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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wondering about the general beliefs on who should book/cover cost of hotel room..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to Manchester often and I pay normally its due to the fact the person im meeting normally has to travel to x

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

if people arrange a meet in a hotel it should always be 50/50 if however say we are staying away for the weekend then arrange for people to come to meet us, thats our bill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much as above - if its a shared meet then it's shared expenses I go away on business sometimes and the firm pays for the room, but they only put me up in single rooms in B&B's so there is usually little chance of any "fun"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always offered to pay half but never been let.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whatever the split of the hotel costs, its always best to agree who is paying in advance of meeting, you don't want to fall out over an argument over who did and did not pay....even worse if the sex was great.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

I think 50/50 is fair enough and I'd be surprised if anyone had a problem with that. Another problem i have is finding a hotel that does daytime bookings without looking for a credit card. I only know of one in Dublin, but it's a nice one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I dont accommodate, if a guy wanted hotel meet then I would expect him to book it but I would pay my share in cash on arrival

I dont ever want to be stuck paying for a room in a no show situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always booked and paid for the hotel room. Most times the lady has offered to pay her share but ive never accepted. I must be old fashioned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I tend to agree mostly with the 50/50 rule and the cost of the hotel room should be shared.

That said, I do tend to have a slightly different school of thought when it comes to single ladies whom I meet for the first time. Unless the lady prefers otherwise, I would always book and pay for the room. I think it's a lovely gesture if the lady offers to share the cost of the room but I would always decline the kind offer.

Perhaps I'm old fashined too but there is a hint of method in my madness. After declining the offer I would usually crack a joke about her "getting the next one", thus hopefully ensuring an encore.

Dont you just love repeat meets!

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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago

Dublin West

I have always paid and would have no issue with doing so. If the lady really wanted to pay something I would let her buy lunch or breakfast.

I must be one of the old fashioned ones too !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol I must be a bitch.... I pay for nothing and don't expect too!!!

I guess that must make me a high maintaince fuck!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol I must be a bitch.... I pay for nothing and don't expect too!!!

I guess that must make me a high maintaince fuck!!!!"

Yeh high maintenance , I see it as being a cheapskate not paying 50/50 as both parties involved are getting fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol I must be a bitch.... I pay for nothing and don't expect too!!!

I guess that must make me a high maintaince fuck!!!!

Yeh high maintenance , I see it as being a cheapskate not paying 50/50 as both parties involved are getting fun "

Rarely does this happen I know..but I agree 100% with this

When a guy offers to pay it's very nice of them but I never agree..i always have and always will pay my share.

Otherwise to me it's a service being paid for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can accommodate so if he would rather a hotel then he can pay for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can accommodate so if he would rather a hotel then he can pay for it."

Cowgurl...

If I'm lucky enough to be invited into someones home I always bring a little something for the hostess. Flowers, chocolates, wine, chocolate body paint!

It's nice to be nice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol I must be a bitch.... I pay for nothing and don't expect too!!!

I guess that must make me a high maintaince fuck!!!!

Yeh high maintenance , I see it as being a cheapskate not paying 50/50 as both parties involved are getting fun "

If a guy asks me to meet him then of course he should pick up the hotel bill call it what ever you want.... Never paid a hotel bill even part payment and never will!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And before you all go off on one... I'm for Wales next week I'm paying for travel and hotel because I asked the guy to join me!!!!!

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"I can accommodate so if he would rather a hotel then he can pay for it."

I'll be there in half an hour lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the male half here I can't believe any guy would accept any money of a woman for a hotel meet if it was me I'd cover all the costs from the room to the drinks even if the lady insisted maybe I'm wrong but that's just me

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"Lol I must be a bitch.... I pay for nothing and don't expect too!!!

I guess that must make me a high maintaince fuck!!!!

Yeh high maintenance , I see it as being a cheapskate not paying 50/50 as both parties involved are getting fun "

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

jeez starting to sound like a dating site here. just saying like i /we always pay our share, i know to each there own!!! but come on seriously!!!!!. anyway lol we dont meet single guys in hotels ever, unless we are away for weekend, but we wouldn't meet them if they couldnt accom anyway!!!! ok my blinkers and headphones on lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything concerning hotel meets should be split 50/50, it's a swinging sex site. We are meeting swingers, not prostitutes or escorts so why would the males pay for everything?? Reguardless of who asked who to meet. The other has agreed to meet and therefore it should be split 50/50 in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm the male half here I can't believe any guy would accept any money of a woman for a hotel meet if it was me I'd cover all the costs from the room to the drinks even if the lady insisted maybe I'm wrong but that's just me "

Finally a gentleman among the mass !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everything concerning hotel meets should be split 50/50, it's a swinging sex site. We are meeting swingers, not prostitutes or escorts so why would the males pay for everything?? Reguardless of who asked who to meet. The other has agreed to meet and therefore it should be split 50/50 in my opinion "

Now I know why men like car park fucks....travel lodge £20 would be a good deal but remember to ask lady for £10 up front before you both agree to fuck..... Enough said!

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"I'm the male half here I can't believe any guy would accept any money of a woman for a hotel meet if it was me I'd cover all the costs from the room to the drinks even if the lady insisted maybe I'm wrong but that's just me

Finally a gentleman among the mass !!!!"

I don't believe it has anything to do with chivalry or a lack thereof. I was once told by a lady friend that she feels less obliged to perform and more of an equal paticipant if she goes halves. Whatever floats your boat, i guess. The natural instinct for men is to pay, but not all women want that, it would seem.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"

Now I know why men like car park fucks....travel lodge £20 would be a good deal but remember to ask lady for £10 up front before you both agree to fuck..... Enough said!"

You won't find a hotel in Dublin for twenty quid, travellodge or not!

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"Everything concerning hotel meets should be split 50/50, it's a swinging sex site. We are meeting swingers, not prostitutes or escorts so why would the males pay for everything?? Reguardless of who asked who to meet. The other has agreed to meet and therefore it should be split 50/50 in my opinion "
100% with you ther!!!! only makes sense after all, i mean we are all here for the same reason are we not???? unless people see the girls they meet as providing a service to be paid for! i go 50/50 with my hubby too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everything concerning hotel meets should be split 50/50, it's a swinging sex site. We are meeting swingers, not prostitutes or escorts so why would the males pay for everything?? Reguardless of who asked who to meet. The other has agreed to meet and therefore it should be split 50/50 in my opinion

Now I know why men like car park fucks....travel lodge £20 would be a good deal but remember to ask lady for £10 up front before you both agree to fuck..... Enough said!"

Nope il explain for you as I really don't think you are getting it through. In my own experience, sex in a car is good to me as it's always been a fantasy to have a lady either inside or over my bonnet of my car. its got absolutely nothing to do with not wanting to pay for a hotel at all, now thats cleared, Quite often what happens when people meet for a night in the so called travel lodges, normally one person pays the £20 and the other buys and brings the drink, I thought by knowing so much as you do, you would also know the finer details.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm the male half here I can't believe any guy would accept any money of a woman for a hotel meet if it was me I'd cover all the costs from the room to the drinks even if the lady insisted maybe I'm wrong but that's just me

Finally a gentleman among the mass !!!!"

Ahh ffs I'm gonna ruin my good name

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By *oxysCouple
over a year ago

c

personally as a woman i think the reason why we think its more acceptable for the man to pay for the room is because as women we like to feel spoilt and even though most of us will offer to pay half we don't really mean it but Mr foxy thinks who ever suggests the meet should pay for the room!

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By *oxysCouple
over a year ago

c

personally as a woman i think the reason why we think its more acceptable for the man to pay for the room is because as women we like to feel spoilt and even though most of us will offer to pay half we don't really mean it but Mr foxy thinks who ever suggests the meet should pay for the room!

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

I like to feel spoilt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to feel spoilt!"

lol...just noticed the profile pic andy warhol...i mean mick

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

I'm hot shit tonight, or is it just shit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only you can answer that brother.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Deep man. Very deep.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

wow this has taken off...

Personally I think each situation is different but for the 1st meet with a single male I wouldn't expect to pay for the room.

However if it was a case of more than one person or a repeat meet etc I would always insist to go 50/50 unless the person was on business or had the room anyway etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would def go 50/50 if was a repeat meet.. Only fair.. Both gaining from it!! Or take turns paying if was an on going thing.. Whatever works best..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems chivalry is dying!!

No matter who suggests the meet I always feel its only right to make the lady feel spoilt and desired and that includes paying for the room.

I've always paid for the room and think that's just the right thing to do.

If you gave a lady a lift in your car you wouldn't ask for petrol money!!

Everything about the meet should make the lady feel spoilt and wanted. Treating the lady to the room is the same as taking time to find out what turns her on and seducing her !

This isn't a business transaction we are conducting her lads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems chivalry is dying!!

No matter who suggests the meet I always feel its only right to make the lady feel spoilt and desired and that includes paying for the room.

I've always paid for the room and think that's just the right thing to do.

If you gave a lady a lift in your car you wouldn't ask for petrol money!!

Everything about the meet should make the lady feel spoilt and wanted. Treating the lady to the room is the same as taking time to find out what turns her on and seducing her !

This isn't a business transaction we are conducting her lads "

So when can we meet again????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And is the woman not there to please your needs aswell?? I would say that NOT ALL women obviously but, some of them wouldn't give a second thought about why you are meeting if you were to pay for everything. At least when they pay half then you know that they want the meet just as much as you do and they are not just getting a freebee meaning a night stay in a hotel with drinks paid for all night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems chivalry is dying!!

No matter who suggests the meet I always feel its only right to make the lady feel spoilt and desired and that includes paying for the room.

I've always paid for the room and think that's just the right thing to do.

If you gave a lady a lift in your car you wouldn't ask for petrol money!!

Everything about the meet should make the lady feel spoilt and wanted. Treating the lady to the room is the same as taking time to find out what turns her on and seducing her !

This isn't a business transaction we are conducting her lads "

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By *ick and sexyCouple
over a year ago

any


"It seems chivalry is dying!!

No matter who suggests the meet I always feel its only right to make the lady feel spoilt and desired and that includes paying for the room.

I've always paid for the room and think that's just the right thing to do.

If you gave a lady a lift in your car you wouldn't ask for petrol money!!

Everything about the meet should make the lady feel spoilt and wanted. Treating the lady to the room is the same as taking time to find out what turns her on and seducing her !

This isn't a business transaction we are conducting her lads "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondering about the general beliefs on who should book/cover cost of hotel room.. "

usually the guy would always pay,even if i offered to pay the guys ive met so far wudnt let me

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Should I post this elsewhere, I wonder, but are there many hotels that do daytime rooms in Dublin?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should I post this elsewhere, I wonder, but are there many hotels that do daytime rooms in Dublin? "

yea i wud think so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A meet is not a transaction or a favour. Its an agreement between consenting adults to get together and have sexual fun. Therefore its not about who pays but about having a great time when all parties are there together. Who suggests the meet or books it shouldn't really matter. If it was a requirement that I pay for the room then I would politely decline. I aint that desperate. This however doesn't mean I wouldn't pay for the room. Don't you just love semantics!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont mind treating her and paying

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By *at2Couple
over a year ago

north Down


"if people arrange a meet in a hotel it should always be 50/50 if however say we are staying away for the weekend then arrange for people to come to meet us, thats our bill "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have only had one hotel meet the lady booked it but I took her out for dinner and drinks and said next time its on me

But I don't mind paying for a room same as if I am meeting and getting lunch or dinner I pay

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