have been on here before and had meets than you should know how fab works.

Using the age old excuse that women will only meet guys with gym bodies or big cocks is a cop out as well and shows a complete lack of understanding of the majority of women on here. If you had such success before why not do what you did then ?

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By *itlbeeCouple
40 weeks ago

I think there's a small point your missing.

You're saying "no one's interested unless...."

Those things are not required (I've seen plenty of normal men busy at parties)

But if they do help, it's because they make someone stand out from the other 100+ faceless guys whose profiles all seem exactly the same.

Sad truth is, there are just too many horny single men on this site, and not enough takers looking for that.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
40 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

"Gym fit?, large cock?, (having both will lead to multiple verifications)

This isn't an attack or a dig but it is a blunt question.

Now, being fit and in good shape isn't everyone's must have for nsa fun.

Just like having a large cock isn't everyone's must have for nsa.

However,exceptions dont negate the general rule.

Women here literally have their pick of the litter.

So if two men are in front of her, one is tall, fit, well hung, and the other, well, isn't. Which one will she choose for nsa sex and a bit of fun.

Not liking the answer doesn't change the answer.

And I know people will of course chime in and say oh I don't care about cock size, and oh I prefer a bit of meat on a man's bones blah blah.

The chippendales ain't dad bods for a reason.

You're making an incorrect assumption that these things (6pack massive cock) are what girls are looking for. That's just not true in my experience. The Chippendale's are an outdated parody of men.

Id suggest to you that a safe sound considerate verified dadbod will be chosen over a wanker with a 6 pack and a massive knob more often than not.

It's just nowhere near as straightforward as you're suggesting

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By *rish_GuyMan
40 weeks ago

Foxford

Also, my account says I'm bi? Not sure how I'm doing mixed messaging there?

It does now it didn't earlier.

If you have been on here before and had meets than you should know how fab works.

I wasn't wrong so then, with it saying he was straight earlier.

Exactly, been here before or for a long time. Should know the score better.

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By *eroLondonMan
40 weeks ago

Mayfair

OP, just to clarify — are you asking for profile advice? I wish to critique it but I'm not allowed to unless asked for...

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By *og-ManMan
40 weeks ago

somewhere

Thought Causual was back on the forums reading the title

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By *affa31Woman
40 weeks ago

Galway

I’m fairly sure that none of my veris (hope I don’t insult anyone

) are very gym fit or have an exceptionally big cock. Most of them wouldn’t have had lots of veris either.

Is it that the women whose profiles you’re attracted to here have veris from these types of guys? If that’s the case, then maybe you’re not what they’re looking for but that’s their choice. Seek out people who are looking for what you bring to the table.

Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, focus on showing the best side of yourself.

What you need to bear in mind is that the average age on here is 40s I’d say and at 25, you’re just too young for a lot of people. That’s not to say that there aren’t people around that want to meet guys your age, but an already small pool is made smaller by that.

Interact on the forums, try to make time to get to a social (the day time ones are usually free if money is an issue and you don’t have to stay over) and hopefully you’ll find what you’re looking for.

Negativity isn’t the way to do it though.

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By *iscuits8Man
40 weeks ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

"I’m fairly sure that none of my veris are very gym fit or have an exceptionally big cock."

Can you please stop dropping hints, I've told you several times I will meet you some day

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By *affa31Woman
40 weeks ago

Galway

"I’m fairly sure that none of my veris are very gym fit or have an exceptionally big cock.

Can you please stop dropping hints, I've told you several times I will meet you some day

I just can’t wait any longer…I fear I’ll be past my prime by the time you get the finger out

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By *electableicecreamMan
40 weeks ago

The West

"I’m fairly sure that none of my veris are very gym fit or have an exceptionally big cock.

Can you please stop dropping hints, I've told you several times I will meet you some day

I just can’t wait any longer…I fear I’ll be past my prime by the time you get the finger out

Or in

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By *affa31Woman
40 weeks ago

Galway

"I’m fairly sure that none of my veris are very gym fit or have an exceptionally big cock.

Can you please stop dropping hints, I've told you several times I will meet you some day

I just can’t wait any longer…I fear I’ll be past my prime by the time you get the finger out

Or in"

In and out?

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By *iscuits8Man
40 weeks ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

I'll put it in and I'll put it out and if the going's good I may even shake it all about, baby!

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By *affa31Woman
40 weeks ago

Galway

"I'll put it in and I'll put it out and if the going's good I may even shake it all about, baby!"

*swoon*

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By *ubadubdubWoman
40 weeks ago

Hereabouts

"I'll put it in and I'll put it out and if the going's good I may even shake it all about, baby!"

Good lord

Get a room

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By *iscuits8Man
40 weeks ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

"I'll put it in and I'll put it out and if the going's good I may even shake it all about, baby!

Good lord

Get a room

C'mere to me Rubs sure I've still got one hand free

(sorry I'll stop now

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By *ovesfun41Man
39 weeks ago

dublin

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By *ovesfun41Man
39 weeks ago

dublin

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By *ovesfun41Man
39 weeks ago

dublin

So if two men are in front of her, one is tall, fit, well hung, and the other, well, isn't. Which one will she choose for nsa sex and a bit of fun.

Dude this is a hilariously two dimensional view of how women choose partners."

Not at all, I never mentioned partner. I specifically mentioned nsa fun, so nothing two dimensional about it.

We're not discussing life partners, someone to have a family with and grow old with.

Its nsa sex (most of the time) and if you line up 2 men and one is fit and in decent shape and the other isn't, then 9 times out of ten the fit guy will get a reply or at least have a Mail read.

Remember noones talking about chatting to someone in a bar and being charismatic here.

It's an inbox with 1000 messages in it.

The whole point is that the ratio of men to women is comical here.

And being in good shape or even being hung is enough to stand you out from the sea of men messaging.

It isn't a guarantee of fun, but it does give you a leg up.

To say it doesn't is just naive.

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By *ofusplusCouple
39 weeks ago

Limerick

So if two men are in front of her, one is tall, fit, well hung, and the other, well, isn't. Which one will she choose for nsa sex and a bit of fun.

Dude this is a hilariously two dimensional view of how women choose partners.

Not at all, I never mentioned partner. I specifically mentioned nsa fun, so nothing two dimensional about it.

We're not discussing life partners, someone to have a family with and grow old with.

Its nsa sex (most of the time) and if you line up 2 men and one is fit and in decent shape and the other isn't, then 9 times out of ten the fit guy will get a reply or at least have a Mail read.

Remember noones talking about chatting to someone in a bar and being charismatic here.

It's an inbox with 1000 messages in it.

The whole point is that the ratio of men to women is comical here.

And being in good shape or even being hung is enough to stand you out from the sea of men messaging.

It isn't a guarantee of fun, but it does give you a leg up.

To say it doesn't is just naive."

When the other poster refers to 'partner' I'm pretty sure he's referring to an nsa sex partner.

Also you're talking about messaging like it's the only way to get meets. Messaging is probably the most inefficient way to get meets. Women like to meet guys in person, often through large socials and then chat online, knowing that they fancy them.

And as another poster put it ... I'd pick the dadbod guy who is good craic and who I connect with, much faster than the fit, athletic, good-looking guy with zero personality.

Please give us a bit of credit in our selection process because frankly you're making women out to be shallow. Not all of us are

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
39 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

Dude needs to abandon the incel thinking and realise that the problem has nothing to do with girls being the gatekeepers and only picking the studs.... and realise that its the entirety of the person that counts and reducing this down to gymfitness and cocksize is far too simplistic . Connecting on a one to one level and being a decent person and dropping the persecution complex would go a long long way. Many many well verified men here don't fit in to the mould you are suggesting. How do you think they do it?

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By *ardyboy54321Man
39 weeks ago

Fermanagh

Op I've no problems on fab meeting and I'm like a round bale no sence of direction so I put it down to custard creams or digestives cause housewives love to dunk

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

So my journey on fab has led me to now know I am straight....I am open to meeting t girls to be edged....I have no Interest in being physical with guys after my journey... but I have no prob being naked with a guy watching a bit of porn, being edged to me is like a massage etc....but does this even make me bi ....I would have no interest in anal with a man or woman.....I just love women think they are deadly....

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
39 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

"So my journey on fab has led me to now know I am straight....I am open to meeting t girls to be edged....I have no Interest in being physical with guys after my journey... but I have no prob being naked with a guy watching a bit of porn, being edged to me is like a massage etc....but does this even make me bi ....I would have no interest in anal with a man or woman.....I just love women think they are deadly....

The problem with these labels is that not everyone fits neatly into a particular box.

I would suggest if you're not looking to meet men right now, that you hide your male verificatios, and maybe change up your photos, because otherwise you're just going to keep getting a majority of guys messaging you (just because of the weight of numbers). Good luck!

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