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By *adforsex OP   Man
28 weeks ago

Santry

So want attend my first social hopefully next month or two must say be bit daunting going on my own especially with my anxiety have build myself up to it lol . Once get meeting people I'm sure I'll be fine . What was everyone's experience of there first social if you care to share .

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By *ubadubdubWoman
28 weeks ago

Hereabouts

Perfectly normal to be nervous but don't be anxious theres nothing to worry about.

My first social I got in touch with one or two others who were newbies going and we became 'base camp buddies'

We mixed and mingled once we settled in but it was good to have those initial moments together as a starting point.

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By *adforsex OP   Man
28 weeks ago

Santry


"Perfectly normal to be nervous but don't be anxious theres nothing to worry about.

My first social I got in touch with one or two others who were newbies going and we became 'base camp buddies'

We mixed and mingled once we settled in but it was good to have those initial moments together as a starting point.

"
thanks I'll be fine once I get there it's always build up going somewhere that makes me anxious once get there and start mingling do be fine lol

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
28 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

I think it's best to treat it as just a normal evening out and try not to overthink it. Just be yourself and have zero expectations. Chat with the guys as well as the girls and don't be creepy. You'll be fine!

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By *adforsex OP   Man
28 weeks ago

Santry


"I think it's best to treat it as just a normal evening out and try not to overthink it. Just be yourself and have zero expectations. Chat with the guys as well as the girls and don't be creepy. You'll be fine!"
thanks mate

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By *og-ManMan
28 weeks ago

somewhere

Join in any chat group thats set up beforehand so that you know some people before you go

Don't drink too much with nerves when you're there

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By *adforsex OP   Man
28 weeks ago

Santry


"Join in any chat group thats set up beforehand so that you know some people before you go

Don't drink too much with nerves when you're there "
thanks mate

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By *ACOLCouple
28 weeks ago

limerick

Great advice given, just to reinforce that socials are there for you to socialise with like minded people, everyone will be fully clothed and just a normal day at the pub kind of way...

Which one are you thinking on going? If we spot you, we will come and say HI!!!

Lina.

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By *voidingboredomMan
28 weeks ago

around

Just have a nice evening with nice people.

If you want some tips then I'd say think of them as new friends not potential sex partners. Definitely chat to the guys. They are your new friends, not competition. Find a common interest topic you're into (sport, hobbies, cars, animals) and strike up conversations about that with people. You'll find the chats are easier when you find people with common interests besides fab.

Have a good time at it

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By *adforsex OP   Man
28 weeks ago

Santry


"Great advice given, just to reinforce that socials are there for you to socialise with like minded people, everyone will be fully clothed and just a normal day at the pub kind of way...

Which one are you thinking on going? If we spot you, we will come and say HI!!!

Lina. "
I'm free 25th weekend so hoping one this weekend messaged one orangisers about one but just realised it's verified or recently vertfied but try find one can go to around 25th may or after . Thanks that be nice

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By *adforsex OP   Man
28 weeks ago

Santry


"Just have a nice evening with nice people.

If you want some tips then I'd say think of them as new friends not potential sex partners. Definitely chat to the guys. They are your new friends, not competition. Find a common interest topic you're into (sport, hobbies, cars, animals) and strike up conversations about that with people. You'll find the chats are easier when you find people with common interests besides fab.

Have a good time at it "
thanks good advice any united fans we can share are pain lol

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By *hivers2020Woman
28 weeks ago

lolli land

It is probably a trivial piece of advice but I would consider changing your user name before attending a social, only for your own sake, people will naturally ask “what’s your fab profile name” and if your ok with saying “mad for sex” out loud for the night then more power to you, but in my experience, people with user names like your own tend to mumble them out and feel embarrassed

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By *adforsex OP   Man
28 weeks ago

Santry


"It is probably a trivial piece of advice but I would consider changing your user name before attending a social, only for your own sake, people will naturally ask “what’s your fab profile name” and if your ok with saying “mad for sex” out loud for the night then more power to you, but in my experience, people with user names like your own tend to mumble them out and feel embarrassed "
yeah good point lol

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
28 weeks ago

Cork

These sound trivial but you'd be surprised:

Don't drink excessively.

Don't grope or stare.

Don't expect anything.

If you can and there is a dance floor, dance.

Changing your name doesn't sound like a bad idea, I dislike mine for socials but mostly people only care about your real name till after the event for veris.

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By *adforsex OP   Man
28 weeks ago

Santry


"These sound trivial but you'd be surprised:

Don't drink excessively.

Don't grope or stare.

Don't expect anything.

If you can and there is a dance floor, dance.

Changing your name doesn't sound like a bad idea, I dislike mine for socials but mostly people only care about your real name till after the event for veris.

"
thanks mate great advice

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By *electableicecreamMan
28 weeks ago

The West

Often the host of an event will introduce you to some people and it's totally ok to ask a host to help break the ice.

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By *ealcoupleCouple
28 weeks ago


"Just have a nice evening with nice people.

If you want some tips then I'd say think of them as new friends not potential sex partners. Definitely chat to the guys. They are your new friends, not competition. Find a common interest topic you're into (sport, hobbies, cars, animals) and strike up conversations about that with people. You'll find the chats are easier when you find people with common interests besides fab.

Have a good time at it "

And just swear you're only there for a coffee lol.

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By *hocko87Man
28 weeks ago

dublin

I hate going to social on my own that's why I don't go

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By *ealcoupleCouple
28 weeks ago

We are trying to pluck the courage to go to one as a couple so i can imagine how hard for a single person.

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
28 weeks ago

Cork


"I hate going to social on my own that's why I don't go "

It's honestly not so bad, socials are what you make of them

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By *voidingboredomMan
28 weeks ago

around


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And just swear you're only there for a coffee lol.

"

I was only there for the coffee!! But they had no coffee so....

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By *tingray271Man
28 weeks ago

Sligo Donegal

I have been on this site for some time now and never been to a social. I would like to go to one to some new people. But like you would be a bit nervous and not sure which would be a good social to attend. I'm in Donegal

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By *unny Southeast SocialsCouple
28 weeks ago

Waterford

Socials in most cases, are just like an ordinary night out. Go with no expectations, as stated from someone previously chat in the chat group before hand. When we organise ours we hire a private function room, so it's only people who are attending there. We always organise dinner and pre drinks before the main event, so people get to mingle in person before they attend the actual event

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
28 weeks ago

Home

I'm attending my first one in June I'm a bit nervous but hopefully it will be great.

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By *ot so needyMan
28 weeks ago

Galway


"I'm attending my first one in June I'm a bit nervous but hopefully it will be great."

You will be fine. In fairness you are coming across very well on the group.

Just keep chatting and be yourself and you will be fine. When you get there just introduce yourself to people and after a minute or too it will be like your local.

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By *ACOLCouple
28 weeks ago

limerick


"We are trying to pluck the courage to go to one as a couple so i can imagine how hard for a single person. "

You should come to the one In Galway, you at least know someone

Lina.

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By *ACOLCouple
28 weeks ago

limerick


"I'm attending my first one in June I'm a bit nervous but hopefully it will be great."

Come and say HI, I a bad at remembering who is who In the zoo.

Lina.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
28 weeks ago

Home


"I'm attending my first one in June I'm a bit nervous but hopefully it will be great.

Come and say HI, I a bad at remembering who is who In the zoo.

Lina."
I will I'm looking forward to going

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By *ealcoupleCouple
28 weeks ago


"We are trying to pluck the courage to go to one as a couple so i can imagine how hard for a single person.

You should come to the one In Galway, you at least know someone

Lina. "

We were trying to make that one but dates don't suit

C x

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
28 weeks ago

South Down

Bumping for the other poster asking the same question

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By *itlbeeCouple
28 weeks ago

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In my experience socials are very much like a networking event.

A lot of introducing yourself to strangers, asking a bit about each other. Getting introduced to people who others know.

I think for single men they need to remember most events are primarily couples..and not all couples are looking for single men, but you still want to give off a good vibe.

I would suggest very much introducing yourself to a few couples, telling them you're a newbie, and asking for advice for yourself as a single male..

I think being humble and looking for feedback can do a lot to get you on good terms with people.

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By *rRiosMan
28 weeks ago

dublin

Go to a social as you’re going to a new bar where you know no one. Just be normal. Easier said than done, I know. It seems simple and I’m aware of your trepidations

Best of luck

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